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StarFox64

Why Do Guys Tend To Be Silent In The Bedroom?

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I live in an apartment complex, and we can hear almost everything the neighbors do.

I would like to be really loud, but the walls are paper thin, and the neighbor's kids live in the room next to mine, so no chance here.

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12 hours ago, StarFox64 said:

I always knew you were into this >:) Bet you love hate-sex too :p

Yasss you are giving me LIFE right now! lol. The more primal, the better hahaha. There's always time to be sweet and cuddly after I and the bed have been destroyed!

I've heard gay men are more vocal than straight men. Is there any truth to this?

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have you had sex with an extrovert before? Lol.

 

*You* try staying silent while taking a large phallus up your back door. I'm genuinely surprised when a guy *doesn't* vocalize during sex.

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It's just hard to talk while pounding with all my strength...

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12 hours ago, StarFox64 said:

I always knew you were into this >:) Bet you love hate-sex too :p

Ohhhh there are plenty of women I used to hate with a passion, and hate-fucking them would quite possibly have been the most  glorious thing to have experienced... Unfortunately I have yet to hate-fuck. Definitely on the bucket list.

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10 hours ago, MichaelEmouse said:

Does intermittently saying "Suck it" and "Good girl" count as not being silent?

 

Men tend not to show emotions as much as women, especially emotions associated with vulnerability/loss of control. 

Ew, that immediately made me cringe. If a guy told me that, he would probably walk away missing an important appendage.....

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12 hours ago, Ambra said:

That said women in porn sound like rabid chimpanzees, or maybe the cranberries. Heh heh heh heh, oh oh oh oh, uh uh uh uh, SQUAK SQUAK SQUAK SQUAK! AH AH AH AH! OGHWALAJEYWANSJJSSWJNW! To be fair I do sometimes whisper the word fuck between moans. Ohhh, fuck....

LMFAOOOOO

 

12 hours ago, Ambra said:

That said, I have noticed men do make more noise when they climax. But it's like that moving something heavy sound referenced above. Though I have made a man groan like a woman before, and it was incredibly sexy as fuck. 

I notice this too, and have always attributed it to losing all control, and so finally they can't help themselves. Which is nice.

 

10 hours ago, MichaelEmouse said:

Does intermittently saying "Suck it" and "Good girl" count as not being silent?

 

Men tend not to show emotions as much as women, especially emotions associated with vulnerability/loss of control. 

This is acceptable.

 

6 hours ago, UltraIncredible said:

 Another noisy guy.

This gave me a good laugh XD

 

6 hours ago, catzama said:

got dam I wish that were true for everyone my upstairs roommate sounds like he's pushing quadruplets out of his bowels like calm down dude it's just a dick in your ass

Crying! This thread is just getting better and better!

 

5 hours ago, Dohavior said:

There is no such thing as a fake noise, a noise is a noise. Extroverts in the bedroom are often either very quiet or stuck on repeat if not told to shut up. They would most likely fall asleep after sex too. It is an overly personal and and private matter which is the realm of Introverts. Perceiver Extroverts are a bit different in that they often get confrontational, refuse satisfaction, and stare at you. This often entails a lot of hooking and baby mama drama to talk them up to having sex with you.

 

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You are an ENFP and you are doing it right now. Why so impotent, ever hear of a Blumpkin?

 

I have no idea what you're talking about. Are you just imagining what it would be like? Lol. I don't know about other Perceiver-Extroverts but I'm certainly nothing like that and my fellow ENFP bestie, we tease as a "loud whorey bottom" which she confirms but all that other stuff you're talking about is alien.

 
 
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1 hour ago, eagleseven said:

*You* try staying silent while taking a large phallus up your back door. I'm genuinely surprised when a guy *doesn't* vocalize during sex.

Back door or front door, it's hard for me to stay silent. But now I know this isn't always appreciated. Luckily I've been fortunate enough to no find myself in bed with anyone who would be like >.> can you please be quiet? LOL

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I don't make any sound. I am concentrating on the sensations. It would be right off putting if I had to recite 'the Great Gatsby' while thrusting. If I were to concentrate on doing that then I would probably lose my erection. I don't grunt, whoop or anything either. Most guys are trying to hold on, not to cum too soon. I am the opposite, I can go on for ages and have to concentrate to cum at all.

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Perhaps a rebel yell.

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On 4/17/2017 at 1:24 AM, StarFox64 said:

men tend to be very silent in the bedroom, maybe only grunting a bit once they are just about there. Why is this?

If sprinkling a few words helped women achieve orgasm faster, I would include them in what I'm doing.

Though now that I think about it, some words women say during can be a major fucking turn on.

So my question is, ladies, what words have men said during that helped you achieve orgasm faster?

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Honestly speaking, even if my previous answer was not a lie either, I do think men silent because they are auto-programmed for this.

