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About lancelot

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  • MBTI
  • Enneagram
  • Global 5/SLOAN
    Don't believe
  • Astrology Sign
    Don't believe
  • Personal DNA
    In the image of God


  • Biography
    B.A. in Linguistics.
  • Location
    In the world of ideas, and possibilities.
  • Occupation
    Help guide young minds
  • Interests
    Seeker of holy grails, Art, Music, Education, Being nice
  • Gender
  1. The two are related, being intelligent means your intelligent. If someone is street smart and not book smart, they had a breakdown in their educational experience. I have more interest in being book smart and having intellectual conversations and experiences. If someone doesn't have a fair amount of back ground knowledge (G factor) regarding the subject of discussion, the conversation gets uninteresting very fast. Dealing with someone who's a manipulator, fast talker also gets dull rather quickly. Yet someone who knows how to do things for example: play music without reading it, or fix a car without reading the manual is an intelligent person would have my respect. This person would probably be interesting to spend time with.
  2. Become very interested in Chinese culture and people. You really can't master a language without being deeply interested in the both of these. Also Chinese grammar is different than English(I assume Eng. native lang.). When I studied Chinese, I did very well on the written tests and the comprehension. Yet the grammar, caught me off guard. I also found it difficult; especially at first. There are some things that seem unusual and very different than English. Yet once you understand them it gets easier. You should also continue to work in study groups and with native speakers. The rules of grammar you will soon become skilled at using.
  3. I cry more often when something is beautiful, deeply insightful or brilliant. I'm not sure if this is an INTJ thing or a intellectual thing; perhaps its both. This type of crying doesn't involve sadness.
  4. Color is frequency. White is at one end of the spectrum where light is reflected. Black is at the other end where light is absorbed; everything else are the frequencies in between where various pieces of a wave of light are reflected. Because black and white are on the frequency spectrum I refer to them as colors.
  5. ...I think its very important. I have a religious culture so for me its very important. Similar religious beliefs, convictions, and life style is very important to religious people; for everyone else it doesn't matter.
  6. Please take time to grieve, don't put it out of your mind and just move on. Emotions are like money, if you don't give them what they need, or pay them the attention they deserve, they will later charge you interest. There's nothing wrong with feeling sad or crying. Don't just go into Survival mode; survival mode is ok but when you realize you're ok, come out of it and allow yourself to grieve. Grieving is what strong, healthy, and emotional stable people do. Make peace with your relationship with your mom and tell her you love her.
  7. No imaginary friend. Since I was a child I never understood how someone could.
  8. Normal simply means what most people are doing. Normal is average, like a IQ test where 7000 people took the same test and the average or normal score was 18.7 A score of 80 would not be normal it would be genius. If you are an intelligent well informed person, you probably have better judgment than most people. Your insights are probably the right ones even though they're not normal or what most people think is normal.
  9. Interesting question, I think people see one part of someone and think they know the person. I don't think people are good at realizing someone's strengths and weakness. Many people have multiple interests and hobbies people have no idea who they talking to.
  10. I think guys who aren't sure of themselves of feel they don't deserve respect. I have worked with women for a long time; the few that appeared bossy were ok to work with but sometimes didn't make sense. One day the ladies asked me and another guy to take a personality test, the test results showed me and the other man to be ruthless and the women to be nurturing. The results turned out this way because none of us, while working, were being our true selves. INTJ men expect logic from people, its less of an issue for us if the person in control is male or female as long as they're logical.
  11. In high school I was lazy unfocussed and never did homework. Later in college I tried harder and made friends with smart people. I define smart people meaning people who were on task and did their homework. In college I still didn't do much homework yet managed to graduate.
  12. ...Most people are like sheep; they just do what they're told. They don't feel comfortable speaking against someone in a position of power or authority.
  13. ...Jobs in literature are much easier to get. If you have a passion for literature you should do that. Or you could continue your education later, perhaps in the evenings and major in linguistics. With a masters degree combined with a degree in linguistics it could lead to a position at a Jr. College. I honestly think you should major in a field you truly love, be it linguistics or literature. I just attended an alumni lecture at the school I work at; all the very highly successful and wealthy alumni all said the same thing "Follow your passion, do what you love".
  14. ...people around me are smarter with practical things: They're more organized and pay more attention to obvious things. I'm less interested in obvious things and more interested in possible meanings interpretations and derivations of 'reality'. I think most people around me are shallow and short sighted. They're not distracted by other possiabilities. Sometimes I think they're smarter because they can stick to the game plan, or stay on task. I like to do things without reading the directions, many people can't survive without directions. ...I play music and don't read it. I play percussion and never count. Other people read and count yet don't play very well. ...Learning is important but... Just doing what other people have already done isn't intelligent in my opinion. I feel one can be practically smart, yet not creatively or imaginatively smart(problem sloving). Just as people can read and play other people's music yet they can't improvise or compose their own music.
  15. ...No, I feel I should be thinking about it more.