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About Anemoi

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  1. I would welcome this kind of thing right now and even outside of work/school. It's incredibly difficult to make friends as an adult (more in STEM grad school, which is quite ostracizing).
  2. Money Friends Freedom
  3. I haven't read all the replies to see if anyone has mentioned this: if he doesn't want to be touched a lot but still has sex with you, it may mean that physical touch just isn't his preferred love language. He may feel that the good sex you do have is already enough, and probably isn't aware that you'd like more physical affection. Just let him know that you feel extra loved when he is affectionate with you (or that you feel unloved when he isn't). Focus on what you feel and not on what he's lacking. Also, don't expect him to be intuitive or mind-reading with this. Give him some time to adjust and make sure you are verbally clear and appreciative when he gets things right.
  4. I advise against using pick up lines with most INTJs. Just be honest and say something you really want to say. Give an honest compliment.
  5. But they look so good Nissan just released this one in Brazil And the new Jeep Compass looks nice and compact (as opposed to the Grand Cherokee). Why? I've come to appreciate feeling safer in a car, as in more physically protected. Maybe it's just an idea or who knows.
  6. Also, I look very young. I only started changing when I was 26 or so.
  7. 29. People ask me if I'm a freshman in college (currently a 3rd year PhD). If I shave, I look like a 20-year-old (or less).
  8. There are subtle but important differences between caring and caretaking and it took me far too long to learn about it. Fixers and caretakers tend to give because they derive their sense of self-worth from what they can give the other person. They usually operate on the covert contract that if they fix their partner, they will love them back. But it always backfires. On the other hand, when they care and not care-take, they give from a place of abundance. They give what the other person needs, not what they feel they must give them. And attraction comes not from giving or receiving but from vulnerability, authenticity, and polarity.
  9. Drop all PUA stuff- and just be vulnerable, honest and non-needy. That's all (not that I'm good at it, but I know it, lol). I would strongly advise against coworker romance, though. It's too risky.. (and there are many women out there).
  10. I never understood holding hands on the street. What for? The way I see it is that there can be physical intimacy in private without worrying about crossing any line. It's just easier. When people go to the street they're usually doing something: going somewhere, walking, running errands, meeting friends at a party, etc. There are so many things happening that I don't see the point of PDAs. In my case, I don't do it or expect it. In fact, I would be embarrassed.
  11. Complications due to technology. Too many choices and too many overwhelming devices - in other words, superficiality. Also, men have become increasingly confused about their role in society: they don't know if chivalry is desired or dead, and it's more difficult to create polarity when the female and male 'energies' (to give it a cheesy name) are now all mixed up.
  12. Basically 3 P's: protect, procreate, and provide. At least that has been the 'backbone' over many years. But of course, now there are may debates, questions, options, etc.
  13. I think I wrote on this thread before but here is an update. As an INTJ I often like to think that intellectual conversation is important when it comes to picking a partner, but now I'm not so sure. I'm doing a Ph.D. and I'm surrounded by a bunch of smart scientists and honestly, it's not that super thrilling in terms of SO material. It's not like a super smart girl turns me on just because she's smart. This is not to say intellectual compatibility isn't important, it's just not as important as I think. To me, it's more a matter of passion and disposition. I spend a lot of time reading and writing and would like my SO to share those activities with me, it doesn't matter if she's in for the next super award or anything. If they are sensible to things around them, read books, enjoy going to the bookstore and reading the newspaper, then that's about it. It's the activity and the personality, not the intensity of the intellectual character what grabs my attention. There is an older woman in our neighborhood who loves to read books and knows historical facts and is experienced in high school education. At the same time, you have the super-driven type-A overachievers who never miss a deadline for a new grant and whose research made it to NatGeo blah blah... I'm more interested in the first kind of person: just know your thing, enjoy it, be skeptical, have an informed opinion, etc.
  14. I got your book. :awesome: Now I can bask in the Glory of Rome and disdain all the Plebs forever! :awesome: 

    1. Anemoi


      Very nice! Enjoy. Keep the plebs at bay. 


  15. I don't necessarily need to have the deepest intellectual conversation with a mate. I really just like it when she has a mature, old soul vibe, and is excited about ideas, books, culture, etc. Mutual respect is important too. So I'd say that some sort of "scholarly compatibility" is what I look for in lieu of just intellectual conversation. Sometimes such a conversation means nothing at all.