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1) I tend to hang out with my small select few friends and it's usually pretty predictable as to what we are doing. On occasion something random will come up, but for the most part everything is planned out. 2) Yes, no and I suppose it depends. Yes it annoys me when something I'm looking forward to gets canceled for a bogus reason like, I'm not feeling it. However life happens so I tend to be pretty forgiving. Now if it happens frequently it makes me feel like the person is wasting my time and I am just not interested in arranging my plans for that person anymore. After all, if they wanted to spend time with me, they would make the effort, if not, so be it. 3) well there are times when, I just don't feel like hanging out have been my 'get out' of obligation go to. I would say that my introvert kicks in and I have 'peopled' too much and need sometime to recoup. In those times, I always cancel, explain and try to reschedule. Luckily my friends know me pretty well and are able for the most part to accept my personal need for space and quiet time, 4) YES...this does cause problems. I am the planner, my boyfriend is the spontaneous, nonplanner type. It has been frustrating in its own merit, my desire to plan everything to make things go smoothly is combated by his desire for free movement and leisure... it's a constant tug of war. You have to learn what to be a planner about and what to allow the other person to be free spirited about.... it's a work in progress at this method. 5) As far as this last question, this would only be speculation... could be a combination or just the introvert. Introverts need time alone and space. I know that we don't always want to go out. We enjoy our comfort zone a lot.
PDA has always made me feel highly uncomfortable. Not only does it feel like everyone can see you and you are the center of attention but it feels like everyone is judging you. Now as an adult I realize it is only myself judging the entire situation. Watching others openly and physically displaying their attraction to one another puts me into a serious bout of "where the hell is the door". I have absolutely no desire to watch people hug, kiss or anything else in public. If I wanted to watch stuff like that, there are plenty of options out there. I do agree with Hurricane, there are times that I feel like people are marking their territory when they are displaying PDA. Regardless of the reasoning, being uncouth is a fair accessment.