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  1. Emotional Deprivation disorder is one of many life traps, and maybe you were taught by your mom that your emotions are not important or even bad. Or somehow, maybe you felt that you were not safe in expressing your feelings to your mom or to anyone, so you just shut them down. I know what you mean about liking solitude for the freedom to be yourself - to think or feel without fear of judgement etc. You've actually taken a risk in sharing your feelings with many here - and you did get one negative comment - but mostly positive and validating, don't you think? So, doesn't that show that there are people out there with whom you can be yourself, and share your feelings freely? I just came across this:
  2. Yes. I wish I'd cry more because I believe that it has a cleansing effect - it's healthy - "all of the principles of yoga." A while back, I began this thread: https://intjforum.com/topic/136679-do-you-have-emotional-deprivation-disorder/ because I sensed in myself and other INTJs on this forum, a lack of emotional awareness. And this lack is not a sissy thing - it can actually negatively affect us. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is considered to be more an indicator of success than IQ. My advise to myself, you and others who get confused by emotions, is to more regularly ask ourselves how we feel and explore - and allow yourself to cry when needed - it's a healthy way of processing emotions. Try to avoid the temptation to analyze the ibby-jibbies out of feelings - just FEEL. Accept feeling "as is" - and then later, after you acknowledge them, it can be helpful to explore them for cognitive distortions. But initially, feelings are personal truth - not objective truth - but personal - they have REAL influence. If a little spider freaks you out to where you feel paralyzed with fear - it does. Pretending you don't feel something tends to keep it alive where it warps into other things. Yet also, dwelling on feelings can magnify the thoughts that produce them - so some logical reasoning is also needed at some point.
  3. And again, I ask - how has the BILLION$$$$$$ spent in the name of "climate change" or "global warming" helped? Please provide an extensive list. I've given my info - it's your turn, guys or gals.
  4. Good points. I'd say that generally, people in poor countries who don't have their basic needs met, are less likely to feel the motivation to improve in how they think, feel and act. Also, I'd guess that the relatively few who improve, are not afraid to be isolated somewhat. Isolation is generally how change happens most dramatically, which is why America was able to start something new, that probably could never have begun in other countries steeped in centuries of tradition. Personally, I've distanced myself from many around me because I came to see their religious beliefs as harmful financially and psychologically, but they are taught to hate anyone who questions. This applies to other herd mentalities too, though. It's a lonely path, but I think it's essential for positive disintegration and really progressing as an individual. I suppose that self-esteem is another necessary ingredient to really improving and changing personality/character. Believing you CAN change, that you're personality is not set in stone, but malleable, believing you have it in you to affect change and that you're deserving of it - seems to be a part of making positive change happen.
  5. Yeah - my kids too - though they're learning to debate too well for their own good. I've read some of Carl Jung's and never came across what Dohavior claimed, though who knows, I could be mistaken. My impression was actually the opposite - that even those parts that are unconscious are actually significant parts of the personality. "According to Jung, the ego represents the conscious mind as it comprises the thoughts, memories, and emotions a person is aware of. The ego is largely responsible for feelings of identity and continuity. Like Freud, Jung (1921, 1933) emphasized the importance of the unconscious in relation to personality." personality: the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character We may be unaware of aspects of our personalities, but those aspects are still part of our personalities. It's theorized that most (about 95%) of what we think, feel and do is governed by our subconscious. And the time when we're most open to suggestion (for better programing and healing) is during sleep - or rather the moments before sleep.
  6. In other words, "I have no idea. I just made it up because it helped my attempt at making up for my lack of logic." Yes, I'm good at reading minds.
