ENFP huntress after me?

**Smacknrat** · 10-15-2008, 07:55 PM

....

Wow.

Just.

Wow. ENFPs are resourceful. They'll use every social skill to break you. I think she managed to get me to divulge my schedule for the next two weeks to someone else and then used that information to gauge my interest level.

I also think she was using my former roommate and neighbor.... and her current roommates.

On the other hand, I told everyone around her about a party I was having when she decided to play the hard-to-get game ("Why didn't you call me?")

**Josephine1012** · 10-15-2008, 07:56 PM

Hey, what runs is always hunted.... just saying

**Smacknrat** · 10-15-2008, 08:00 PM

Heh.. Yeah. I took the plunge and started calling daily..... Which to me is excessive, but she seems to be playing a little less rough now.

**Josephine1012** · 10-15-2008, 08:03 PM

	Originally Posted by Smacknrat To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Heh.. Yeah. I took the plunge and started calling daily..... Which to me is excessive, but she seems to be playing a little less rough now.

Excessive calling, that's a start...

But seriously, us ENFPs are drawn to mystery, if we don't get you we're a lot more likely to try harder.

**Smacknrat** · 10-15-2008, 08:17 PM

The ironic thing is that she obviously (in hindsight) started the attempt at the party I held. Further, the person that got my (verbal) schedule was to one of the people I invited that I figured would put some social pressure on her.

I guess she played me at my own game. As the day before, she seemed hurt (I can't stay mad at you ENFPs...) and I had to spill that it was orchestrated to get her to show up. It was the biggest smile I've seen on anyone. Then she treated me to my own patented walk-away-when-someone-stares-at-you-admiringly.

I was trying to be a good host (and socializing wears me out so I got quiet) so didn't get to spend a lot of time with her... so again.. hurt..... So... Hard... Feelings... Don't get them.

**Josephine1012** · 10-15-2008, 08:23 PM

Those hard feelings can be one of two things: insecurity or attempt at manipulation. By the way how do you know she is ENFP? We don't usually get hard feelings very easily -- we're pretty easy going breed.

**Luthor Rex** · 10-15-2008, 08:26 PM

	Originally Posted by Josephine1012 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Hey, what runs is always hunted.... just saying

So keep running, because if she catches you she'll get bored.

**Josephine1012** · 10-15-2008, 08:27 PM

	Originally Posted by Luthor Rex To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	So keep running, because if she catches you she'll get bored.

That's an overstatement, it's only true 95% of the time.

**Smacknrat** · 10-16-2008, 08:59 AM

Re: Running

This is what started the entire ordeal 6 months ago.

I'm actually incredibly interested in hearing why the ENFP matches the INTJ. Obviously, I know why I'm attracted to them. But all the MBTI descriptions make it seem like the INTJ selects the ENFP rather than the other way around. Even though it's clear that an ENFP starts/pushes the relationship. An INTJ seems to maintain it though.

Thoughts?

**Chisos** · 10-16-2008, 09:29 AM

Dear Smacknrat,

You will have much fun with the ENFP. Go for it, dude.

Based on my experience with ENFP's (which is limited to being married to one for 21+ years--and of course, her unique personal characteristics), you may want to keep your perspective on how important it is to you for someone to be punctual, responsible with money, and generally do what they say they are going to do.

The ENFP, for me, was like me being let out of the birdcage, and learning how to fly. Fantastic with people--never meets a stranger, sees the upside on just about everything, giving, thoughtful, spontaneous. And optomistic.

But, as with any type, there are dark sides--and those dark sides (at least the ones that I've observed) can make an INTJ's life a living chaotic Hades.)

Have fun, keep everything in perspective.

**universalis** · 10-16-2008, 10:23 AM

Dont get me started on ENFP stalkers. You ignoring them makes them try harder.

**Josephine1012** · 10-16-2008, 10:28 AM

	Originally Posted by mattosphere To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Dont get me started on ENFP stalkers. You ignoring them makes them try harder.

But he likes her!!!!

**True Rune** · 10-16-2008, 10:59 AM

This is funny. All sorts of mental imagery just from the title. Good luck.

**Luthor Rex** · 10-16-2008, 04:51 PM

	Originally Posted by Smacknrat To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm actually incredibly interested in hearing why the ENFP matches the INTJ. Obviously, I know why I'm attracted to them. But all the MBTI descriptions make it seem like the INTJ selects the ENFP rather than the other way around. Even though it's clear that an ENFP starts/pushes the relationship. An INTJ seems to maintain it though. Thoughts?

It's because the ENFP's cannot resist the power of the Dark Side!

If you are going to get involved with her, be sure to make her your love slave and not the other way around. How much self-control do you have when it comes to sex?

**SShack** · 10-16-2008, 04:54 PM

Jeez, you guys complain about not being able to figure out dating and so us ENXPs decide to take that kind of worry of your hands and you complain about that too.

