Trying to lose my virginity - Page 3

**mllebrie** · 03-08-2012, 07:55 PM

Hey OP, I am a few years older than you and I'm in the same situation. But I don't really care, honestly. It's not worth doing something you're not ready to do because you feel pressure to do so.

If you're 19 and you haven't, I would guess that you're waiting for the right person to come along. And that's fine. It's not hard to get sex--there are plenty of willing participants out there. I understand your frustration because I've felt it, but if you
want a certain person, find the person.

I'm not touchy-flirty, either.

**Maximian** · 03-08-2012, 08:57 PM

	Originally Posted by Antares To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm 19 as well, admittedly not a virgin, but I don't see what the rush is. The best and safest way to procure sex is, of course, with a boyfriend, and if I weren't dating him you can be sure I'd still be a virgin. As far as flirting goes, I'm not a flirt either, but any of the above advice would do. Fortunately, I didn't have to flirt- a relationship just evolved from friendship.

My sentiments exactly, what's the rush to losing your virginity. Media/peer pressure?
When I first lost my virginity I thought I would be happy but I wasn't.

**Rexus** · 03-09-2012, 09:48 AM

	Originally Posted by delarocha420 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	yea about that... haha I don't really care I'm just really horny tbh

Well, that`s healthy. Err, why bother here? Get out, chill out and something will come along.

Improvise, damn it. Don`t read stuff here.

If you are so much interested in getting laid, that is.

And, tbh, if someone asked me to, I`d say,"why not?".

So. Ask.

And you shall receive
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**shytiger** · 03-09-2012, 04:45 PM

I think INTJs should rely on their strengths in strategy and planning to hook up with somebody. First, I think you need to meet or be aware of somebody in particular. In other words, pick a likely target. Then devise a strategy for getting from point A, where you are, to point B, under him (or on top if you like that).

**nolabel** · 03-09-2012, 05:31 PM

I hear there are a lot of charming people on Craigslist.

**Vermillion** · 03-09-2012, 09:57 PM

Don't listen to everyone saying you should stay a virgin delarocha. Sex is fun, and there is no reason not to be doing it as long as you are responsible and stay safe.
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And here's another tip, the first time isn't magical. Most likely it's going to kind of suck because you won't know what the hell you're doing. Sex is an art form, you get better with practice.

	Originally Posted by LizzyGirl To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Don't make such a big deal about getting laid. I lost my virginity at 19 to a guy who wasn't worth it and have regretted it ever since.

If getting laid isn't a big deal then logically you have nothing to regret about your first time.
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**zibber** · 03-09-2012, 11:51 PM

	Originally Posted by Maximian To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	My sentiments exactly, what's the rush to losing your virginity. Media/peer pressure?

Yep.

It's like some box that has to be ticked off. (No pun intended.)

**Loneliness** · 03-10-2012, 12:52 AM

We're the same, except that i'm a guy. Virginity hasn't been bothering me, though. I prefer being emotionally close to someone.

**Rexus** · 03-10-2012, 04:01 AM

	Originally Posted by Loneliness To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	We're the same, except that i'm a guy. Virginity hasn't been bothering me, though. I prefer being emotionally close to someone.

Yeah, that. Much more fulfilling if you ask me. More...content, that way.

But then again, that is me, so take it for what it is.

Storm · 03-10-2012, 08:29 AM

For all the people saying that women can just ask for sex and get it. First, that's not true with all men. Second, many of the men that would accept such an invitation would then turn around and talk about what a slut you are and describe your sexual experience in detail to strangers. I have seen people to do this, especially young men, but even older men.

OP, it sounds like you really want to get together with your friend. This may sound little lame, but try doing something like holding his hand and see how he reacts. If you want a kind of buffer, rent a horror movie and use the scary moments as an excuse to squeeze him. If he likes you, he'll squeeze back. If he doesn't, he'll try to distance himself from you. If he doesn't feel the same way, don't worry, the awkwardness will probably go away within a couple of weeks.

**sevans** · 03-10-2012, 08:56 AM

Originally Posted by Storm
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For all the people saying that women can just ask for sex and get it. First, that's not true with all men. Second, many of the men that would accept such an invitation would then turn around and talk about what a slut you are and describe your sexual experience in detail to strangers. I have seen people to do this, especially young men, but even older men.

OP, it sounds like you really want to get together with your friend. This may sound little lame, but try doing something like holding his hand and see how he reacts. If you want a kind of buffer, rent a horror movie and use the scary moments as an excuse to squeeze him. If he likes you, he'll squeeze back. If he doesn't, he'll try to distance himself from you. If he doesn't feel the same way, don't worry, the awkwardness will probably go away within a couple of weeks.

