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Iota Null

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About Iota Null

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  • MBTI
    iNTJ

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  • Location
    UK
  • Occupation
    Student (sort of)
  • Interests
    Reading, writing, tabletop RPGs, Netrunner, MTG, fencing, swimming
  • Gender
    Male
  • Personal Text
    I have a Second Amendment right to Moonblast.
  1. Yeah, both my exes were like this -- in both cases I knew the relationship was doomed within a couple of weeks because of some massive red flag (one accused my best friend of probably wanting to kill me, the other lied about me really insultingly on Twitter), but I persisted for reasons that were stupid in retrospect. I like to think I've learned from those experiences, but as much as I hate to admit it, it'll probably happen again. I don't feel like I really have enough room to be picky both about who I find attractive and who meets standards of basic decency, and I'm not nearly as comfortable with being single as I'd like to be.
  2. When I say weird, I don't mean it in the sense of unusual or statistically likely -- I mean it in the sense that they tend to struggle to make sense of it. People who don't subscribe to that cultural norm tend, in my experience, not to think "well, I don't personally subscribe to this but I can see why other people do". They tend to think "there isn't a good reason to do it, so I don't". In this sense, I don't find it weird when people say anything I agree with -- because obviously I can make sense of it on some level, or I wouldn't have that view in the first place. This doesn't necessarily imply requiring other people to agree -- you can have sympathy for cultural differences, or you can just want to make peace with people. But on a personal level, I think most guys who don't routinely pay for the privilege of dating women would be offended if someone they were dating told them that it was expected of them. I can easily see how someone would think to question it without themselves necessarily having that expectation, but I can't see an easy way to bring it up without a lot of people reasonably interpreting it that way, especially if you're asking because it's something that you feel affected by personally. If someone asked me anything about that, I would assume they expected me to pay on dates unless they explicitly clarified otherwise, and even then I might still be suspicious. ...... added to this post 3 minutes later: I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, I agree in principle, and I think anything different is easily abusable to force obligations on people. On the other hand, if one person is continually buying gifts (especially for holidays) and the other person clearly appreciates the gifts but is not reciprocating, I think it's understandable to be upset.
  3. I think she means MO as in the abbreviation for modus operandi. --- I think everyone on the forum knows where I stand on this subject so I won't go into it too much, but I will say this: people who don't subscribe to the expectation that men pay for stuff usually find it weird that other people do. From my perspective, it's one of those things that doesn't make any sense unless you just don't question it. I would feel incredibly weird if someone put me on the spot about this. The last person I dated flat-out told me that I was required to buy her a birthday gift, and in retrospect, I pretty much mentally ended the relationship there and then. It's one of those weird things where some people have that expectation, some don't, and both sides consider it impolite to ask. I'd say his thoughtfulness is normal -- I wouldn't know how to immediately respond either, even as someone who has a very strong opinion about this. But I also think it wouldn't be that weird for him to be annoyed that you asked.
  4. Absolutely not acceptable. If someone did this without a VERY good reason, I'd dump them on the spot. It's not materially different to doing something to me without my consent IMO.
  5. I know a lot of people around my age (24) who don't like being paid for because they feel indebted to the person and they have a lot of experience with people trying to call in the return favour in some form later. I think it's especially common for people to try to guilt women like that, so I think it comes down to the level of tolerance for (or enjoyment of) people using favours as a dominance display. Personally, even though I do often get older people to pay for things for me in normal social situations, it's something I have a hard time processing as "a nice thing to do in itself" unless I already trust the person.
  6. I resized the image, two choices. 

  7. 5D, but 6D was a close second.
  8. Or a Romney landslide in 2012 based on unskewed polling. Where's Dean Chambers when you need him?

    I miss the days when these were the most absurd predictions going around here.

  9. Damn you're awesome.

  10. You missed the m in the img tag. Just a friendly heads up. :)

  11. Fairness is a necessary foundation of essentially any system of ethics. Without it, you can't really make a claim to any rule or social system with a stronger basis than "might makes right" -- the only way you can ensure that a rule doesn't exclusively benefit the whims of those in power is to implement a system where any rule has to be universally applicable. It is, basically, the assertion that you have to justify a claim to special treatment or status, and it's an essential component of persuading any two entities to cooperate without using force. If you do away with it, and you're not in a position of absolute power, nobody has any incentive to take your preferences into the slightest consideration. We as a species have found ethics to be a useful concept for mutual advancement, making fairness in turn a meaningful concept. It's also intuitive enough that most children can correctly identify cases where it's present or absent, even if that understanding is much harder to articulate comprehensively. The idea that something has to be "an objective quality of the universe" to be meaningful or useful has so many obvious counterexamples (such as most concepts) that demonstrating it is barely worth the effort.
  12. Well done. I grant you three internet points.

  13. They're not ignorant. the tests and paperwork in the banking business is standardized, federally required, and comprehensive.