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  1. Is making society "more honest" the best you can come up with? Clearly you like what you have and you'd just want the opportunity to show off whenever you wanted.
  2. Yes and I would be concerned if you joined the movement to re-criminalize adultery. Or decriminalize public nudity. Whatever consenting adults want to do in their free time is really none of our business but surely public areas should be held to a separate standard.
  3. Okay it may be redundant at this point so I'm not sure why you started citing things that may or may not have been felonies in your lifetime.
  4. Strictly in terms of things that were a felony in your lifetime, yes.
  5. As was adultery. Maybe all the adulterers should come together and publicly proclaim how proud they are of their personal preferences? Or would people not really care about that either.
  6. Yep. Did you think opinions wouldn't be needed when trying to answer the OP's question of, "So why the resistance to gay events in particular, while others are accepted?" It's not an "entitlement" so much as it's a distant hope that is always crushed whenever gays decide it's time to get together and go parading around again. It's not a "double standard;" it's the idea there there's designated areas -- beaches, pools, locker rooms, etc -- where this is appropriate and other areas where it's not. Obviously the gays parading around strongly disagree with this view, and this might explain why there might be more resistance to gay events in particular as opposed to literally any other event. Why...? Are you thinking that my local legislature might like the idea and have the power to enforce it?
  7. It's not a matter of it being "too much to handle" (though the wording makes me think you're merely projecting a common mentality within gay culture), it's a matter of personal preference. In terms of generalities there's nothing wrong with not wanting to look at scantily clad individuals, not wanting to see public displays of affection or not wanting to listen to public declarations of sexuality.
  8. No need. If you think Friends is in any way a meaningful example of "hyper-heterosexuality" then clearly many of us will never understand the merit behind your other examples.
  9. They might not care how they got there, but the point is that many men still prefer larger breasts. Considering this preference I'd challenge your assertion that men wouldn't "care either way" (in regards to breast implants), and would argue that if men couldn't tell the difference either way then they'd prefer women to get them. I definitely wouldn't complain about dating a woman who was super rich and wanted to pay for everything... if there was surgery that could make that happen then I definitely wouldn't be 100% apathetic about her wanting to get that surgery. ...... added to this post 9 minutes later: The OP asked us for our opinions on breast implants ("Feel free to be brutally honest; I can take it. Thanks!") and I responded to this request for honesty by providing context that would leave no ambiguity regarding the true nature of my complaint. When people start making new threads about "honest opinions regarding 19th century attitudes" then feel free to offer your opinion in that thread, because implying that I'm rude when I'm just responding to the OP's inquiry most certainly feels like a personal attack.
  10. There was tons of "gay-like" (or effeminate male) behavior that extended well beyond Joey trying to get his guy friends to kiss him. I'm sorry that you were motivated to feel this way but blaming a sitcom like Friends when you attended a catholic high school seems to be a bit of a stretch. While you're at it I might as well blame the Simpsons for making me think "I was a mutant freak going to hell" for being an atheist because after all, notice how all the Simpson's characters went to church and not a single one of them identified as an atheist? And now that I'm actually thinking about it for the firs time, why does every show ever created always have to shove their theistic ideology down our throats? Even Friends had to shove their theism down our throats when they always depicted religious leaders in all their weddings that had to happen every season. ...... added to this post 14 minutes later: Bruno purposefully exaggerated flamboyancy (a characteristic that might have led to your friend's incident) so that he could expose ignorance, prejudice and homophobia within American culture and capture it on camera (and to be clear I'm mostly referring to the interviews on HBO and not the actual movie). That's not quite the "mockery to gay life" that you're making it out to be, but if you want to cite a sitcom like Friends as evidence of rampant heterosexuality being shoved down the throats of Americans then maybe some victim complexes are beyond salvageable.
