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  1. I have had this a few times as well, but not with math. The most memorable was at a chess tournament played in pairs. I am not a chess player myself and was invited by a friend to be his parter for their yearly tournament. My individual skills were far lower than everyone there. Yet we became 4th and I just knew where to put the chess pieces, without any concious thinking process, to build on his strategy. I never knew how I really did it.
  2. Knowing and trusting your own capabilities by acting accordingly.
  3. There is nothing wrong with teasing. Manipulating and putting insincere thoughts in someone’s head is. Benefits and motivation: when done right, both the teaser and the teased can laugh about it. I respect a good tease, so when someone manages to tease me, it’s probably going to end up with a good laugh and a counter tease sooner or later. Just need to make sure both are on the same page.
  4. I’d say a couple times a week, if they live in the same city. It doesn’t have to be whole days or evenings, but after six months a few dinners per week or meet up's in the evening should be easily doable.
  5. Everyone’s identity crisis is different. So I don’t think there is a right answer to help you solve that problem. I have been to counseling for it, but I decided, that It’s not the right thing for me. My identity crisis happened because I was very much out of touch with my feelings. Which made me feel empty and troublesome with forming opinions about personal things. Deciding what would be the best approach for a project, no problem. Deciding what side I was on, when there was a discussion? that was really hard! The way I dealt with it, was by trying to get more in touch with my feelings and to try to slowdown on analyzing and over thinking every opinion I have. When I can’t really form an opinion about something, I just take it as a ‘this must not be very important to me’ type of a thing and I just let it be. I am not saying it’s the best way to deal with it, but it seems to work for me.
  6. Sort of the same situation, except that I was clueless about it. I was asked to watch a movie with a group of friends, but it ended up with only me showing up. Despite all the hints she gave me when I was there, I found out it was supposed to be a date a few years after.
  7. It could be that your bodylanguage and tone of voice is not in sync with your message. Which like Ender mentions might come across as fake.
  8. It’s not taken the wrong way. It’s something I have actually considered in the past. It can be quite hard to deal with. The most effective way for me is to interrupt the chain of thought as soon as I recognize it. Dwelling in those thoughts can be a bit depressive.
  9. This is something I am working on. In general I am not angry when someone forgets something I have told, unless it was something important. What I more meant with disappointed, was that I used to of it as lack of caring or interest. I am under the impression that you when you say: I have a good memory that it's being emphasized and it might even come across as showing off. Would you consider it being dishonest if someone allowed you to tell the same story or let them show you something you have shown before without mentioning it?
  10. Most new people I have met in the last couple of years have mentioned that I remember a lot more things and details about them and what they have told, than they consider to be normal. I have always considered this behavior as normal and expected that most people function in the same way. I am wondering now if I should lower my expectations of what other people remember in general and that I should maybe be more careful with letting others know, how much I remember about them and what they have told. Is it considered more polite to let someone tell you the same story multiple times and then act like (s)he hadn’t told it before? The reason I am asking is that some people are searching for reasons behind it, that are not there. Examples given: Some people think I am romantically interested into them, this counts for men and women. Some people think I am obsessed about them, which made some feel uncomfortable. And I am always a bit disappointed when people can’t remember things I have already told them. Can anyone relate and how do you deal with it?
  11. It’s not the most important thing in life, but I am quite a fan of having luxury and quality products. I am not a fan of cheap things in general. As long as I can afford it, I don’t see a reason why I shouldn’t.
  12. Usually within 24h I send them a reply. It depends on what it’s about, from who it was and my mood. I am not too fond that with a lot of media it shows when you have been online or that you have read their message.
  13. If they don’t care about being able to receive text messages, then I don’t care either. But they shouldn’t expect everyone to adjust to them. Simply put: it’s not my problem, it’s theirs if they are missing out on things. But like you stated, you are content with that, so I don’t see it as a problem.
  14. It depends on more things than just their type, I am tempted to think that for ENFX types the maturity level plays a big role. Younger ones seem to be a bit love/hate type of relation/friendship with me. Since I think they are fun, but they can come across as a bit attention seeking to me. I have two very good platonic relations with what I am pretty sure of to be an ENFJ and an ENFP, they are 6 and 10 years older than me. And without falling too much in the clichés, they do get me more out of my shell, than my other friends and in a comfortable way. I am not entirely sure about the I vs E, and T vs F. I have a high I and T according to most tests(between 80-100) and yet I have never encountered an I vs E or a T vs F problem. But maybe that’s because I am not in a romantic relation with them.
  15. For me it’s not always about not wanting to, but more about not being able to. It often takes too long for me to put feelings into words, which often leads to me zoning out and thinking about how to put them into words. Then after a few minutes I try to explain them and each time I look back at it, I am not satisfied with the words I picked, because it just doesn’t seem to say how I exactly feel. Maybe when I get better at putting them into words I would do it a bit more often. Since a year I have found the right person to talk about these things. It’s still not easy, but it is nice to get these things of your chest once in a while and I know she always feels a bit special when I tell her these things. Knowing it strengthens that bond, makes it worth it as well.