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About Bisclavret

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    Type 9w1
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    Generous Idealist


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    I am Lobo.
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    Student; writer; work in progress.
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    “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” (Spoken by Gandalf - J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring.)
  1. Aye, there is a holistic aspect to this in terms of my thought patterns and behaviour as of late. That being said, it's not absolute. I remember that even when I was passionate in the other areas of life, this is an area I never had the will or stamina for. I mean none. I would have gladly taken the desired outcome, but the process seemed far too laborious, costly and inefficient. It always seemed quasi pointless to me (i.e. the chase/hunt), because at least in the other areas the outcome mostly depended on me and me alone. Here, there's very little steering ability in making that desired come to pass, since it's contingent upon a separate will. This is even more true if you don't have the energy and patience to slog through a whole lot of BS to even stand a chance at getting to the other side. Chances are you're jaded beyond recognition when/if you get there. I really wasn't interested in making myself more jaded than I already am, seeing as that would have been the likely outcome. ...... added to this post 20 minutes later: Right. I think if we had a system where people could feel confident in the outcome, the effort would adjust itself accordingly. Who knows, people like us might even look forward to engaging more. I know for certain that if I knew, without a doubt, that my efforts would translate into the desirable outcome, and that the process itself was actually both attractive and pleasant (i.e. "fun"), I'd certainly wouldn't hesitate to throw myself in there. But as it stands, I'm finding little reason to do so.
  2. Precisely. A couple of other posters reiterated this point as well. That's where I stand on the issue. I just don't seem to have the gas in the tank (the confidence, will and stamina) to undergo such a massive effort and breaching of my comfort zone, for such little guarantee of a desirable outcome. If the opportunity fell into my lap, then I certainly would consider it. That has been my hope all along, though I know that it's unlikely, nor is it for me to decide. But to bend over backwards and make myself miserable in partaking in a vain chase that I obviously have little desire to embark on in the first place? Hardly. I don't think that it's necessarily because most us aren't meant for romantic relationships, it's just that we're not built for all the preliminary bullshit that one has to proceed through before being presented with an opportunity to be in a (decent) one in the first place. It seems ridiculous.
  3. Aside from the usual hair pulling, I think the main thing to take away from this is the fact that love does not equal romance. Love is something that exists independently of romance, as it does not depend upon romance in any way in order to exist. That being said, romance and love may coexist as times, such as within the framework of a romantic relationship. Still, it is important not to confuse the two, as many commonly mistake romance for love and find themselves extremely disappointed when they find out that there was little to no love to begin with. The argument now is whether romantic relationships are even a good choice to experience love, or whether it may best be experienced Platonically.
  4. Singlehood can be chosen, but sometimes life simply chooses it for you. It can be a bit of both. I myself am a rather reserved and independent sort, who prefers a simple existence. I prefer to do my own thing, as I see fit -- with the least possible amount of unnecessary drama and headaches. I've never actively tried to be in a relationship, but neither have I actively tried to avoid being in one either. For better or worse, it just so happens that things have played out this way and that I've remained single. I think that being a male has made this far more likely. As a man, if you don't pursue you're single. That's the default state. Seeing that I will never likely pursue, I will probably remain single indefinitely, with the oft chance of being approached by a woman. Now I'm not at all against the idea of having a partner. In fact, I sometimes muse about what it could be like, and there's even a part of me that wishes to meet a compatible woman in my lifetime. But I've made no concerted effort to force that reality into existence -- since I believe that such things simply cannot be forced into actuality, that is, if they are meant to work out. So I suppose that singlehood chose me more than the other way around. Who I am, the way that I am, is conducive to singlehood in this society by default.
