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just wondering

If u watch tranny porn where they r only having sex with guys r u gay?

I ask this because im a guy who is sexually attracted to a "strait" friend and i recently found out he watches tranny porn which is normal but is it normal if its all guys? Im trying to find out if hes gay or atleast curios because i would like to make a move but dont want to lose his friendship. Any advice?

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Well that's quite a doozy for post #1. There should be more of it LOL.

You want him? Go for it. He who hesitates is lost. Doesn't matter whether he watches tranny porn or identifies as non-gay. Just get it straight in your own head that non-gay isn't better than gay.

If it costs you a friendship then it's a friendship probably not worth saving.

 

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If you watch animal porn, it doesn't make you fuck an animal.
Same way watching Tranny porn doesn't make you fuck a tranny --- or gay dudes.

It may be a fetish or it may be a fantasy.
Fetish would indicate interest in such a thing, where as a fantasy may indicate that the idea of a tranny is far more appealing than actual experiences with one.

 

Edited by demoniaco

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Watching tranny porn does not mean that he is gay. Watching gay porn does not mean that he is gay. The only thing that means he is gay is being physically, and probably romantically, attracted to other men.

This does give you an excellent opening to discuss the situation with him. Go for it. If he's a friend worth keeping and turns you down, accept his friendship. If he does not turn you down, please practice safe sex.

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Start a conversation about sex with him. You might find out his sexual preference. 

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On 1/8/2017 at 9:17 PM, just wondering said:

I ask this because im a guy who is sexually attracted to a "strait" friend and i recently found out he watches tranny porn which is normal but is it normal if its all guys? Im trying to find out if hes gay or atleast curios because i would like to make a move but dont want to lose his friendship. Any advice?

Who knows?  Your attraction to your strait friend is only relevant if he shares the same type of attraction in you.

And besides, even if he has gay tendencies, you could be that woman that teaches him and convinces him that going the other way (with women) is a viable choice.

That's the cool part of love: there's no real governing rule.  

Loves sort of like an impromptuacracy.

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"Straight" men who love tranny porn, or even "trap" porn (guys who look like women), are generally a bundle of unresolved sexual issues that you'd best steer clear of. 

Unless you want to be part of a guy awkwardly "discovering" himself.

 

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12 minutes ago, eagleseven said:

"Straight" men who love tranny porn, or even "trap" porn (guys who look like women), are generally a bundle of unresolved sexual issues that you'd best steer clear of. 

Unless you want to be part of a guy awkwardly "discovering" himself.

Yeah we're wise to not mistake any ole disgusting can of worms for an almost-blank canvas upon which we can paint our fantasy masterpiece of romance, rescue and homoeroticism.

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You're gay if you're gay. Losing friendship is a risk you'll have to take if you want anything more from him.

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I watch girl/girl scenes but I don't think I'm a lesbian.

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18 minutes ago, Azcre said:

I watch girl/girl scenes but I don't think I'm a lesbian.

I read a porn hub statistics thing recently, and I think I read the number one watched porn by women is lesbian porn. And there is a disturbing trend of step-sibling/parent/teen going on in the male categories.

I can only assume porn does not correlate with actual preferences. At least I hope not from what I read. The whole step fascination weird me out.  :undecided:

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1 minute ago, EchoFlame said:

I think I'm a lesbian in a guy's body.

That line of thinking could possibly not end well: the wrong radical lesbian might cut your penis off with a rusty fish knife while you sleep.

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Sniped with the quote. I figured it wasn't worth the controversy so I edited my response.

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1 hour ago, eagleseven said:

"Straight" men who love tranny porn, or even "trap" porn (guys who look like women), are generally a bundle of unresolved sexual issues that you'd best steer clear of. 

Unless you want to be part of a guy awkwardly "discovering" himself.

 

Or, they want the all the benefits of being considered straight while doing whatever they want in private.

I agree. Stay clear.

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45 minutes ago, translate said:

Or, they want the all the benefits of being considered straight while doing whatever they want in private.

I agree. Stay clear.

Doesn't that really depend on whether a (homo) man sees another man as just another piece of meat until proven otherwise?

Or whether he sees another man as a prince until proven otherwise?

When you think about it, there's not much compromise room on that one...once you've gotten past fear-based voodoo of perceiving a non-gay man to have innately more value.

A healthy homo mindset (re all men - gay or otherwise) may very well just be: "No. I'm doing you a favor with a sex / love offer. Take it or leave it,  without putting your bullshit and your baggage on me."

