Female ENFP wondering if opposites do in fact attract

**HeterodoxRobot** · 11-16-2007, 09:47 PM

... and here to also provide this forum, and its constituents with, what perhaps may be, diametrically opposed perspectives on things.

Let the intellectual intercourse begin....

**INTJgal** · 11-16-2007, 09:53 PM

ENFP + INTJ = crazy talks (at least in my RL experience) and best buds

**niffer** · 11-16-2007, 10:02 PM

Yes! It's time to tag-team these kiddies.

**HeterodoxRobot** · 11-16-2007, 10:07 PM

	Originally Posted by INTJgal
	ENFP + INTJ = crazy talks (at least in my RL experience) and best buds

	Originally Posted by niffer
	Yes! It's time to tag-team these kiddies.

Yay!!!!! Friendly females, what a change!!!!!!

**Tarrick** · 11-16-2007, 10:52 PM

ENFPs.../shiver
Well, if they aren't TOO F or TOO E maybe. Maybe....

Anyways, welcome to the forum. Mind the traps.

**mind_wander** · 11-17-2007, 07:48 AM

Lol, Did someone posted on E-harmony something about INTJ's, "Hey, anyone who is an ENFP who wants to hook-up come here at some other forum there are plenty of INTJ's." Sorry, never encountered ENFP's..Scared Hiding behind Tarrick, What is an ENFP?

**rwyatt365** · 11-17-2007, 08:08 AM

	Originally Posted by HeterodoxRobot
	... and here to also provide this forum, and its constituents with, what perhaps may be, diametrically opposed perspectives on things. Let the intellectual intercourse begin....

...that's only allowed between consenting adults, and with proper protection.

	Originally Posted by Tarrick
	ENFPs.../shiver Well, if they aren't TOO F or TOO E maybe. Maybe....

ditto

**INTJgal** · 11-17-2007, 08:27 AM

	Originally Posted by mind_wander
	Lol, Did someone posted on E-harmony something about INTJ's, "Hey, anyone who is an ENFP who wants to hook-up come here at some other forum there are plenty of INTJ's." Sorry, never encountered ENFP's..Scared Hiding behind Tarrick, What is an ENFP?

ENFPs live in the "N" world like us; they can totally click no problem with INTJs.

They are extraverted (pull us out of our inner world so we can relate), feeling-driven NFs, and Perceiver-dominant (which means they are amazing with on-the-fly ideas, dropping any and all things to join you on a spontaneous adventure, etc.)

They will create some of your favorite conversations if you talk to them for just a few minutes. They will also drive you nuts how they can't stay on topic unless it's a very serious conversation, but it will only seduce you to their charms even more.

**Solaris** · 11-17-2007, 11:23 AM

Sure opposites attract, but you are missing the important question: Are they successful in the long-term. The answer to that is No.

I'm an ENTJ, I was with an ISFP for a long time. Interesting for some of it? Yes. Productive? Not exactly. Successful: Note I said "was with."

The lesson I learned: Never, ever again. Never. Male Fs need not apply.

**travler2001** · 11-17-2007, 11:41 AM

Oh, an ENFP.

You guys are so hyper and goofy. I've always gotten along with ENFP's, just nothing ever gets done.

**INTJgal** · 11-17-2007, 11:46 AM

i want a male NF!!

**Solaris** · 11-17-2007, 11:48 AM

	Originally Posted by INTJgal
	i want a male NF!!

You can have them. I suppose an ENFJ might possibly be ok. An INFJ is pushing it, unless it's a very weak F. SF's can just forget it.

**melon** · 11-17-2007, 01:41 PM

David Keirsey (in his book Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence) writes that, for mating at least, SPs and SJs get along best, and NTs and NFs get along best. Keirsey recommends finding a mate that has a completely opposite personality than you do, with the exception of S/N. For example, an ESTP would get along best with an ISFJ, and an INTJ would get along best with an ENFP. Keirsey says that in these relationships, each person "completes" the other while still having things in common.

