[MissionPossible]

	Originally Posted by Shadizar To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I hate being called cute! In no sense of the word can I be referred to as cute. If you're calling me cute, then you got a seriously damaged sense of association, or you're just plain mocking me; in either case, there's no sense continuing any form of conversation beyond that point.

but you are sooo cute when you are angry! :P

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	Originally Posted by Minerva To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Your understanding is correct. Yes, it is easy to associate cute with To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. !

Oh now thats just damned cuteness overload! They could get away with just about anything!

[Shadizar]

	Originally Posted by Minerva To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Some food for thought: Would you rather be called "ugly", "unattractive","e To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. gross" or "cute"? Be thankful for what you got!

Coming from the SF spectrum? I'd prefer not being told at all, Mostly because I can't be bothered to ask "how do I look" in the first place. How does "cute" fit into anything... post puberty.

[Monica]

I prefer communication to be concise and accurate, even for compliments. Cute is just too general...and overused to the point of ad nauseum...

[Shadizar]

Hell, I'll accept "you're creepy" over "you're cute".

[MissionPossible]

	Originally Posted by Monica To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I prefer communication to be concise and accurate, even for compliments. Cute is just too general...and overused to the point of ad nauseum...

I disagree that "cute" is too general because it is rather specific and rather different from beautiful, handsome, pretty, ect......attractive and good-looking, however are certainly rather general. Cute might be overused by some people, but in general I know what people mean when they find someone "cute". The problem where I am is that most people say beautiful or lovely for women and handsome for men, when in reality, many of both could better be described as "cute".

But since beauty and cuteness are both in the eyes of the smitten beholder, we could all quibble and quack about it ad nauseum adinfinitus per verbatim cutenesseaceous emeritus, but I'll just revel in the cuteness before it quacks up.

[Shadizar]

Originally Posted by MissionPossible To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I disagree that "cute" is too general because it is rather specific and rather different from beautiful, handsome, pretty, ect......attractive and good-looking, however are certainly rather general. Cute might be overused by some people, but in general I know what people mean when they find someone "cute". The problem where I am is that most people say beautiful or lovely for women and handsome for men, when in reality, many of both could better be described as "cute". But since beauty and cuteness are both in the eyes of the smitten beholder, we could all quibble and quack about it ad nauseum adinfinitus per verbatim cutenesseaceous emeritus, but I'll just revel in the cuteness before it quacks up.

And yet, all babies are classified as cute, even when they're fucking butt ugly. How is that specific? Cute strikes me as condescending, rather than complimentary. Do you like your cheek being pinched too? Maybe a sportly hair ruffle? Your hand held to the potty?

[SeverusSin]

Cute is a compliment but it also implies childishness, lack of sexual attraction and is almost condescending in nature, in my view. If this comes from a female of the same peer group as I, I tend process the possibly intended compliment as a "friendly remark" and I expect she views me simply as a friend and nothing more. There may be other factors however, but moretime it denotes platonic acknowledgement of attractiveness but distinctly lacking actual sexual attraction.

[John01]

I've never perceived the word cute as diminutive or insulting when used by a woman describing a man. It's a compliment. Would you rather be called ugly?

It's only insulting if you would rather be thought of as better than cute.

[IotaNull]

I generally find it offensive. Not only have the people using it never been attracted to me, they're using it to imply that I'm attractive while intending to convey that I'm not, so it's blatantly dishonest. That, and it's really condescending.

Given that use of the term is a blanket statement that "I don't take you as a person seriously", my general response is to return the favour.

[Minerva]

	Originally Posted by Shadizar To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Coming from the SF spectrum? I'd prefer not being told at all, Mostly because I can't be bothered to ask "how do I look" in the first place. How does "cute" fit into anything... post puberty.

You obviously didn't read my post. Where did I lose you? Did you find my SF wording confusing? I could break it down for you further.

Even if you don't ask how you look there are people who will supply you or others with their opinion of your appearance. I am not saying that anyone's opinion should matter to you, but it seems like it is bothering the OP.

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Originally Posted by MissionPossible To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I disagree that "cute" is too general because it is rather specific and rather different from beautiful, handsome, pretty, ect......attractive and good-looking, however are certainly rather general. Cute might be overused by some people, but in general I know what people mean when they find someone "cute". The problem where I am is that most people say beautiful or lovely for women and handsome for men, when in reality, many of both could better be described as "cute".

It sounds too general because it is overused. IMHO people should learn some synonyms!

	Originally Posted by MissionPossible To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	But since beauty and cuteness are both in the eyes of the smitten beholder, we could all quibble and quack about it ad nauseum adinfinitus per verbatim cutenesseaceous emeritus, but I'll just revel in the cuteness before it quacks up.

^ True.