  5. There are different sources as well as levels of boredom. Is life boring? It can be. Is boredom natural? Sometimes it is, sometimes it's less so. It depends. Speaking for myself, I realize the difference between momentary moments of a superficial kind of ennui -- which are sometimes precursors to moments of great creativity -- and a more complex variety. The former I understand to be perfectly in sync with the nature of human existence. Then there are more insidious kinds, that bleed away motivation. These cannot readily be substituted through activity or additional hobbies. It's not a boredom of the material world, but of the soul. A deep "soul" level of boredom that I've experienced does not pertain to the absence of options for distraction, but a lack of fulfillment through desired action(s) and achievable ends. A sort of jaded idealism has fed that, where the desired end is identified but no realistic path to reach that point has yet been identified. When the soul cannot have what it needs, it may lose interest in the rest. That is why, in some instances, no new hobby (e.g. like learning a language or playing a new game) will suffice. It only strives to mask the truth, but it cannot hide it.
  6. You're referring to the original GITS movie. Yes, I'm quite familiar with that one. I think part of Motoko's metaphysical and existential crisis is due in part to the fact that this choice was made for her, not by her. If I remember correctly, she lost her original body at a young age, meaning that never really had the chance to form a solid identity of herself prior to that major transformation. This leads her to question who and what she is, and to doubt whether she is, in fact, a human being after all. Similarly, in the game series I quoted, similar themes pop up. Dysphoria could certainly be a result of feeling "trapped" in the wrong body. Realistically though, cyborgs like Motoko are infinitely more free than we are, as they can literally change body/form at will. We are the ones who are trapped, because we don't have that option (i.e. to opt for a cybernetic body over the one we were born with). Tbh, I feel kind of trapped right now, since neither did I choose to have this body. From where I stand, I'd see something akin to a cybernetic body as freeing. Why would you be worried to lose a part of yourself? What would having a cybernetic body have anything to do with that?
  7. Thought this was hilariously well done! Just thought I'd share. :) https://youtu.be/KU_Jdts5rL0 Q: Will he make the galaxy great again?
  8. Avengers: Atm, Cap'n America and Thor tick me off the most. They are likely xSFJ and ESFx respectively. Iron Man is so ENTP it hurts. X-Men: Professor X is likely INFJ. Magneto is xNTJ. Beast as INTP is quite probable. I think we're very much alike, in many ways.
  9. It's hard, I know. Some people might not understand. I myself still struggle. Just take it one step at a time. But don't make yourself uncomfortable just for the sake of it. Try to find a happy medium where you can at once be comfortable and have the benefit of interacting with people. Honestly, don't expect anything out of it except for the interaction potential and your own personal enjoyment. If something else happens, that won't initially be up to you.
  10. I get where you are coming from, OP. I'm older than you are, but in a similar situation. You basically want to "assess" beforehand whether or not certain individuals are worth investing into, or whether there is chemistry, which you hope to determine by engaging them in non small talk conversation. The thing is, strangers rarely open themselves up to anything other than small talk. It's even more difficult when neither party is willing to jump into the pool first, in order to get things going. Being an introverted man hurts, because it takes more energy and the social norms are always working against you. And add a woman of interest into the mix and the whole thing becomes incredibly awkward if not increasingly uncomfortable. I still haven't found the solution. Honestly, I'm not sure what to say, except for the fact that you're not alone -- i.e. I don't approach random people unless I have a specific reason to talk to them in the first place. Others have brought up a fair point with regards to social activities. If you like outdoor social activities -- and not a complete hermit, like yours truly -- you should give it a go and see who you meet. Most of the time, you won't meet any singles that are interested, but you never know.