I'm not sure how accurate that is, but I seem to get along well with NFs. I haven't ever met an ENFP in real life, though. Anyways, welcome to the forums! (Your avatar seems very NF-ish

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**Paul V** · 11-17-2007, 02:03 PM

Oh, hi! I know lots of people like you. They're usually funny, until they get on my nerves (Too much E or F).

**The Rose** · 11-17-2007, 03:54 PM

I don't know if I have ever known any female ENFPs though I have a guy friend who's an ENFP. I always enjoy his enthusiasm and great ideas.

**BlackMita** · 11-17-2007, 06:22 PM

lolololololol

That's what usually happens to me when ENFPs are around. Welcome.

**mind_wander** · 11-17-2007, 06:40 PM

The P side is when things does not get done. But, its cool, if both sides have something in common to talk about. Start a topic, then someone create that environment for you, so both sides does not get afraid to step out of their comfort zone.

**GOD** · 11-17-2007, 06:46 PM

	Originally Posted by HeterodoxRobot
	... and here to also provide this forum, and its constituents with, what perhaps may be, diametrically opposed perspectives on things. Let the intellectual intercourse begin....

Err... I think you've already been well and truly stuffed by the looks of that avatar...

Sure you'll find it a hoot...

**HeterodoxRobot** · 11-17-2007, 06:54 PM

	Originally Posted by INTJgal
	i want a male NF!!

They make great lovers, I suggest you get yourself one.

**Tarrick** · 11-17-2007, 06:55 PM

	Originally Posted by mind_wander
	The P side is when things does not get done. But, its cool, if both sides have something in common to talk about. Start a topic, then someone create that environment for you, so both sides does not get afraid to step out of their comfort zone.

I don't mind the P so much as the E+F part. They generally come in two varieties in my experience: Extremely needy or Humanitarian Crusaders. And I have no need for either.

I have met one or two that were exceptions to that, but both of them had been rudely exposed to the real world and had a good helping of cynicism infused in their bodies.

**mind_wander** · 11-17-2007, 07:04 PM

	Originally Posted by Tarrick
	I don't mind the P so much as the E+F part. They generally come in two varieties in my experience: Extremely needy or Humanitarian Crusaders. And I have no need for either. I have met one or two that were exceptions to that, but both of them had been rudely exposed to the real world and had a good helping of cynicism infused in their bodies.

wow, sucks for you, the F side is no problem with me, but the P, well its great for comedy, ideas, conversations, but won't get things done.

**HeterodoxRobot** · 11-17-2007, 07:05 PM

Originally Posted by melon

David Keirsey (in his book Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence) writes that, for mating at least, SPs and SJs get along best, and NTs and NFs get along best. Keirsey recommends finding a mate that has a completely opposite personality than you do, with the exception of S/N. For example, an ESTP would get along best with an ISFJ, and an INTJ would get along best with an ENFP. Keirsey says that in these relationships, each person "completes" the other while still having things in common.

I'm not sure how accurate that is, but I seem to get along well with NFs. I haven't ever met an ENFP in real life, though. Anyways, welcome to the forums! (Your avatar seems very NF-ish )

I've never worked that well with extroverted guys, in fact I've always preferred highly introverted men. Charismatic, affable men just don't do it for me. I've been "in love" once, and the object of my affection was/is very INTJ-ish.

He could watch real video clips of people getting decapitated, out of sheer curiosity. Though I understand, quite well actually, how nasty life can get and just how visceral we meat robots are...still, I could never watch such a gruesome scene.

**HeterodoxRobot** · 11-17-2007, 07:12 PM

	Originally Posted by Tarrick
	I I have met one or two that were exceptions to that, but both of them had been rudely exposed to the real world and had a good helping of cynicism infused in their bodies.

Yup, unfortunately, or fortunately, that's me!!!!