The people who use the word "cute" don't mean it as an insult, unless it is used in a condescending manner. If the receiver does not like what he hears or perceives because it seems belittling and disrespectful then it is the receiver's problem.

The receiver has 2 options:

1) Tell the speaker why they shouldn't use the word cute. That is assuming that you care enough about the speaker to let them know what you are thinking. Tell them that you don't care for their brand of compliments. The results of doing this would be varied. Depends on how open minded, reasonable or emphatic the speaker is.

2) Change your perception of being called "cute".

[MissionPossible]

	Originally Posted by Shadizar To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	And yet, all babies are classified as cute, even when they're fucking butt ugly. How is that specific? Cute strikes me as condescending, rather than complimentary. Do you like your cheek being pinched too? Maybe a sportly hair ruffle? Your hand held to the potty?

No and honestly I probably wouldn't date anyone who says "potty"!

Perhaps you missed the "eye of the beholder part" and perhaps you simply ignore obvious contexts because you simply wish to quibble and quack....or because you simply don't like something. Not liking something doesn't make it less of what it is just because you don't like it.

There are different kinds of cute and different reasons that SOMEONE FINDS something or someone is cute. Some houses are cute, but I don't pinch their walls or want to have sex with them.....puppies are cute too, but no sexual attraction there either. However, there has been a lot of sex with adult human male cuteness.....

Babies don't have to be cute to everyone, they only have to be cute to someone who will take care of them and give them what they need to survive and grow. Babies are usually cute to their mothers and fathers. Its a system that works. Frankly, I don't expect adult cuteness to function like baby cuteness because that would be absurd.

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BTW, are you sure all babies are classified as cute? As far as I know, that is not a fact. It depends on who is making the claim and remember that what people say, including compliments, are not always true. Saying nice things just to be friendly and kind isn't exactly uncommon.

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	Originally Posted by Shadizar To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	How does "cute" fit into anything... post puberty.

May I introduce GRAND Exhibit A: Three quarters of the Vietnamese population, and I am guessing we can throw in half of Korea, China, Japan, and Thailand for starters.

I mean REALLY!

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Now that I think about it, some people can get so easily annoyed about the most insignificant things. How do they feel about murder, war, and the depths of poverty in a world of plenty? There is enough real crap to be upset about in the world without having an ego crisis because of the word "cute".

[Fujimoto]

I also feel like "cute" has a condescending connotation of youth to it. As a man, I don't mind being called "cute" by a woman because it means something different in that context, but if I were to turn around and call a woman "cute" when there are so many other (and better) words to use, it would be like calling her a little girl who was just learning to be presentable to a room full of adults.

[Shoshana]

I don't mind being called cute. There are some aspects to my personality that come across as cute so I apparently invite that kind of comment. Not a big deal.

[scorpiomover]

Not everyone sees "cute" as a diminutive. If you aren't sure, then take a poll: ask 50 high-school guys if a "cute girl", who is a "10", is "too cute to screw". I think you will find the answer is a resounding "NO".

Generally, it means "sweet and nice". Doesn't sound like much, unless you've known someone who people would say is most definitely "NOT cute", like a hobo, a rapist, a serial killer, or a man too ugly to look at. Btu once you've met a lot of people, and realise just how many people are "NOT cute", you realise that to be cute, is a big rarity, and so is a major "up".

Just not an "up", if you want the girl to think you are the big, strong, "bad boy". But if you are an INTJ, I imagine that the sort of girl who is attracted to false impressions, is the sort of person you'd disdain, anyway.

[hi5yourface]

	Originally Posted by Iota Null To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I generally find it offensive. Not only have the people using it never been attracted to me, they're using it to imply that I'm attractive while intending to convey that I'm not, so it's blatantly dishonest. That, and it's really condescending. Given that use of the term is a blanket statement that "I don't take you as a person seriously", my general response is to return the favour.

Are you sure about that.....girls tend not to be as demonstratively clear as men in this area.

[Shadizar]

	Originally Posted by hi5yourface To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Are you sure about that.....girls tend not to be as demonstratively clear as men in this area.

And women want to be respected as socially equal? What a backhand.

[akairo no kuma]

It drives me crazy, too. I understand that it is meant as a compliment, and when I mean to be taken as cute, it certainly is. However, when I wish to be taken seriously, or am being serious, the last thing I want to hear is that I am cute. If that's what you're noticing, you're missing the point entirely, and I've not the patience to deal with such.

I also despise "cute" as a generic "compliment" -- I cannot think of a way to express my abhorrence for this that does not include "adult" language, so suffice it to say that it is disgraceful and immediately loses my respect. I value precision of language, and cute is not another word for "I don't know you at all" -- if you don't know me, don't talk about me. It's that easy.

