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Everything posted by lor6

  1. What about it? It's a very stressful, low paid, low prestige job.
  2. I understand that being a pilot requires very good visual-spatial skills and men tend to consistently outperform women in this type of tests. Just a theory, I don't know much about piloting.
  3. They are low paid, low prestige jobs. Why would anybody be clamoring to be a receptionist?
  4. It doesn't sound like you like her that much. Just ask her out. If she says yes, you'll see how long you can be around her for. If she says no, no big loss.
  5. I don't care enough to answer OP question, but I have an anecdote and nowhere else to share it: my most recent international flight had an all female crew. At first, when the passengers heard the announcement of who the captain was, they started getting really anxious. By the end though, we arrived 25 minutes ahead of schedule and made a smooth landing. They were won over and applauded after we landed.
  6. Nope, this is the first of her works I'm reading. Will keep that in mind :)
  7. Shirley Jackson - We have always lived in the castle - very relatable so far
  8. It depends on context and delivery. I sense the implication here is that the man used a positive word and therefore it should not be seen as harassment, which is absolutely false. Even 'nice' seeming words can be used to intimidate someone depending on tone and general behavior, especially because it makes it seem as though the person receiving them should be automatically grateful for it. Given the context described here and the culture it belongs to, I do find it likely that is was indeed a form of harassment.
  9. Everyone has the right to dress how they want, but nudity in public is usually banned. This doesn't mean it's some assault on the rights of nudists. Most laws will have exceptions within reason. I am okay with banning instances of egregious messages such as swastikas.
  10. You can't. Just remember that people age, and you cannot in fact spend your life with a woman who has a good body because her body will change. You will have to either keep changing partners as they get too old or die alone. Good luck.
  11. experience, money, freedom
  12. It doesn't follow from a company needing a leader that a relationship needs a leader as well. That's like saying a company needs a business plan therefore relationships also need a business plan: nonsensical. But anyway, there is actually a new business model that proposes a more horizontal rather than hierarchical approach, where any person can provide input into decisions, and no one is the boss. Even in traditional companies, they often have more than one leader - a group of investors, a board of directors, a leader for each department, etc. Relationships work best when both people lead and follow in different aspects depending on their personalities and abilities. I think there are few people who lean very strongly in either leader or follower direction.
  13. When people speak of rogue AIs they are assuming these would have gone 'beyond their programming' whatever that will mean. So they are reaching a state of evolution where they can do things they were not programmed to do. Self interest may simply be projection on the part of humans, but it may also make sense for any being to posses a degree of self interest and preservation instinct, otherwise it would not exist for very long.
  14. Something I never said but you just assume I will say is intellectually dishonest? I think putting words in my mouth is. I'm trying to get you to admit there is a wage gap so I can go 'look, wage gap'. Then we can discuss the reasons, which sexism may or may not be among. Women have always worked. They probably did, but now they have the opportunity. So the stereotype that women choose family over career and men choose career over family is no longer true. Yes, they chose HR because programming was 'too hard' for them, not because they have different priorities and ambitions to men.
  15. I understand what you're saying, but in my observation this stereotype simply does not hold true. I see most of the women my age or younger want a lot of things that include a good job, but also travelling, buying a house, having new experiences, meeting different people, learning new things. The majority make plans that do not rely on having a partner. I think women's horizons today are much more open than career/family. And in order to experience all those interesting things you usually need money, so making good money is a priority for them. I see very few women who make having a family a priority nowadays. That's for later. Maybe. As for the idea that they choose less intensive careers that lets them have a personal life and that's why they make less money - not necessarily true. Working longer hours is not necessarily correlated with making more money. For examples, I see the women who are HR professionals at my work: they are in the office much longer than anyone else, they are part of several non-profit organizations, they go to meetups, organize networking events, hold presentations. They work longer hours than the male programmers but they still make less money because their field is less well paid. Good grief. Happiness is a lot more complex than being determined by a single factor and it's incredibly patronizing for you to make half baked assumptions about what would make other people happy. We can also find statistics that show developed countries have higher rates of depression than less developed countries. By your logic, we should all lower our quality of life to be happier. Can you see how absurd that is?
  16. I don't agree with your disputation of the initial claim and I don't see how it follows that the second claim would be more easily disputed. I'm pretty sure the poor hospital hygiene issue does not refer to hospital janitors. I think difference based on irrelevant factors such as gender should be fixed; I'm fine with differences based on skill. If it turns out that the gender wage gap is not the result of any form of bias, then that's fine. For example, if you happen to have read some of my previous posts in this thread, I stated it is my belief that in my field the gender ratio is due mostly to gender differences.
  17. I was merely responding to the post about what is and isn't a wage gap. This is not a good analogy since no one is proposing we pay men and women the same for different work. However, we could look into why men and women make the work and life choices they do and whether that is fixable or not. A similar solution in the laborer vs skilled worker scenario would not be to increase the salary of the cleaner, but to look into why the cleaner is a cleaner and not a surgeon.
  18. Your post made no sense. And that fact still has nothing to do with empathy for men.
  19. I wish. I think they actually know what others mean very well; they are intentionally misrepresenting a position to make it easier to attack it and discredit the opponent. It's a very common tactic for people on a particular end of the political spectrum (guess which) Example: - 'Street harassment is a problem' - 'So you're saying a man looking at you is stare rape?' - 'No?' - 'QED'
  20. I can confidently state literally no one in the world believe this.
  21. Come on now, this is intellectually dishonest. The wage gap means a difference in income between men and women on average. So either it exists as evidenced by your explanation for it or it doesn't. You can't claim it doesn't exist and justify that by explaining why it exists.
  22. I thought this study sounded very curious since the community it mentions, GitHub, does not have a field on profiles to specify gender. Reading through the study, it seems they used other social media profiles to determine gender and were only able to do it for 35% of the users of the platform. Then, for this 35% they used their pictures and usernames to determine which users appeared female and which male to a reviewer - which I don't consider a very solid methodology. Furthermore, they have no way of knowing if the reviewers even clicked on the user's profiles upon receiving their pull requests. One usually only looks at the code changes in my experience and rarely do you open the user profile to know if someone appears to be male or female. Regardless, pull requests usually have no connection to one another and comparing them renders little useful information; some can be very simple and other more complex As you can see in the study, in the case of the male seeming users their rate of acceptance also dropped by 6% compared to neutral seeming male users. Why? Just because. There were different pull requests and were judged individually - a difference just happened. In the end the acceptance rate for male seeming users and female seeming users was around the same in the study.
  23. No, I'm simply saying gender differences. There is a lot of discussion around where they originate, but no consensus has yet been reached. My own opinion is that some differences are due to nature, some to nurture and some to both. To give an example, one of the relevant gender differences I have observed is that men are much more likely to seek information beyond what is taught to them - and learning to code requires a lot of self study and continuous learning throughout one's work life as technology is updated everyday. There are many self taught male programmers, while female programmers always come from a school. But whether women are more 'obedient' by nature or because they are raised to be that way, or both, is difficult to say.
  24. No, the former. I work for a US company that outsources here. Like I said, there are women - about 30% of employees, but most are not actually developers. Even the people in your article, who are focused on gender equality in their company have the same observation:
  25. I have many observations that are not yet properly and fully processed, but I am leaning towards believing it is mostly due to gender differences related to the nature of the work and the environment. I hesitate to present these out loud because I do not have proof and I may be wrong. I can only say what I have observed is not the cause.