 

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On 1/8/2017 at 11:17 PM, just wondering said:

I ask this because im a guy who is sexually attracted to a "strait" friend and i recently found out he watches tranny porn which is normal but is it normal if its all guys? Im trying to find out if hes gay or atleast curios because i would like to make a move but dont want to lose his friendship. Any advice?

This post worries me.  I also think you cannot properly command the English language.  Knowing you have the ability to spell more complicated words properly, I, honestly, think you are, therefore, just being lazy and do not care to receive 'legitimate' answers/advice.

I, however, will attempt to answer this post very briefly below:

Whatever you do, do not act.  You do not have enough to act at this point.  You are jumping to conclusions based off flawed reasoning, you, otherwise, assume to be true. 

Edited by Locked Doors

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50 minutes ago, Locked Doors said:

This post worries me.  I also think you cannot properly command the English language.  Knowing you have the ability to spell more complicated words properly, I, honestly, think you are, therefore, just being lazy and do not care to receive 'legitimate' answers/advice.

I, however, will attempt to answer this post very briefly below:

Whatever you do, do not act.  You do not have enough to act at this point.  You are jumping to conclusions based off flawed reasoning, you, otherwise, assume to be true. 

Nobody would ever get laid if they pissed around with that kind of advice. :laugh:

"Faint heart never won fair maid / man"

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27 minutes ago, rickster said:

Nobody would ever get laid if they pissed around with that kind of advice. :laugh:

"Faint heart never won fair maid / man"

Lol. OP potentially may have a genuine friendship at stake.  I am not telling OP not to ever act; just at this point, based off the information OP provides, it would be wise for OP not to act, or as the OP would have it, 'make a move.'  

 

Edited by Locked Doors

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57 minutes ago, Locked Doors said:

Lol. OP potentially may have a genuine friendship at stake.  I am not telling OP not to ever act; just at this point, based off the information OP provides, it would be wise for OP not to act, or as the OP would have it, 'make a move.'  

 

If it's a genuine friendship worth saving it ought to pass the test with no drama.

Now that I think about it, some of the guys I've called friends would probably have been much more worthwhile as fucks.

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9 hours ago, eagleseven said:

"Straight" men who love tranny porn, or even "trap" porn (guys who look like women), are generally a bundle of unresolved sexual issues that you'd best steer clear of. 

Unless you want to be part of a guy awkwardly "discovering" himself.

 

Unfair.

That 'straight' man may be very comfortable in his sexuality and it may be those around that are confused. Perhaps he doesn't care what those around him think.

Go for it, you only live once.

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6 hours ago, Sajman said:

Unfair.

That 'straight' man may be very comfortable in his sexuality and it may be those around that are confused. Perhaps he doesn't care what those around him think.

Go for it, you only live once.

If I had a nickel for every "I'm 100% straight and would never bang a dude, but I love tranny porn" thread in the questioning section of LGBT forums...

 

 

Also +1 to Rickster: don't devalue yourself. Recently came out to one of my best friends, a big manly Iraq vet who can outlift me. I explained he's not my type, but I can easily arrange something if he's ever curious...and he politely declined while we continued downing beers and playing CoD.

For most mature men, it shouldn't be a big deal.

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23 hours ago, rickster said:

Doesn't that really depend on whether a (homo) man sees another man as just another piece of meat until proven otherwise?

Or whether he sees another man as a prince until proven otherwise?

When you think about it, there's not much compromise room on that one...once you've gotten past fear-based voodoo of perceiving a non-gay man to have innately more value.

A healthy homo mindset (re all men - gay or otherwise) may very well just be: "No. I'm doing you a favor with a sex / love offer. Take it or leave it,  without putting your bullshit and your baggage on me."

 

Guys who call themselves "straight" and then go after other guys or transsexuals never want relationships, just fuck buddies. That's okay as far as it goes, but it gets old. My real issue with it is that these guys get heterosexual privilege while not acting heterosexual. If you're going to do queer things, then man up and take the label and everything that goes with it.

Edited by translate

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6 minutes ago, translate said:

Guys who call themselves "straight" and then go after other guys or transsexuals never want relationships, just fuck buddies. That's okay as far as it goes, but it gets old. My real issue with it is that these guys get heterosexual privilege while not acting heterosexual. If you're going to do queer things, then man up and take the label and everything that goes with it.

As a hardline Queer activist I don't dispute a word of what you say. "Outing" has had enormous social value, and opponents of it do nothing but reinforce institutionalized homophobia and homo-hatred.

At a personal level, I'd say you'd be a real fool to take up with a closet queen in the hope that you'll get anything more worthwhile than an unreliable and untrustworthy fuck bud.

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its the same logic with violent video games,

if you only murder women and children in video games does that mean you will hesitate to murder a man in real life?

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