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Morgan

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  1. She should have been fired. Adults are like children these days. There is vulgarity in the real world. Everyone should learn to deal with it.
  2. Ignore it. Complaining makes you look childish. If you have a psychological need to do it, do it in private when nobody can hear you. Perhaps you can also try distancing yourself from the people you complain about.
  3. Depends on how much harm it does relative to how much good it does. If it does more good than bad, then it's not wrong. For example, stealing food from someone who has plenty to give to someone who has little is good. Stealing food from someone who has little to give to someone else who has little is bad.
  4. Like bologna big?

  5. By giving.
  6. Just open up to people. Be less afraid of being in the spotlight. It's frightening to be the center of attention when you've never done it before, but after a while, it becomes a daily routine interaction. You can also practice in the mirror. Watch your posture, maintain eye contact, and try to use your body language to emphasize your message but don't overdo it. Subtle body language is a huge deal to extroverts. If you have bad posture/eye contact, you stick out of the crowd as an obvious awkward introvert. That's not what you want. Also, most importantly, don't speak monotonously. This subconsciously pisses people off for some reason. It's like people who have trouble with computers. They get angry at the computer because it can't give them emotional feedback. If you speak matter-of-factly, purely with logic and without emotion, then people will start to dislike you because you're like their home computer; it's like you can't connect with them. Watch the inflection of your words. Instead of saying "i-love-this-restaurant" say "i-LOVE-this-restaurant!" (while smiling and pointing at it). Even subtle emphasis on a certain word can make you seem more human to other people. I think this is the main problem INTJs have; they just don't seem human to others due to lack of emotion. If it helps, think of emotion as another discipline to practice and learn. That's how I look at it. I don't see it as "what the stupid normal people do and not worth my time" like many INTJs do. Instead, I look at it as a challenging skill to learn, like learning to program or learning a different language. When you get good at it, it is far more valuable than programming and foreign language combined. Don't look down on social interaction as a skill. ---------- Post added 03-09-2013 at 07:09 AM ---------- Not really. In fact, strangers are perfect practice. Talk to them in elevators, or while you're waiting in line for coffee. If you mess up or say something awkward, there's absolutely no penalty aside from momentary embarrassment. It's not like you'll see them again, so you don't damage an important relationship or anything. The embarrassment/awkwardness is no big deal; it fades after a few seconds, then you can recover the conversation. It's not the end of the world. And when you finish talking to one person, the next person will become more comfortable to talk to. Personally, I feel a sort of "high" when I'm talking to people successfully, even though I'm an introvert. It actually becomes fun when you get good at it. Still, you have to know when to conform, and when to be fake. Don't talk for the sake of finding truth. Talk for the sake of passing the time or connecting with people. Sometimes, connecting with people requires that you agree with them even though you have a different opinion. Not everything has to be a debate. Embarrassment is a normal human emotion, and the more you practice, the better you get. I think most introverts are far too opinionated or fixated on embarrassment. It's okay to be embarrassed. It's okay to agree with a lie if the lie doesn't negatively impact you. Like if someone says: "Did you know Einstein failed high school?", don't say "No he didn't, that's a myth", instead say "Oh, I never knew that. Just goes to show that you shouldn't judge people". Act humble and stupider than you really are. Nobody likes a know-it-all because know-it-alls make them feel stupid.
  7. That's what I'd suspect too. Crime became such a big industry that I can't see the will to eradicate it thoroughly.

