[Distance]

It really depends:

• When it comes to work, I'm competitive in client acquisition.
• When it comes to socially, really don't give a flying fuck.
• When it comes to keeping up with the Joneses, another flying fuck gone.
• When it comes to dating, a third flying fuck gone. Absolutely haven't and won't compete for anyone. Don't like me enough, life's rough and then we die. Bye, bye.
• When it comes to games, it's a blast to be competitive. But it honestly doesn't bother me to lose.
• When it comes to debates on INTJf, most often I don't bother to close, once the weakness in the other member's arguments have been exposed or I grow bored and wander off.

[Tequila]

Nope. If I were the last person on earth, I guess I would still be doing my best.

[Selene]

	Originally Posted by Mohammad To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I think I've been fairly competitive my whole life. But the goal was never to trash-talk or beat opponents into submission, but to simply prove to myself I could perform to the best of my ability.

I'm not usually competitive, in sports for example, the experience counts more than winning eventually.

I think my competitive streak is distinctly driven by who it is exactly I'm competing with. Purely based in raw emotions.

The more disdain I feel towards opponents, the more severe and intense the obsession with winning becomes. This childish notion is mostly created by dispositional factors at work/school, and sometimes with friends during recreational activities. For example, when I really resent a character or situation, it pisses the fuck out of my sanity being defeated say, in chess. Satisfaction and peace were possible only if I won... as if winning proves anything. It's a complex reaction driven by illogical impulses. Show me an incurable jackass and I go ape-shit over winning just to fuck them over, only the weak gets the free pass.

All things considered I'm usually mellow, nonchalant. I should probably develop a competitive attitude and apply it constructively towards other aspects of life though, fetch tangible results that truly matter but half the time I can't be arsed. Victories are usually accidental and unintended since I prefer observing from the sidelines, not competing.

[EdR]

In my youth I was extremely competitive, in virtually everything.

Now competitiveness is mostly a thing of the past, having learned that the sun will rise tomorrow no matter who/what prevails. My perspective now is that if something doesn't make me healthier, wealthier or younger, I am mostly indifferent to the outcome.

[Selene]

	Originally Posted by EdR To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	In my youth I was extremely competitive, in virtually everything. Now competitiveness is mostly a thing of the past, having learned that the sun will rise tomorrow no matter who/what prevails. My perspective now is that if something doesn't make me healthier, wealthier or younger, I am mostly indifferent to the outcome.

Words of wisdom. I've been wondering whether competitiveness mellows out with age too.

[superflax]

I used to be.
But i kept losing....

Keeping my ego intact was more important so I stop comparing myself to others and just telling myself I was the greatest till I actually believed it. LOL.

[Andre20]

I'm extremely competitive. As a consequence I come off as an ass sometimes. I've been trying to tone it down, but there's always that moment exciting moment to see yourself try your best and look at the outcome, good or bad. No matter the level of skill I possess in an area, I try to give my best 9/10 times.

[sadf]

On a scale of one to ten i'd say six.

[Booko]

I'm not competitive unless you count competing with yourself.

I'd be embarrassed to do less than I was able.

I don't measure myself against others as everyone has different capacities in different areas of life anyway.

[Qjiggy]

Depends, what is the meaning of being competitive? Doing my best counts?

I am competitive. When I found out an old friend was getting promoted onto the same job that Im doing, it got me rattled up. Nothing bad about my friend, but I got way more experience than he and have done a lot of work perfecting my work. But when comes down as to who made the right choices, I'd say he did because he didn't do what I did to get the job. So....decided to return back to school and take on a course, and switch over a career/job that will over-seed him. So does that mean I'm competitive?

[Mauve]

Very. Inadequacy is frustrating and probably the only thing that shakes my confidence.

[e30sequel]

super competitive - LOVE cars and yes did the EXACT same things a few times (risking EVERYTHING, and yes it lead to victory at the expense of NEVER being invited again) - I convinced myself it was completely under control and it was ..... like 90% - the last few, made me realize I was NOT in control and then started developing a fear of it. Stopped doing this, LOST enough times to hurt my ego significantly, grew from that and just recently 'accepted' my losses as part of growth.

