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About holdyourhead

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    Do not speak to fools. They scorn the wisdom of your words.

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  1. I'd rather be in a happy relationship than alone. I'd rather be alone than in an unhappy relationship. So being single/alone falls in the middle. Being alone is... Meh. Just something to accept. It offers me no significant benefits besides a little extra freedom, takes away companionship and someone to enjoy sharing life's experiences with, and may add loneliness. Still better than an unhappy relationship as that may also not provide enjoyable experiences and companionship or take away loneliness, while also taking away freedom. Don't see the point.
  2. Thank you for taking the Creativity Test. The results show your brain dominance as being: Left Brain Right Brain 64% 36% You are more left-brained than right-brained. Your left brain controls the right side of your body. In addition to being known as left-brained, you are also known as a critical thinker who uses logic and sense to collect information. You are able to retain this information through the use of numbers, words, and symbols. You usually only see parts of the "whole" picture, but this is what guides you step-by-step in a logical manner to your conclusion. Concise words, numerical and written formulas and technological systems are often forms of expression for you. Some occupations usually held by a left-brained person include a lab scientist, banker, judge, lawyer, mathematician, librarian, and skating judge. Your complete evaluation follows below: Your left brain/right brain percentage was calculated by combining the individual scores of each half's sub-categories. They are as follows: Your Left Brain Percentages 54% Reality-based (Your most dominant characteristic) 48% Linear 42% Symbolic 40% Sequential 25% Logical 14% Verbal (Your least dominant characteristic) Your Right Brain Percentages 37% Concrete (Your most dominant characteristic) 28% Random 24% Intuitive 20% Fantasy-oriented 12% Holistic 7% Nonverbal (Your least dominant characteristic)
  3. Based on my previous posts it would be fair to say my first three reactions to any music are ordered thus: 1) Quality assessment / personal appeal - Can I enjoy this / would I listen to it? Usually decided during the first verse (at the latest), or within seconds (at the earliest) if I don't like how the music or artist sounds from the outset. 2) Meaning - Is there an overt message/meaning? Are there hidden messages/meanings between the lines? What is the artist trying to convey? This can also increase the quality... Or is it mostly hollow/shallow? 3) Purpose - Why was it created? Artistic expression? Love for the music? To make money? To send a message? Something else? Any or all of the above? This in turn may or may not add an additional meaning above.
  4. I may have jumped the gun there. Although that would usually be my first and most significant reaction to any music - do I enjoy listening to it. Successive reactions would need some kind of prompting, whether through the musical content itself, or discussion of it. Both of which can vary infinitely, so my reaction also varies accordingly. I won't go into specifics of the tracks posted as I think generalising would be more useful here. I see the art as a reflection of life - all of life - the good, the bad, and the ugly. Most rap artists with violent lyrics haven't done most of what is said themselves. They are only a character acting as reflection of what they have seen or heard happening around them. They are telling a story. At least, with those that are not so one-dimensional. There was another quote from 2Pac but I can't seem to find it, along the lines of being the absolute worst he can be (in the music) to essentially raise awareness and incite change. To show the wider public what is happening in the ghetto, that they would otherwise be blissfully ignorant towards. There is a skew in the media and also in public reactions to violence, crime, and death when it is happening in more affluent areas. People tend to care more. Whilst in poorer areas, the same things can go largely unreported and unnoticed, along with the social inequalities and poor public services. It is all very disproportionate. A different 2Pac quote, but still relevant: So... I can appreciate the art on multiple levels. It is very multi-faceted for me, but when accompanied with the music and certain structural qualities of the entire track and each of its many components (both in terms of music and vocals), this does also lend to the ultimate quality for me and therefore my enjoyment which was initially assessed, as you noted. It is also worth noting that many of us will read, listen to, or watch other forms of art, media, or entertainment which can have similarly grim subject matters expressed or covered (through films, documentaries, books, photography, paintings, drawings, video games, etc.) without it being viewed in the same light as when expressed through musical form. Why is that? Last point, I also see that for some, where there really is no social message element, it can still be considered artistic expression through music and perhaps they enjoy creating and being part of that themselves. Then, of course, there is the widespread use of it as an avenue to generate income and a way to change the dire circumstances in which they and others reside. Perhaps this final paragraph is the most relevant when talking about any music of any genre without any clear social or conscious element.
