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AesSedai

High quality women

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I keep seeing people post things about attracting a high quality woman, and suggesting that you need to date lower quality women to build up to high quality women.

What does that even mean? I assume it means physically attractive, but I'm not sure. How does one measure quality in a human being?

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Not that you own the logic as you are just repeating it, but the first sentence sounds a bit odd and nonsensical.

However in terms of addressing your question - I would say a high quality woman around these parts would mean someone highly educated, who is socially skilled, down to earth yet sophisticated when needed, and is pleasant on the eye.

 

 

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21 minutes ago, AesSedai said:

I keep seeing people post things about attracting a high quality woman, and suggesting that you need to date lower quality women to build up to high quality women.

What does that even mean? I assume it means physically attractive, but I'm not sure. How does one measure quality in a human being?

I'll take a stab at it ...

to me, it's was like getting first hand knowledge of what NOT to look for in a high quality partner; eg. my first marriage.

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High quality means hot.

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Oh, come on, many women have the same mentality as the men talking about "high quality" women-- it isn't rocket science. What quality is in a person is subjective, of course, but there's usually a popular "type" of ideal woman/man in any given community. You can't tell me you've never heard young women (or girls) squeal about the traits they love in "their ideal guy." A tall, strong, tan, humorous, kind, loyal, romantic, stoic, and protective man who's in touch with his feminine side and does all the cooking is the most popular Build-a-Boy "high quality" man at my University, but then again, I'm in a dorm full of girls that are crazy about romance, dating, and marriage.

Can't say I've met that man, yet.

Edited by Greater Ebi

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1 hour ago, AesSedai said:

I keep seeing people post things about attracting a high quality woman, and suggesting that you need to date lower quality women to build up to high quality women.

What does that even mean? I assume it means physically attractive, but I'm not sure. How does one measure quality in a human being?

I think it's more an aspirational thing: a fella starts out with a hand-me-down Dodge Dart, and with hard work and effort will get his hands on a Caddy with all-leather interior.

It's shit guys tell each other so that nobody has to face the reality of ponying up for a hooker.

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5 minutes ago, Greater Ebi said:

Oh, come on, many women have the same mentality as the men talking about "high quality" women-- it isn't rocket science. What quality is in a person is subjective, of course, but you can't tell me you've never heard young women (or girls) squeal about the traits they love in "their ideal guy." A tall, strong, tan, humorous, kind, loyal, romantic, stoic, and protective man who's in touch with his feminine side and does all the cooking is the most popular Build-a-Boy "high quality" man at my University, but then again, I'm in a dorm full of girls that are crazy about romance. Can't say I've met that man, yet.

Sorry, I guess I'm not most women.  I just snagged the first man that didn't run away, then kept him for ever and ever.  

I am not well versed in these things, plus I'm old, and times change.

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Ugh, I cringe every time I see someone post or talk about a woman (or man) being low/high quality.  It disgusts me beyond belief.

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2 hours ago, AesSedai said:

I keep seeing people post things about attracting a high quality woman, and suggesting that you need to date lower quality women to build up to high quality women.

What does that even mean? I assume it means physically attractive, but I'm not sure. How does one measure quality in a human being?

It's simple because still in 2017 most of men think women are a kind of animal and they are all the same,or at best sex machines.

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9 minutes ago, Ali.zn said:

It's simple because still in 2017 most of men think women are a kind of animal and they are all the same,or at best sex machines.

Statistics?

 

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Sorry, I guess I'm not most women.  I just snagged the first man that didn't run away, then kept him for ever and ever.  

I am not well versed in these things, plus I'm old, and times change.

Ah, well. Regardless, people talking about "high quality" people are really just referring to their ultra-ideal man/woman. I guess when some people say that you have to date low-quality women to build up to high-quality women is just a ruder version of the mother-to-daughter saying, "You might have to kiss a few frogs to find a prince." I'm guessing? I don't really know.

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Just now, Greater Ebi said:

Statistics?

I'm talking about my personal experience,In Iran 2017 and my city(which is the most secular of them all) women have no respect for themselves,Men are even worse in that point sometimes when my friends start talking I just think its about some kinda of toy or pet the worst part is this is actually what they think about them not how they treat them.I cant speak for the world but it seems even education and time cant change some people's minds I can guess a good number of men overall share same ideas about women.

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1 minute ago, Ali.zn said:

I'm talking about my personal experience,In Iran 2017 and my city(which is the most secular of them all) women have no respect for themselves,Men are even worse in that point sometimes when my friends start talking I just think its about some kinda of toy or pet the worst part is this is actually what they think about them not how they treat them.I cant speak for the world but it seems even education and time cant change some people's minds I can guess a good number of men overall share same ideas about women.

Ah, I see. Well, Iran is in pretty rough condition. 

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Just now, Greater Ebi said:

Ah, I see. Well, Iran is in pretty rough condition. 

It is and im saying my city is famous for being a city of joy and middle class to upper class they are mostly open minded all educated families,and still they are the same so im pretty sure its more than only the region or culture.

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I think those referring to "high quality" men or women are actually referring to social class. 

For instance...take Scarlett Johansson:

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She's 32 (prime marrying age), internationally famous, worth $80 million, and is as attractive as a 32-year-old will ever be. She won't ever even look at a guy like me (there are millions like me who love her), operates in completely different social circles, and married an equally famous man worth $45 million. Most men would consider her an extremely high-quality partner.

 

Contrast with June Shannon:

 

June-Shannon-Net-Worth.jpg

 

 

Also in her 30s...June isn't conventionally attractive (most would be repulsed by her nude body), has little education, and only managed to make $1 million despite having a nationally-famous television show. She married a sexual predator, and sadly that's about all she'll be able to get in the near future. 90% of guys would consider her "low quality" and run away.

