[castalia]

Do you like it when women touch you casually on the art or back? How do you respond to physical touch by a woman you find attractive? Does it increase your interest in her and do you take actions?

[curiousgeorge01]

I don't think it's just INTJ males, males in general respond well to touch. Usually. It's because it so rarely happens.

[castalia]

	Originally Posted by curiousgeorge01 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I don't think it's just INTJ males, males in general respond well to touch. Usually. It's because it so rarely happens.

I wanted to hear specifically from INTJ males.

[Tinpusher]

I purr like a kitten, and run my nails through the rug...

Simply put, I like it naturally. We're social beings us humans, and it is nice to simply allow someone to be affectionate. So much societal convention in the west that says touching must have an underlying message and thus only contemplated between close family or potential sexual partners.

[Typhon]

I'd say it depends on the context. Having strangers touch me just makes me angry and aggressive since I feel like they are crowding me. When friends or partners touch me, on the other hand, it is just fine.

[sdfghj]

Totally depends on the Woman. I have felt revulsion upon being touched w/out my permission by a person I just didn't want to touch me. If I want it, it feels wonderful and lets me know better where she's at w/ me.

[happy]

There is a co-worker who is definitely an INT. In my entry on eye lock, I described our first meeting. Later on, he once touched my upper arm (although there was no need for it at all in that context) just to say 'hey'. I thought this was an indication that he did not dislike me. So, once I wanted a handshake from him and in the middle of the handshake he acted very weirdly. He pulled his hand back and pushed mine. I still don't know why he acted in such manner. I got really surprised (in a negative way) and left his office. While leaving, I've heard a timid 'see ya' from him. INT males are too complex for my understanding.

[castalia]

Originally Posted by happy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

There is a co-worker who is definitely an INT. In my entry on eye lock, I described our first meeting. Later on, he once touched my upper arm (although there was no need for it at all in that context) just to say 'hey'. I thought this was an indication that he did not dislike me. So, once I wanted a handshake from him and in the middle of the handshake he acted very weirdly. He pulled his hand back and pushed mine. I still don't know why he acted in such manner. I got really surprised (in a negative way) and left his office. While leaving, I've heard a timid 'see ya' from him. INT males are too complex for my understanding.

He may have been afraid of letting the F in him escape and overtake him.

[happy]

	Originally Posted by castalia To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	He may have been afraid of letting the F in him escape and overtake him.

I see but I don't see how I am supposed to behave around him anymore. I've told about the handshake disaster to another co-worker who I know is close to him (I framed it as a cultural difference). Surprisingly, during our last meeting, the INT guy himself offered his hand for a handshake and I felt it was time for revenge. I looked elsewhere while he was shaking my hand and I rushed to the door. He followed me till the door but said nothing. I still have no idea what this guy is about.

[themuzicman]

	Originally Posted by castalia To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Do you like it when women touch you casually on the art or back? How do you respond to physical touch by a woman you find attractive? Does it increase your interest in her and do you take actions?

To me, where and how a touch occurs says something about the motivation of the touch. Someone touching me in the back would indicate to me that I'm being pushed in a given direction, probably one I didn't want to or wasn't ready to go, and I wouldn't appreciate that at all.

[castalia]

Originally Posted by happy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I see but I don't see how I am supposed to behave around him anymore. I've told about the handshake disaster to another co-worker who I know is close to him (I framed it as a cultural difference). Surprisingly, during our last meeting, the INT guy himself offered his hand for a handshake and I felt it was time for revenge. I looked elsewhere while he was shaking my hand and I rushed to the door. He followed me till the door but said nothing. I still have no idea what this guy is about.

He might be an aspie.

[curiousgeorge01]

Originally Posted by happy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I see but I don't see how I am supposed to behave around him anymore. I've told about the handshake disaster to another co-worker who I know is close to him (I framed it as a cultural difference). Surprisingly, during our last meeting, the INT guy himself offered his hand for a handshake and I felt it was time for revenge. I looked elsewhere while he was shaking my hand and I rushed to the door. He followed me till the door but said nothing. I still have no idea what this guy is about.

He sounds like a freak. Why did you even bother getting revenge? Now it makes the first time obvious.

[SirJamesIII]

The only time I don't like it is when some girl is trying to flirt with me and I'm not attracted to them.

[Atamagahen]

I usually move my arm or whatever they're touching away from her.
I don't like physical contact much unless I was very familiar with said individual.

[ppu6502]

I start to kick my leg like a dog

[lancelot]

Sometimes it's refreshing for a woman to lighten the mood by touching and joking.

Sometimes I may be too reflective, or introspective, a woman putting her hand on my shoulder or arms around my waist is not a bad thing.

It doesn't happen that often.

Regarding the last part of your question. I like it if the woman is not married, I don't like being interested in someone then finding out she has a husband.

I think most people enjoy some physical contact becuase it makes us feel connected and accepted.

[StoltenStolten]

	Originally Posted by castalia To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Do you like it when women touch you casually on the art or back? How do you respond to physical touch by a woman you find attractive? Does it increase your interest in her and do you take actions?

The obvious is obvious: if it is a date, I consider it an invitation to touch her, make out, maybe more.

If it is not a date and circumstances are such that romantic interest seems unlikely, I find it confusing and disruptive. Even invasive and insulting.

Assuming I understand the question and the motive behind it: first set the mood. Then touch him. Dont touch him to set the mood.

[mieu]

Not a single "boner" response in this thread. I'm not even mad, I'm impressed.

[Frosted]

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	Do you like it when women touch you casually on the art or back? How do you respond to physical touch by a woman you find attractive? Does it increase your interest in her and do you take actions?

I become slightly aroused when touched by a female. i can feel the ever so slight increase of blood rush to my penis. I wonder if the same goes for some women but in terms of moister.

[Nostalgia]

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But seriously, I don't read anything into it. I think it is very natural for people to express a sense of camaraderie through some light touching. It is a display of friendliness and understanding, that is all.

[CakeZ]

It makes me nervous just because it feels good.
I think it is a bit odd to receive pleasure from the touch. No, no penis. My neck tingles and it moves down to my legs.

[Weltschmerzer]

I really dislike being touched by females--either because I dislike the person doing the touching or because it confuses me as to how I am supposed to respond and interact with the person moving forward. People should never touch one another without permission, except where there is danger or a standing understanding.

[stealthfighter]

The feeling is positive especially if it's an attractive female. I let them do that especially if there is no other obvious intention, but I prefer to avoid touching them in return.

[BlackMita]

This has only ever happened with people I don't trust, and it makes me uneasy. It feels like a serious gesture demanding some form of reciprocation, but obviously I can't because it's coming from someone too different from me. I would never touch people spontaneously. In the worst context it's intrusive, in the best it's a depressing validation of how different my upbringing is from theirs, so why even hang around them?

[Claudus]

Having recently found myself in circumstances that led to me being groped by dozens of women in various ways, I have to say it causes me to withdraw... touch conveys a lot of information, and it feels like someone is shouting at times.

If you want to communicate your feelings, use words, or at most a light touch...

Personally, I find that emotional communications tend to fly over my head, or slam into me...