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anticlimatic

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  1. I never feel insulted, only underestimated, which provides an advantage that I appreciate. If someone in a relationship with me accuses me of being stupid on any particular subject they're either right, or they're wrong. If right, that's on me, and I wouldn't blame them. If wrong, I can use my words and correct them. I don't think I've ever in my life been accused of being anything less than intelligent in a general rather than case-by-case basis though. And I also don't really GAF about discussing the intelligence level of myself or anyone else. ---------- Post added 06-04-2016 at 12:49 PM ---------- ENFJ knows her shit.
  2. Someone please contribute something new to this exhausted whore of a question. Here, I'll help.. First let's stop taking for granted this universally defined category of human beings known as 'bad boys.' Lets also remember that attraction precedes morality and values. Now consider following rhetorical questions to set the tone and angle of a more accurate way of measuring it: Why do girls happen to fall for guys who have no boobs? Why do girls happen to fall for guys who have copious amounts of facial hair? Why do girls happen to fall for guys who grunt instead of shriek during sex?
  3. 1) INTJs use arrogance to compensate for unrelenting self criticism. 2) INTJs care about being intelligent more than any other type. 3) INTJs put irrational values before logic but seldom realize it. 4) INTJs would do anything for their friends. 5) INTJs are heavily prone to addictive behavior.
  4. Sorry, I'm lost. I thought your points were A) I don't compromise, and B) certain things should be mandatory compromises in relationships (ie, sex). Thanks for the tips and insights, y'all. See you next time.
  5. Could you 'compromise' with someone who always smelled bad? Who never brushed their teeth? If they met the rest of your needs...? Compromise is a game of choosing your battles. I compromise plenty, just not on a few things. So do we all. And no one can dictate to another which battles they should pick. Pretty sure I already stated this somewhere, but I'm posting for input and advice on how to proceed- not reflect. This is supposed to be Te-central, and all my IRL INTJ peers seem to have fallen into the new boyfriend abyss. As for the exchange of bodily fluids, well...we'll all be exchanging them with worms eventually, so whoopty-do.
  6. Could be I'm bad at dating. I don't think I was ever that good at it to begin with, and I certainly haven't improved any after taking a 6+ year hiatus. Mutual chemistry is something I pick up on pretty quick. Sometimes immediately, sometimes after a go or two. YS had some good advice about trying to use kissing to perceive the fundamental type of lover I'm dealing with, and I am going to try that in the future, but there is a sexual dynamic at work in my M.O. that presents a challenge. I'm not a dominant (all about the two-way street), but I typically lead, partly because I prefer it, and partly because it's statistically what my partners usually prefer as well. And when you're the one taking the initiative it's hard to tell in the immediate sense how they are going to perform when they tap into their own initiative later. I've had lovers who were not very good kissers initially turn out to be jungle cats with the rest of their bodies during coitus.
  7. Thanks, but...
  8. I admire his relationship with millennials.
  9. Women love credit but hate responsibility.
  10. The real fantasy is thinking you can't die tomorrow.
  11. I like to think I engage the world with humility, but I can be honest about my strengths if need be. I can't lay with a woman without her falling madly in love with me and wanting to lock my dick in a box for her personal pleasure forever. I very easily become fetishized and objectified after the act, and it's had a pretty negative impact on my relationships over the years. I'm not looking to brag, I just want to help anyone interested in giving me advice narrow their focus. Many people made the (good) point that if I wasn't contributing enough to the experience that it could be the reason why I might consider it not up to par. I just wanted to dispel that angle as impertinent to my situation. The last girl I dated had 4 orgasms during our first sexual encounter and later confided that she had never even been brought to a single orgasm by any man prior. But perhaps she thought my ego small, and wanted to pad it? Does that seem like a likely scenario to you? I can connect with anyone on a mental and emotional level, but where I struggle is in the physical, so that's where I prioritize. It's like trying to find someone worthy to play chess with when everyone you play you crush and they worship you for it and keep coming back for more. I am more satisfied with life than most, but I did inherit a bit of depression from time to time. I believe in soul mates, but I find the true nature of the 'soul mate' concept to be alarmingly melancholic, so I try to keep it simple, and just reach for good old fashioned love (just as long as it comes with high performance post modern fucking).
  12. In the looks department, I'm between a 4 and 5. In the sexual performance department, I'm easily an 11. The only part of my problem that's on me is the eccentric level of my standards.
  13. My ex was shades of it. All of my exes that were good lovers were also shades of it. The best lover I've had was specifically that, but a decent chunk of it is all I require. People either have it, or they don't. I can pick up on which quick, but so far only after the deed.
  14. Lots of a good tips and food for thought in the direction of soul searching. I feel like I waited until I got over my ex, and was therefore ready for another relationship, but perhaps not. I feel like in the past I would have settled for something mediocre, but I've since learned from that mistake. I'm going to aim for a combination of crafting better vetting techniques and developing a thicker Fe skin for the pain of others, and still hopefully expedite the whole process with as minimal emotional fallout as possible. I can empathize with polyamory on an emotional level, but physically I really prefer one partner at a time. I think it's the Ti/Si in me. I like to apply creativity within rules; same materials, infinite possibilities and replay value. I think that falls under what I distinguish from 'good' sex as 'talented' sex. Talented sex has a more objective appeal, and for a lot of folks it's synonymous with good sex. Talented sex to me is like porn sex. I'm not into porn, and that does nothing for me. Good sex is more relative and subjective. Regardless of talent, I believe the right two people can enjoy good sex. Might just be basic physical chemistry I'm referring to. Let me try to put into words what subjectively good sex is to me, and maybe someone can come up with a way to perceive it prior to the act. I need a partner who touches me correctly; like any part of my body is as good as the other, in a possessive, curious, all encompassing, empathetic, and thoughtful fashion. I need a partner with a large volume of energy- most of which is typically redirected to hold themselves back, like a tightly wound spring. From this restraint, motions are more fluid and controlled-- only ever slowed, never at rest, from head to toe. If this rings any bells with anyone, what early signs can I look for that indicate it?