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lor6

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  1. coconut milk - yum, yum
  2. I don't think someone like that is likely to be dumb. Being mindful and inclusive of everyone requires forethought and awareness of surroundings. It may seem like the act just 'comes naturally' to them, but there are a lot of processes running in the background. What you're describing is an ENFP. The female equivalent would be an ExFJ, as the planning component is required to display a caring, always prepared, slightly overbearing persona.
  3. The Wall (2012) - german movie about a woman who suddenly finds herself alone inside an area limited by an invisible wall, completely cut off from all human contact with no explanation. The movie tells the story of her day to day survival from that point on.
  4. Gen 2 'later this week': http://www.pokemon.com/us/pokemon-news/the-pokemon-go-pokedex-is-growing/
  5. Do you purchase used items or do you generally consider it a bad idea? If yes, what kind of items? I usually buy SH clothes - as long as they look ok and I wash them I don't see the problem; I've acquired some more rare used books, some toys and puzzles and recently I even found a SH clothes iron which works very well.
  6. Tuna by far. I've been witnessed eating it out of a can with nothing else.
  7. Menial jobs can also be stressful and exhausting, especially because they are usually far less interesting. I think you would quickly find that the decrease in income will significantly affect your life out of work and you won't be able to enjoy it as much as you think when you realize you don't know if you'll make rent this month or can't afford any of your hobbies. Yes, you will probably have more free time, but lower ability to fill in enjoyably. Just get a government job or something if you want fixed program.
  8. Believing that would be nonsensical in so many ways. If women wanted to 'be like men' in every way, that would mean they see men as being perfect or better than women, 'mannish' being something to aspire to, which would be undoubtedly sexist. This is a ridiculous question attacking a straw man. No one believes there are literally no gender differences. The point is some of them are biological, and some of them really are cultural and learned. The trick is in identifying which is which. And even that is irrelevant in many instances if you simply treat people as individuals. Believing men and women are fundamentally different in every way is just as idiotic as believing all differences are taught by society. So anytime you want to attack your 'opposition' remember you are two sides of the exact same coin.
  9. That depends on the reason that guy has for not paying, which may or may not be based in thinking the habit doesn't make sense. I don't think it would be advisable to cross your arms and say 'so why aren't you paying for me?' but I think two people can have a discussion on a cultural norm and their opinion of it and other similar norms. Also if one of the people in a relationship has a certain issue that is bothering them, I think it's preferable to bring it out in the open, rather than let themselves stew over it. It doesn't have to come across as demanding or entitled, and the person doesn't have to be right. The discussion can end in them realizing they had nothing to worry about and they were on the wrong side of the issue, but it has to be brought up in the first place.
  10. I find this line of thinking very wrong. It's basically saying 'I think X, therefore other people must think X too'. I find it unusual when other people think something which is statistically unlikely for them to think, regardless of my own opinion on that topic. OP can ask the question of his behavior relative to cultural norms, without herself holding the opinion that men must pay or else. It's my observation that most men and women operate within traditional paradigms in dating in various ways, that may or may not include men paying. But OP could just ask the general question as in 'This girl I know was upset her date didn't pay. Isn't that ridiculous of her?' or something like that, only less idiotic sounding.
  11. Wow, I thought you were a woman
  12. From the perspective of someone with a more traditional mindset, no, she is not guilty of the same thing. Our society is equal from a legal standpoint, but socially it's still very traditional.
  13. In person, only if the assumption is correct. If someone looked at me and thought I was a man, I'll confess I would be extremely offended. Online, any assumption is fine.
  14. Yes, but you have no idea if OP's partner is the type of man who thinks like this and his justification for not paying is 'because equality'. IMO, people with this attitude tend to be more vocal about it, so if he did think this, OP would already know. And regardless of gender, it would be polite and make more sense for the person with a higher income to offer to pay at least sometimes.
  15. Haha, some people are socially clueless though, and it's not out of ill intention. This is definitely a cultural norm, and some people today haven't been raised with as much gendered behavior, so he may not see a difference between going out with a girlfriend versus going out with a guy friend. I don't think that overall this one instance of behavior is the most elucidating regarding his character and intentions. He can not do this simply because he disregards tradition, but still be a selfish person who doesn't value her. The fact that OP feels a bit unappreciated is at very least a red flag. And considering that he makes more money than her, gender aside, it should have occurred to him to bear more of the cost. That's possible, but I think that if he were this^ type of person, it would be pretty obvious and OP wouldn't need to ask the question. This^ attitude is fairly rare among both men and women, so it's unlikely to be the case.
  16. That depends on whether he is a traditional man or not. If he is and expects you to act in traditionally feminine ways, then yes, it shows lack of caring. If he isn't very traditional, then it means nothing.
  17. Do this. Then immediately make an appointment with a therapist because you have severe issues to let yourself get in this bad of a situation. You have no business being in a relationship until you find some self respect.
  18. My sister is one of the people who gives a lot of unnecessary information and details when speaking. I wondered how her boyfriend handles it given that they have hours long conversations almost daily. Then I realized he speaks just as much and in the same way. Maybe those details that bore me have some relevance to them.
  19. Do you think they have a correct understanding of the facts and purposely mislead people and ruin their own standing in the scientific community for profit? Because otherwise that's a failing of the scientific education translating poor science into poor pop science.
  20. The criticism I usually see is against the concept itself, and does not name specific examples. Some people consider that any 'dumbing down' of science for the masses is harmful. I don't agree with this definition of pop science that encompasses literally everything vaguely science-y sounding, with the standard set to 0. If we use a too broad definition, obviously it's going to encompass a lot of poor material and that is never going to change as there are no restrictions on what kind of material someone can share in this type of subject. But if a categorization puts a Nobel winner's work output in the same class with that of a random person with an internet connection, then tries to criticize the overall quality of that category by referring to the latter, I would suggest something is amiss with that categorization.
  21. I'm only playing less because it's so cold, but I still want to.
  22. Anyone can pick up a camera or a keyboard and discuss any topic to an audience in this age. I really don't think that suddenly makes them a pop science communicator.
  23. I find I'm more likely to reject others for their beliefs than the other way around, although I've gotten better about it. That still means my opinions are at odds with many people's, but a lot of others don't feel that strongly about certain subjects.