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Maedhi

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About Maedhi

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  • MBTI
    INTJ
  • Astrology Sign
    Taurus
  • Brain Dominance
    Right

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  • Location
    Chennai
  • Gender
    Male

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  1. No role models, but since you mentioned Dawkins I can say that Robert A Heinlein is someone whose writing resonated a lot with me when I was a teenager. I used to wonder why my father couldn't speak to me the way Heinlein did.
  2. I've been called an asshole several times, and many other terms like jerk, arrogant, and taskmaster. But I consider myself meek. I'm a speak-when-spoken-to type, for the most part, and have trouble initiating conversations or any type of social interaction. I go through life just as I do on this forum - I lurk.
  3. I never forget to wish my friends for their birthdays. I am famous for that. Only one of my friends is the same way, and she is a very strong J.
  4. It depends on context. Sometimes people go on fishing expeditions to identify my caste/community which I dislike, especially when it happens in a job interviews. At other times it based on curiosity or just a way to break the ice, which I don't mind. People are curious about my name because it combines two religions and the way it is spelt is typical of people from a different part of the country.
  5. * Should enjoy my company (should actually like me, and not just find me useful) * I should be able to be myself with them * They should be reliable I don't have degrees of friendship. There are friends, and then there are acquaintances, colleagues, schoolmates, etc. I have only 4 friends, and none of them are in the same country as me. Only one is in the same continent.
  6. The mother-in-law/daughter-in-law battle is very common in India and I've seen (or rather heard of) it often both in real life and on the screen. When you live in a society where women are highly dependant on men for power and authority and becoming a widow could result in destitution, it isn't hard to see why mothers-in-law (and even sisters-in-law) try to maintain their standing by controlling the daughter-in-law or even eliminating her. The behaviour goes hand in hand with guilt tripping the male into taking their side, and the mother alienating her children from their father and his family. Seeing the male's new mate as a threat isn't limited to women, though. Whenever a man is being exploited by others, they are resentful of the woman in his life as she is very likely to step in and take out the trash. Fathers, brothers, friends, colleagues, bosses - I've seen all of them trying to manipulate men against their partners. It may be less obvious as men can disparage all women and this can be mistaken for general sexism, or even spun positively as being traditional masculinity or part of the bros-before-hos code. Women have to be more specific with their target.
  7. Photography, particularly photography using open source tools.
  8. I have very few friends and I don't just assume friendship, we declare it explicitly so I know that it is reciprocal. But I also know that there are several people who think of me as a friend, or have even classified me as 'dearest friend' but I think of them only as an acquaintance. Reciprocity is very important to me, and it has to be shown in actions. I don't expect big gestures but the friendship has to be a two-way street. E.g., I know an ENFP for about 10 years now. We have long, involved conversations when she pings me. When I ping her I'll be lucky to get a reply two weeks later, and that is only if she wants to talk about something. She calls me her best friend and was taken aback when I told her she was just an acquaintance to me.
  9. I would appreciate the gesture, but not the gifts. Mostly true for me. That said, I would enjoy a gift like this. But if it were me, just saying thanks will do. I don't need the big gesture - or a return gift.
  10. And English is one of them. Kissing has been fairly common in Indian movies for a few years now. If she really believes this she must have led a very sheltered life. I do know some Indians like this, but narrow/close minded people can be found in any culture. There are also many Indians who are nothing like this. Western movies, music, food, fashion, books are all widely consumed in India. I don't think you can attribute all these to cultural differences. She is just an individual with her own set of inhibitions.
  11. I'm in the same boat: watched the movie, haven't read the book. I loved it, even the credits at the end gave you something to think about. Everyone I know who has seen it stopped long before the end because they were bored.
  12. He got you a surprise birthday gift after knowing you only a few days? He likes you. What have you done to show him that you like him?
  13. Among the women I know, the one with the biggest breasts is also the biggest prude (and also very religious). So no, I don't associate big breasted women with sexual aggression.
  14. Dalit children being used as human sacrifice hasn't caused a change of ways, so I doubt if this will make much of a difference. Have dowry, will remarry.
  15. Do they see you being pursued by other men?