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About kari

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  1. it depends on which dictionary you're referencing. what about this one? it's not the only example either, but the fact that different dictionaries give slightly different definitions means that there's some room for discussion there
  2. the benefits you claim to reap seem to have to do with general relaxation. I have my routines that I like to engage in that help relax me that are completely independent of religion, I am atheist by the way. taking a bath, savoring a cup of coffee, laying in bed for inordinate amounts of time, etc. it's appreciating the small moments that really helps to reduce anxiety and for all its flaws that's not something that religions necessarily preclude. I've never felt a need to "be a part of something bigger" or whatever so I don't do anything on that front. that's not to say it's wrong if you do need that, but I think having a group of similarly minded friends, like joining an atheist community would help with what you're saying. the only thing I do remotely like that is listen to the atheist experience podcasts. being reminded that such people are out there and hearing my own thoughts so eloquently expressed is a good feeling.
  3. I'm not advocating not giving praise to your children, I just wonder if "I think you're amazing" or "you've grown into an amazing young woman" or etc might be more apt than "I'm proud of you". I think all the above statements could be used interchangeably based on the way "proud" is used today, but I just enjoy being a pedant.
  4. Something that's been on my mind lately is the idea that perhaps it's impossible to truly be proud of another person. You're only proud of yourself and the things that reflect well on you. After more thought I realized my initial thought wasn't exactly true, you can be proud of others, but only for purely selfish reasons. The biggest issue I have with it is parents telling their kids that they're proud of them. I always hated when my parents told me this but never quite put my finger on it. But perhaps it's because I felt my achievements were my own and done for my sake, not for however they might make my parents look to have a successful or talented or whatever fill-in-the-blank child. I hear parents telling their kids this on their birthdays for no apparent reason and it baffles me. The parent is saying it to build the kids self esteem but isn't it odd that we do this by essentially telling someone "your self esteem and worth is based on how much you please me and make me look good"? I don't think that's the intention of most people that say it but rather due to a lack of really thinking about the meaning behind their words. If they had then "proud" wouldn't have been the word of choice. What do you think, is it possible to be proud of someone else for truly selfless reasons or am I just a crazy person? (not that the two are necessarily mutually exclusive...)
  5. Addiction is usually only the correct term if it's something that is negatively impacting your life in some way. Does your coffee consumption interfere with your relationships, job, finances, happiness, etc? I'm guessing not and for most people the effects it has are only positive ones. Personally I almost always have one cup a day. I really enjoy the taste and it's a relaxing morning habit for someone whose never been a morning person. If I'm out of coffee or somewhere where it's unavailable to me it doesn't ruin my day, but I do get a little sad that I don't get to have it. No headaches though.
  6. when i first started dating my current bf my ex and i talked a bit more, even hung out occasionally. his past two girlfriends cheated on him, one left him for the ex she was friendly with during their relationship that he had expressed hesitation over. while it was clear that me being friendly with my ex was uncomfortable to him, he always phrased it as being his problem because of his past experiences. that he had no reason not to trust me, and his intuition wasnt telling him something was off, as it had with his ex and who she ended up leaving him for. basically it can go both ways. people can be friendly with exes and it can be completely platonic and people can be friendly with exes that leads to them cheating on you or leaving you. its up to you to decide if you trust your partner and if you have any issues with their relationship specifically. for example just the occasional text because something relating to some inside joke they had just happened makes sense, while repeated late night phone calls may seem a little fishy. you cant control what she does either way, but if you decide you dont trust her then your relationship has bigger issues than her relationship with her ex and you probably shouldnt be dating her.
  7. ohdayumn karibot

  8. Nah, lol. He's not the best-looking chick.

  9. That's what the consensus was here too, although the reverse can't be said of my boyfriend clearly >.>

  10. You actually make a pretty good looking dude as well.

  11. Awww I'd forgotten about that. Now you've gone and made me want it. Did you get it in shake form? You can feel it clogging your arteries with each sip but you don't even care.

  12. You were totally right about the Sesquicentennial Swirl.

  13. Awesome! Lol.

  14. But how is that different from any other day?