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Paloma

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About Paloma

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  • MBTI
    eNtP
  • Enneagram
    7w8
  • Global 5/SLOAN
    SCUEI- Calm

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    Where is the thrill of joy without the memory of sadness?
  • Location
    USA
  • Occupation
    Higher Education
  • Interests
    Music, martial arts, brewing, wasting time.
  • Gender
    Female

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  1. My class valedictorian works in middle management at a large theater (music and plays, not movies) in the nearest major city to the town in which we went to high school. My friend who was consistently truant all through high school is much more impactful. She thinks outside the box and isn't afraid to break rules that she thinks aren't useful. That took her farther than chasing A's. My high school was pretty awful, though, so good grades didn't mean that much. Of the people I'd consider successful in my class, there is a pretty huge mix of GPAs. Grades aren't necessarily a good measure of future success because the skills needed to get good grades don't always translate to the real world. This is part of the issue with this type of education- it doesn't test skills or abilities that directly translate to real world success, and I'm not sure we could ever design a curriculum and testing style broad enough to achieve that measure reliably.
  2. The thought of it makes me wanna gag, honestly. (lifting this meme from FB)
  3. A couple thoughts. First, it is an easy, benign stereotype. Along the same lines as the idea that white people can't dance. Second, like most stereotypes, there is probably some truth to it. My grandparents are these sorts of people. There might be a connection between food flavorings, their need to grow or hunt for their food, and being poor, 1st generation German-Americans in the rural Midwest. When all your food comes directly from the earth, you often focus solely on what you need and flavoring is really not considered. My grandpa used to eat a slice of bread dipped in bacon grease as his lunch at school. They were just trying to survive. Unless it was salt used for curing, who has time or money to buy or grow spices when they aren't necessary for survival? Additionally, as immigrants, you typically only know how to cook what was cooked in your home country. European countries aren't really known for the production of flavorful herbs and spices. These people taught their kids how to cook. Before the advent of the Internet, recipes were traded between neighbors who most likely came from the same ethnic background. Once kids started moving out of these small Midwest farming towns to cities with more diversity and with more income at their disposal, you start seeing white people with more sense about different flavors. However, I suspect nostalgia and fear of change might be stunting this for some families.
  4. Nope. Made to about 15k on Warrior's video. I'm 25. *sigh* Too much rock and roll.
  5. Maybe. I think a lot of people are particularly upset about this attack because of the overarching context-- young girls having (potentially) their first concert experience. Obviously, there were others there but the news continues to push this particular narrative. When someone targets innocent children having fun, it seems to almost universally invoke a greater amount of anger and sadness. I also wonder how the current political climate might be affecting people's reactions to this as well. What is it that you uncovered in your research that first triggered these feelings? If you can locate that, you might be able to triangulate the why you feel differently this time.
  6. I noticed that I had a similar reaction when I heard the news last night. Not so much a "meh" but more of a mental shrug. This is just everyday business. Elementary schools being shot up by dejected teenagers. Idiots driving their cars through crowds of people. Whole cities being bombed to hell by our drone strikes. The woman who was gang-raped and burned to death in a park next to my previous university. The guy who decided to step out in front of the train I was on a couple weeks ago. People die every day and a good chunk of them die brutal, miserable deaths. I think if I had an emotional reaction to every nasty death or tragedy that came to my attention, I’d have little energy to do anything else with my time. I’m grateful that this is my response. It keeps my head clear when I need it most. Perhaps it is a simple case of becoming desensitized to it. Perhaps you never had a reaction from the beginning. Either way, I don’t think it matters that much. Actions are what help people, not feelings. If you can be moved to action without needing feelings as the catalyst, I see no reason to worry about them.
