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maxpanic

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About maxpanic

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  • MBTI
    INTJ

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    South Jordan, UT
  • Occupation
    IT Director
  • Gender
    Male
  1. Hi there,

    I came across your profile and see that you live in Utah. I was wondering if you would care to get together for dinner or something? I am a 42 year old single male looking for good friends and good conversation.

    Matt

  2. Hi there,

    I came across your profile and see that you live in Utah. I was wondering if you would care to get together for dinner or something? I am a 42 year old single male looking for good friends and good conversation.

    Matt

  3. Hi there,

    I came across your profile and see that you live in Utah. I was wondering if you would care to get together for dinner or something? I am a 42 year old single male looking for good friends and good conversation.

    Matt

  4. Hi there,

    I came across your profile and see that you live in Utah. I was wondering if you would care to get together for dinner or something? I am a 42 year old single male looking for good friends and good conversation.

    Matt

  5. Hi there,

    I came across your profile and see that you live in Utah. I was wondering if you would care to get together for dinner or something? I am a 42 year old single male looking for good friends and good conversation.

    Matt

  6. Hi there,

    I came across your profile and see that you live in Utah. I was wondering if you would care to get together for dinner or something? I am a 42 year old single male looking for good friends and good conversation.

    Matt

  7. I came across this massmatch.com dating site/service and it seems to match up by mbti personality type, at least to some extent. I am intrigued, mainly because I am unsure of the accuracy but I find a number of these guidelines make sense. This also seems to fly in the face of some of the old school mbti match theory I have heard of in the past. What do you all think? http://www.massmatch.com/MBTI-2.php
  8. Hey Rose, I have been through a relationship from the male side of suffering from marriage to a cheater. I forced myself to be miserable for 16 years for the sake of the children. It was totally not worth it. She would cheat about once every 4 years and then say she wouldn't do it again and then I couldn't trust her and the marriage sucked. I am now a hard-line advocate against staying with someone who cheats. Marriage is conditionally for keeps, it takes two to hold it together and only one to wreck it. once its wrecked it is totaled, there is not bondo that works on a marriage. get out of the marriage and make him pay, literally if you can, I don't know how the alimony laws work in south africa but you deserve to make him pay for the rest of your life if you can.
  9. I was wondering if anyone has read the (old) Ghost series, by John Ringo - techno-thriller/porn (with no pics). Just wanted to get others perspective of it. I thought that it was a way of bringing macho male fantasy to life. I am interested in male and female perspectives of the series if anyone has read it.
  10. Why don't you give an idea what your looking for in an INTJ, have you posted your profile?
  11. If she is cheating on him with herself then it's over. I think he would have be ok with it and still keep up with caring about his needs for it to have a chance at being ok.
  12. After reading this thread completely it seems clear to me that he isn't being honest with his feelings and thoughts about you. He clearly doesn't think of you as the sexy attractive woman he once did or that you are. He has some type of issues along these lines, not sure if they are mommy issues or seeing you get as large as pregnancy stretchs you but regardless of the exact cause/issue he is turned off by you and it doesn't sound like he knows how to change that. He needs to get into sex/marriage counsling immediately or you might as well bail as quick as you can. Marriage is not normally like this. Most men don't wimp out at pregnancy and child birth. Some part of him is still a selfish scared little boy. He thinks the porn and masterbation is an acceptable alternative to leaving you(huge guilt since he wanted the baby) versus cheating on you. Counsling or get out fast, that's my advice. The longer you sit around waiting for him to be a healthy minded man the more misery you will have. It is possible that he will change on his own eventually but I would estimate that probability to be around .5%.
  13. I think the no sex marriage is grounds for divorce alone, go figure. The emotional abuse is also grounds for divorce on it's own merits. The lack of taking responsibility and pursuing treatment for a mental illness may seem harsh to those that are mentally ill to judge but it is clearly isn't something he signed up for. If she had cancer and she refused treatment and wanted to let herself die he shouldn't have to stand by and watch that happen either. When someone has destructive behavior and you are married to them and the destruction is to themselves, the spouse or other family members I think that is a perfectly fair time to get out of the relationship. Its self preservation.
  14. 1. She must be physically attractive to me 2. Her and I need to be able to get along really well and be happy together with nothing else to do. 3. We need to have common goals, parenting styles and religious beliefs