Any man learn to shut up his dirty thoughts in front of a woman they have a romantic interest in early in life. Far before they get their first sexual experience. Women become wary of intimacy with a man that just tell to much of it, if they not socially bash the said man, and by the time they become full-fledged teenagers, I think most of men are already conditionned to shut the fuck up themselves about those toughts.

When growing into adults, the women have craved into us a primal fear of being rejected if we can't keep this part of us quiet. And this is even worst for considerate and moral men, who add to that fear of rejection a deep care to not hurt a woman's feelings.

 

Which leads us to the bedroom: We have here men who are used to shut up the dirty thoughts, in a situation when this is almost the only kind of thoughts that pass into their brain, and when their rational judgement capacity is severely impaired. Every sign enforce our habit to keep those thought for themselves rather than screwing everything up.

Naturaly women are more lenient at that time than, let's say in a public restaurant, but it's terribly hard to figure at which extent when your brain is filled about how fucking exciting that naked body in front of your eyes is (to avoid cruder exemples). It takes a lot of experiments, a long relationship,  unless the woman starts to shout you out loud "Call me a whore! INSULT ME!" which is rather uncommon. Carefulness dictates that staying silent until you reach that deeper understanding is better.

Then, once the limit becomes clear, the man will have still to fight to un-learn the habit that was carved into him during a lot of years.... which will be another challenge

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@Moonheart I think you overthink a bit here.
 

Noone conditions anyone to fall speechles in awe of a beautiful scenery, amazing orchestra or when survival instinct kicks in, in a dangerous situation. The parts of our brains responsible for sensory processing and basic survival insticts, including sex, is primordial. It existed long before speech did, it cannot talk and never could. There are no thoughts there that could be verbalised. Involuntary moans sure but no words. It might have been also crutial back than not to attracts attention hence the general hush-hush around on all levels. (Being an exhibitionist is pretty new phenomenon and probably a replacement of the lurking lions, inducing adrenaline.)

Now based on this I would think that those personalities who are more in tune with their sensing and/or feeling self on baseline, might not loose speech so much as those who are not. My theory  is that SFs are more likely to be able to even speak while having sex while NTs might fall mute. ...but I think the OP question wasn't quite about talking.

I personally find both silence, staring with hazy eyes and some moans/heavy breath in my ears a major turn on but talking belongs to foreplay...the long game convincing my thinking to throw the reins in. I desperately try to turn my thinking off so don't like it when it has to come back online, talking. Show me don't tell me... Music is great to make even the accidental inner monologue go shut the fuck up. :wacky:

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After this thread, I've decided to begin yodelling during sex. Just gonna walk into the bedroom like this mofo and start undressing...

 

 

 
 
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Bitches love yodelling

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59 minutes ago, Nemesis said:

After this thread, I've decided to begin yodelling during sex. Just gonna walk into the bedroom like this mofo and start undressing...

 

 

 
 
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Bitches love yodelling

Daddy :loveeyes::loveeyes::loveeyes:

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We've gotten in trouble so many times for saying something that was interpreted the wrong way, we sure don't want to make any noise that would set her off in the middle of sex.

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I find it interesting that many of the guys in this thread equate a lack of silence with speaking or having a conversation during sex.

When I think about guys being silent during sex, I think of guys displaying no signs of pleasure outside of some heavy breathing. I had one partner a couple years ago that was like this and it was so off-putting that I had to talk to him about it and make sure he actually was enjoying the sex ( he was an INTJ, so maybe that's part of the problem :p ). Current partner is perfect-- few to no words, but plenty of appropriate groans and facial expressions so I know that I'm doing my part of the tango well.

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Hotel room walls can be thin?

Edited by Suraj

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3 hours ago, Paloma said:

I find it interesting that many of the guys in this thread equate a lack of silence with speaking or having a conversation during sex.

When I think about guys being silent during sex, I think of guys displaying no signs of pleasure outside of some heavy breathing. I had one partner a couple years ago that was like this and it was so off-putting that I had to talk to him about it and make sure he actually was enjoying the sex ( he was an INTJ, so maybe that's part of the problem :p ). Current partner is perfect-- few to no words, but plenty of appropriate groans and facial expressions so I know that I'm doing my part of the tango well.

The bolded is what I was getting at as well. The same way the woman's vocalisations tell you whether she's enjoying it, so would [some] ladies like to hear how they're doing.

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Dunno, I just don't when i'm enjoying myself. I usually make up noises if the girl wants it, but for me it detracts the pleasure from sex a great deal.

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18 hours ago, themuzicman said:

We've gotten in trouble so many times for saying something that was interpreted the wrong way, we sure don't want to make any noise that would set her off in the middle of sex.

No truer words, under no circumstances call out a name, terms of endearment, whatever, that haven't been used before.  Instant freeze, or worse.  :knife:

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On ‎4‎/‎21‎/‎2017 at 5:28 AM, catzama said:

Daddy :loveeyes::loveeyes::loveeyes:

I knew that one night stand in Havana would come back to haunt me....:sulk:

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