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EchoFlame

Are all human overly emotional?

I recently had an argument with someone who tried to claim I "suppress my emotions". Which isn't really true. When I'm angry, sad, etc. I used it constructively. I still feel it and use it. I just don't get emotional often, I'm usually mellow.

Anyway, his argument was that society represses male expression of emotion and that men are really emotional. My argument was that society does encourage the repression of male emotion, but as a majority, men are less emotional.

As in, I think it is fine for men who are more emotional to express emotion, but as a whole, I think men in general are less emotional.

Discuss.

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The title doesn't seem to match with the content?

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If his argument is true, everyone is emotional all the time and those who don't seem so are just suppressing it. That was his point.

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Oh, I see. We're just taking it for granted that all women are overly emotional. Now I'm following you.

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I could have sworn the feminists were all about expressing themselves. Has that changed recently? If not, move along. If you want to prove all human emotions being over-expressed by either gender is weird, be my guest. It still aids my view.

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I think that this man's argument possibly proves your argument wrong. Clearly, he feels more emotional than he feels that society allows him to express. Out of the sample you have given, 50% states that they feel pressured to suppress their emotions. Given that you are an INTJ, you are massively over-represented; in no way do INTJs make up 50% of any random sample. With a larger sample, I suspect that we would find in favour of this man's view.

I do not think that men are less emotional. My experience is exactly the opposite. In fact, I think that a lot of men are much less experienced at controlling their emotions because they have been taught throughout their lives that being emotional is 'unmanly' and thus have never learned to accept and deal with their own emotional landscapes. This leads to unpredictability and anger when things challenge their worldviews. 

Of course, this is not a universal trait; I have simply observed this trend - mostly in workplaces, where I don't have my choice of acquaintances. The men I know by choice are more mature, on the whole. 

I suspect that your observation is valid - but that your conclusion is not justified by the data. I would say that INTJs are less overtly emotional than most other personality types. Gender doesn't come into it. But men, on the whole, are far more emotional than the average INTJ. 

Though, as an aside, in certain circumstances, INTJs can be very emotional. I have observed massive arguments and close-mindedness from fellow INTJs. We do not, as a segment, have a monopoly on emotional control (no matter how much we like to tell ourselves that we do). 

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That's an odd comment, you come across as extremely emotional on this forum, which leads me to the answer to your question: while I do think men in general are slightly less emotional than women in general, I also think the emotions they usually experience more often and the way they express them are not stereotypically recognized as emotions, therefore giving the appearance than men are very stoic. So while you may have women who are more likely to cry when hearing a sad story, while men would be more unaffected, you also have men who are more likely to react violently when they are angry. Different emotions and different manners of expression. But overall, I would say it's a pretty even split between overly emotional and relaxed people.

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On 07/01/2017 at 2:37 AM, EchoFlame said:

I recently had an argument with someone who tried to claim I "suppress my emotions". Which isn't really true. When I'm angry, sad, etc. I used it constructively. I still feel it and use it. I just don't get emotional often, I'm usually mellow.

Anyway, his argument was that society represses male expression of emotion and that men are really emotional. My argument was that society does encourage the repression of male emotion, but as a majority, men are less emotional.

As in, I think it is fine for men who are more emotional to express emotion, but as a whole, I think men in general are less emotional.

Discuss.

 

i my opinion, the point is not to suppress emotion because it is impossible, it is a part of life.

 

the point is to master oneself in order to master others and life.

 

most people are that :

 

stimulus--- > response   like a pavlovian dog   ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Classical_conditioning )

this is being reactive like animals

as humans, we are above animals , i am not a monkey , i assure you

so   the behaviour is now  :

 

goal ---  > action .   i don't care about the world's stimuli  ( medias, politics, TV etc. ) .

 

because i am not a stupid dog following other people's agenda

this is proactive behaviour based  on thinking 

i am the master of  my response, not a monkey

 

 

 

 

 

Edited by French INTJ

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