  5. The forum number of "MBTI and Personality Theories" is 16, as seen in the url: https://intjforum.com/forum/16-mbti-and-personality-theories/ (which is also the number of MBTI types). I'm sad.
  6. Test results for me: Read/Write 11 Visual 10 Kinesthetic 7 Aural 5 Compared to your proposal: NJ (=Ni) 1) Auditory 2) Reading/Writing 3) Visual 4) Kinesthetic It is the same, except Aural has moved to the bottom for me. Interestingly, I thought Kinesthetic would be much higher. My thought on why Aural is at the bottom is that it may be due to my communication difficulties which transcend MBTI.
  7. France Included for completeness. Only visited a mall so no real experience of the country at all. Belgium (Bruges) Beautiful historic city. Didn't get to experience much else of Belgium due to only being a day visit. Spain (Fuengirola, Benalmadena, Mijas) and Portugal (Albufeira) The good: Warm and safe. Good food. Beautiful scenery and landscapes. Easy to get by with only English in the high tourism areas. Affordable. Spanish is one of the easier languages to learn (Portuguese is harder). Decent enough people. Haven't seen the historical parts firsthand. The bad: Didn't have any negative experiences in Spain. The only thing worth mentioning with Portugal was the street-sellers can be numerous and persistent. Oh, and shouldn't drink tap water in either country. Kenya (Mombasa, Tsavo East National Park, Shimoni, Kisite-Mpunguti Marine National Park, Wasini Island) The good: Weather (although the heat is extreme - we spent every other day in the pool). Safaris. Nature reserves. Wildlife parks. Unspoilt landscapes. Seeing a group of zebras running alongside the road then making a real "zebra crossing". Witnessing one of the wildebeest great migrations firsthand up-close and seeing the dynamics between them all at that time. Seeing all kinds of great wild animals roaming free or just relaxing in the sun or shade. Having a very disgruntled elephant make its feelings very clear to us after our vehicle accidentally cut it off from its herd as it was trailing behind and hidden behind some bushes. Snorkeling in the beautiful ocean and seeing giant turtles and dolphins. Seeing such a vastly different and beautiful landscape, culture, and people. From urban to rural I don't remember a single moment where the sights were not fascinating and interesting. Never a dull moment. Nice people, though experiences were limited... It is endearing when all of the children in rural areas wave at "tourist" vehicles passing. The bad: It is expensive to stay in the nicest and securest hotels - if only for the safety. It is difficult to "experience" Kenyan life outside of the tourist areas - as soon as a tourist is spotted, street-sellers converge on them and are extremely persistent. "No" isn't taken for an answer and you are left with little option but ignoring them unless you can out-talk their persistent hard sell. If you engage with a seller or buy something, the problem magnifies as they will try to sell more and others see the opportunity. It might be easier for a black tourist to blend in unnoticed. This was less of a problem in rural areas. (To be generous, we would instead give large tips to all staff at the hotel, drivers, boat crew, shopkeepers, etc. Anyone encountered who we approached or served us, but did not cold approach us in public. Not really a negative as we were happy to and it was never asked for). Drinking tap water is definitely not an option. Vaccinations also recommended and some required. In developed Kenya, violent crime is not common, most crime is petty, but organised and violent sometimes armed gangs do operate across the country. Although when there is some kind of accident or incident and someone is hurt, people do rush over to help, but emergency service response is poor - especially in rural areas. USA (Florida) The good: Warm weather, mostly safe, nice people, countless activities, beautiful beaches and coasts, beautiful national parks and wilderness. Wild alligators can be a common sight, as are birds of prey. Kennedy Space Center was interesting - I would recommend the bus tour. Also recommend Universal. Everglades, Miami, St Petersburg, Siesta Key Beach - all beautiful. We took a helicopter tour over St Petersburg which was pretty cool. I think that the USA is one of perhaps six countries that would not "feel" as foreign as the rest of the world would when travelling between them (UK, Ireland, USA, Canada, Australia, New Zealand). Although there are many cultural differences, the similarities are there, as is the absence of a language barrier. The USA felt like a "home away from home". We barely even scratched the surface of Florida, let alone the country, and will definitely return. The bad: Although the vastness of America is simply fascinating, it takes a long time to travel between many locations, and there is so much undeveloped land - not all of which is particularly interesting or unique. The endless straight roads everywhere are also less exciting to drive for hundreds or thousands of miles. As a recreational driver, I long for our windy, hilly, and complicated roads of Europe. So much of America is flat, and while that can also be beautiful, you have to travel to specific regions to see more dynamic landscapes. I had to enthusiastically point out every time I saw a hill when driving to most corners of Florida as it was such a rare sight!
