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  1. When it comes to the rich, I don't agree with court rulings that the rich individual has to pay Mega Thousands to Sole Custodial Parent. I'm talking $30,000-$50,000 a month. I don't care if I'm worth $500,000,000+ millions of dollars. No child and/or Sole Custodial parent needs $50,000 a month to survive. The Sole Custody parent needs to get a JOB and maybe $5000 a month is a reasonable amount to support a working mother or dad. Just because I'm rich (I'm not) doesn't mean you sit on your ass and go shopping and collect my $30,000-$50,000 checks. Petty...I know.
  2. @king con @razgrim Ah yes we have an ADP system I'll look more into that thank you! @Paul Siraisi @HankMorgan thank you for the suggestions also!
  3. So as of now, Managers in our organization will submit a word document that is setup with sections for particular accesses, installations, etc. for the New Hire. This is method is fine but it seems to have been the only method for quite some time. Is there a smoother online web solution that anyone knows of that can be a more streamlined and organized? I considered Microsoft Sway but that's more for presentations. I need something where I can upload a template, they fill it out....I login...I see what they've put? Any other Office 365 services that I've overlooked?
  4. Because of my profile pic? oook lol. It's from a music video called Papi Pacifhy by FKA-Twigs. I like disturbing things....
  5. How old is he if you know? and may I ask your age? Do the other guys around you pick up on this? Sorry to answer your questions with questions but he's gay? - How can I help this guy learn social cues? Before answering this, is his actions embarrassing you? - How do I encourage him to engage more with the group? I suggest getting the group the engage more with him as well if they are aware of his actions towards you. If they are not, don't involve them since it will be awkward. How do they react to him? - What are some phrases I could say to him? What do you mean? Something to kind of keep him in order? - What are some behaviors/actions I can direct towards him? Since you can't really ignore him maybe showing a sign of indifference? Be Brief?
  6. Perhaps common to any new relationship but once the friendship starts to develop Introverted types still view it as work or something to maintain, while other types that are more outgoing feel once the friendship is formed they can kind of sit back on Autopilot? If I'm making sense? For me, its one of the reasons why I have 0 friends but a handful of acquaintances; I just don't bother. I prefer for friendships to happen naturally so I don't have to feel like we have to contribute to each other or else its pointless. Seems like most people scan the field and just see who they click with on a whim but will value it later if it works. It's funny though because for someone like myself who's friendless, I can come across someone who may share similar interest but I won't make an attempt to be their friend. I've actually never initiated friendship with anyone as the friends I DID have all approached me and invited me in. Nowadays, I just feel inconvenienced. Loyalty and betrayal are my concerns.
  7. @EchoFlame i thought feeling alive would equate to having a purpose? I was torn between the two but WonderingWolf put it nicely. I guess I would have to say Well Being. Like Wolf, when I have some sort of structure in the main areas of my life I can put my mind in other places and really shine. But because I feel a slight imbalance in my life right now I'm left with defining my purpose.
  8. @TheTank What does that feel like? To ACTUALLY want to get to know someone assuming you mean for a potential date, "See if we hit it off" vibe? Is this because you WANT to or is it based off instinct? As far as gyms go I'm like you. I'm fine with them until they start to get too crowded and it seems like people are watching you. I prefer to workout at home if I can....or catch the gym early in the morning.
  9. I'm more so selfishly thinking of the inconvenience it will be for me to have to fly out their and attend the funeral. But I love them dearly...
  10. I honestly don't know how this started but its not the first time its happen. What happens is my eyes will gravitate towards a particular direction that makes me feel at ease in public settings. At work, If someone happens to be stationed in that direction I'm not necessarily looking at them but through them. HOWEVER, as this continues I realize they are looking at me now, and now through my office travels I almost can NOT STOP looking at them and it becomes a awkward each time. I begin to get extremely annoyed by that persons presence and will have an irrational attitude towards them by rolling my eyes, extreme indifference like they they just killed my dog. And this shit always happens with other males!! I bet their like "the hell is wrong with this guy keeps looking my way? Is he gay or something" LOL!! What I THINK might be the issue is I'm admittedly somehow curious about them. This is usually the case with other guys who I don't really communicate with. I don't know if I'm just trying to figure them out or I'm just creepy. This never happens with females...
  11. You are seriously like...my personal Oracle or Sage.
  12. I love another and thus I hate myself.
  13. I was watching a show (Insecure) and two characters who are seeing each other opened up about their past sexual experiences. The female revealed FIRST that she use to make out with other girls during her college years. The guy thinks nothing of it and eventually tells her that he did a little experimenting himself with another guy who gave him oral but but didn't like it. She was shocked, appalled, disgusted, and question his sexuality and eventually ended their potential relationship because she wants her "man to be a MAN"... As I know this is a real belief of many it leaves me to ask WHY is it okay for woman to explore themselves sexually and not really be called derogatory names, labeled, and the earth continues to spin?? Why can they be "Sexually Fluid" but with men its Black or White: Either you're gay or straight? If a mans masculinity is questioned for his dip and dab on the same team for whatever reason then a woman's femininity ought to be questioned too, no? ^ and men aren't?? This annoys me and I find it immature. So in cliche movie scenes where two sexy woman are making out and winks and gestures for the guy watching them to join which eventually leads to a threesome...is this the fantasy they see? Because I don't think that's a realistic outcome in most situations and those scenes only seem to stroke the ego's of some men who think they can pull to woman at the same time. http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/09/26/why_the_sexual_fluidity_trope_is_sexism_in_disguise.html http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/12/when-will-men-be-ok-exploring-same-sex-hookups.html
  14. @gunnerstahl Emotional connection seems worth it or just being with someone who truly understands you. @ischulte Its true, I'm not trying and I don't know. But even if I wanted to try I always have a feeling I'll be betrayed and I consider myself to be pretty loyal so that would sullen if I was betrayed in any kind of way. When I look at other people that have all these relationship issues I just don't think its worth it. And yes I know I know nothing will be perfect and "Everyone goes through something" but ughh! I just feel that most of the issues I see can easily be avoided. I guess I'm just avoiding them by being alone. @ENFPEACE I suppose? I might can think of one or two occasions where that might had been the case. I think its more so people just being nosy and trying to figure me out because I don't match up to their expectations than considering me for a partner. @Bisclavret That makes me think about my mother saying "Everyone want's companionship" and when I told her "Not everyone" she fired back with "Yes they do! Anyone who doesn't want companionship you're a weirdo and need to be seek help" or something similar to that. Me saying "Not Everyone" was my to get her to ask me my how I felt about it all but I closed off with her strong opinion on the matter. @Cockney Red No. Thank you to @Beesnthebreeze, @Avenicci, and @NSchet for your awesome posts. Yes, I understand the on surface reasons (marriage, sex, compainionship, family etc) But as @beesnthebreeze said it seems like there's this unauthentic approach people have and they don't acknowledge it and I just find it interesting. But I'm also am not letting companionship happen so I'll try to make myself available to others and will just have to embrace the bullshit that follows.
  15. No, you're not being a dick. You're right, I like people to answer my questions even though I MIGHT know the answer or am not completely clueless. @Hurricane It could be sexual confusion and over thinking.