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About holdyourhead

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    Do not speak to fools. They scorn the wisdom of your words.

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  1. France Included for completeness. Only visited a mall so no real experience of the country at all. Belgium (Bruges) Beautiful historic city. Didn't get to experience much else of Belgium due to only being a day visit. Spain (Fuengirola, Benalmadena, Mijas) and Portugal (Albufeira) The good: Warm and safe, food, beautiful scenery and landscapes, easy to get by with only English in the resort areas, affordable, Spanish is one of the easier languages to learn (Portuguese is harder), decent enough people. Haven't seen the historical parts firsthand. Didn't have any negative experiences in Spain. The only thing worth mentioning with Portugal was the street-sellers can be numerous and persistent. Oh, and shouldn't drink tap water. Kenya (Mombasa, Tsavo East National Park, Shimoni, Kisite-Mpunguti Marine National Park, Wasini Island) The good: Weather (although extreme heat - we spent every other day in the pool), safaris, nature reserves, wildlife parks, seeing a group of zebras running alongside the road then making a real "zebra crossing", witnessing one of the wildebeest great migrations firsthand upclose and seeing the dynamics between them all at that time, seeing all kinds of great wild animals roaming free or just relaxing in the sun or shade, having a very disgruntled elephant make its feelings very clear to us after our vehicle accidentally cut it off from its herd as it was trailing behind and hidden behind some bushes, snorkeling in the beautiful ocean and seeing giant turtles and dolphins. Seeing such a vastly different and beautiful landscape, culture, and people. From urban to rural I don't remember a single moment where the sights were not fascinating and interesting. Never a dull moment. Nice people, though experiences were limited... It is endearing when all of the children in rural areas wave at "tourist" vehicles passing. The bad: It is expensive to stay in the nicest and securest hotels - if only for the safety. It is difficult to "experience" Kenyan life outside of the tourist areas - as soon as a tourist is spotted, street-sellers converge on them and are extremely persistent. "No" isn't taken for an answer and you are left with little option but ignoring them unless you can out-talk their persistent hard sell. If you engage with a seller or buy something, the problem magnifies as they will try to sell more and others see the opportunity. It might be easier for a black tourist to blend in unnoticed. This was less of a problem in rural areas. (To be generous, we would instead give large tips to all staff at the hotel, drivers, boat crew, shopkeepers, etc. Anyone encountered who we approached or served us, but did not cold approach us in public. Not really a negative as we were happy to and it was never asked for). Also, drinking tap water is definitely not an option. Vaccinations also recommended and some requied. In developed Kenya, violent crime is not common, most crime is petty, but organised and violent sometimes armed gangs do operate across the country. And although when there is some kind of accident or incident and someone is hurt, people do rush over to help, but emergency service response is poor - especially in rural areas. USA (Florida) The good: Warm weather, mostly safe, nice people, countless activities, beautiful beaches and coasts, beautiful national parks and wilderness. Wild alligators can be a common sight, as are birds of prey. Kennedy Space Center was interesting - I would recommend the bus tour. Also recommend Universal. Everglades, Miami, St Petersburg, Siesta Key Beach - all beautiful. We took a helicopter tour over St Petersburg which was pretty cool. I think that the USA is one of perhaps six countries that would not "feel" as foreign as the rest of the world would when travelling between them (UK, Ireland, USA, Canada, Australia, New Zealand). Although there are many cultural differences, the similarities are there, as is the absence of a language barrier. The USA felt like a "home away from home". We barely even scratched the surface of Florida, let alone the country, and will definitely return. The bad: Although the vastness of America is simply fascinating, it takes a long time to travel between many locations, and there is so much undeveloped land - not all of which is particularly interesting or unique. The endless straight roads everywhere are also less exciting to drive for hundreds or thousands of miles. As a recreational driver, I long for our windy and complicated roads of Europe. So much of America is also flat, and while that can also be beautiful, you have to travel to specific regions to see or drive through more dynamic landacapes. I had to enthusiastically point out every time I saw a hill when driving to most corners of Florida as it was such a rare sight!
  2. We intend to create a will soon. I would think that this would take care of the inheritance issue of who is entitled to what, but would not prevent inheritance taxes. The issue of not being considered "next of kin" could be an issue, such as with a hospital as mentioned. Maybe our hands are being forced. We really wouldn't bother with a ceremony, just the bare minimum required at a registry office. I may have to relent and allow our parents to be witnesses, though... Sigh. "I do hereby solemnly swear to hold on to you forever, even though making this union legally recognised does not prevent splitting, estrangement, emotional detachment, infidelity, or divorce, and our lives will be exactly as they were before this union became legally recognised as a marriage since we cannot possibly entangle our lives any more than they are already, and the only reason we are partaking in this ancient tradition is for the legal and financial benefits."