  11. It's really not all that surprising that these threads eventually degenerate to a "who can spend the most money on karma points" contest, a fact that further supports my theory that tipping culture in general is rather trashy. Like it would be one thing if it was one of those "appreciated but not expected" type of things, sort of like with homeless folk begging for money, but nope. That would be way too classy. American entitlement complexes are so severe that servers are expecting to receive a tip 100% of the time and they will interpret it as an insult if their expectation proves to be incorrect. Oh and fun fact: tipping in America didn't become a norm until prohibition, a policy that never would have been introduced in the first place if it wasn't for the help of feminists and their moron allies These are both common misconceptions that further fuels the mindless tipping culture that so many people say that they hate. The fact is that federal minimum wage laws apply equally to all employees regardless of whether or not they work for tips. People can obviously spend their money as they see fit but it's still quite a stretch to argue that tipping is in any way necessary because otherwise they'd be getting "next to nothing." To this end it becomes rather comical when a truly desperate employee likes to ignore this fact and will try citing their "hourly wage" to help induce tips from patrons, which essentially means that they're lying in order to exploit the altruism of ignorant strangers. And sure, the tipped employee may not be "happy" about earning federal minimum wage but I don't see how their unhappiness would be any different from millions of other workers who are also earning the same amount.
  12. Yes, and just so people know that in this context "very similar" had literally meant just 2 characters away from being 100% identical, which is why it would have been most inappropriate to have not included a citation. I of course would attribute our polarized views on so many issues to the profound cultural differences which you've generously cited on numerous occasions, but who knows. So much mystery.
  13. I don't know what your point is but I'll say again that friends was written by gay writers and was portrayed by overly effeminate male characters. *Technically* the implied "hook ups" that are never actually shown were typically between men and women but there was still tons of "gay-like" behavior, such as when Joey is trying to get Chandler and Ross to kiss him intimately on the lips. Obviously if either Ross or Chandler were 100% straight they would have been secure enough with their sexuality to help their buddy out so clearly the closeted gayness within them caused them to panic and not be very good friends. Say no more... you already have my deepest and most heartfelt condolences.
  14. Yes, thank you. The OP came to us with an honest question and I've been doing my utmost to shed as much light as possible on the answer, and I will even go as far as to expose the bias of other users if I think they're providing the OP with inaccurate information. No kidding... I can't tell you how much better I think our community would be if more people here felt the same way.
  15. First off, as a female it doesn't surprise me in the slightest that you'd feel this way. Secondly, even if you can argue that as an isolated incident it's justified to get upset over, the fact remains that this was not an isolated incident. As toki has already reminded us, the OP and his friend had extensive history when it came to making jokes at each other's expense; they had an implicit understanding that they would actively try to tease each other and get under each other's skin. Analogous: if a female decided she wanted to play this type of teasing game with me, does she have a right to feel that I've crossed a line and have hurt her feelings if I poke fun at her weight or bra size? Just like the OP, she cannot openly feel this way without publicly declaring that she is in fact a "whiny little bitch," and I wouldn't buy her argument that it was the manner of my insult that "crossed a line." In other words, the implicit understanding that the OP had with his friend was: "lets tease each other and get under each other's skin," and NOT "lets tease each other and get under each other's skin but posting images on social media is off limits." No one can know for certain but given the context of the relationship and the magnitude of the slight it's safe to say that the OP is acting like a whiny little bitch. Thankfully only 2 people explicitly voiced a contradictory opinion, and at least one of them openly admitted that her assessment might have been subject to bias due to the abundant amount of "cultural encouragement" she received that causes her to overlook such qualities in men. Exactly this is the one thing that makes me question if my initial impression about the OP was "fair." Very similar to what Seablue had previously suggested, it's tempting to say that men get called bitches for the right set of behaviors but for the wrong degree of it. If a woman had been whining about something so frivolous I probably would have dismissed it as her being a "typical female," but since a guy is finally doing it for a change my very first thought becomes, wow, this guy's acting like a whiny little bitch. Personally this is quite a stunning revelation considering I've always gone to such great lengths to try and not let gender interfere with whatever conclusions I may or may not draw about them.