Are you different on-line than in real life? - Page 4

**JYFly** · 07-03-2012, 11:58 PM

Other than willingly revealing a lot more personal details, not much. I don't socialize outside of a few select people both online and IRL.

**AlfredSchnittke** · 07-04-2012, 12:06 AM

Originally Posted by Zsych
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Its completely possible to regress to lower levels of conduct because they are being allowed or because you can get away with it more. And the more people get treated badly, the more people they in turn treat less well.

Its easy to not understand what the value of being mature is, and why acting like a child is a bad thing... especially when a lot of people start doing it.

Most people adapt incrementally to changing circumstances instead of focusing on how things should be and making sure that they are.

The problem is that "the way things should be" is nothing more than a mythical delusion. It's an open-ended designator like "the King of France" referring to whatever happens to occupy the mind of the person suffering from the delusion.

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	I'm much more daring in what I say online. I'm also less standoffish online. I also have to note that I am definitely female in real life. For some reason people assume I'm male when they interact with me on the forum and in the chat. This mistake is never made in person.

lol

I guess that I, S, T, and J are all the exact opposites of what people expect in a woman =P

**painfulltruf** · 07-04-2012, 08:00 AM

Does the INTJ rush into social media forums and go 'oh goody, I can be anyone I want today, yep, I chase the low hanging fruit in life, I search for the angles to be a liar and cheater, oh neeto, no accountability and transparency...Yeah! This is the place for me."

Facepalm.

**peppersasen** · 07-05-2012, 07:23 AM

i've noticed that i am EXTREMELY self-centered and selfish online. it's crazy how self-centered and i am (somewhat Facebook/Twitter and other social-networking sites, although i am very quiet/shy on LinkedIn where i barely participate in anything because it's a professional site and i'm self-conscious there because of my 'career' or lack of). but i noticed that i'm most self-centered here because i'm interacting with others (strangers too).

i've actually obsessively thought about it and wondered why. in real life, i kind of avoid attention like a plague and when people start poking and prodding, i'll usually shift everyone's attention to someone else. but online, i'm so self-centered, it's insane. i've even occasionally acted up this princess/"i'm purdier than you" persona. i'm like a Brizilla that way, i suppose. you know, i'm like the girl who never felt special and was never treated special and i'm determined to make my wedding ALL ABOUT ME! ME! ME! because it's MY special day.

i still find it very strange, because it's not like i CRAVE attention in real life, i don't. i'm relieved and glad when i'm left alone (although i do struggle to get my opinions/ideas heard in professional settings and i'm a terrible leader). but maybe the self-centeredness doesn't bother me as much as the selfishness. i can live with the former. the latter is quite embarrassing.

**UltraIncredible** · 07-05-2012, 03:02 PM

	Originally Posted by BobtheINTJ To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Have you fantasized about what another member may look like or act like based on their Avatar?

I imagine Polymath20's posts being read in the Dalai Lama's voice.

**Saggita** · 07-05-2012, 03:10 PM

	Originally Posted by UltraIncredible To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I imagine Polymath20's posts being read in the Dalai Lama's voice.

Holy cow, me too. Frosted's avatars used to confuse me a lot on the beginning as well. And then I stopped reading his posts.

**TheStranger** · 07-05-2012, 03:26 PM

Not markedly, no. However, my social interaction has been severely restricted these past...nine months. Before then, it wasn't too impressive either. The common thread that ties those two realms together is that I tend to avoid the majority of any forum population, in terms of avoiding direct conflict. I'm more of a passive-aggressive person.

**mcantrim** · 07-05-2012, 07:27 PM

I am probably more myself on line than elsewhere except with my immediate family or with people who are very long term friends. I spent formative years in the South where I learned flirting as a pleasant pass time and that type of interaction is totally misunderstood in New England so I have to refrain. Also, at this point in my life I am a professional and a supervisor and therefore must weigh carefully what I say in most settings. One of the things I most value about the forum is the feeling that I do not have to carefully censor myself so that people will not be intimidated by my intelligence, appearance, experiences or title. Although Avatars are useful in helping me to understand how people see themselves I do not make the mistake of thinking people are their avatars.

**lancelot** · 07-05-2012, 07:44 PM

I try to be the same in forum as away form the keyboard.

I find it much easier to talk to women in real life than at the keyboard.

07-03-2012, 11:58 PM	#76
JYFly Member [27%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1,114	Other than willingly revealing a lot more personal details, not much. I don't socialize outside of a few select people both online and IRL.
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07-04-2012, 08:00 AM	#78
painfulltruf Banned MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 562	Does the INTJ rush into social media forums and go 'oh goody, I can be anyone I want today, yep, I chase the low hanging fruit in life, I search for the angles to be a liar and cheater, oh neeto, no accountability and transparency...Yeah! This is the place for me." Facepalm.
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07-05-2012, 07:23 AM	#79
peppersasen Veteran Member [63%] MBTI: INxx Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 2,555	i've noticed that i am EXTREMELY self-centered and selfish online. it's crazy how self-centered and i am (somewhat Facebook/Twitter and other social-networking sites, although i am very quiet/shy on LinkedIn where i barely participate in anything because it's a professional site and i'm self-conscious there because of my 'career' or lack of). but i noticed that i'm most self-centered here because i'm interacting with others (strangers too). i've actually obsessively thought about it and wondered why. in real life, i kind of avoid attention like a plague and when people start poking and prodding, i'll usually shift everyone's attention to someone else. but online, i'm so self-centered, it's insane. i've even occasionally acted up this princess/"i'm purdier than you" persona. i'm like a Brizilla that way, i suppose. you know, i'm like the girl who never felt special and was never treated special and i'm determined to make my wedding ALL ABOUT ME! ME! ME! because it's MY special day. i still find it very strange, because it's not like i CRAVE attention in real life, i don't. i'm relieved and glad when i'm left alone (although i do struggle to get my opinions/ideas heard in professional settings and i'm a terrible leader). but maybe the self-centeredness doesn't bother me as much as the selfishness. i can live with the former. the latter is quite embarrassing.
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07-05-2012, 03:26 PM	#82
TheStranger Core Member [148%] MBTI: intp Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 5,943	Not markedly, no. However, my social interaction has been severely restricted these past...nine months. Before then, it wasn't too impressive either. The common thread that ties those two realms together is that I tend to avoid the majority of any forum population, in terms of avoiding direct conflict. I'm more of a passive-aggressive person.
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07-05-2012, 07:27 PM	#83
mcantrim Member [37%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,494	I am probably more myself on line than elsewhere except with my immediate family or with people who are very long term friends. I spent formative years in the South where I learned flirting as a pleasant pass time and that type of interaction is totally misunderstood in New England so I have to refrain. Also, at this point in my life I am a professional and a supervisor and therefore must weigh carefully what I say in most settings. One of the things I most value about the forum is the feeling that I do not have to carefully censor myself so that people will not be intimidated by my intelligence, appearance, experiences or title. Although Avatars are useful in helping me to understand how people see themselves I do not make the mistake of thinking people are their avatars.
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07-05-2012, 07:44 PM	#84
lancelot Member [39%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 1,574	I try to be the same in forum as away form the keyboard. I find it much easier to talk to women in real life than at the keyboard.
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