Anyway, it's definitely a personal preference, as some people don't like to be called "sexy" or "hot" either (I have very specific instances in which these will not earn you my deaf ear on a good day, and a swift kick to somewhere that counts on a bad one) or other manner of "compliments"... my main complaint with all of these is that they are too often over-used, used in inappropriate circumstances, used as generic compliments, or used vaguely/inaccurately.

"Jonas. You, of all people. Precision of language, please!"

That's all I can think of.
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[MacheteGeek]

I don't like it.

[hi5yourface]

	Originally Posted by Shadizar To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	And women want to be respected as socially equal? What a backhand.

*sigh* really? OK, here we are in the day and age when the woman wants it all, she wants to be sexually liberated and wear pantyhose too. Have children and a career and a man who shares household chores equally, and I'm the dreamer? Social equality aside there are social parameters that are observable in behavior....pick up on them or don't the choice is yours.

The point that I was making is that it is not patently dishonest to say one is "cute" as opposed to some other more classy, handsome term......what to prefer? You are anatomically pleasing to my eyes, sounds a lot less creepy
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The reason why Minerva is right in this instance is that she is an ISFJ and look around you, you are surrounded by sensors of all varieties who are not speaking to you out of a sense of intuition.....when you hear cute it means cute. It's the intuitive perception of the word that is more than likely incorrect.

Originally Posted by Minerva To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

You obviously didn't read my post. Where did I lose you? Did you find my SF wording confusing? I could break it down for you further. The people who use the word "cute" don't mean it as an insult, unless it is used in a condescending manner. If the receiver does not like what he hears or perceives because it seems belittling and disrespectful then it is the receiver's problem. The receiver has 2 options: 1) Tell the speaker why they shouldn't use the word cute. That is assuming that you care enough about the speaker to let them know what you are thinking. Tell them that you don't care for their brand of compliments. The results of doing this would be varied. Depends on how open minded, reasonable or emphatic the speaker is. 2) Change your perception of being called "cute".

[Shadizar]

Originally Posted by hi5yourface To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

*sigh* really? OK, here we are in the day and age when the woman wants it all, she wants to be sexually liberated and wear pantyhose too. Have children and a career and a man who shares household chores equally, and I'm the dreamer? Social equality aside there are social parameters that are observable in behavior....pick up on them or don't the choice is yours. The point that I was making is that it is not patently dishonest to say one is "cute" as opposed to some other more classy, handsome term......what to prefer? You are anatomically pleasing to my eyes, sounds a lot less creepy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. The reason why Minerva is right in this instance is that she is an ISFJ and look around you, you are surrounded by sensors of all varieties who are not speaking to you out of a sense of intuition.....when you hear cute it means cute. It's the intuitive perception of the word that is more than likely incorrect.

Yes, and when you see the same people referring to mentality and/or physically handicapped people as "cute" it takes the thunder out of any explanation they can dream up for referencing you as "cute". If the hunchback of notradame is cute, I sure the fuck am not; I don't care how well meaning you meant it to be.

[DeaconSyre]

Langauge is fluid; deal with it. Then again I'm an infp so I enjoy being called cute.

[Atamagahen]

Rarely happens for me, but I'm not a fan.

[hi5yourface]

	Originally Posted by Shadizar To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yes, and when you see the same people referring to mentality and/or physically handicapped people as "cute" it takes the thunder out of any explanation they can dream up for referencing you as "cute". If the hunchback of notradame is cute, I sure the fuck am not; I don't care how well meaning you meant it to be.

What about Sloth from the Goonies?


Some people just need to expand their vocabulary.

That being said I don't usually use this term unless I'm chatting with a female, "Oh (insert name here), your new dress looks cute." I always mean it though, it's never dishonest. If I comment on a man's looks, which it takes an exceeding lot for me to do, I not only mean it, I choked on it to say it so whether the word is cute or handsome or jibberish if I get some cockeyed look like I lied to get your attention, that's offensive.

[IotaNull]

	Originally Posted by hi5yourface To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Are you sure about that...

Absolutely certain.

It's not the term itself that bothers me, but the disparity between that and the intended "little retarded brother" meaning. It's like "more to love" referring to fat women, and is offensive and patronising for exactly the same reasons.

If my looks make me undateable, which they do, I would rather people who commented had the figurative balls to say so instead of wrapping it in petty platitudes and damning with faint praise.

[hi5yourface]

Originally Posted by Iota Null To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Absolutely certain. It's not the term itself that bothers me, but the disparity between that and the intended "little retarded brother" meaning. It's like "more to love" referring to fat women, and is offensive and patronising for exactly the same reasons. If my looks make me undateable, which they do, I would rather people who commented had the figurative balls to say so instead of wrapping it in petty platitudes and damning with faint praise.

The comparison is broad you do realize. You are not fat and not retarded. No offense but I've seen all manner of barely operational males in the company of ladies. Undateable looks or mild body dysmorphia?