[namaste]

So very soon my only friend would be shifting out of this colony the entire colony is empty as most of the people
have shifted out, we cant shift out since we dont have that kind of money
She was the only company i had and we used to take a walk every saturday....
none of my office colleagues are friends with me since they are younger, unmarried, college girls
who are working and doing college education through distance education. They almost ignore me.
There is just another old lady who calls me up sometimes as she lives alone and is sick
she asks me to attend spiritual class which i find boring and everything bounces above my head.
If i am left alone i will go mad......i dont know what to do
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[Laura C]

I'm sorry to hear that. But why do the younger girls ignore you?

[EdR]

Sorry to hear that.

You did type "since we don't have that kind of money" which means your family unit has other people. Is there any succor from the family unit?

[namaste]

	Originally Posted by Laura C To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm sorry to hear that. But why do the younger girls ignore you?

i am married middle aged woman with a kid...the younger girls cant relate much with me.

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	Originally Posted by EdR To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Sorry to hear that. You did type "since we don't have that kind of money" which means your family unit has other people. Is there any succor from the family unit?

i have a husband who is very very busy working and then home watching cricket
whereas my son is out playing whole day...........
nothing much to do with them

[andenika]

I know this may sound cheesy, but when I am left alone, I make friends with myself and partake in activities I enjoy. What do you enjoy doing? Getting lost in a hobby you absolutely love or perhaps volunteering is a great way to happily pass the time. You may find some new friends in the process.

[Laura C]

	Originally Posted by andenika To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I know this may sound cheesy, but when I am left alone, I make friends with myself and partake in activities I enjoy. What do you enjoy doing? Getting lost in a hobby you absolutely love or perhaps volunteering is a great way to happily pass the time. You may find some new friends in the process.

^ What I wanted to say. Also, I wanted to find out if you have indeed tried to make friends with the younger girls before you came to the conclusion that they won't have much in common with you? What about your neighbors?

[namaste]

	Originally Posted by andenika To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I know this may sound cheesy, but when I am left alone, I make friends with myself and partake in activities I enjoy. What do you enjoy doing? Getting lost in a hobby you absolutely love or perhaps volunteering is a great way to happily pass the time. You may find some new friends in the process.

i spend most of my time doing activities i enjoy like surfing net, painting, reading tarot or shopping, eating etc but i would still like to have friends.

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	Originally Posted by Laura C To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	^ What I wanted to say. Also, I wanted to find out if you have indeed tried to make friends with the younger girls before you came to the conclusion that they won't have much in common with you? What about your neighbors?

ya i tried to make friends with the younger girls but they would avoid me, they wont sit next to me when in office, they wont invite me to have lunch with them....they would call out to other girls to share lunch.
they wont answer my phone calls, neither reply to my messages....overall they were clearly insulting me.

i dont have any neighbours....there are no flats in my floor.

[Laura C]

Hmm, that is clearly tough. I just remembered a friend who shared a similar experience at work. My only advice to her was: to change her perspective - as in perhaps, the younger batch don't know how to relate to her as is with your case and she has since feel better about things. But I am not going to push as you clearly have tried.

As you mentioned everyone has moved out of the colony and you have no neighbors, how about hobby clubs, extended family, people from church/temple?
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If not, I guess online friends like people from this forum? Of course, to have a friend to be physically present would be better than online but it's still better than nothing.

[namaste]

Originally Posted by Laura C To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Hmm, that is clearly tough. I just remembered a friend who shared a similar experience at work. My only advice to her was: to change her perspective - as in perhaps, the younger batch don't know how to relate to her as is with your case and she has since feel better about things. But I am not going to push as you clearly have tried. As you mentioned everyone has moved out of the colony and you have no neighbors, how about hobby clubs, extended family, people from church/temple? To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. If not, I guess online friends like people from this forum? Of course, to have a friend to be physically present would be better than online but it's still better than nothing.

hobby clubs...hmmm....i spend a lot earlier in such clubs but couldnt keep any friends from there
extended family most of them have mental health issues they are reclusive no amount of cajoling them to socialise helps
i avoid temples/spiritual groups etc some eccentric superstitious people throb them

i prefer having physical friends.......
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[Laura C]

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yeah I know. Me too. But sometimes, I guess things just don't happen the way we want and an alternative is better than none, no?

Is there no way to keep in contact with your friend who is moving away? Phone call, Skype, email. At least there is something that you can look forward to?

[namaste]

Originally Posted by Laura C To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. A To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. yeah I know. Me too. But sometimes, I guess things just don't happen the way we want and an alternative is better than none, no? Is there no way to keep in contact with your friend who is moving away? Phone call, Skype, email. At least there is something that you can look forward to?

she isnt much of a social person also there are some problems she is facing with her husband
she doesnt have access to internet i might call her up sometimes...............but chances are less like i said she isnt much into socialising.

[Laura C]

In which case, I think maybe someone will come along in your area whom you can get along with. Until then, just hang in there and there's always INTJf.
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[namaste]

most of the people are leaving this area and moving away......i dont think anyone would come out here to live