  11. The art will always be a reflection of the artist in some shape, way, or form.
  12. Fascinating question! (P.S. I just so happen be playing Deus Ex, as of late. :) ) Answer: Assuming there were no long term ill effects or dependencies, I'd do it in a heartbeat. Justification A: My body is not who/what I am; consciousness is what I understand myself to be. Justification B: This body is plagued by many annoying issues/limitations. It simply doesn't work exactly the way I'd want it to. Choice(s): I'd choose to be male (again). I'd take an upgradable and highly versatile model, able to do many different things (as need be). It should be inconspicuous, but far more durable and resilient than a body made of flesh. I don't want to be held back or limited in any way, but I don't need anything superfluous either. As far as ethnicity, I'd model something after my current applicable age and appearance (to minimize the risk of negative psychological issues). Eventually, I'd experiment with different models and aesthetics, best suited for various settings/purposes. I might have some fun with it at that point, though I wouldn't bog myself down with excess. Once I got something that works well for me, I'd likely stick with it in the long haul.
  13. Whoever wrote that is very idealistic. I mean, I'm idealistic, but I see many flaws in that plan. In spite of that, I can stand behind the sentiment, though I don't believe that human immortality -- namely that of a single individual -- would be enough to alter the course for the whole. Realistically, such a person would likely become quite jaded and miserable in time, watching humanity repeat the same mistakes over and over again. I assume that they would become recluses and even attempt to "undo" their immortality at some point. Life is hard enough as a mortal; the mind couldn't withstand centuries of that abuse, even when considering the benefits. My opinion is that humanity, on a whole, is an adolescent species. We're children. We're still learning, still making plenty of the same mistakes, but there are hints of a global identity coming to the forefront. It appears that we are still very far away from becoming a true global community however. I believe that for humanity to progress to the next level, this will have to occur. If not, we will simply stagnate until we cease to exist (or wait to befall the fate of the dinosaurs). Now I don't know if humanity will achieve this monumental task, in the lifetime of the species, as there are many barriers to overcome (including those that we've created for ourselves). If it's not possible, a faint hope remains in the form of a successive species (e.g. sentient A.I.) that will continue the relay from where we exchanged the baton. It may be that our role in this story is not to disperse among the stars, though in a way, maybe we still can, albeit indirectly. But I agree with the fact that the way things stand -- our collective shortsightedness, bickering, and the lack of a common vision for humanity -- we will have inadvertently decided how our story ends.
  14. @ENFPEACE You brought up some interesting points that I hadn't considered in a while. In a sense, it's true that all relationships are temporary, and it's the experience and memory that needs to be cherished at the end of it all. @True Rune But, there is indeed a breadth versus depth element to this equation. For some, it's not the quantity of great moments and connections that count, it's the stability provided by ongoing relationships, over the span of many years. Those kind of relationship elicit a sense of place, of belonging, of family. They are the roots that bind the tree to the soil. If we didn't have this kind of connection with people, over the years, we would be unable to acquire that depth of stability. I've been watching this happen now, over the last decade. Even the close bonds are not exempt from the "drift," namely for what concerns matters such as the progression through life stages (e.g. marriage). I barely see my close pseudo sibling anymore, ever since he partnered up and progressed to a new stage in his life. Recently, he got married. I assume that children will be forthcoming, which will likely mean even sparser contact in the future. Considering how common it is, it's not surprise that it happens so often, and yet it doesn't make it easy for anyone. I think that, deep down, we have this idyllic vision of what can be considered "lifetime fellowships" (I am taking my inspiration from The LOTR here). If only we could live our entire lives at the sides of the people that we hold most dear, keeping them in close proximity while giving them the freedom to do as they wish. It's almost paradoxical and it certainly remains a quasi-dream, since not many manage to maintain those kind of bonds in reality. But it's entirely understandable why we'd wish it to be so. There were even times when I thought about giving up on making new friendships, knowing all too well that they would end. And it's not just the fact that all things end, it's the fact that they end too quickly (for the time that we invested to make them happen in the first place).
  15. I think you meant "brain." That is what I was referring to in my previous post. If the brain is the conduit, it still wouldn't mean that it does not fashion the mind in some way. Taking that Dualist approach, differences in thinking may have just as much to do with the hardware (brain), as the source (consciousness). But changes in the hardware wouldn't change the source, merely it's expression. Outwardly, this would likely all look the same.