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Old 05-03-2012, 08:59 PM   #1
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I thought I had found a thread here before where someone was saying that the two are often connected. But after some searching couldn't find it.

Thoughts on this relation? I know I have extreme avoidance issues. I always thought it was because of the way I was raised, and how my mind formed during that time. But it could be related to that and my personality type. It's interesting to think about.
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Old 05-04-2012, 12:54 AM   #2
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I have approach avoidance issues and it sabotages me in some severe ways. I don't know how to fix it.
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Old 05-05-2012, 09:27 PM   #3
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i think avoidant personality disorder would be the result of classical conditioning.

Because everytime an introverted person is around a group, he gets judged hardcore (or believes he does), and it never ends well.

Until something good comes out of social interaction, then an introverted person has no reason to engage in it.

But that leads to never gaining anything out of social interaction (because that person never socially interacts)

so, the end conclusion is, you got to risk it, and just engage in social interaction, despite what your instincts tell you, so that you can eventually gain something from it, and therefor nullify the classical conditioning
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Old 05-06-2012, 01:32 PM   #4
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I think that the presence of avoidant personality traits in INTJs is the result of our being trained by others at the earliest stages of life to think that there is something wrong with our nature. As we become more comfortable with ourselves and aware that there isn't anything wrong with us, we become less avoidant, because we no longer see ourselves as being a problem.
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Old 05-06-2012, 01:39 PM   #5
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  Originally Posted by BlSH0P
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i think avoidant personality disorder would be the result of classical conditioning.

Because everytime an introverted person is around a group, he gets judged hardcore (or believes he does), and it never ends well.

Until something good comes out of social interaction, then an introverted person has no reason to engage in it.

But that leads to never gaining anything out of social interaction (because that person never socially interacts)

so, the end conclusion is, you got to risk it, and just engage in social interaction, despite what your instincts tell you, so that you can eventually gain something from it, and therefor nullify the classical conditioning

I must be stoned, plastered, daft, or missing something. What's the second stimulus necessary for classical conditioning?

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Old 05-06-2012, 03:13 PM   #6
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  Originally Posted by Selene
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I must be stoned, plastered, daft, or missing something. What's the second stimulus necessary for classical conditioning?

I think negative feedback loop is probably a better description than classical conditioning.

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Old 05-06-2012, 10:35 PM   #7
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I must be stoned, plastered, daft, or missing something. What's the second stimulus necessary for classical conditioning?

The association relates social interaction with past rejection. You think about interacting socially and Bam! the association hits you and you feel bad about interacting socially so you don't do it. Negative feedback loop is a good way to explain it too.

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Old 05-06-2012, 10:52 PM   #8
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Avoidance is a choice I verify occasionally.
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Old 05-06-2012, 11:50 PM   #9
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I've accepted recently that I'm a recluse. I don't like coming out because people put me on edge. Even when I cover all the bases and use the best of my manipulation skills, there are just too many variables left unchecked. I don't trust people at all and it shows with how many people I attempt to even interact with. I have the social skills necessary to do basic things in a "personal" atmosphere with other people. In the professional atmosphere I can do most anything because it is task oriented.

I have thought about seeing if I could be classified with this disorder but I'm not sure if it is just a choice that is played on by my paranoia or an actual disorder.
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Old 05-07-2012, 02:57 AM   #10
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Wow. Another "disorder"?

"You don't adhere to some conventional notion of normalcy disorder".
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Old 05-07-2012, 03:40 PM   #11
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  Originally Posted by Autumnleaf
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The association relates social interaction with past rejection. You think about interacting socially and Bam! the association hits you and you feel bad about interacting socially so you don't do it. Negative feedback loop is a good way to explain it too.

Thatís operant conditioning, reinforcements, law of effect. Not classical conditioning.

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I think negative feedback loop is probably a better description than classical conditioning.

In what ways? I'm asking out of curiosity.

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Old 05-07-2012, 06:26 PM   #12
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In what ways? I'm asking out of curiosity.

Negative social experiences lead to reduced social exposure causing reduced/poor social skills which leads to more negative social experiences; loop.

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Old 05-08-2012, 04:33 AM   #13
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  Originally Posted by wizardblues
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I thought I had found a thread here before where someone was saying that the two are often connected. But after some searching couldn't find it.

Thoughts on this relation? I know I have extreme avoidance issues. I always thought it was because of the way I was raised, and how my mind formed during that time. But it could be related to that and my personality type. It's interesting to think about.

Personality construct is the result of nature and nurture. Caregivers responsible for raising you, being primary socializing agents play a large role influencing the formation of your basic personality. Two siblings can begin on the same foot but depending on environmental forces that later come into their lives at school, play, and work, their personalities will then diverge. If avoidance is the result of upbringing, IMO it will then resolve, continue, or worsen itself further down the road.

You didnít elaborate on the kind of extreme avoidance issues youíre experiencing.

