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  1. Reaching out to moderators to please read my request and evaluate it on its own terms: http://intjforum.com/showthread.php?t=161227

  2. I am not apologizing. "I'm sorry" has a few different connotations in addition to making an apology. One of them is "it really sucks that you experienced that". That it "feels" cheap is because you probably don't derive any personal benefit from social harmony. I only have a smidgen of Fe, but for me - external harmony calms me. That means I can think freely, without distraction or disturbance. So keeping the external environment peaceful is critical to my sense of well-being. Some people need their physical environment to be physically tidy in order to think. Same concept for Fe, only with the social environment.
  3. I stay on top of my shit on the evenings and weekends. I don't always respond to emails or do any work, but I am always aware of what's happening and prepared to deal with it.
  4. As a way to learn the concepts? Sure. Consider a classes in set theory, predicate logic and relational algebra too. SQL certs are vendor specific, as each vendor has a dialect of its own, on top of standard SQL. Oracle if you are going towards very large companies (and be prepared to see multiple platforms - that need to talk to each other). SQL Server if you are going small to medium. Open Source if you are going small companies, start ups and that sort of thing. CIW has a vendor neutral cert, but it is more focused on database concepts and design than learning how to write stored procs and such. If you want to work for big companies, it might be worth it. Nike likes certs, for example. However, if you don't have them, they will do a cert class right on campus. =) That is going to vary quite a bit though and you can certainly get a job without them. The basics are easy to learn and if you understand the fundamentals, you can very quickly build on them to get into more complex stuff. Interesting observation from the trenches: Procedural programmers tend to dislike dealing with SQL. If you have a knack for it, you can carve out a nice niche for yourself in certain environments. I got a job as a sql developer with half a degree (and thus, two low level certs). I am pursuing the next tier of SQL Server certs - not so much for career prospects at this point (because once you are in - experience is king), but because I want to know every tool in my toolbox. And SQL has slick tools for analyzing data. I learn something new every single day. Very powerful in the hands of the right person. If you are going into analytics or BI - then you will want to also look into the various platforms. Big Data will be Hadoop, Teradata, etc. BI is vendor driven - Cognos, Tableau, SQL Server Analysis Services, etc. But you still need a basis in manipulating sets of data.
  5. Not seeing the friend request. I miss these all the time for some reason. Other reasons: We work together. I am trying to keep you separate from my crazy family We hold views that are radically different and I don't want conflict You are on the extreme end of the religious or political spectrum (in any direction). ---------- Post added 01-08-2015 at 09:01 AM ---------- Does he have a wife/girlfriend?
  6. Married to an INTJ, I am on the receiving end of this fairly often. He isn't as subtle as he thinks he is, either, lol. We started our relationship with me holding most of the power - simply because I was older and more established than he was. He was joining a preexisting household. As time went on and we built our own life together, I have relinquished - consciously - quite a bit of executive power to the INTJ half because it makes sense to do so. He didn't have to wrangle anything. He thought he did, but really, he just had to discuss it with me like an adult. My background in accounting notwithstanding, I am not good with strategic financial planning. He is. I have my talents and areas of control, too. But he LIKES making decisions and strategies for our personal gain. I am glad he likes that stuff because I don't. It makes me anxious. I think that power struggles are toxic to most relationships and I pretty much refuse to play into power games. Power exchange gets done out in the open, not via manipulation, or you won't get far with me.
  7. Find out who pays the recruiter. Normally, it is the company doing the hiring, however, there are flighty ones out there who try to be more like a talent agent and want you to pay them. Make sure the opportunity is "real". One trick recruiters use is to dangle a juicy position with a well-known name to get you in the door and fill out the paperwork. Once you are on the hook, the job vanishes, but they have these others, not quite as exciting or well paying opportunities for you! Go to the bioinformatics company website and see if you can find that job listed. If so, then the recruiter is probably legit (although using them may not give you a hiring edge). If they claim to have an exclusive contract with the big name - make them prove it. All in all, my husband and I both have had good luck with recruiters, especially specialized ones. Temp agencies disguised as recruitment agencies are not nearly as good. I got the job I have now because a recruiter contacted me on LinkedIn and thought I was a good fit for a position he had. Turns out he was right and I love my new job. If you are interested in hearing more - then respond positively and ask for more information. Might be able to get a phone interview very quickly.