  8. To me, a loser is a person with a lot of potential that uses none of it. A mentally handicapped person can't be a loser. Neither can an average person who works very hard.
  9. A mirror, a willingness to practice, and lots of free time.
  10. Q1) How often do you contemplate suicide? Never. I used to when I was younger, all the time. Those were bad times. Q2) Have you ever seriously attempted to end your life? If so, why? Yes, more than once. Growing up sucked, and going through most of young adulthood with religious guilt wasted a lot of time for me. Q3) Are there a set of conditions which exist under which you would attempt suicide? Sure, if my dog died, I lost my house, and had absolutely nothing to bounce back with. Q4) If you have dependents (children / pets / elderly parents & relatives), what was your answer to Q1 before they were in the picture? My dog is mostly the reason I don't want to die. Without her, I probably would be back to where I started with my suicidal thoughts. Q5) Do you think suicide should be legal? Only in old people or those with profound disabilities (severe mental illness, missing 2+ limbs, etc). Q6) Do you think assisting another with their suicide should be legal? Only if the person cannot physically kill themselves because they are missing limbs, are paralyzed, etc. In that case, suicide should be done in a professional setting by a trained professional. Q7) Do all humans have an inherent right to terminate their life at a time and place of their choosing? Yes, as long as they do it for the sake of a permanent defect/illness. Q8) Assuming you had enemies (or people who had wronged you in non-trivial ways), would you attempt to take their life before taking your own? No. It'd be a waste of time and effort, and I don't want to be remembered negatively. Q9) What would be your preferred method of ending your life? Injection or explosives. Q10) Would you prefer death by a time and place of your own choosing as opposed to a situation or event you have no control of? I'd prefer a death of my choosing.
  11. I've never cared about big boobs. But big nipples, man, now those are sexy.
  12. I think the word "shallow" implies superficiality. I admit that looks are extremely important to me in a sexual partner, but that doesn't mean that I am shallow. A shallow person is more likely to judge others based on outward appearances; it describes a particular mindset more than it does a sexual attraction based on looks. I don't judge people that quickly; I give everyone the benefit of the doubt until they have done something to prove that they are not good people.
  13. That's never happened to me before. You said that these women were at work, so it could be for any number of reasons. It could be that they think they're better than you (if they are of a higher rank) and think you're not worth the trouble speaking to, or perhaps they have heard negative gossip from other women concerning you (Pay attention to gossip, by the way. Regardless of if it's true or not, it is very useful in knowing what others think of you), or perhaps it was your facial expression (maybe she misread your facial expression and thought you were angry at her about something), or maybe it was just that she was in a hurry to go pick up her kids from school or something. It could be anything, really. Don't take it personally until you've talked to her. Next time you see her, ask her directly why she went away from you the last time, but not in a threatening manner. In a more casual non-work related context, I have learned that, generally, the less you focus on women, the more they focus on you. If you try to get too much attention from women, then maybe the women you meet see you as desperate or clingy. If that's the case, I would focus on being more confident. Also, focus on little nuances that women (and even men) notice, such as eye contact, posture, voice volume, enunciation of words, avoiding fidgeting with hands, etc. Social interaction is not that hard if you're friendly and confident, especially with women. In fact, I think it's easier to talk to (average looking) women than to other men. The "attractive" women are often stuck up and it gets annoying, and you have to play the dominance mindgame with other men. I feel like I don't have to prove myself as much around average looking and/or level-headed women. Just be yourself, but confident and nice.
  14. Buy a map/newspaper or ask directions at a gas station or convenience store.
  15. I'm the same as you. I don't fit neatly into one category. I'm fine with interacting with people, but not with being everyone's friend, so I can't fit in with the social butterflies. I'm not a pleasure-seeker, so I can't fit with the partyers. I'm not religious, so I can't fit with the religious people. And I'm not aggressive, so I can't fit with blue collar workers. Yet, I have a couple religious friends, a couple social friends, a couple partygoer friends, and a couple blue collar friends. If I had to genuinely describe myself, it would be as a Republican without the religious component, who has no problem with Democrats. Not many of those are around. Still, I'm pretty happy, and I still make friends because I'm not 100% honest with everyone I meet. The key to making friends is learning how to be fake, but not too fake as to be uncomfortable. Your mistake is trying to be too genuine. If you want to hang out with a group, you have to conform to some degree. I act religious if I have to. I act smart if I have to. I act like "one of the guys" if I have to. Never disagree with anyone, unless it's in good nature. For example, if you have a religious friend, never debate with them about religion. If you have blue collar friends who love watching boxing matches, never have a discourse with them on the negative consequences of violence in society.