How do INTJs deal with jealousy? - Page 2

**FruitLoop** · 05-02-2012, 06:02 PM

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	My partner is free, she is free, not mine, never mine, never will be. And I'm not hers. Just loving to be together, nothing else.

This, exactly. I share everything without care or regard for its' return - everything comes or goes of it's own accord. I have had to come to accept that this is unwise - not that it bothered me, but some things didn't actually come back!

**Nostalgia** · 05-04-2012, 10:01 AM

^ yeah totally agree with the Changos quote above as well.

Never found a practical application for such wantonly self-defeating emotion. Why fret over something you absolutely have no control over or have any right over it.
I also find that Jealousy and selfishness are rather cozy bedfellows. Just plain useless and nasty.

**NonNT9** · 04-30-2013, 01:01 PM

How do I deal with my jealousies of others? By acknowledging them. They remain, but at least I can admit it to myself.

**MJ4LYFE** · 04-30-2013, 03:33 PM

I am not a jealous person, or I should say it is on the rare occasion that I get jealous. I am comfortable with myself, and compete with myself to become a better person. People who are outwardly jealous and let that jealousy control them and their behaviors and the way they treat people are shallow, insecure, mean, and hateful. I avoid who have a track record like that.

**msjunker** · 04-30-2013, 06:07 PM

Keep my straight face and act like shit doesn't bother me. Then I go get hammered.

**Tiramisu** · 04-30-2013, 09:00 PM

I shut down and basically block all attempts at trying to connect with the person, get on their level, talk to them, etc.

OR

I go crazy trying to win their charms back to me.

Either/or. It's unhealthy.

**Supahx** · 05-01-2013, 08:33 AM

In my relationship neither of us can help but be jealous at times even though its for no good reason (I'm INTJ she's INFP) though it's been discussed and since we know there are no problems we don't let it interfere with anything

05-04-2012, 10:01 AM	#27
Nostalgia Veteran Member [77%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 3,116	^ yeah totally agree with the Changos quote above as well. Never found a practical application for such wantonly self-defeating emotion. Why fret over something you absolutely have no control over or have any right over it. I also find that Jealousy and selfishness are rather cozy bedfellows. Just plain useless and nasty.
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04-30-2013, 01:01 PM	#28
NonNT9 New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2013 Posts: 27	How do I deal with my jealousies of others? By acknowledging them. They remain, but at least I can admit it to myself.
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04-30-2013, 03:33 PM	#29
MJ4LYFE New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2013 Posts: 39	I am not a jealous person, or I should say it is on the rare occasion that I get jealous. I am comfortable with myself, and compete with myself to become a better person. People who are outwardly jealous and let that jealousy control them and their behaviors and the way they treat people are shallow, insecure, mean, and hateful. I avoid who have a track record like that.
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04-30-2013, 06:07 PM	#30
msjunker Member [11%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Jan 2013 Posts: 444	Keep my straight face and act like shit doesn't bother me. Then I go get hammered.
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04-30-2013, 09:00 PM	#31
Tiramisu Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 96	I shut down and basically block all attempts at trying to connect with the person, get on their level, talk to them, etc. OR I go crazy trying to win their charms back to me. Either/or. It's unhealthy.
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05-01-2013, 08:33 AM	#32
Supahx New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2013 Posts: 50	In my relationship neither of us can help but be jealous at times even though its for no good reason (I'm INTJ she's INFP) though it's been discussed and since we know there are no problems we don't let it interfere with anything
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