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1partsunshine

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  1. Agreed. The relationship seems to nurture humor and common sense. I definitely feel more understood by him than I have by others - not sure I'm all that good at understanding him though, ha! I sympathize with your not knowing where it's going yet - I'd settle on the fact that if you're happy, he probably is too. ...... added to this post 6 minutes later: I can't say I've read much which is why I came here. I googled it and have a rudimentary understanding. I wish I had known more about MBTI when we were married. It wouldn't have saved the marriage, but it would have made me much more understanding of his introversion and far less pushy during arguments. Bi-polar is something else though. I really don't ever want to go down that path again.
  2. I really like the personality pairing. My INTJ is a great complement without all the messy nonsense. Yes, it sounds like your guy is a turbulent. The description sounds much like my ex, although he was bipolar as well. I like the child inside the computer analogy. Interesting.
  3. My computer must be goofy!
  4. Oops!
  5. I didn't know about MBTI when I was married to my ex. Because he was so very needy of my attention and didn't think beyond the moment in any decision he made, I typed him after the fact as an ISFJ (maybe P). But I should have known. He is very intellectual and steeps himself in philosophy and history. He abhors TV and anything popular. He is misanthropic and absolutely lives in his own mind - his very favorite place. He is a Turbulent though, which I guess makes all the difference. He's a very unhappy person. I came here to INTJf to do some information gathering on my new love interest. New guy is a healthy personality and a very positive person. Mission accomplished because without the knowledge I've gained here I would have given up on him long ago as disinterested and even neglectful. Turns out he was just slow and cautious. Things are swimming. But I can't help but marvel at 1.) the fact that they both have similar personality types, and 2.) they're so very different. Does anyone have experience with the contrast in relationships between turbulent and non-turbulent INTJs?
  6. Agree with this and will apply it to the letter. Find as many positive things as you can about your father. Make a list of everything you respect about him: his golf swing, his perseverance at home hobbies, his attendance at work, whatever you can find to be a positive and admirable trait. Make it a long list - really put thought and time into it. Don't make stuff up or write things that aren't true. Include how his defense of your mother is an act of devotion. Even things that were harmful may have some positive aspects. Then write your letter to him. Don't write about yourself and how you wish you were understood. It may come off wrong. Just write about him and all the positive ways he has impacted the world around him and you. No emotion necessary. And I agree that you should limit time with everyone else in the family. My experience with ALS is that the deterioration is fast, but he could live a long time, years. You need to be firm about your boundaries with the rest of the family.
  7. Illegal doesn't mean it doesn't factor. Funny story. I was interviewing for a job a few years ago and was asked by one of the older board members on the interview panel - I kid you not - "Why should we hire you when so many younger applicants have applied for this job?" I was taken aback and teetered on not answering and reporting her, but decided to answer frankly instead. My answer was the generic "I have more experience, etc.," but I totally got the message that my age was a factor. I was 45 at the time. Another anecdote, my current boss is 36. After I was hired, I asked him for feedback on the interview process. He stated, "Well you were the oldest, and not the most experienced, but you were the best fit." Another indication that age is taken into account, whether it should or shouldn't be.
  8. Brienne of Tarth from Game of Thrones. Literally what female chivalry looks like.
  9. I would agree with this. Would you say that there is a bias toward older workers because of this trend, whether you actually know their tendencies or not? Perhaps. I am researching this subject, specifically older women entering the workforce. There is evidence of bias against older women (over 50), I am curious about the culture of young women workers. I was one. Four children very close in age, many reasons for distraction from the workplace, and I see this in my co-workers. I try not to be bothered because I still believe first priority should be to family. Jobs come and go - you only have one shot with your children. Still, I can't help but be perturbed when one of my young co-workers is perpetually not available because her family has strep again, another performance to attend, babysitter problems. The older women don't seem to have these tendencies, as don't the men. This is true to an extent. I have a very flexible workplace and am very thankful for it. The culture is very positive and most supervisors understand they should only expect 80% productivity time from their departments to ensure quality work and engagement. It seems like the young mothers are at more of 60-70%, maybe less sometimes. So it leads me to the question regarding bias. Is there more of a trend towards forgiving younger women of the distractions because they are easier to deal with than the possibility of an older woman being "cautious rather than curious" in her work style? Put another way, all things being equal (same experience, same attitude, same aptitude, perfect fit), would you rather hire an older or younger woman?
  10. These responses are interesting. So you don't see ageism at work in the workplace, either toward or against younger or older women? Caveat: I'm speaking of women in particular because the paradigm is significantly different regarding age. Men don't need to take time off to birthe or pump.
  11. I'm not sure what you're getting on about. Aggressiveness is a quality that leads to goal achievement and success in many forms. Why do you think being aggressive = unacceptable?
  12. I am curious about your views regarding younger vs. older women as employees/teammates. Many of the women I work with are sharp, but their kids are constantly sick or have daycare issues. Or the young moms are on the phone with them or their teachers and care givers. The absenteeism is astonishing. The older women are not as hip to tech but will not be leaving for childbearing, aren't taking pumping breaks at work, etc. Thoughts?
  13. Do you mean you're a blue collar worker? That is absolutely acceptable.
  14. Is Froid the chilly version of Freud? ... Does Kayne bear the mark of Kanye?