  7. I was homeschooled through 8th grade. This was initially due to the violence present in a lot of the schools near us and my mother not wanting to put her young children in that environment. It was great when I was young, as my mom allowed me the freedom to explore lots of creative avenues alongside my required work. One notable example was that she excused me from my daily grammar exercises for a period of time because I wanted to write a story for a Reading Rainbow competition. I got second place for the 1st grade category for our region. This was not only a great experience using language in a “real-world” context but also was a huge confidence boost for me. I also was able to adjust the curriculum as needed (within certain boundaries; we still had to comply with state regulations). This came in handy when I got bored with my 2nd grade course work midway through the year and was allowed to start 3rd grade course work at that point. I also did struggle with motivation on some subjects, but my mother was a very involved teacher and there were punishments in place for not finishing my work on time. I think this helped me with the sort of self-management skills often required in college and graduate school. However, as I got older and began to feel the need to socialize with my peers, homeschooling felt more and more and more like a cage from which I couldn’t escape. I literally begged her to send me to public school all through 7th and 8th grade because I felt so isolated from the rest of the world. Plus, as the subjects with which my mother was less familiar became more complicated (notably math), it become increasingly obvious to both of us that she wasn’t going to be able to adequately teach me through high school. That being said, I was rather surprised with the quality of my education was once I entered high school. Most of freshman year was an academic repeat of 8th grade, but I finally felt like a whole person who was interacting with the wider world. I would potentially consider homeschooling my own children until middle school, simply because it clearly gave me a leg up on many of my peers. That being said, continuing to home school after that point would depend greatly on my resources as a parent and my child’s personality and needs. It should be noted that I was the single extravert in a household of introverts and my parents may have been somewhat blind to my need to be a social being. I don't want to do that to my own children, should I have them.
  8. Martial arts, specifically Shorin-ryu. After martial arts, I'd say I have some talent when it comes to music and writing/language. I've dabbled in dozens of other things and done decently or well, but those three tended to stand out in the non-academic arena. I've always done well in school, regardless of the subject, but I'm not exceptionally bright or anything so I'd still consider the above three things to be my best subjects despite my current academic career path. 7w8 enneagram, I believe.
  9. Typically, a high IBU IPA. If I am unfortunate enough find myself in a location that only sells domestic lagers, I typically opt for a whiskey ginger, gin and tonic, or a Moscow mule depending on what is available. If it is hot out and I think I'll have a decent rum selection, I'll go for a mojito. As you can tell, I like lime in my cocktails. If I've got the money and they've got the right selection (Balvenie Carribean Cask), certain occasions also call for a scotch, neat.
  10. Long-winded, personal anecdotes above. The varying answers on this probably come down to whatever ideology the responder possesses rather than anything truly objective. I might hazard to say that if your worldview includes the presence of natural, universal gender roles you're more likely to find that there are certain things you can only learn from your same-sex parent. If your worldview is that differences between men and women are little more than genitalia and secondary sex characteristics, you're probably less likely to feel like there are things you can only learn from your same-sex parent. I welcome corrections or exceptions to this assumption from other posters here, however.
  11. Arbita Strawberry lager. Numero cinco. Not a huge fan (more of an IPA girl), but SO is all about this beer so I bought it for him and have now drank 5/6th of it. Whoops. I guess I like it more than I thought.
  12. I'm not an MBTI guru by any means, but if I had to guess based on discussions I've seen on here, probably Ne.
  13. A good chunk of my friends are INTJs or suspected INTJs (NTs pretty much all around), but that's likely due to the line of work I've fallen into. From my interactions with INTJ friends, they appear to appreciate me for my competence, punchy and twisted sense of humor, and willingness to indulge in whatever conversation they currently want to have. INTJs get frustrated with me most often because I have a tendency to fire off half-baked ideas like facts just to see if they'll stick. Feeler types can grow to hate me because I'm often careless about my critiques (getting better at this with age, though) and they can be hurtful, particularly when I think I'm *helping*. Everyone gets annoyed with me because I like to vanish for weeks on end and I lack consistency. Most people like me because I trend toward a positive, proactive outlook on life despite what's going on and I try to openly accept criticism about my actions and thoughts in order to improve. I think, and it is my experience, that it is this waxing and waning between aloof, self-absorbed asshole and enlightened, engaged optimist that makes ENTPs tough for some people to be around. But that's my biased opinion, so take it with a grain of salt.
  14. Café au lait, NOLA style
  15. Some light summer reading.