  7. I find it amusing when people unknowingly engage in logical fallacy by overgeneralizing common human behavior as only belonging to one personality type - and then call others illogical. :D
  8. The implications that we need to invest all kinds of money in "climate change" are ridiculous lies. "This year, your government will spend in the neighborhood of $4 billion on global warming research, despite the fact that there has been no global warming since 1998, and despite all of the billions that have been spent so far yielding no conclusive evidence that using fossil fuels to make energy has any significant effect on Earth’s temperature. The human component of carbon dioxide that is injected into the air each year is very small, on the order of 3%. Half the carbon dioxide emitted into the air by human activity each year is immediately absorbed into nature. Carbon dioxide is 8% of the greenhouse effect; water in the air is 90% of the greenhouse effect. By volume, carbon dioxide is currently at about 390 parts per million in the atmosphere, increasing at about 2 parts per million annually. In other words, carbon dioxide is increasing at a rate of .5% per year. Since human activity adds 3% of the carbon dioxide that gets into the air each year, the human component of the increase in carbon dioxide into the atmosphere each year is 3 % of .5%, or just .015%." "Every candidate should support rational measures to protect and improve our environment, but it makes no sense at all to back expensive programs that divert resources from real needs and are based on alarming but untenable claims of "incontrovertible" evidence." There has and always will be climate change... " •1880-1940: A prolonged rise in temperature in spite of modest global carbon dioxide outputs •1940-1970: A decline in temperature, in spite of rising carbon dioxide levels •1970-2000: A rise in temperature which follows carbon dioxide levels •2009-2005: A levelling-out of the temperature rise •2005-2011: A slight decline in temperature, in spite of still-rising carbon dioxide levels So, over a period of more than a century, only the data from one thirty-year slot actually fits the human-induced global warming theory (which is why THEY NO LONGER CALL IT "GLOBAL WARMING"). The rest does not. In this situation it is up to the proponents of the theory to explain the discrepancy. With the bulk of the data not fitting the theory, this is indeed an onerous task." = And also, I'd like for you to present a detailed list of exactly how the BILLION$$$$$$ spent for "Climate Change" have actually helped in any significant ways. "Based US government reports, SEPP calculated that from Fiscal Year (FY) 1993 to FY 2013 total US expenditures on climate change amount to more than $165 Billion. More than $35 Billion is identified as climate science. The White House reported that in FY 2013 the US spent $22.5 Billion on climate change."
  9. If you weren't so busy ignoring the facts I already presented, you'd realize I already sighted credible numbers and information.
  10. Honesty is definitely needed for genuine healing. Still, what is reality - what is it that we're being honest about? Isn't it all based on perspective? I see truths in both the masking and the truths... my mom was a victim of abuse and in a way didn't know better, yet in a way she did have a choice and became an adult not a child. It's both really - a mix. It's really difficult to consider how messy things can be - not black-or-white (polarized thinking). But I think the most honest way is considering multiple perspectives that may even seem paradoxical. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is considered more a factor in success than IQ, and higher levels of EQ involve understanding mixed emotions like bitter-sweet. I'm not saying I've mastered this, but I see it as a goal. A friend explained, "functional illusions are priceless." All our thoughts are subjectively limited - illusional - all of them. The question is, Are they healthy - do they work in productive ways? For a while I was obsessed with truth and facts - still am somewhat. But I'm learning that all of the facts in the world don't help anything if I'm feeling unmotivated, depressed, anxious, paralyzed with skepticism, etc. Truth is in perspective and generally, the more perspectives, the more truthful. It's like the parable of the blind men and elephant... Each thought it was something different until they shared all of their perspectives and realized it to be an elephant. An article about what made marriages last and most happy explained something about how they had selective memories - they focused on the great times, not so much the negative or mundane. I think that's a good approach to life in general. Yes, there has to be some grim reality acknowledgement - to realize if there's a problem and be able to fix it. But there also has to be perspectives that inspire, uplift and make life FEEL worthwhile. I suppose the challenge is not just considering multiple perspectives, but also knowing which to focus on in which circumstance. We may be "walking binoculars" after all. :)
  11. You guys have fallen for lies - what's the saying - look at the trail of money. Those graphs you posted above are wrong - as shown in the link below... http://www.naturalnews.com/045695_global_warming_fabricated_data_scientific_fraud.html But, go ahead and keep spreading lies to help fund bull shit - and increase the deficit even more. What do you care?
  12. I try to plan ahead - not far into the future. But say, I'm driving somewhere, I consider what all I need to do, which order would be best to do it in etc. Why be presently aware? What's the real benefit besides not trying to time-travel mentally to the past or future. There are benefits of learning from the past and anticipating the future. Maybe the biggest benefit is physically. It may be true that the body will express try to get our attention, if other attempts fail - so if we're trying to avoid negative feelings by ignoring them or distracting ourselves, it could be expressed as "dis-ease." Yoga - when taught by good instructors, has helped me appreciate the moment - and to breathe through anything - pain or relaxation. I don't think it's necessary or good to always be thinking a step ahead. When I close my eyes and really focus on something good - I can feel intuitive spirit which can help me function better generally.
  13. Excellent comments. I read how there are 2 types of selfishness: Smart Selfishness and Stupid Selfishness. Smart selfishness is realizing that we need each other - and acting while intelligently considering mutual benefit. Stupid selfishness is ignoring the big picture and neglecting to realize when you ignore others' needs in favor of your own, it'll come back to bite you.
  14. To me, love is the ideal - it's striving for what I think is best for myself and others. Anything other than love is dysfunctional. Even perceived hatred is often "tough love" - in again striving for what's best. The problem is not so much love, but in how love is defined, interpreted and made manifest - and figuring out what is really best - or even what's really wanted.