I still have the same 'need for speed' but promised myself to reserve it for when it is actually needed. One more thing......FOR ME it was to utterly destroy any hope the friend/foe/family/anyone had of defeating me and ONLY because of my 'caring less about life' than them = so it really meant 'do not test me unless you wish to risk your life.....wanna see'???!! resulting in the blank 'I NEVER want to deal with this psycho again' look .......NOT pleasant either way for me ... just my 200 dollars

[motu821]

Not at all. I see how competitiveness is helpful in a practical sense but think there are much better ways to achieve the same results. Honestly I tend to look down on the trait because it seems indulgent and petty, vision-less.

[mcdonn123]

I am generally not very competitive. I prefer to be much more cooperative!

[thecase]

When I was a young girl, I was feisty and super competitive. I got such a rush out of outsmarting, outplaying, and out thinking other children.

Now, I am far less competitive. I honestly, feel uncomfortable when I sense an some sore-loserness coming from the other side. And trust, me most people are sore losers. I'd be the first to call it quits during a game of scrabble if I was winning and felt the other person felt embarrassed. The thing is, even when it comes to things like, say scrabble, I'm not trying to crush the opponent, but just trying to get the best score I can as a challenge against myself. The term "go easy on me" just doesn't register. How do I search for words, in a way that is lower than my abilities, but still play? It doesn't make sense.

So I am competitive against myself.

Now a nice well-evened match of scrabble, with another level headed person sounds great. And I would not be offended at all if they beat me. I'd love it!

[mhy]

Usually not competitive. However if someone insults me, mocks me or doubts my ability I am competitive as fuck and usually beat the shit out of everyone.

[Lumbering Jack]

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I hate competition and refuse to compete. I find it pointless and a waste of energy. When I was a kid, I was on a swim team. I was there because I love to swim, and wanted to all the time. I tried to get out of going to meets because I could never wrap my head around why it mattered if one person got to the other side of the pool first. That's not to say I was slow and sore about it. I took first place in every style, not because I was trying to get there THE fastest, but because I was trying to get there MY fastest, just to see how fast I could go. I also threw competitions because people pushed me too hard (I was very good) and it killed it for me. Having people at the side of the pool screaming for me to get there first and acting like it was a big deal killed it for me. I could no longer enjoy myself because of their pointless competition, so while competing in backstroke, I decided to stay level with the slowest swimmer. I got chewed out for it, but it was worth it to be able to tell people that if they push me, I'll lose on purpose. I started getting pushed again so I told my mother I didn't want to swim any more and left the team.

That's fascinating. ... And you probably drove your coach crazy. I applaud you for realizing the foolishness of investing in the competition.

[StellaMarina]

I'm highly competitive when it comes to activities/subjects I know I'm very good at.
If that is the case I just NEED to win/be better than others. I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself because of it which is probably not very healthy.
When it comes to games however, I usually really couldn't care less.

[Headswabby]

I'm usually on the more competitive side. If it's worth doing, it's worth doing at 110%. That said, if I lose at whatever I'm competing at, I am not a sore loser and will congratulate the winner. But I'm definitely thinking of ways to win the next time I compete against that person.

[mieu]

More competitive than you.

That's right, all of you.

[Kyvan]

I always try to be better than the rest and when I see that I can't I give up immediately and start doing average, just enough to pass or whatever it is I'm trying to do.

Yes I'm competitive, and I'm really ashamed of it. If people realised about that I'd feel very embarrased.

[exceed]

I feel no motivation to compete with others at all. I like to keep my peace. If I'm in a competitive mood and I loose I'll feel bad - but if I take it more passively then it's no big deal.
I often ask myself: 'what's the point?'

That being said I always try to improve myself, which is kind of a competitiveness against myself.

[curiousgeorge01]

Not competitive at all. I find it gets in the way of improving yourself or doing things by your standards if you're trying to beat someone else....then you're going by THEIR standards.

[Warrior]

I can be at times, especially when I need to push myself or when something really matters. For example, I'll compete very hard sparring against someone that is younger or faster or stronger than me. It's a mindset I try to achieve.

However, I try not to let things go to far when it really doesn't matter. For example:

	Originally Posted by Mohammad To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	2. Mustang: My former manager was telling me about his new Mustang, and how it would beat my car in any race. I replied that it would certainly beat my car, but I would finish my circuit, then crash my car into his. I concluded saying that one of us would be crying then, and it wouldn't be me. I was met with stony silence.

Of course it wouldn't be you crying. You would be dead.

[Daes]

I am competitive where I am forced to be; for example, in a situation where I have to be better than others to be successful, you can bet I'll be competitive.

However, I try to avoid competition where I can. It brings out idiocy with astonishing speed in people.