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  1. Detailed molecular level performance review.
  2. Wouldn't that be a compliment?
  3. Get the babies to vote and kill two birds with one stone! (Seriously, thanks for putting this together.)
  4. Clan infighting can be brutal.
  5. I thought INTJs were proactive.
  6. Tell that to the government. Also, I was hunting up a link to add to my post. Here's one.
  7. Unfortunately, probably another ghost city.
  8. I mean specifically. I wasn't asking you for scorpiomover's discourse on method.
  9. I'm not seeing how you reached this conclusion from anything the study showed.
  10. I've thought a lot about this and about how much media globalization played a role. I grew up during the liberalization of the Indian economy and being what I would consider upper middle class in Indian terms (rather different from the US). Almost overnight, we went from one brand of everything and limited, government-run TV to a glut of options. I think there was a tendency to a pan-Asian narrative of economic growth at the time, and a lot of talk about becoming like the Southeast Asian tigers (later replaced with "becoming like China"). I think there was a more realistic conception of what that looked like. But the US and a few other Western advanced capitalist countries were the highest in immigration aspirations. Looking back I think this focus on the US was also partly a response to the collapse of the Soviet Union, with which India had been somewhat ideologically sympathetic as part of a Third World Non-Aligned movement of countries looking to take carefully planned and somewhat redistributive approaches to "development". (At least in formal policy and state rhetoric -- but that's a long tangent.) The big thing I can point to is the glut of media that came in, and how mainstream it was. I knew little about even fairly well known subcultures here (it was a surprise to be called "goth" when I got to the US because I hadn't heard of it) but saw a lot of music videos and TV shows like 90210 and Friends -- shows that depicted a whitewashed, suburban, middle class view of the US. (We also got MASH, which I loved, but I think that was a bit of an anomaly.) At the same time there was rap music but that filtered in to us with little awareness of the contexts in which it arose, and more of a focus on conspicuous consumption that an emerging global "middle class" shaking off parental expectations in a rapid transition at the time found very palatable. There was also the physical experience of being here and experiencing a kind of excess I hadn't seen before. Some of it was infrastructural: so much clean open space, footpaths/pavements on the roads, hot running water, uninterrupted electricity, drinkable water in the showers and faucets (which still bothers me). A lot of it was the level of consumption and waste. Thinking I had brought a lot with me to college in my two suitcases and then seeing how much stuff other students were packing into their rooms. Going to buy laundry detergent and being overwhelmed by the options. Working my first shift in the college dining hall and being ordered to throw away a nearly full pan of lasagna. All of that gave me the sense that this was a country with wealth on an alien scale. That job was also eye opening in that it was where I noticed there were proportionately a lot more people of color in the lower ranking permanent positions, with white managers. I think it was through friendships with other financial aid students in that dining hall job at an elite college that I started to see that some of them found all this excessive too. I visited friends' homes and noticed the differences and these whittled away at my first perceptions. Slowly realized that US media that was exported abroad in the 90s, compared to Indian film and TV industries, was very selective and simply didn't depict or glamorize working class lives very much. And then that some of my friends grew up with power shutoffs, water supply problems, a shared sense of excess at the college we went to, and experiences of a lack of safety. There were Americans who needed to share or borrow textbooks too. In retrospect it sounds incredibly naive not to have known this, but no knowledge had of that kind of reality had filtered through to me and I had thought that these problems were specific to poorer countries. In India there's a lot more visible class and caste segregation so social spaces are more homogeneous. Here they can be more heterogeneous in ways that disguise those differences. I think when I started to learn about this more in policy terms was when I ran out of money during a break after miscalculating when my next paycheque would arrive. I found out that there was no food pantry or soup kitchen in my area when I had thought that the US had all kinds of welfare systems to distribute food. When I looked into it more, I found a lot of convergences with policy issues at home. It's hard to say, because I think it was a slow education. But the experiences of working class friends here seemed very different from those of working class friends from a couple of northern European countries, or my working class extended family in Canada. The biggest difference seemed to be the extent of public infrastructural support and resources, and the system of debt that hits working class Americans very early on in their lives.
  11. Ah. Yeah, in that case I wouldn't. It's also really not cool that she didn't let you know where you stood after getting a message like that. Bad INTP.
  12. In that case, can I make a suggestion? It's definitely possible that she's not interested, but one thing that struck me was that if you didn't bring up rescheduling, she may have thought you weren't that interested. At this point what would you lose by being as up front as possible? I wouldn't push for something specific, but just send her a short message saying something like, "Hey, I'm not sure if we got our wires crossed. I don't want to bother you so if you'd prefer not to reschedule our date, that's cool and I'll back off. Just wanted to let you know that I'm definitely interested. :)" I feel like my wording is a bit awful there. But basically, something to let her know that you still like her, but reassure her that you won't react badly if she isn't interested.
  13. Big fan of oil and vinegar with a bit of red chilli flake. Also of rubbing a cut clove of garlic around the bowl before you mix the salad in it.
  14. The back breaking system through which the US puts its low wage workers was a shock to me when I came here. Completely defied my experiences of and beliefs about First World countries.
  15. "Next."