**HeterodoxRobot** · 11-17-2007, 07:15 PM

I am the most solitary extrovert that I know, I can't stand being emotionally hijacked by strangers, and stupid and mean strangers, at that?!?!?

Thanks, but no thanks. I rather enjoy my own company than suffer in the company of those who are suffering.

11-16-2007, 09:47 PM	#1
HeterodoxRobot Member [10%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 419	... and here to also provide this forum, and its constituents with, what perhaps may be, diametrically opposed perspectives on things. Let the intellectual intercourse begin....
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11-16-2007, 09:53 PM	#2
INTJgal Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 124	ENFP + INTJ = crazy talks (at least in my RL experience) and best buds
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11-16-2007, 10:02 PM	#3
niffer Banned MBTI: ENfP Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 310	Yes! It's time to tag-team these kiddies.
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11-16-2007, 10:52 PM	#5
Tarrick Member [17%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 699	ENFPs.../shiver Well, if they aren't TOO F or TOO E maybe. Maybe.... Anyways, welcome to the forum. Mind the traps.
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11-17-2007, 07:48 AM	#6
mind_wander Member [40%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,633	Lol, Did someone posted on E-harmony something about INTJ's, "Hey, anyone who is an ENFP who wants to hook-up come here at some other forum there are plenty of INTJ's." Sorry, never encountered ENFP's..Scared Hiding behind Tarrick, What is an ENFP?
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11-17-2007, 11:23 AM	#9
Solaris Core Member [178%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 7,152	Sure opposites attract, but you are missing the important question: Are they successful in the long-term. The answer to that is No. I'm an ENTJ, I was with an ISFP for a long time. Interesting for some of it? Yes. Productive? Not exactly. Successful: Note I said "was with." The lesson I learned: Never, ever again. Never. Male Fs need not apply.
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11-17-2007, 11:41 AM	#10
travler2001 New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 12	Oh, an ENFP. You guys are so hyper and goofy. I've always gotten along with ENFP's, just nothing ever gets done.
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11-17-2007, 11:46 AM	#11
INTJgal Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 124	i want a male NF!!
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11-17-2007, 01:41 PM	#13
melon Member [16%] MBTI: INTx Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 674	David Keirsey (in his book Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence) writes that, for mating at least, SPs and SJs get along best, and NTs and NFs get along best. Keirsey recommends finding a mate that has a completely opposite personality than you do, with the exception of S/N. For example, an ESTP would get along best with an ISFJ, and an INTJ would get along best with an ENFP. Keirsey says that in these relationships, each person "completes" the other while still having things in common. I'm not sure how accurate that is, but I seem to get along well with NFs. I haven't ever met an ENFP in real life, though. Anyways, welcome to the forums! (Your avatar seems very NF-ish ) Last edited by melon; 11-17-2007 at 04:49 PM.
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11-17-2007, 02:03 PM	#14
Paul V Member [19%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 767	Oh, hi! I know lots of people like you. They're usually funny, until they get on my nerves (Too much E or F).
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11-17-2007, 03:54 PM	#15
The Rose Member [24%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 980	I don't know if I have ever known any female ENFPs though I have a guy friend who's an ENFP. I always enjoy his enthusiasm and great ideas.
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11-17-2007, 06:22 PM	#16
BlackMita Member [24%] MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 999	lolololololol That's what usually happens to me when ENFPs are around. Welcome.
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11-17-2007, 06:40 PM	#17
mind_wander Member [40%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,633	The P side is when things does not get done. But, its cool, if both sides have something in common to talk about. Start a topic, then someone create that environment for you, so both sides does not get afraid to step out of their comfort zone.
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11-17-2007, 07:15 PM	#24
HeterodoxRobot Member [10%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 419	I am the most solitary extrovert that I know, I can't stand being emotionally hijacked by strangers, and stupid and mean strangers, at that?!?!? Thanks, but no thanks. I rather enjoy my own company than suffer in the company of those who are suffering.
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