[LifesEcstasy]

He is my husband, he is a free spirit, carefree and interested in life. That is all that I require. He is who he is, he is like no-one else I have ever met and that is why we are together.

[IotaNull]

	Originally Posted by ThingInItsSelf To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	My ideal partner is: Tall dark and handsome [...] If this souds like your ideal guy, I do apologies I got to him first ;P

And if it doesn't, you have my answer to this thread.

[superflax]

	Originally Posted by Muse To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	- Kind. - Fun to talk to. - Caring. - Honest. - Reliable. Sounds simple right? Here is the kicker Stays that way.

AMEN BROTHER.
I would like to add:
- Affectionate when i need them to be
- But most of all UNDERSTANDING

[anticlimatic]

In a word..... momorawr.
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[Lilie]

	Originally Posted by Fecal McAngry To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Do INTJs--more commonly than others--seek partners "like themselves"?

I did. I wanted someone as much like me as possible.

[Munglik]

I want someone I can trust. At this time I don't know anyone to share my most private thoughts with. Someone that understands me and wishes to stay by my side.

[Ambra]

My ideal partner knows how to anticipate me, and even ends up one step ahead at times (this is extremely difficult to find).

We have mutual goals we can work together as a team to attain, and personal goals we support each other in.

Knows how to cook.

Is amazing in bed. Don't know what just hit you kind of amazing. The entire world should melt away when we play around.

Appreciates the way I care. Knows not to come to me with small stuff they could figure out on their own, but also that I am relentlessly dedicated if they really need me.

Has a good sense of humor. One of us needs one, and I have to be in a mood.

Is comfortable taking the lead in social situations and allowing me to remain the background if I chose.

Reminds me of my humanity.

Loves my weirdness.

Inspires me to live up to how wonderful they think I actually am.

[LifesEcstasy]

	Originally Posted by Fecal McAngry To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Do INTJs--more commonly than others--seek partners "like themselves"?

No. My partner is very unlike me. At a guess I'd say he is ESFP, although I can't be sure because he's never taken the test.

[Samson86]

a female human that isn't anything like my hand would be great!

[Faux hawk]

Genius sex addict completely addicted to me that does exactly what I would want done before I even think it so I never lose respect for him. Oh and he's charming, yet humble. Can hang in an arguement, but knows how to redirect me, well... And any short comings that naturally occur he makes up for with intensity and drive. Of course, he's good with animals, kids, and the elderly. Oh! Oh! Most important a twinkly I'm up to something smile. Those are the best!
Honestly, though I won't know until I know him, but for just pie in the sky traits see above and add 40-50lbs of humor.

[Cozzine]

I've often thought on this, but realized that theoretically, no matter how I might dream of this, the probability chance of me finding a girl of my dreams is so small that it may as well not exist.

The primary reason why it is so small is that I factor (this is one of several factors) in a woman who would be willing to approach and initiate a relationship with me, understand me, and be with me through the bad and the good. But those women are rare (example below).

1 in 1,000 women have those qualifications cited above. If there are around 104,808,064.00 women in the U.S. aged 16-64, that would mean that 104,808 women would follow that.

Let us then take that down to roughly 65,000 women or so above the age of 18 and below 40.

Then, when you take into account how many are married, estimating that 400 people per 1000 get married (I don't believe the marriage/divorce data of 6.5 per 1000 people), therefore divided in half you get 200 women in 1000 married, you would get 17,000 women married.

You are then down to 48,000 women who fall under those above cited factors.

Now, this is where it gets hard to judge my probability rate of finding a woman like this: if I take into account that I am a hardcore introvert, that my solitude and my ideologies and philosophies and pessimistic attitude keep people away from me (I am thought of as strange, odd and slightly hard to be around at times), and me locked in my room on the internet, then the rate gets low. It gets lower still because I am not actively searching for a relationship. It dips down even further because I am generally subjected to a small geographic range of interaction. And to further devalue the chance of finding this woman, if I was asked out on a date, I keep my emotional chemical balances in check when I am out, and would very likely coldly turn my back to the advances and walk away unless she absolutely wow'd me and completely stripped away my defenses.

Therefore, I quote that I have a better chance of winning a $20 million dollar lottery than finding the woman of my dreams. If I do win the lottery, I would think highly of finding the woman of my dreams, or even less so because I won one lottery, but winning a second?
The data of this post may be somewhat skewed, and I am undoubtedly missing out on other factors. But my intuition, or some other sense, can guarantee that it will never happen.

Ahem...if anyone has found the person of their dreams, do not ever let them go. You only generally win the lottery once in a lifetime.

[Miryr]

Originally Posted by xRedSunflowerx To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My ideal life partner would be: A man of logic and reason who keeps his emotions to himself An independent, self-sufficient man who understands the need for copious alone time An intellectual who is conversant on numerous topics from the sciences to the arts An atheist, agnostic, or other free thinker A childfree man who wishes to remain childfree A man who believes in maintaining separate finances A man who is okay with us having separate bedrooms...or possibly even separate residences Unfortunately, this man probably doesn't exist as he would essentially be a male version of me.

Heck, I agree fully with the whole list!

However, I think it's much more difficult to find a female with that ideology.

[catzmeow]

	Originally Posted by ThingInItsSelf To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Fair enough - how many of you have met someone that meets your descriptions?

Me. I'm married to the perfect INTJ of my dreams.

[Dancingqueen]

	Originally Posted by ThingInItsSelf To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Fair enough - how many of you have met someone that meets your descriptions?

Married 11 years to someone I couldn't have constructed better with a limitless toobox and all of god's powers. He's not perfect, no one is, but he's perfect for me...a fellow NT who gets me.