  8. We intend to create a will soon. I would think that this would take care of the inheritance issue of who is entitled to what, but would not prevent inheritance taxes. The issue of not being considered "next of kin" could be an issue, such as with a hospital as mentioned. Maybe our hands are being forced. We really wouldn't bother with a ceremony, just the bare minimum required at a registry office. I may have to relent and allow our parents to be witnesses, though... Sigh. "I do hereby solemnly swear to hold on to you forever, even though making this union legally recognised does not prevent splitting, estrangement, emotional detachment, infidelity, or divorce, and our lives will be exactly as they were before this union became legally recognised as a marriage since we cannot possibly entangle our lives any more than they are already, and the only reason we are partaking in this ancient tradition is for the legal and financial benefits."
  9. I only listened to half of London. I hadn't heard the term "drill rap" before. I now am aware of an actual name for another one of the many sub-genres which have gained popularity since the turn of the millennium. Not a fan. Musically and vocally too drony, bland, repetitive, and unevocative. Lyrically lacks poetic depth and complexity, has limited vocabulary, lacking emotional and intellectual depth and meaning. I have no issue with the inclusion of the typical content of the lyrics, but think the delivery and presentation is amatuer at best, the subject matter is too narrow, and overall too simplistic. Basically I have all the same issues with this "hardened" sub-genre as I have with the "softened" commercialised urban music of today. Incidentally, I have the same issues with most pop music of today aswell. Drony, repetitive, bland, and simplistic on too many or all levels. There's only a handful of current underground rap artists who have remained faithful to the apparently outdated fundamentals that I appreciate... That's my subjective opinion anyway. Grime was the first millennial sub-genre to emerge over here. It was novel at first but did not take long to grate against me for the same reasons. There are a few rare examples I appreicate, though: Stormzy - Shut Up Not the most impressive rhyming skills, but lyrically it has a decent flow, a melodic form, and more interesting thoughts. Also, I like this music on this one which is rare. Even better: Dead Players - Yeah Those are the only two grime tracks that penetrate my playlist at the moment.
  10. Do you have some examples? ...... added to this post 59 minutes later: A quick google... http://www.lawsociety.org.uk/for-the-public/common-legal-issues/moving-in-together/ Maybe we should consider making it official. I guess it is a matter of looking at the costs of registering a marriage versus solicitors fees for creating legal agreements and consideration of potential inheritance taxes.
  11. I bore easily without frequent stimulation, so if a job becomes stale, monotonous, repetitive or unchallenging I would get bored.
  12. I've said it many times... My partner has a degree. I do not. I left formal educatiom at 17. However, we both agree fundamentally that I am more knowledgeable and intelligent than her, and have a greater interest in learning than her. I also make more money than her. So much for convention. Both being at college or having degrees may give something to relate over in terms of the "experience" of being a student but nothing else for absolute certain, as others have said above.
  13. Introvert or mild extrovert. Any more extroverted than that would be too draining for me, and I'd probably be too boring for them. I've always been drawn to quieter people from the youngest age, before I'd ever heard the terms introvert or extrovert.
  14. I think only two people have ever questioned the fact that I'm not on facebook. My brother was talking about tagging people in some family photos, one of which I was in, and said that I can't be tagged and linked to my account because I'm not on facebook, so I should be tagged as "boring fuck" or something like that... That brother is a cunt and I don't ever want to and won't be anywhere near him ever again anyway after some events late last year, so that's that. The other was my partner's brother who was the first person to ever ask why I'm not on facebook. Nothing more than that. Maybe my aloof nature speaks for itself. There's no reason to question it? ...... added to this post 8 minutes later: US-specific, but if the figures are reflective of other nations too then I am glad to be part of the ~20%ers.
  15. ^ There is no cure for the stubbornly ignorant... Most of the time. For whatever reason, when it comes to being overweight, some people suddenly and magically gain the infallable knowledge of the very best biologists, nutritionists, and cardiologists; not to mention gaining psychic abilities and can tell you everything you are or aren't doing right or wrong with your diet, exercise, and life, regardless of what you tell them.