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  1. Thank you all again. I'm going to confront him about it and say that while his personal life is his own business that I am not comfortable with that going on while I'm trying to sleep downstairs. Therefore, I'm not passing a moral judgement but rather raising a point on how the situation directly affects me. I thought it would be good for him to stay with me and have some time to think and reflect, and I felt better knowing that I wouldn't be alone in the house. Obviously he had other intentions which, had I been aware of, I would not have allowed him to stay. I think my initial reaction was to basically hide and pretend it didn't happen and hope it would go away and if not, then to have other people deal with it for me. I think a part of me is still processing everything that has happened since they separated and I keep thinking that these are things that happen to other people or on TV and I'm not used to dealing with it. After thinking about it today and hearing other people's opinions I am more confident in how I feel and how I need to confront the situation. I wouldn't tell his wife directly about this. That would just make her feel bad, especially since she would hate that he dragged me into this and that may just make everything worse. I would rather talk to one of my aunts who could help me deal with it and let his wife know if he tries to deny it or anything. I'm just not comfortable in taking this on by myself. Our family does feel compassion for him, that's why everyone has remained in close contact and allowed him to stay over when necessary. He is confused because the initial infidelity resulted in him getting the girl pregnant and I guess he feels torn between his family here and his obligation to her. Although going out at night and bringing another girl home probably isn't the best way to work this out. This whole situation is just difficult for me to handle and it's just a shock that he isn't the person I thought he was and I've never had to deal with a situation like this before. So, I'll just do what I can and help him out by letting him stay with me, but only if this doesn't happen again.
  2. Thank you for all the replies and let me clarify a few things. When my grandparents left they made it clear that it was up to me if he could stay. They said if I was uncomfortable about it at all then they would say no, so in the current context I would think that I have the ultimate say in whether he is allowed to stay. This whole situation bothers me because he brought someone that I don't know into the house and kept me up at night without any consideration of how this could affect me. He claims to be confused and not know what he wants but still seeks reconciliation with his family, but last night kind of clarified what he really wants. I'm just hurt because I care about my aunt and she has been patient in trying to work this out and not it seems that he doesn't care at all. I don't think it's the sex that bothered me, although it was unexpected and disruptive, but rather the fact that he was cheating and directly involving me in this mess. I mentioned talking to my other relatives because that's who he has been talking to and trying to work things out with them. I didn't want to be directly involved in this because he was talking with them and I didn't think it was any of my business, and now he is making me get involved. This is the first time I have ever encountered issues of infidelity in my family and it all happened pretty suddenly and I'm still trying to figure out how I feel and now I'm suddenly more involved than I was ready for. I think that is why I wanted to get help from my other relatives, because I feel comfortable talking to them and they could help me deal with this better. So, I think I'll talk to him and explain how uncomfortable it made me feel and that I don't care about what he does in his personal life but just not to do it when I'm here. Then, if it gets worse or if I still have issues then I will call one of my aunts or my mom to try and sort things out better. Oh, and if my grandparents were here there is no way this would have been allowed, and the same for if he were staying at any of my relatives houses, so I feel like he is taking advantage of me too.
  3. Hi, I have a bit of a sensitive issue to bring up, and I thought this forum would be a good place for me to express myself since most of you can consider it calmly and rationally. A little background, I have been living with my grandparents and they have been out of town for a few weeks. My uncle is having marital problems due to infidelity and asked to stay in my grandparent's house too since they were fighting a lot at home. This is fine, since it's a big house and I sleep downstairs and we generally are getting along fine. That is until last night when he brought someone home at around 1:30am and they had sex in the upstairs bedroom. I was really bothered by this to the point where I had an emotional reaction and eventually just got really angry that he would do this and presume that I wouldn't hear. I eventually just put in my headphones and tried to sleep but I was so shocked and mad that I only got a few hours. So, this morning they left before I got up and I'm not sure how to deal with this. My initial reaction would be to pretend like I didn't hear them (if he asks me later today) but that runs the risk of him doing it again. I feel like I should be honest and say that it woke me up and that I didn't want him doing that again at the house. But if he doesn't ask me I don't know if I can bring it up since I'm very non-confrontational and would rather just ignore it. I think that if he does it again that I will call one of my other relatives and have them get together to confront him and deal with this. I'm just upset because he is bringing all this extra stress into my life and was really inconsiderate and I'm just not good at dealing with these things. I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for here, but I just needed to get it out and tell someone about this. (I hope I posted this in the correct forum since it is involving relationship issues)
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  5. Incas You scored 82% for Education, 32% for Religion, 40% for Military Might, and 30% for Decentralization!
  6. INFJ Not bad, since I sometimes get typed as this. I guess my face didn't accurately convey that I'm usually bored with people and not too caring.
  7. I don't really agree with the second one since I'm not very detail orientated. I'd probably be more Researcher as my first choice and creator as second. I am interested in the law, so it is somewhat accurate.
  8. I thought psychologists determined that temperament is pretty much set and determined when we are babies. Which is why mild mannered babies typically are mild adults and expressive or needy babies are like that as adults. You can try and change later, but the inherent personality type is seemingly set. My mom said that I could entertain myself for hours and would typically just sit in the corner and play by myself. I didn't need that social interaction, which is how I am today. Although, I was premature and had to be in a hospital for a month so that delayed interaction and physical contact could have something to do with it, but I think it is more my personality in general (or maybe a combination of both factors).