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9 minutes ago, eagleseven said:

I think those referring to "high quality" men or women are actually referring to social class. 

For instance...take Scarlett Johansson:

screen-shot-2016-09-22-at-8-53-01-am.png

 

 

She's 32 (prime marrying age), internationally famous, worth $80 million, and is as attractive as a 32-year-old will ever be. She won't ever even look at a guy like me (there are millions like me who love her), operates in completely different social circles, and married an equally famous man worth $45 million. Most men would consider her an extremely high-quality partner.

 

Contrast with June Shannon:

 

June-Shannon-Net-Worth.jpg

 

 

Also in her 30s...June isn't conventionally attractive (most would be repulsed by her nude body), has little education, and only managed to make $1 million despite having a nationally-famous television show. She married a sexual predator, and sadly that's about all she'll be able to get in the near future. 90% of guys would consider her "low quality" and run away.

I see what you did there, but I would think that most women who made 1 million by their 30s would be able to pull more than a sexual predator. Even her.

The rest of us plebs are not Scarlett.  

Is it just about being hot, or are there categories?

 

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11 minutes ago, AesSedai said:

Is it just about being hot, or are there categories?

Depends on your current porn fix. All that can change in a heartbeat!

Gone are the days when if a gal had good teeth and looked like she could pull a plow she was considered a respectable catch.

But on the bright side, if you're currently hot nobody really wants to know if that impressive cleavage is in fact a couple of handfuls of polymer product.

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To me this term 'high quality' sounds so damn vague.  There is no such thing.  It is just an illusion within the mind. Women are women.  What is high quality?  Why the fuck are we judging women based off materialistic qualities now?  Where is this coming from?! 

If high quality did mean something to me, it would be an ideal woman that I have imagined in my mind.  That is how I would describe high quality.  There is no such thing as high quality.  It sounds like some made up garbage that some high school senior made up.

 

Edited by Locked Doors

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I'd also agree with the social class thing as a reference, only because I've only ever heard it used by a male in one instance, when he was passionately advocating against e-cigs since a lot of "high quality girls" (his words) were naively into it yet it still led to lung cancer. 

I, born and raised in the ghettos, asked him to articulate that wording, and as he vaguely half stumbled over, half ignored my statement, I realized he was totally referring only to the rich bitches he likely partied on yachts with.

Outside of that, I have no idea wtf it means.

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1 hour ago, Greater Ebi said:

 "high quality" women-- it isn't rocket science. What quality is in a person is subjective, of course, but there's usually a popular "type" of ideal woman/man in any given community. 

I agree with this 100%.  As I mentioned before, it is 'some subjective made up bullshit.'  Why even attempt to analyze something that is so damn subjective.  If you do, just be aware that opinions will vary from individual to individual. 

Edited by Locked Doors

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24 minutes ago, eagleseven said:

I think those referring to "high quality" men or women are actually referring to social class. 

For instance...take Scarlett Johansson:

screen-shot-2016-09-22-at-8-53-01-am.png

 

 

She's 32 (prime marrying age), internationally famous, worth $80 million, and is as attractive as a 32-year-old will ever be. She won't ever even look at a guy like me (there are millions like me who love her), operates in completely different social circles, and married an equally famous man worth $45 million. Most men would consider her an extremely high-quality partner.

 

Contrast with June Shannon:

 

June-Shannon-Net-Worth.jpg

 

 

Also in her 30s...June isn't conventionally attractive (most would be repulsed by her nude body), has little education, and only managed to make $1 million despite having a nationally-famous television show. She married a sexual predator, and sadly that's about all she'll be able to get in the near future. 90% of guys would consider her "low quality" and run away.

Worst examples ever,daily life choices are not even close to this illogical examination but i try to get it as a humor comment,we are mostly talking about average women mid 20 to mid 30 which get scores by physical attraction,their social class,and probably their family, hand-picking examples like this is not close to reality at all mate.cause nor scarlet is average nor the second one.   

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Sounds like grass is greener mentality. People who think that way do not love themselves and are not capable of loving other people. Sadly, if they happen to acquire a "high quality" partner they will likely end up hurting that person and in spite of having a high quality partner they will have a very low quality relationship. 

What do you call it when someone bases their self worth on the objects they acquire? 

You build a relationship with a compatible human being, you don't upgrade your way to happiness. 

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1 hour ago, Holli said:

Ugh, I cringe every time I see someone post or talk about a woman (or man) being low/high quality.  It disgusts me beyond belief.

I have a similar reaction. It's this weird commodities lingo that seems so dehumanizing. Ick. Some people take the concept of a "dating market" way too literally. 

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I get the idea people are trying to communicate with it, and I get people's reaction to it. But I guess I don't use the term in the same way. A high quality partner to me is just one who has the qualities you value most, and is compatible with you. 

Most people don't date a high quality mate, hence most failures.

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4 hours ago, AesSedai said:

I keep seeing people post things about attracting a high quality woman, and suggesting that you need to date lower quality women to build up to high quality women.

What does that even mean? I assume it means physically attractive, but I'm not sure. How does one measure quality in a human being?

To put in in perspective - Adriana Lima or Honey boo boo's mom as far as attractiveness? as far as other things say a mental patient vs a doctor? These are extremes, but as an INTJ clarity I know can be helpful. Women would have no problem saying David Beckham, and some doctor for smarts,  but some guys seem to have a block on this... honestly it seems like common sense... noone is perfect, you try to find the right fit for you, but as far as value, these are good barometers I think, and in trying to attract high value women, what is being referred to.

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