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About Arex

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  1. Due to my work schedule, it’s difficult for me to meet people, so I have decided to try online dating. One of the options that I have been looking into is a new, free app called “Let’s Date.” For those who haven’t heard of it, the process goes like this: You make a Dating Card, which contains your pigeonholes (Artsy, Homebody, Animal Lover, etc.), basic information (height, occupation, religion, etc.), and a photo. As you browse other people’s Dating Cards, you can either choose “Let’s Date” or “No, Thanks.” When you select “No, Thanks,” you have the option of ‘crossing out’ the person’s characteristics that you don’t like, and based on that, the app will attempt to find better matches. You don’t find out who wants/doesn’t want to date you unless you and another person choose to “date” each other. When that happens, the app suggests a public place for the two of you to meet in person, and you decide where it goes from there. One upside to this app is that in order to sign up, you are required to have a Facebook profile and at least 50 friends, which is intended to prevent Catfish situations. Your Card isn’t shared with Facebook (unless you want it to be). The downside is that the app is still very new, so you may not be able to find matches close to you just yet. I was just curious to see if other people have tried or would try something like this, and what your thoughts are. As an extreme introvert, it seems like a lot of pressure to just go ahead and meet up in person rather than spend some time talking to the match online beforehand. But it seems like a very interesting, simple way to 'meet' people.
  2. I'd say that's pretty stalkerish. I would be startled if that happened to me. I've had a similar situation in the past and found that completely ignoring him (blocking his cell phone number and on social networking sites) worked. He eventually stopped attempting to contact me. I would start by telling this guy to stop contacting you and blocking him on LinkedIn, if necessary. If you do that and still find him coming around your residence, I would consider contacting the police. As Jade333 said, you can't be too paranoid about your safety.
  3. 1. Where is your cell phone? There. 2. Your significant other? Here. 3. Your hair? Blondish. 4. Your mother? Caring. 5. Your father? Healthy. 6. Your favorite thing? Kindle. 7. Your dream last night? Forgotten. 8. Your favorite drink? Pepsi. 9. Your dream/goal? Elusive. 10. Your fear? Future. 11. Where do you want to be in 6 years? Alive. 12. Where were you last night? Home. 13. Your Favorite Ice Cream Flavor? Mint chocolate chip. 14. What you're not? Personable. 15. Muffins? Yep. 16. One of your wish list items? Books. 17. Where you grew up? South. 18. The last thing you did? Drink. 19. What are you wearing? Jammies. 20. Your TV? Old. 21. Your pet(s)? None. 22. Your computer? Mac. 23. Your life? Unremarkable. 24. Your mood? Meh. 25. Missing someone? Grandfather. 26. Your car? Dirty. 27. Favorite thing to wear? ...Jammies. 28. Favorite Store? Online. 29. Your summer? Boring. 30. Your favorite color? Blue. 31. When is the last time you laughed? Tonight. 32. Last time you cried? Today.
  4. Firstborn, oldest of three.
  5. Your Total: 13 Between 12 and 15 is average. Celebrities often score closer to 18. Narcissists score over 20. Authority: 5.00 Self-Sufficiency: 3.00 Superiority: 1.00 Exhibitionism: 0.00 Exploitativeness: 3.00 Vanity: 1.00 Entitlement: 0.00
  6. True. You may be able to pretend to enjoy the cuddling, but only for a short time. My boyfriend requires lots of cuddling and physical affection, and I don't require much at all. He often has to tell me to cuddle with him, which I do, but only until I get restless after a few minutes. I agree with Hefelgar. It sounds to me like he's just becoming more comfortable with you. Showing affection verbally isn't as scary as showing it physically (at least for me), so maybe he just needed some time to open up. And maybe now that he's more comfortable showing you physical affection, he doesn't think being verbally affectionate is necessary.
  7. I'm typically the person others turn to for advice or to simply get my opinion on something because they know I'll be honest and straightforward. I'm also often asked for help with writing and/or editing papers.
  8. Unfortunately, I think public school systems are more successful at perpetuating these myths than pop culture. I don't think people would be so quick to buy into the flat-earth myth being debunked only 500 years ago if they were hearing it for the first time from an alien movie starring Will Smith. Instead, this one line from a movie only confirms what people are taught in their American history classes year after year, therefore they just continue to accept it without a thought. The irony in Tommy Lee Jones's little speech here is that his concept is right - and he's the perfect example of it. (We all "know" that people believed the flat-earth myth until Columbus disproved it 500 years ago).
  9. I do the same thing. I set four alarms at 15-minute intervals, that way I'm still getting rest but awake enough to know I'll need to drag myself out of bed soon. Do you and your roommate actually share a room, or just an apartment? Because if she doesn't share a room with you, I don't see why she'd be bothered. If she does share the room with you, I'm afraid she will just have to get over it. I don't see a compromise, considering you're not going to change your sleeping/waking-up habits (and shouldn't have to, really).
  10. Nope, and this was the main thing I hated about working in customer service. Everyone expects you to be a doormat, and they'll continue to treat you that way as long as you let them. In my past experience as a cashier and in my current job in public safety, I have not allowed others (including customers/civilians, co-workers, and supervisors) to walk all over me. The customer is not always right, and it's possible to be professional and stand up for yourself at the same time.
  11. I can't imagine that someone would behave this way because of a minor disagreement. I typically have a lot of self-control in a confrontation, but spitting in someone's face is about as low as you can get. I don't think I'd be able to stop myself from socking him in the nose.
  12. Both. Yes. Normally, I fantasize about people I know. If it's not my SO, then it's someone I know through work or school, sometimes it's people I've met but barely interacted with. I've only fantasized about fictional people I created a few times. Mostly just...turned on. Although, if it's someone I know and see on a regular basis, occasionally I get embarrassed if I start thinking about it in their presence. Pretty realistic. The scenarios I dream up are ones that could potentially occur. More on feelings/experience, I guess.
  13. I haven't met anyone whose handwriting looks like mine. I write kind of small and very neatly, and it often gets mistaken for type. It's the only thing I get lots of compliments on. I think handwriting can reflect some personality traits, and it can definitely reflect someone's current state of mind. But I get a little skeptical when I read things like, the way someone writes an 'I' in cursive indicates how good of a relationship they have with their mother, and weird shit like that. I do think it would be interesting to see other people's handwriting samples and see if there are any similarities among samples of certain personality types.
  14. Everything I could possibly need: wallet (which contains credit and debit cards, cash, driver's license, etc.), keys, cell phone, journal, Kindle, tablet, pens, iPod, earphones, inhaler, ibuprofen, Altoids, hairbrush, tissues, water bottle, crackers, everything.
  15. He's the narrator of the novel American Psycho. I highly recommend it. Or you could watch the film, which is also great.