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About Rholo

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  1. I'm certainly one for reaching for the bottle when I'm stressed. I tend to exercise if I have the willpower - and that always makes me feel better.
  2. All of what I've read so far is largely correct - reasons differ. Often it's an expression of pain in an external way for those who can't speak out; for others it's because the endorphins that are released numb the emotional pain. It should never, ever be judged, and it should always be taken seriously, no matter how irrational it seems.
  3. I had, of coursed, entertained all of this. But compromise would involve some give-and-take; all I'm doing is giving in that I'm cleaning far too much, and he isn't changing his behaviour at all.
  4. I should have probably added that option isn't available - we live and work in an expensive city!
  5. I'd say he's an ESFP with weak feeling, because he finds it near impossible to understand people. I've known him for a few years but we moved in together around five months ago. He lives with me - an INTJ - and he is the most unbelievably unclean, messy person I've ever come across. He never does his fair share of cleaning, perhaps occasionally doing the vacuuming and cleaning the hob, while I'm left to do perhaps fifteen more jobs on a weekly basis. He's also very loud, groans a lot, and sometimes forgets to do even the most basic of tasks, such as locking the door, or do the recycling. The biggest problem: He doesn't like it when I ask him to do things, because he views these as "rules". He thinks that simply having a job sheet of weekly tasks etc. pinned to the fridge is having "rules" in the flat, and he complains to our friends about it. He also almost certainly believes that I'm lying when I tell him that he isn't doing enough around the apartment, and he gets angry and upset if I tell him he isn't doing his fair share. My best friend, who's an ENFP, has told him on several occasions that I need time alone, and that if I want to talk to someone it'll be on my own terms. But whenever he comes in to the apartment, or indeed I return from work, the gym, or seeing a friend, he'll bombard me with so many questions (sometimes even "hello" is too much) that I just want to tell him to shut up and leave me alone. This wouldn't be so bad if he actually asked sensible, rational questions - but he doesn't, it's just nonsense. He also pries far too much in to my personal life, and all he does is ask if I'm okay when he comes in and I'm trying to watch television and clearly don't want to talk to him. I'm beginning to go crazy with this situation. Can anyone help me gather some perspective, or give some advice about how to deal with this guy?
  6. Seems to somewhat the general consensus on this thread, but I have found that those who tend to say they have lots of "friends" are extroverts, and don't have the same definition of "friendship" as I do. To me, someone is only a friend when I can be comfortable in their company for periods of an hour and upwards, they have my trust, and I think about them on a regular basis (at least once a day). If I'm being generous, I have five actual friends. I have also noticed that my closest friend (an ENFP) is the only person I can truly be around without needing any time away from him: I am able to do my own things around him, to only speak with him when we wish about things we both find interesting, and we give each other space while making sure we're there for each other. Everyone else is an acquaintance (I've probably about 15 of these), but if I'm honest I tend not to like the vast majority of people because I have insight in to their character from the moment I meet them, and I rarely like what I see.
  7. He also explicitly states that he cannot feel remorse, and that his brain "freezes up" when he tries to. He has Antisocial Personality Disorder. He's also a suicidal psychopath with deep-set sexual deviance problems. As well as saying he wants to die, he wants to be "punished" in a way in which would give him sexual gratification, by being torn apart by a beautiful woman. Doesn't sound much like he wants to be punished to me.
  8. Yes, yes, all of that. I've found out on my own thread, which is related to more or less the same matter, that it could be Sensory Processing Disorder.
  9. Thanks for the link to the the thread about 'Highly Sensitive Persons'. I'll look in to it.

  10. Thanks for your advice.

  11. I've taken a test online before. I score like 100/200, so I'm not overly concerned about that.
  12. I've a few strange traits and habits which I've never quite been able to understand. A lot of them revolve around sensitivity and annoyance about particular noises and others' habits. I suspect some may be something to do with the fact I'm an introvert, such as a dislike for seeing someone when I return home after a day at work for around an hour, or a hatred of being disturbed when I'm focusing on something. Does anyone recognise the following? A strange ability to pick up more or less any noise. This could even be a quiet beep or click that other people don't hear. Repetitive noises made by others - eating loudly, coughing, sniffing, or mouth-clicking - are incredibly annoying. A complete lack of ability to filter out noises during sleep. Example: my apartment has a bleeping noise whenever someone opens the door. Even in seeming deep sleep, my flat-mate can wake me up when he returns from a night out. If someone asks an unexpected question, they tend to get a flat, emotionless response even where this would be deemed as inappropriate. Perhaps I'm just very odd.
  13. One big part of my character that tends to be pointed out by others is my apparent ability to know everything important about someone's character after spending only minutes with them. I do have a similar experience to the OP, too, but I thought most INTJs have similar experiences.
  14. Of course we will :)