  9. I actually just gave a lecture on caffeine last week. The initial caffeine reaction (increased alertness, etc) is due to the primary effect of blocking (antagonizing) the adenosine receptors in the brain. This also has the effect of delaying sleep onset. As a consequence of the blocked adenosine receptors, there is increased excitatory (glutamate) neuronal firing. This causes stimulation of dopamine and releases norepinepherine (adrenaline) in the brain. This effect is typically mild, but delayed so it may explain your euphoria (dopamine) and jitters (adrenaline) later. The dopamine release is why at prolonged or high concentrations of caffeine consumption it can become somewhat addicting. As a side note, you wouldn't necessarily feel the effects of an overdose right after consumption and would probably take closer to 30min because the dangerous OD effects are due to the adrenaline release affecting heart rate and blood pressure. However, there is now way that low dosage that you took would result in OD unless there were some sort of drug-drug interaction. Metabolism of drugs is different than metabolism of food. If you have a high food metabolism it means your intestine and stomach break down, store, and utilize the food quickly. A fast drug metabolism is the rate at which your liver enzymes break down the drug into active or inactive metabolites.
  10. This is because symptoms are easier to study and treat. Researchers are trying to understand and develop treatment methods for the cause of diseases, but this takes time and money so companies develop methods to treat symptoms to help people feel somewhat better. From my perspective, the main problem is the lack of research funding. It's extremely difficult to get funding for anything that doesn't directly lead to clinical therapeutics. This may be good for treating some diseases but it prevents researchers from taking risks and exploring novel possibilities that can ultimately lead to better therapies. I think this was mentioned earlier, but as a researcher I know that the only things the doctors can use are what we can develop, and without money this process stops and you are left with crappy drugs. This is a problem with our bodies. Most drugs are designed to act upon specific receptors that have specific effects, such as ones that lower blood pressure. These receptors, however, are present all over the body and have a variety of effects. So when designing a drug, you try to find a way for it to have a higher affinity for receptors in the heart and blood vessels, but it still goes all over the body and has unwanted effects due to the placement of these receptors. Also, any drug at a high enough concentration will start to have off-target effects. I'm not sure what you're referring to here, but I would guess SSRIs vs 5-HTP therapy. These drugs that affect neurotransmitter function (SSRI) are NOT permanent, they just temporarily prevent reuptake so that the serotonin is around longer to have a prolonged effect. The alternative is using 5-hydroxytryptophan, which is a serotonin precursor (and what I'm assuming you mean by "amino acids") which can get to the brain where it is converted into serotonin. Similar drugs (L-DOPA) are used for dopamine for the same purpose. While still a viable option, it doesn't directly address the cause for decreased serotonin production (or destruction of dopamine neurons in PD) it is just another method to treat the symptoms. In fact, this method may be less effective than the SSRIs because the 5-HTP would increase serotonin levels all over and the SSRI would only increase in a region where serotonin is already being released. Again, if this is not what you meant, then let me know because I'm curious about it. As a general note, I agree that prevention and risk reduction are the best method. But until we actually understand causes (and what we can actually control in this process), prevention is little more than a guessing game. Drug development is extremely difficult especially since people react differently to drugs, so until we can design a perfect drug with no side effects then you are left with our best attempts to treat a disease or reduce symptoms. Alternative therapies may work, but that depends a lot on the individual and through processes we don't yet understand. A word of caution, though, is that a lot of "natural" remedies have components related to current drugs (like precursors in plants) but are not regulated by the FDA. So be careful if you take these with "actual" drugs because they may have averse interactions and bad side effects even if they are not actually thought of as "drugs" since you body will still interpret them in the same way. Ex. St. John's wort interacts with many other classes of drugs, even with unrelated functions.
  11. Your Brain Usage Profile: Auditory : 58% Visual : 41% Left : 72% Right : 27% Biostrings, you are mildly left-hemisphere dominant while showing a slight preference for auditory processing. This overall combination seems to indicate a well-working blend of logic and judgment and organization, with sufficient intuition, perception and creativity to balance that dominance. You will at times experience conflict between how you feel and what you think which will generally be resolved in favor of what you think. You will find yourself interested in the practical applications of whatever material you have learned or whatever situation you face and will retain the ability to refine whatever knowledge you possess or aspects of whatever position you are in. By and large, you will orient yourself toward intellectual activities and structure. Though not rigid, you will schedule yourself, plan, and focus on routine and continuity of operations, rather than on changes and disruptions When changes or disruptions occur, you are likely to consider first how to ensure that such disruptions do The same balance is reflected in your sensory preference. You will tend to be reflective and measured in your interaction style. For the most part, you will be considered objective without being cold and goal-oriented while retaining the capacity to listen to others. Preferentially you learn by listening and maintaining significant internal dialogues with yourself. Nevertheless, you have sufficient visualization capabilities to benefit from using graphs, charts, doodles, or even body movement to enhance your comprehension and memory. To the extent that you are even implicitly aware of your hemispheric dominance and sensory style, you will feel most comfortable in those arenas which emphasize verbal skills and logic. Teaching, law, and science are those that stand out among the professions, along with technical sales and management.
  12. I thought of a carrot, now I feel ordinary.
  13. I have dark brown hair, likely from the Italian side of my family. My sister's hair is the same but she once dyed it darker to look more Italian. She's a ESFP.
  14. I love the goofy happiness in this NF Club, but I already feel exhausted after reading through one page so I need to go back to INTJ land for a while. Maybe I'll grab some herbal tea on the way out.
  15. When everyone else is amused at the sound of the 2 year old laughing and talking about how delightful it is, you're quietly contemplating the evolutionary advantages of laughter and which other species express the trait.