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  1. Masterful. Because you know you're stupid. It's almost cliche.

  2. Consider the possibility that they're sharing the photos on social media because the venting is cathartic for them. They may not have the desire to discuss their feelings as opposed to simply releasing them onto social media. You see them as "ridiculous," but that's not taking into consideration their perspective. If they were to see it the same as you, do you think they'd bother posting it? There's also the matter of whether you're capable of empathizing with their situation without needing to talk to them directly because as you mentioned, they may not be interested in talking about it with you. With all that said, there's a possibility that it somehow benefits them, even if it's not in a way that makes sense to you. Or, they could be further damaging themselves, isolating from others and curling up into their dark perception. Which leads to the question: why let something like that bother you? If it's out of concern for a friend, then it's not the posts themselves but the fact that the friend is detached and not willing to connect. Someone who is isolating themselves from others and becoming a detriment to themselves. Otherwise, you're creating a problem for yourself out of nothing tangible.
  3. Eagle
  4. Ha, no, sorry, I meant the OP of that particular thread, not the same OP. Just pointing out a pattern that there's a need for people to filter out their social media by mood (happy, depressing, etc.). It's amusing because it demonstrates how much social media can just have the illusion of being connected. Ya know, being bothered by their social media posts instead of actively being engaged with the people who are depressed to understand their side.
  5. No, it doesn't bother me. Then again, I've never come across anything like that on social media. So, I guess I should say, it wouldn't bother me. I mean, why would it? It's their depression, not mine. Honestly, I'd be more concerned than bothered. Between this thread and another thread where the OP was bothered by the "fakeness" of happy couples, there may be a golden opportunity for social media to start introducing tags in posts so people can filter their social media to what suits them. Don't like seeing other people happy or depressed? Filter them out.
  6. What about local politics, then? Why the focus on politics at the national level? Because it's easier to create rationalizations that your involvement doesn't matter?
  7. Definitely not a personality thing. He needs professional help. I wouldn't let him into my life until at least he found it and admits his own shortcomings, actively working on them. Even then, probably not. You can also take this opportunity to ask yourself why you're willing to put up with that behavior in any way, shape, or form. This'll help prevent the pattern from repeating with a different partner.
  8. Yeah, I think I noticed the same thing with SNES games back around 2013 as well. I bought an SNES and N64 with a bunch of games back in 2007 at pretty cheap prices, but they were all stolen. While I was searching in 2013, the prices for the SNES and games weren't reasonable enough, but the N64 and games were. Later on, I just built a RetroPie instead of dealing with buying an SNES again.
  9. Looks as if it has risen in price by a pretty good margin these past few years. I can't remember exactly how much I paid for it on eBay (around 2013), but I really don't think it was any more than $20. I might've grabbed it in a bundle, though. You could check those out to see if it'd be more cost effective instead of buying the single game.
  10. Great point!

  11. Alright, maybe I need to be more specific... He needs to understand that it's okay for him to feel bad when he loses. Otherwise, it'll compound: 1. Loses. 2. Feels bad. 3. Feels bad that he feels bad. 4. Feels bad that he'll never stop feeling bad. 5. Feels that he can't play competitively anymore. 6. Feels bad that he can't play competitively anymore. Instead, what I'm suggesting is something like the following: 1. Loses. 2. Feels bad. 3. Acknowledges that he's feeling bad. 4. Takes some deep breaths to get back into the moment. 5. Acknowledges that the loss is behind him. 6. Laughs it off. 7. Plays again or moves onto another activity. This'll be difficult at first. He'll be frustrated that he's not able to get past it quickly. But that's okay. He has to remind himself that whatever he's feeling or thinking is fine and to avoid further criticizing his thoughts and feelings. He has to be consistently kind to himself in order to see any kind of payoff.
  12. Yeah, that's a good write-up on what can happen while obsessing over self-esteem and losing sight in self-compassion. If you're able to demonstrate kindness and find ways to laugh it off with him, I think it'd help him gain that perspective: that it's just a game and the loss is already in the past; there's no meaningful reason to hold onto it. On the other hand, feeding the negativity with comfort or validation, the cycle continues because it was never let go.
  13. I don't think there is an issue with him feeling really frustrated or mopey after losing as much as there's an issue with him not being able to let go of those feelings. I think there is potential for you to help mitigate this by not letting it affect you. Let him vent or whatever after a loss, and let him see how you're happy simply spending the time with him and playing with him. If you absorb his frustration, he'll sense that and be further irritated. It'll be more difficult for him to be frustrated if you maintain your happiness.
  14. If I were able to read and navigate the legacy code and the legacy code had unit tests, I'd consider refactoring first. Make minor, incremental changes to improve the readability and extensibility of the code without changing the functionality, making sure the test cases pass after each change or addition. The upside of refactoring would be not having to create or modify any of the algorithms. The downside is having to make sense of the entirety of the legacy code. On the other hand, starting from scratch has the benefit of having complete control over the development of the code. It can also be easier testing this way if there aren't any existing unit tests. Navigating complex code can be taxing. You still have the option to import algorithms from the legacy code, modifying the code to be more readable and manageable and building unit tests as you go. You can also use your own algorithms and reference the legacy code to make sure your code produces the same results. So, I wouldn't worry about duplication of work unless you were to completely disregard the legacy code which I wouldn't advise since it's at least proven to be functional. Either way, start small and be sure to have unit tests or at least test the application yourself with each change/addition.
  15. Sexism!!!!