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Baba Yaga

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  1. Given there are no commonalities in the ENFP/ENFJ functional stacks (Ne, Fi, Te, Si vs. Fe, Ni, Se, Ti), you would expect sig. behavioural differences. I find the Personality Junkie blog esp. useful on this topic: ENFP: http://personalityjunkie.com/enfp/ ENFJ: http://personalityjunkie.com/enfj-type-profile/ My personal experiences of both [note: v. small sample!]: ENFP: I dated one for 6 years, and we're still great friends 10 years on. He's: an architect running his own practice who has problems working for other people, incredibly creative & artistic, interested in theoretical ideas (and smart enough to contribute to discussions), unshakable integrity, competitive, kind but will write someone off without qualms if they cross certain lines. ENFJ: Have a couple of ENFJ friends and live with one. They are all: very warm, caring, people-oriented, get on with everyone, enjoy discussing complex ideas (but not v. creative or intellectual, even though they think they are!), 'political' (diplomatic & manipulative), career-minded, energetic, no-nonsense, less trustworthy (as I see it).
  2. (reading the conversations below) OK, mystery solved then. I suppose this page will see more pilgrimage of those familiar with the Russian fairy tales.

  3. +1 To OP, I'm here because: 1) I find INTJ's confusing and want to understand better. I know of at least 2 who've both amused and irritated me over the past 5 years, and I suspect more. I find this 'type' puzzling/interesting, and therefore quite seductive (although also very 'cold,' which is off-putting) 2) This forum has made me laugh aloud on many occasions
  4. Ah! I've only visited Serbia once - interesting country (I used to date a Serb!). 'Same' figure btw, Babaroga/Baba Yaga/Baba Iaga, etc.

    My thesis was for a PhD in Human Geography, looking at the folkloric figures of the trickster and the crone in contemporary fairy tales.

    How about you? Are you interested in folklore, fairy tales, other (non)related things...?

  5. Oh, nop, I'm not. I'm originally from Serbia .. but we have a figure in popular tales called Babaroga! I don't actually know much about the folklore behind such character though. What kind of thesis did you do? For university?

  6. The situation sounds so intense... My inclination would be to take a step back/'out' for a while before actioning your plan/trying to meet the problem head on. This might allow emotions to cool down and you to gain more clarity. (A bit of calm and distance can only help where things have got this frustrating, painful and involved.) E.g. how about focusing on just enjoying your relationship with your wife without directly involving your son [i don't like the 'step' distinction, already sets up a divide in the family unit], and showing him an united front, albeit not on this particular issue (his upbringing), but in other ways? Or taking care of yourself and your needs outside of the family unit (there is more to life than family, however blasphemous this may sound!), and leading by example (showing him that having personal and productive hobbies/interests/work/ideas and getting off your ass once in a while brings enjoyment/happiness/self-esteem, etc.)? Give him time to get used to you... and your value system. Hope things improve for you!
  7. Hi, I'm not - are you? I wrote a large part of my thesis on Baba Yaga, hence the fixation! :)

  8. Hi ^^ ..Are you Russian??

  9. Not harboring any regrets for exes. In fact, bumped into the 'first' recently and couldn't help thinking, somewhat unkindly: "bullet dodged!" Saying that, I'm great friends with the ex I cared about most – and that's more than enough for both of us. I find thoughts of "one flesh" and "one/true love," for that matter, slightly nauseating. I'm not sure I 'believe' in "honest love" or love at all; I tend to see it more as a case of chemistry + cultural expectations + neediness + self-delusion ;)
  10. Have struggled to sleep for as long as I can recall, even as a child. On average takes me 2-3 hours to drop off, usually because my brain is on overdrive, catching up with all the thoughts I couldn't think through properly earlier in the day because of work/other commitments. (Note: NOT worried thoughts/angst; just exciting, interesting, complex ones!). Exercise doesn't seem to help. One thing I've noticed is the effect of interacting with other people (esp. loud and obnoxious extroverts) before bed. I live in a B&B, and a couple of hours spent in the company of certain housemates in the evenings makes sleeps considerably more elusive. Maybe sleeplessness is not always a problem: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/23/opinion/sunday/rethinking-sleep.html?nl=todaysheadlines&emc=edit_th_20120923&moc.semityn.www&_r=0 [hope link works!] Ironically (or consequently?), takes me a very long time to wake up...
  11. Hi

    keeping it short & sweet! Dammit, I thought us social scientists were the top dogs when it comes to reading into things! ;)
  12. Hi

    Hmm... you spill, I'll listen (well you do have the J!) Thanks
  13. Hi

    My perception re. your fooling around, or more generally?! With approx. 90% P (so they say) I have a lot to spare. I could use a hefty dose of your J in return...
  14. Hi

    Ha! Duly noted ;) I couldn't agree more - thanks! 5w4 on enneagram = skeptical, cynical iconoclast (ideologues beware!) ...although given the contradiction in that statement I MUST be a fool!
  15. Hmm... I wonder if you're thinking more of 5w6 here... 5w4 gravitate toward mastering/creating systems within the social sciences and humanities - much harder sells! It sounds like you're in a tight spot right now, and dealing with it in a typical 5 manner ;) If there's any truth to the enneagram one of the basic fears of a 5 is of being helpless. Homelessness would certainly fit that bill. This might lead to a spiraling of negativity... Enneagram suggests that once a 5 gets down it is hard for them to reach out for help, or focus on the right tasks for getting back up on their feet again. When things improve you may well reconsider your defn. of success. I'm 5w4 and tend to see money and fame as tools, not values, which, again, I think is typical of 5s. I did have the chance to go down the 'success' route in my 20s, but got bored and quit. Whilst much poorer now, I am also more content. I enjoy 'work' (research and writing) and being 'independent' (not answering to a boss, and institution, or to anyone, for that matter). I don't even bother with the question of success - its just a norm (probably conjured up by those evil 3's!).