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About MecEngFTW

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  1. I put a 7/10 because when I'm around people, I have no problem talking if need be. However, I truly prefer just sitting off in the background when I'm with a group of friends and just listening. I'm not as outgoing as I would like to be, but I really do just enjoy relaxing at home and not traveling. I have many of my friends who complain about how I don't like to travel at all. Growing up, my family didn't have a lot of money so we never traveled at all. That's the mind set that I have, just sitting on the porch watching the sunrise while drinking some coffee/tea/cocoa. I like to think that I treat people really well and give everyone a chance. One major knock that I have is, like many INTJ's, when it comes to relationships/girls in general. Which most people would agree, doesn't help a personality. I'm slowly getting better at it, but it's safe to say that I'm not going to be picking up girls anytime soon. :D
  2. Polymath20 hit this right on the head with his list. I just got out of a relationship with an ESFJ and every single thing on that list is what she did. It got really annoying for me really fast. It was hard at the same time because she really cared for me and really liked me, but always having to watch what I said(one word would set her off), and constantly having to tell her nice things got old. I'm not saying that I hated telling her that, but just out of the blue she would make me tell her she was pretty, and if I didn't, she got pissed. She always told me that if I needed time to myself or wanted to hang out with my friends, I could and she didn't care. But she was constantly trying to stay in contact with me and would get pissed if I didn't respond. Needless to say, it got old really quick, not to mention her constant paranoia that I was going to cheat on her. She was a very nice girl who meant well, but it wasn't going to work out unfortunately.
  3. 1. Just explain that you don't really see anything between you two. It might be hard for this person to swallow, but a relationship can't be a one way street. 2. Personality, intelligence, beauty. I feel the first two encompass a lot of the qualities that you listed. 3. Monogamy because I don't really like the notion of knowing that a girl I might be with could be sleeping around. Plus, it shows more commitment I feel. 4. I would be fine with using condoms because I personally don't like the pill since it messes with women's hormones. I'd be willing to use condoms in that aspect. 5. Just being able to hold that person close to you.
  4. I have to agree that many engineering students are very arrogant for some reason. I'm happy with the fact that I don't judge someone just because they have some sort of LA major. To me, to each their own and everyone has different interest in life. What I have the most difficult part with though, is kids who gets LA degrees that know they won't be getting a job at the end of their college career. I'm glad they are doing what they love, but I feel they need to look at the big picture and maybe get a buisness minor or something that could increase their chances of getting a job. But I'm glad to hear that someone has a thing for engineering students, because that's a first I've ever heard someone say it.
  5. This is true. You have to just practice, practice, practice at the problems. What I did when I had my calc classes, was just find a corner in the library and just do the problems over and over again. Eventually I got to the point where I began to memorize the problems, but that helped me because the step are usually the same with most problems in what ever section. What I also did when I couldn't figure out a problem, I'd put the beginning of the problem on top and the answer on the bottom and try to work both forward and backwards to see if I could meet in the middle somehow. Sometimes it worked, other times it left me very frustrated.
  6. I wasn't very good at math either since my high school did a terrible job teaching me. I actually started in College Algebra and took summer math classes to get through the math quicker. Don't let this discourage you because I was scared at first as well! Once I got into my upper level ME classes, the intensity of the math dropped and it more so just became basic math. You just have to remember the process of how to solve a problem since each one can be different and be able to apply the right conversions when needed. That's what a lot of those hard early classes are for, it's to get your mind to be able to think critically. As many people have already stated, the Calculus, Physics, and Chemistry classes are weed out classes and boy does it show. I've found that a strong work ethic is probably the biggest thing needed to get through the classes. Those kids who drop engineering usually switch to some kind of Underwater Basket Weaving major. There are going to be classes that are not in your interest but you just have to get through them. I've found that I really enjoy classes like Thermo/Fluid Dynamics and Heat Transfer, but don't like classes like Dynamical Systems and any sort of machine type class. They're interesting nonetheless, but I'm certain that I don't want to do that kind of work when I graduate this upcoming year. I'm currently on a co-op and it's a very rewarding in real world experience, knowledge, and money. I hope this helps, engineering is a great field to get into but it's not for the lazy bums.
  7. Funny that you mention talking to few old female friends. I was at a restaurant with my brother and his wife and I randomly saw a girl I hadn't seen since high school. She was a nice girl and if I wasn't on the opposite side of the state on this engineering internship I would've considered asking her to hang out sometime. I completely agree with the experience part even if you get burned. Since I hadn't had a relationship in about 4 years before that one I talked about, I learned a hell of a lot in that one month. It helps that I'm much more mature and more observant than I was in high school. Granted, I'm no master of women(anyone who claims they are has a 101% chance of being a tool) but I now know what not to do and what to look for early on as red flags. I did have a slight fling with a cute girl near the end of school, but it just became nothing but emails and texts which doesn't cut it for me. I really would've like to see where it would've gone but the couple times I tried to set something up, it didn't work out. No biggie, but now I know that I can't really do email and texting.
  8. It was interesting for me when I took this personality test at work because my boss wanted to see what kind of personality I was. I was just like you when I read that I was an INTJ because of how damn near spot on it was to me. I was almost in denial at first until my boss showed me what he was and said that it almost exactly described what he was. It has literally opened my eyes to how I truly act. Plus, I always thought that I was crazy with all the voices and conversations that are always going on in my head but it turns out that is what most INTJ's have as well. To tell you a story about my relationships, this past year I dated a girl only for about a month. Numerous red flags went up immediately when we started seeing each other. However, I decided to pursue and see how things would go. It was a bad idea and I should've listened to my gut instincts. I know that everyone has flaws and that's why I thought I should stick it out and see if it was something we could work out. This girl was absolutely crazy and wanted to always have attention, which is something that I don't do. She tried to be subtly manipulative but I called her out on it every time and I wasn't going to put up with that. She was absolutely crazy about me though so I felt bad about breaking it off with her, but I knew that it wasn't going to go anywhere. It's interesting looking back how I always looked at things with logic and not from the emotional standpoint. I've learned from that relationship to try and empathize with a little more emotion and try not to make everything so black and white like I usually do. Since most, not all, women are emotionally driven, they don't think with logic and just let the emotional roller coaster dictate how they respond to most situations in life. So after that, I've just decided to just wait and see what happens. There is someone out there for everyone. You never know, someone might just fall out of the blue clear sky when you least expect it.
  9. Dear Crush, You said you had a crush on me to my face and I thought you were cute as well. Then with every subsequent effort to get together, you always have something going on. So me facing facts, I've decided to move on in my life. Luckily, there was no real overall emotional attachment so I played video games that night and pretty much forgot about it. What could've been though, what could've been. P.S. Stop saying hot water heater, it's redundant.
  10. 1. I'm not big into social technology. I don't have twitter, deleted my facebook because it was annoying and a waste of time, and still have the same flip phone I bought 3 years ago. 2. I'm not materialistic. I don't need the newest flashiest thing to make me happy. 3. I'm not a jackass to women. I don't put them up on a pedestal, but I treat everyone kindly, which in this day and age, seems to be the exact opposite of what most women want. 4. I'm perfectly fine being around groups, but if I had to choose, I'd rather stay at home and relax. 5. Beauty and the Beast is my favorite movie. I catch a lot of flak for that.