  8. In my accounting career, I have been privy to payroll information for most of the companies I have worked for. This spans several states and male-dominated industries (and two decades), so while not a comprehensive picture, it is fairly broad. My perspective does lack any experience outside the for-profit business world though - like in academia and the non-profit world where things are very different. So narrow in some respects too. In any case, I did not see a lot of pay discrimination. I looked for it too. And what I did see couldn't automatically be called discrimination because there were often legitimate reasons for differences in pay. I did see some jobs divvied up by gender, however, self-selection was strongly in play. Women and white males rarely applied for "dirty" production jobs; men rarely applied for production jobs requiring fine motor skills, as examples. Little old ladies ruled the assembly line with a damned iron fist, I am telling you. The one place I expected to find it - a very rural, conservative state in an engineering company - was actually pretty darn good. They had several engineers and field techs that were women and they were paid according to the same structure as their male counterparts. Moving through the engineering and technician ranks was laid out by education goals and time on the job. I did see some of that in a manufacturing company in NJ. Family owned business and they favored male relatives over all else...a combination of nepotism and very traditional views on gender roles from the parent culture. However, that parent culture also empowered me indirectly to take a stand once I figured out the power structure. Almost cost me the job a few times, but ultimately, they realized that they were headed for a lawsuit and needed to do better. In general, most of the pay structures I saw over the years rewarded length of time with the company or moving into new positions over pretty much everything else. In income-producing positions, pay is usually linked to the income-production so it is tied, at least partially, to individual effort. I have never seen commission structures, for instance, that are gender based.
  9. Hmmm. Solving a problem may very well require something new to be built. Not always of course. So I guess I sort of combine these two things and go for creative problem solving. But it is definitely the impulse to solve problems and puzzles that is driving the bus for me. I see no point in creating a stored procedure if it doesn't actually solve a problem for someone - either a code problem or a business problem.
  10. The point is to have fun and celebrate yourself. I celebrate my birthday - it's my day to be selfish. But I don't have parties. I just make a day that is all about me. Day off work, my favorite foods and activities. I believe birthday celebrations have their root in rites of passage, but not positive.
  11. Ni scans the external environment? I thought it was introverted and therefore it perceives primarily internal stimuli. Ne definitely scans the external world looking for novel data to capture and turn over to Ti for processing into the ever-expanding internal database/encyclopedia. This is why I can spend 12+ hours on stumbleupon soaking up data or delving into quantum and my partner can't/won't. He really doesn't need the input the way I do. When I watch my INTJ husband and his Ni doesn't magic up an answer or explanation - his next step is to look at what is happening physically. But that is Se, I think, rather than than Ni? Se seems to scan the physical environment for concrete data that will fill in any gaps that Ni can't fill. Si helps out Ne for INTP's too. If Ne is failing to give Ti something to work with, Si will scan the past/history for similar problems. The solution could potentially be adapted to this new problem. I think both INTJ's and INTP's do a lot of scanning - internally and externally. We just do it in different ways and for different reasons.
  12. I think in "institutions" (schools, large corporations, and certain professions), there is pressure to conform to the institution's behavioral or cultural norms (which may or may not favor a specific MBTI type). But that pressure is applied to everyone, not just INTJ's. You have to fit into the predefined mold in order to succeed in the predefined mold. Outside of these "institutions" - I don't see it much. The moment I stepped out of the accounting world, for example, everything changed drastically. It was a real eye opener to compare my experiences in a traditional profession like accounting with the new career in database development.
  13. It is not legal for anyone to beat another person, at least not in the US. It may not be considered child or domestic abuse, but it is assault. The wisdom of pressing charges against the parental unit you are dependent upon is questionable, however, so consider contacting a domestic violence shelter and see what resources you can line up in advance. I don't think you would be protected under any tenant protection laws as you have not signed a lease or rental agreement. You would need to consult a lawyer about it to be sure though. Laws vary greatly from place to place. When my kids were 18+ and living at home, there was a mutual understanding. My house, my rules. When they got tired of the rules (such as they were) or no longer felt like contributing, they were free to move out. However, my rules weren't enforced with physical beatings, either. Might consider Americorps...they have a living stipend and some educational benefits. Some programs have housing available.
  14. I think it would be a really good idea to go talk to an advisor or someone in the Engineering department to see if there are aptitude tests, prerequisites or other qualifications that you would need to meet before applying for the program.
  15. I would not, but not because I think they would cheat or eventually regret their decision to wait. People cheat for all sorts of reasons, and people who were virgins when they got married are not immune to any of them. I am a very strong proponent of knowing what you are getting into sexually before you tie the knot. It is a big commitment - not one to enter into with blind faith. A lifetime of mismatched libidos is a miserable existence and I have seen more than a few marriages destroyed over fundamental sexual incompatibility. I advised my own kids to wait until they were ready to share that with someone special (after, of course, the discussion about potential consequences of sex). Married or not is irrelevant. And I am a strong proponent of vetting compatibility in general. I can think of a few reasons someone might be so attached to the idea of sexual "purity". None of them are compatible with my worldviews.