If common trademarks in less developed INTJs include aversion or difficulties in developing close emotional bonds, an over-whelming need for independence and self-sufficiency, negative views and trust issues with people, then it can most certainly be correlated with existing theories about insecure attachment styles in adults (especially dismissive-avoidance, fearful-avoidance).

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Negative social experiences lead to reduced social exposure causing reduced/poor social skills which leads to more negative social experiences; loop.

Thanks for explaining. Yea... I think it's possible that people excuse themselves for prospective failure in social situations, believing it to be a strategy for preservation of self-esteem which, unfortunately, produces obstacles more often that helps in negotiating successful experiences.

It's interesting, the odd measures humans take to protect themselves.

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Old 05-08-2012, 12:17 PM   #14
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"You don't adhere to some conventional notion of normalcy disorder".

Does everything have to be about social norms with you? Jesus Christ, talk about "when you're hammer, the whole world looks like a nail." The fact that people with AVP genuinely suffer and lead highly restricted emotional and social lives as a result should be sufficient for some consideration of abnormality. Because then at least a pursuit of improvement is possible.

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Old 05-08-2012, 12:26 PM   #15
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Supposedly DSM-V is meant to reduce the "on/off" disorder diagnostic style, which is probably what folks like Zibber find distasteful. I believe it's meant to be replaced with assigning degrees to tendencies, so you might find yourself possessing a very high degree of avoidance, rather than being labeled with a disorder. This way, you can have a clearer picture of your tendencies, and determining if that's a tendency which you would benefit from addressing is dependent upon your life context.

The problem with "Everyone is broken" and "Nobody is broken" is they are both polarizations. I'm glad DSM-V is taking steps to interpolate these two poles.
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Old 05-08-2012, 12:32 PM   #16
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This way, you can have a clearer picture of your tendencies, and determining if that's a tendency which you would benefit from addressing is dependent upon your life context.

Nah, all it's going to do is create confusion for people with "high degrees" of a disorder. All in the name of political correctness - the "I'm ok, you're ok" infantilized reality.

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Old 05-08-2012, 12:41 PM   #17
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Nah, all it's going to do is create confusion for people with "high degrees" of a disorder. All in the name of political correctness - the "I'm ok, you're ok" infantilized reality.

Well. I'm sure all the professionals are wrong, and you're right.

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Old 05-08-2012, 12:55 PM   #18
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Well. I'm sure all the professionals are wrong, and you're right.

Oh, a Millenial favorite. As if no large-scale institutional changes have ever had some pretty crappy unintended consequences, oodles of "experts" notwithstanding.

And if you think "experts" are never influenced or pressured by PC fads, then well, live a bit longer.

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Old 05-08-2012, 01:22 PM   #19
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Well. I'm sure all the professionals are wrong, and you're right.

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Oh, a Millenial favorite. As if no large-scale institutional changes have ever had some pretty crappy unintended consequences, oodles of "experts" notwithstanding.

And if you think "experts" are never influenced or pressured by PC fads, then well, live a bit longer.

You both make good points. But ultimately there may be something to be said about keeping the idea of disorders around. If there is a problem in someone's life that they cannot seem to correct for on their own, a disorder might be an appropriate label for such a predicament. It's an efficient way to classify the types of problems someone may be facing, and as such, would help indicate known methods for reducing or eliminating those problems.

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Old 05-08-2012, 06:14 PM   #20
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I used to think I must have this. I asked my therapist though, once I finally went to one, and she said I didn't have and never had had a personality disorder.

She did say I was avoidant, but not personality disorder avoidant. Just normal avoidant, and I've "fixed" that now. It took me awhile to figure out that it was fixed because I'm still quite asocial. That's just personality though, and not disorder. I don't make decisions based on fear any more, at least not as much as I used to.
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Old 05-08-2012, 06:35 PM   #21
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The only diathetic disorder afflicting me out of my myriad of given mental disorders, so do I think my avoidant personality disorder is a coincidence with my happening to have a temperament perfectly consistent with said-disorder and have that particular disorder? No. I wouldn't be surprised if virtually everyone with my temperament had avoidant personality disorder. As far as MBTI goes, meh, whatever, MBTI isn't the ultimate typology so much as my MBTI type is a correlate of my temperament but it's probable that the temperament causing my MBTI result is also personally causative of my avoidant personality disorder.
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Old 05-08-2012, 10:27 PM   #22
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Whatever. Calling it a disorder may just be a useful way to label and talk about it. Everything's a construct anyway.

More on topic, I'm not as socially avoidant as a lot of INTJs (and unfortunately, I'm WAY more confrontational than most. You know, in person.) But. I USED to be terribly socially hesitant when I was younger. To the point of having panic attacks. I kind of dealt with that accidentally by getting into work positions where I had to deal with many people in many different types of situations and I had manage many of them.

This may sound weird, but I think I have a fear of success.
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