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About Polymath20

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    Fixing ALL the things!
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    Hiking. Climbing. Science.
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  1. Only in those places where women are considered property or second class citizens. Female-dominated cultures tend to polygamous.
  2. The nuclear family home (two parents and children) is a relatively new concept. In the past, homes were multi-generational. Industrialization disrupted this status quo, but consider this: In some parts of Europe, people rarely live more than 10 miles from where they grew up. So blame social mobility for this one. Not only does it take a village, but being a SAHP (stay at home parent) is unhealthy and unnatural. Humans are social creatures. Children do best when they have constant exposure to a variety of people. They learn better communication skills, for instance. It may interest you to learn that children in low-income homes tend to hear about 3 million fewer words during their critical development phase than their more affluent counterparts. This is due largely to said homes being single-parent. Now imagine the difference of a child who is surrounded by aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents even when their parent(s) are at work. Hollywood and other institutions have managed to convince people that jealousy and desire to control the sexuality of your partner is natural, healthy, and acceptable. You can blame the psychotic fixation of the Romans and subsequently the Catholics on controlling sexuality for this. Yes. N-types may be more open to disrupting status quo but I tend to think of the desire/need for monogamy or non-monogamy to be something akin to sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is not encompassed by MBTI I think we're an awesome family. Having three adult incomes in my home certainly helps. We have a modest home and enough disposable income to enjoy life and not really worry about many things. We can afford for my wife to work part time and go to grad school and not take on any additional debt without sacrificing anything. As far as polygamy goes as a "solution", no, not on a large scale. It is a solution for some families, but that is their individual choice.
  3. Thanks for your insight, everything you say seems to line up very well with my experiences with my coworker, so I'm fairly confident of my observation. We're starting to adapt to each other's very different priorities. I just shared with him one of the ideas that I was cooking up (a sandbox lab) that solves a very specific problem - and he did not react negatively to it! Since I'm an ENTP, I'm very comfortable with vastly open-ended projects, ideas, and directions. I'm perfectly fine just guessing, checking, and trying again. You mentioned that you strongly prefer to have a very cut-and-dried delivery of work (my reading on the subject mirrors this). So, for the sake of my coworker, I shouldn't talk about big open-ended business terms and philosophies (he immediately categorizes those as irrelevant ) but instead be as mundane and direct as possible, straight down to the bottom line. I want to implement X to solve Y. When I put things like that, he's very good at poking holes in my ideas and helping to form them into better ideas. I think that we could become a pretty formidable team.
  4. Good point. My reading on the subject, as previously alluded to, has said that Aspie's really don't like small talk or really any irrelevant conversation. It's just so weird to try and recalibrate my approach to these sorts of problems because I have so much practice in manipulating communicating with neurotypical folks. My subconscious just calls a HALT whenever I think of being as blunt and direct as needed.
  5. This is rather interesting. This could very well explain my observation that my coworker gets "bogged down" in irrelevant details So, if you were discussing a project or something with someone and they needed to convey to you that some of the details you're focusing on aren't relevant - how should they approach that?
  6. This has occurred to me. I've made it my mission to single handedly bring us back.
  7. He's incapable of seeing the big picture. He gets bogged down in minutia and forgets the entire reason we have jobs. Pointing it out to him just results in a faint shrug and change of subject. Unfortunately I now work for a much smaller company, so lateral options are limited.
  8. Very astute and concise. What can I do about it?
  9. Yes I've begun pointing it out. But our boss is highly conflict avoidant. ...... added to this post 2 minutes later: When it comes to what our customers need, he's beyond reasoning with. He's completely stuck in the mindset that he knows better than any and all of them. Also, no he's not a decision maker or even a stakeholder. He's just been there long enough to have ingrained his negativity into the department. ...... added to this post 4 minutes later: While I understand what you mean perfectly, explaining business acumen to someone who has demonstrated a habitual and deep inability to comprehend business needs is a highly dubious goal.
  10. That is a good point. I have found that my coworker is highly responsive to empirical observations and measurements. The biggest problem I struggle with him on is his myopic or egocentric beliefs. I doubt these are explicit beliefs, but his behavior demonstrates things such as he believes all of our customers are idiots and are completely incapable of doing anything that we do. He also acts as if the business needs are dictated by what he believes to be best, not what the business is actually asking of us. This has made our department increasingly irrelevant as our customers have gone elsewhere to satisfy their needs. Anything specifically pointing at how to deal with these issues would be ultra helpful.
  11. My coworker has not shared a formal diagnosis, however he does fit the bill perfectly for high function ASD. He's a major stickler for protocol and process, gets bogged down with minutia, is incredibly blunt, is apparently impossible to offend (while himself being very offensive), lacks all social grace. As you can imagine, there are some difficulties in working with this guy. I've been reading up on the subject and it's been incredibly helpful. I understand how he functions better and can work with it, rather than fight it. Have you worked with an Aspie or high functioning ASD? What stories can you share? Any books to recommend?
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    Polymath after the fall.

    1. Polymath20


      why cant i hold all these potato


  13. I can see how that could be a fast paced environment. You must be agile in order to stay competitive, thus you have a business imperative to adapt quickly and hire people that can do the same. My current organization has no such imperatives (and this is doubly true for my team). The shop I'm going to is a production private cloud team, so there is a strong business imperative to stay on top of things.
  14. What industry are you in?
  15. Yeah it's essentially reversed here. I said "got on my level" and they were like "no do it for us".