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About Paloma


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    SCUEI- Calm


  • Biography
    Where is the thrill of joy without the memory of sadness?
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    Higher Education
  • Interests
    Music, martial arts, brewing, wasting time.
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  1. Highly unlikely, as I don't know of any PUA who are willing to get to know a girl for ~6 months before going on a date. My policy for the last 6 years or so is that I need to know someone for about half a year and spend a bit of time with them as friends before I'll go out with them. I'm pretty happy as a single person and don't want my time wasted by someone whose character I don't have a good grasp on. This strategy seems to have worked, as my SO is probably one of the most stand-up guys I've ever met.
  2. Cresswell is great! I'd also recommend H. Russel Bernard for an introductory, anthropological twist on things. You can get a free PDF of an older version of his Research Methods online for free. Spending my Saturday annoyingly reading about language and the emergent "self". I need to be looking into health outcomes and familial strategies for combating food insecurity...but there is a metaphorical gun to my head today.
  3. 2 or 3 times. Usually a run followed by some plyometrics and basic strength training (crunches, push-ups, squats). I also walk to and from work/school, which amounts to about 3.5 miles a day, 5 days a week.
  4. You should consider shoplifting. Great savings and the pricier the item, the bigger the thrill! Nothing like a little petty theft to liven up a Saturday afternoon!
  5. I don't see robusta labeled very often in U.S. It is typically found in blended espresso roasts, however. They label it Colombian because that's where the beans are grown. Same with "Sumatran" or "Ethiopian". My point was that if it says "Colombian" on it, the chances that you're drinking arabica. So the distinction of preference for arabica coffee over Colombian coffee doesn't make any sense since they are typically the same thing. The only difference you're likely encountering is roasts and bean quality as it varies by brand.
  6. Most of the coffee grown in Colombia is arabica. There are two types of coffee grown globally: arabica and robusta. "Colombian" refers to the location in which it grown, not the type, although different climates and soils do affect the flavor. As an example, the common "Colombian Supremo" blends that you can buy at department stores are arabica coffee.
  7. You're describing an ENFP buddy of mine pretty closely. He was my favorite drinking companion because no matter where the night started, we almost always ended up on some "adventure" with people we'd just met that night. He definitely has a "live for the moment" sort of mentality. He's hard to knock down because he generally has a jovial, optimistic spirit. I wouldn't say he has no work ethic, but he definitely works at his own pace and when it suits him. He's also far from dumb (he's a grad student), but feels no need to prove his intelligence, so he often doesn't strike people as particularly brainy.
  8. *reads thread title* *looks at to-do list and the pile of books that need to be read this month* *glances at trash can full of used coffee filters* *looks back at thread title* *laughs hysterically*
  9. Sure. As long as I've got some close friends, a romantic relationship is definitely not necessary. Being single has its perks and being in a relationship has its perks. I don't view one as inherently better than the other.
  10. Whose definition of "civilization" is being used here? The Neolithic Revolution took place 10,000 years ago. So unless you use the presence of agriculture to define civilization, agriculture is definitely a more recent development in our history. I support your critique of Eudamon, but this chart is very much incorrect if we're discussing Homo sapiens. Homo sapiens didn't show up until about 200,000 years ago. This chart appears to be referring to the overall genus Homo, with the fossils of earliest of the genus (H. habilis) showing up ~ 2.8 mya. Those guys were just starting to get the hang of stone tools, so they didn't have much of a choice outside of foraging and scavenging.
  11. Congrats! I had the pleasure of receiving the same news around this time last year. Few things in life are so validating! What is your dissertation research going to focus on?
  12. It wasn't a conscious, purposeful dwelling and I did pretty much everything in my power to move on-- cut contact with those closest to him, hid all his social media profiles from myself, spent time grieving and talking about it with close friends and family, aired my grievances with him and talked about why it happened, lived in a different city, and dated other people...etc. He simply wouldn't leave my mind. I got to a point where I would go the whole day without thinking about him and then I'd have dreams about him instead. When you genuinely feel someone is your soulmate, they don't leave your mind so easily. I finally came to the conclusion that life would just have to separate us over time with an accumulation of new meaningful memories and experiences. Explaining the situation even sounds crazy to me, because no break up before or after this one stuck with me like this.
  13. Great for reading/studying.
  14. Time and personal growth. While I was self-destructive in many aspects, I refused to let it completely derail my life. I kept on living. Forward motion is important. If I had stopped pursuing my goals and allowed myself to wallow in it, it might have killed me. About 2 1/2 years after the break up, I recall waking up one morning, walking into the kitchen to make coffee, looking out the window and realizing that I didn't feel the achy, hollowness in my gut that I had previously grown so used to.
  15. Yup. When my ex-fiancé suddenly broke things off with no warning. He was my first love, we were both young (college) and while we were dating some of his family and friends became my social core and support system. I remember feeling utterly abandoned. Hollowed out, like I was an animated shell. I didn't have the emotional skill set to deal with it. I spent a good two or so years in a bit of self-destructive rut. That experience stands in stark contrast to all of my other break ups, which were followed by a profound sense of relief on my part.