  3. I only listened to half of London. I hadn't heard the term "drill rap" before. I now am aware of an actual name for another one of the many sub-genres which have gained popularity since the turn of the millennium. Not a fan. Musically and vocally too drony, bland, repetitive, and unevocative. Lyrically lacks poetic depth and complexity, has limited vocabulary, lacking emotional and intellectual depth and meaning. I have no issue with the inclusion of the typical content of the lyrics, but think the delivery and presentation is amatuer at best, the subject matter is too narrow, and overall too simplistic. Basically I have all the same issues with this "hardened" sub-genre as I have with the "softened" commercialised urban music of today. Incidentally, I have the same issues with most pop music of today aswell. Drony, repetitive, bland, and simplistic on too many or all levels. There's only a handful of current underground rap artists who have remained faithful to the apparently outdated fundamentals that I appreciate... That's my subjective opinion anyway. Grime was the first millennial sub-genre to emerge over here. It was novel at first but did not take long to grate against me for the same reasons. There are a few rare examples I appreicate, though: Stormzy - Shut Up Not the most impressive rhyming skills, but lyrically it has a decent flow, a melodic form, and more interesting thoughts. Also, I like this music on this one which is rare. Even better: Dead Players - Yeah Those are the only two grime tracks that penetrate my playlist at the moment.
  4. Do you have some examples? ...... added to this post 59 minutes later: A quick google... http://www.lawsociety.org.uk/for-the-public/common-legal-issues/moving-in-together/ Maybe we should consider making it official. I guess it is a matter of looking at the costs of registering a marriage versus solicitors fees for creating legal agreements and consideration of potential inheritance taxes.
  5. I bore easily without frequent stimulation, so if a job becomes stale, monotonous, repetitive or unchallenging I would get bored.
  6. I've said it many times... My partner has a degree. I do not. I left formal educatiom at 17. However, we both agree fundamentally that I am more knowledgeable and intelligent than her, and have a greater interest in learning than her. I also make more money than her. So much for convention. Both being at college or having degrees may give something to relate over in terms of the "experience" of being a student but nothing else for absolute certain, as others have said above.
  7. Introvert or mild extrovert. Any more extroverted than that would be too draining for me, and I'd probably be too boring for them. I've always been drawn to quieter people from the youngest age, before I'd ever heard the terms introvert or extrovert.
  8. I think only two people have ever questioned the fact that I'm not on facebook. My brother was talking about tagging people in some family photos, one of which I was in, and said that I can't be tagged and linked to my account because I'm not on facebook, so I should be tagged as "boring fuck" or something like that... That brother is a cunt and I don't ever want to and won't be anywhere near him ever again anyway after some events late last year, so that's that. The other was my partner's brother who was the first person to ever ask why I'm not on facebook. Nothing more than that. Maybe my aloof nature speaks for itself. There's no reason to question it? ...... added to this post 8 minutes later: US-specific, but if the figures are reflective of other nations too then I am glad to be part of the ~20%ers.
  9. ^ There is no cure for the stubbornly ignorant... Most of the time. For whatever reason, when it comes to being overweight, some people suddenly and magically gain the infallable knowledge of the very best biologists, nutritionists, and cardiologists; not to mention gaining psychic abilities and can tell you everything you are or aren't doing right or wrong with your diet, exercise, and life, regardless of what you tell them.
  10. Walking a long dark back road through the countryside. Spooky.
  11. You may benefit from coming to appreciate a few things... Firstly, understanding people as unique complex individuals, and not as a rung on some hierarchical ladder. Although they may be going against the grain but there is no shortage of individuals whose attraction is not based primarily on a perception of ranking highly in terms of social status, attractiveness leagues, or success. There are plenty of people who are attracted or interested in people in more nuanced ways, and as a result buck the trends of dating within their perceived social position. Secondly, understanding that many successful and happy relationships are rooted in deeper levels of compatibility. Perceived social positioning is only superficial. Deeper compatibility can come from shared interests, emotional and mental connections, shared values, lifestyles and goals that mesh well with each other, personality traits that mesh well. Many people find such a relationship much more enjoyable, exciting, rewarding and fulfilling than choosing relationship partners based on superficial traits only - and you might too. Lastly, recognising that if someone writes you off for no reason other than the fact that you are "below" them, then they clearly are not very enlightened, and probably have not come to appreciate the points raised in this post thenselves. Moreover, if you were to come to appreciate the points in this post, besides no longer caring much for dating based on social perceptions you might also realise they aren't such a great catch (snobbish and egotistical) and you would prefer someone who has also "seen the light", so to speak. That's my thoughts anyway.
  12. Surely the likelihood of getting into a relationship you are willing to enter is dependent on nothing else but the willingness of the other person? Unless the relationship is not consented. It really doesn't come down to whether you like the other person, or if the other person likes you, but mutual willingness/interest, which would apparently act independently of liking or disliking someone. The OP's premise assumes people you don't like but are interested in will either like or be interested in you or both... Which is going to be a false assumption many times.
  13. I never have and never would try to get into a relationship with someone I "don't like". What's the point? No interest in that, so I don't know how easy or difficult it would be.
  14. Every day at the moment as I am out of work. Walk at least 2 miles a day. At most 10 or so miles. Gym 3-5 times a week. Mostly cycle machines and weight machines. At random times, play tennis or go out cycling. When I am working I'm active anyway, but will still do other exercise on top most days.
  15. Competition and/or validation?