(I used somewhat similar tactics to try to feel out the interest by my INTJ guy)

**cullenisacreep** · 10-16-2008, 04:58 PM

Enjoy the flirting. ENFPs are impossible people, but fun if you don't piss them off. One of my close friends is an ENFP and she tends to be unbiased and reasonable about most things. If I do the slightest thing wrong, she gives me the silent treatment... not that that's always a bad thing.
ENFPs get annoyed with subtle people after a while, just so you know.

**dragonsscout** · 10-16-2008, 05:38 PM

	Originally Posted by Ishida To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	This is funny. All sorts of mental imagery just from the title. Good luck.

That's exactly what I thought!
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**Ezion** · 10-16-2008, 05:46 PM

	Originally Posted by Ishida To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	This is funny. All sorts of mental imagery just from the title. Good luck.

I agree. While I can't add anything valuable for the OP, I have to say I've been following the thread because of the funny title.

10-15-2008, 07:55 PM	#1
Smacknrat Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 611	.... Wow. Just. Wow. ENFPs are resourceful. They'll use every social skill to break you. I think she managed to get me to divulge my schedule for the next two weeks to someone else and then used that information to gauge my interest level. I also think she was using my former roommate and neighbor.... and her current roommates. On the other hand, I told everyone around her about a party I was having when she decided to play the hard-to-get game ("Why didn't you call me?")
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10-15-2008, 07:56 PM	#2
Josephine1012 Veteran Member [78%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 3,144	Hey, what runs is always hunted.... just saying
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10-15-2008, 08:00 PM	#3
Smacknrat Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 611	Heh.. Yeah. I took the plunge and started calling daily..... Which to me is excessive, but she seems to be playing a little less rough now.
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10-15-2008, 08:17 PM	#5
Smacknrat Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 611	The ironic thing is that she obviously (in hindsight) started the attempt at the party I held. Further, the person that got my (verbal) schedule was to one of the people I invited that I figured would put some social pressure on her. I guess she played me at my own game. As the day before, she seemed hurt (I can't stay mad at you ENFPs...) and I had to spill that it was orchestrated to get her to show up. It was the biggest smile I've seen on anyone. Then she treated me to my own patented walk-away-when-someone-stares-at-you-admiringly. I was trying to be a good host (and socializing wears me out so I got quiet) so didn't get to spend a lot of time with her... so again.. hurt..... So... Hard... Feelings... Don't get them.
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10-15-2008, 08:23 PM	#6
Josephine1012 Veteran Member [78%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 3,144	Those hard feelings can be one of two things: insecurity or attempt at manipulation. By the way how do you know she is ENFP? We don't usually get hard feelings very easily -- we're pretty easy going breed.
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10-16-2008, 08:59 AM	#9
Smacknrat Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 611	Re: Running This is what started the entire ordeal 6 months ago. I'm actually incredibly interested in hearing why the ENFP matches the INTJ. Obviously, I know why I'm attracted to them. But all the MBTI descriptions make it seem like the INTJ selects the ENFP rather than the other way around. Even though it's clear that an ENFP starts/pushes the relationship. An INTJ seems to maintain it though. Thoughts?
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10-16-2008, 09:29 AM	#10
Chisos Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 194	Dear Smacknrat, You will have much fun with the ENFP. Go for it, dude. Based on my experience with ENFP's (which is limited to being married to one for 21+ years--and of course, her unique personal characteristics), you may want to keep your perspective on how important it is to you for someone to be punctual, responsible with money, and generally do what they say they are going to do. The ENFP, for me, was like me being let out of the birdcage, and learning how to fly. Fantastic with people--never meets a stranger, sees the upside on just about everything, giving, thoughtful, spontaneous. And optomistic. But, as with any type, there are dark sides--and those dark sides (at least the ones that I've observed) can make an INTJ's life a living chaotic Hades.) Have fun, keep everything in perspective.
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10-16-2008, 10:23 AM	#11
universalis Banned MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 468	Dont get me started on ENFP stalkers. You ignoring them makes them try harder.
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10-16-2008, 10:59 AM	#13
True Rune Core Member [200%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 8,033	This is funny. All sorts of mental imagery just from the title. Good luck.
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10-16-2008, 04:54 PM	#15
SShack Core Member [111%] MBTI: ENTP Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 4,444	Jeez, you guys complain about not being able to figure out dating and so us ENXPs decide to take that kind of worry of your hands and you complain about that too. (I used somewhat similar tactics to try to feel out the interest by my INTJ guy)
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10-16-2008, 04:58 PM	#16
cullenisacreep New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 74	Enjoy the flirting. ENFPs are impossible people, but fun if you don't piss them off. One of my close friends is an ENFP and she tends to be unbiased and reasonable about most things. If I do the slightest thing wrong, she gives me the silent treatment... not that that's always a bad thing. ENFPs get annoyed with subtle people after a while, just so you know.
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