[Boreal]

Originally Posted by Cozzine To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Therefore, I quote that I have a better chance of winning a $20 million dollar lottery than finding the woman of my dreams. If I do win the lottery, I would think highly of finding the woman of my dreams, or even less so because I won one lottery, but winning a second? The data of this post may be somewhat skewed, and I am undoubtedly missing out on other factors. But my intuition, or some other sense, can guarantee that it will never happen.

This would be true if you were some particle with no control over its direction
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. You can manipulate many of the factors you cited to improve your odds. After all, this is the perfect match; why play fair when you can rig the game?

Just a thought
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[s4nder]

	Originally Posted by Cozzine To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Then, when you take into account how many are married, estimating that 400 people per 1000 get married (I don't believe the marriage/divorce data of 6.5 per 1000 people), therefore divided in half you get 200 women in 1000 married, you would get 17,000 women married.

You don't divide the ratio in half. 400 married people per 1000 also means 400 women per 1000, assuming there's an equal number of men and women.

As for me, I don't have an ideal SO, I've never even dreamt of one. Maybe that's why I'm generally uninterested in being in a relationship.

[Mystery]

Someone similar to me, who values the same things.
I am not desperate, i refuse to date a man if he doesn't meet at least half of my standards and i would appreciate if he would do the same,
in that case the relationship would be important for both of us.
We wouldn't be together to get more experience but because we would consider each other special enough to start a relationship.
I'd want him to make the difference between me and random girls.
I like independant, introspective, introverted, intellectual, rational, organized, natural, logical men.
It would be better if he doesn't really care about what he looks like (not careless but natural) and prefers my personality over my appearance.
I absolutely hate when strangers ask me on a date,
my appearance is obviously more important to them than anything else.
Appearance is relatively important but it is not the most important thing in a serious relationship.
Enough things in common to do activities we both like together.

I don't like to think about it that often. What are the odds to find someone like this ?!
Plus, when i don't have to go outside,
i just stay in like a lot of extremely introverted people so it makes it even harder to find a partner and i don't want to go socialize more hoping to meet that kind of person,
imagine the disappointment and the amount of energy spent uselessly if i don't.

[Nomatterwhat]

	Originally Posted by Miryr To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Heck, I agree fully with the whole list! However, I think it's much more difficult to find a female with that ideology.

Difficult? I think i can see someone just like that...right there...

[UKsplendid]

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I am all of these things, except for the last one... "A man who is okay with us having separate bedrooms...or possibly even separate residences" Huh? What is the point of being in a relationship then?... We are positing being IN LOVE right? If you aren't living with someone, then it's really just a matter of sex, e.g. a prostitute. I don't get this one. Although for the first while I can kind of understand it, at this point in my life if I was in a relationship I would meet all of your criteria here, but it seems to me like the thread is asking about ideal, as in married, totally in love, etc... I wonder if you've ever been properly caught in the throes of passionate love? Even though usually I would agree with this list, it seems to me that serious, passionate love was the one thing that made these rules bend for me.

On the whole separate beds/rooms/places thing, people keep each other up with rolling around and snoring and stuff quite a lot. If it takes someone a while to get to sleep normally having someone else just breathing in their bed can be troublesome. If you want to sleep together some nights then you can and there's nothing getting in the way of jiggy time really anyway, it's not like YOU CANNOT ENTER EACH OTHERS BEDROOMS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.

I don't think the separate rooms thing is too bad, it would stop you from grating on each other.

[Mind Marauder]

Hmmm:
-Intelligence: Critical thinking, capable of philosophical discourse, enjoys scientific pursuits, and is a bibliophile.
-Emotion/demeanor: Quiet, perhaps a little shy is but extremely passionate. Kind but not to the point of being doting or blindly compassionate. A little rebelliousness is also highly appreciated. Independence is a must. I would want her to be able to value our time apart as something that enriches ourselves individually but also makes our time together far more meaningful.
-Hobbies/pursuits: Hopefully she would have hobbies/pursuits that we would have in common, but, beyond that, anything that mentally stimulates me would also be appreciated. Perhaps she's an artist, that would be awesome. If she could play chess that would blow me away. If she was better than me at chess that would be beyond amazing.
-Lifestyle: She's very into exercise: yoga, running, weight lifting, etc. (not necessarily all of them). A high libido and an interest in sexuality and sexual expression would be very appreciated. She's into BDSM (but doesn't mind slow, soft lovemaking) and knows how to talk dirty. She, like myself, is on the fence about having children, but she definitely wouldn't want any any time soon.
-Looks: A cute face is very important. It's what I notice first and it's through the face that I get to know the person. Beautiful/exotic eyes are appreciated but not required. I buy into the idea that the eyes are the windows to the "soul." An average sized bust (C cup?) or higher and a nice hip-to-waist ratio would be nice but is not required.

[Velocitii]

I could make a list....but that shit will just go out the window when I find someone new to like.

[plotthickens]

	Originally Posted by ThingInItsSelf To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Fair enough - how many of you have met someone that meets your descriptions?

7 years married to my DreamDude.

[Miryr]

	Originally Posted by Nomatterwhat To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Difficult? I think i can see someone just like that...right there...

Excuse me, but I am not gonna go live in another country solely to interact with a single human being. I think that's an absurd notion on its own.

[Distance]

I once dreamt about doing it with Joseph Gordon-Levitt. Does this count?

[hi5yourface]

	Originally Posted by Distance To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I once dreamt about doing it with Joseph Gordon-Levitt. Does this count?

yeah, but did you like the dream? Inception or 3rd rock Joseph Gordon-Levitt?