I'm going to second what Storm said here. Personally, my NT is much heavier weighted than my I and J so it takes me a while to figure out the real meaning behind the words people say. That said, if I'm physically touched I'm much more likely to realize that I'm not just being toyed with. Grabbing, squeezing, and holding, really anything close proximity anyway shows interest pretty obviously, so even someone like me would be able to understand it. There are very few people I let touch me, and I'm not a touchy person myself, so if I let someone touch me or if I hug someone it means one of two things; I really fucking like you, or you've done something that really made me happy and I like you enough to touch you.

**qstoffe** · 03-10-2012, 09:13 AM

	Originally Posted by Storm To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	For all the people saying that women can just ask for sex and get it. First, that's not true with all men.

Yeah you're right, not all men. Especially since women only tend to see men with lots and lots of options. For the average man it is certainly true.

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	Second, many of the men that would accept such an invitation would then turn around and talk about what a slut you are and describe your sexual experience in detail to strangers. I have seen people to do this, especially young men, but even older men.

IMO such comments are much more likely to come from men who get rejected or eventually get rejected. I've never heard anyone that actually did get lucky say something like that.

**taciturn** · 03-10-2012, 09:41 AM

I don't know about this. When it really gets down to it your body's the only thing you have. It's a reciprocal gift when you have sex with someone. Sure, you can do the whole re-gifting thing and sleep with Tom Dick or Harry, or someone you don't care for, but that just devalues the gift. And suddenly, the only thing you have (you) is being treated like an object by the most unlikely criminal (yourself). Honor yourself and treat yourself like a prize, nothing simply a thing you're desperate to give away...

**vmann17** · 03-10-2012, 10:53 AM

I'm not usually someone to offer such personal advice to a stranger, but assuming we think the same (INTJ) I'll try and help you out. Pick a guy you know in life that you're attracted to, is single (optional i guess), and you know you would never marry (as this proabably isn't a good start to a good future) . If you are attractive (in his league or more) then pull him aside one day and ask to talk about something personal. He'll of course say thats fine and be interested in what you have to say. Then be flat out with him: "I know this is wierd, but I just really want to lose my virginity. Would you help me? No strings attached, I promise..."

Guranteed to work.

That being said, like above forum users have said, take some serious thought about whether you want to go about it this way (just to get it out of the way), because you could regret it down the road.

**Fox** · 03-10-2012, 01:49 PM

If you are trying eventually you will lose and likely to regret it. You won't regret it if losing it comes naturally. Date with the goal of meeting someone you connect with. Don't date just for the someone who will take your virginity away.

**Loneliness** · 03-10-2012, 02:04 PM

Originally Posted by vmann17
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I'm not usually someone to offer such personal advice to a stranger, but assuming we think the same (INTJ) I'll try and help you out. Pick a guy you know in life that you're attracted to, is single (optional i guess), and you know you would never marry (as this proabably isn't a good start to a good future) . If you are attractive (in his league or more) then pull him aside one day and ask to talk about something personal. He'll of course say thats fine and be interested in what you have to say. Then be flat out with him: "I know this is wierd, but I just really want to lose my virginity. Would you help me? No strings attached, I promise..."

If i were that random guy, i would probably accept it. Not even sure why, though. Probably only to help her being more confident. And it's really interesting and exciting experience. I wish girls were actually doing it this way :D...

... but they don't and that's why it seems like an awful advice.
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**Sniped Soul** · 03-13-2012, 10:05 PM

Step 1) Locate a man with a pulse
Step 2) Smile at him
Step 3a) Compliment his masculinity (strength, status, etc)
Step 3b) Laugh at his jokes
Step 4) Suggest you go be alone together
Step 5) Hooray!

**Hitmankaiser** · 03-13-2012, 10:15 PM

Okay well I have somewhat had the same problem, and Im a guy. I have been told that I can get almost any girl I want with looks, but the problem is that I dont know how to properly flirt with girls. After being in a 3 year relationship, my game has sunk to NONE. If you want to get with a guy and have him fuck you that day, all you have to do is smile at him and let him know that you like his face XD No but all jokes aside, if he thinks you like how he looks, he will think you want him. Its really easy.

**Sethis** · 03-14-2012, 06:09 AM

Dress slutty, get some booze and be receptive to moves men will make. It's not that hard really.

About people saying that you just have to come up to a guy and ask for it...I believe that if you are decent looking there's a great chance you will get a positive answer.

In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with it and, if anything, I'd appreciate her honesty. Sex is fun. There's nothing to feel guilty about it.

**IndustrialSX** · 03-16-2012, 11:06 AM

Simple. Both of you guys get buzzed. Bring him into a room. Start flirting. Lean into a kiss. And once things get hot, get naked. But if he refuses after you get naked, find another guy.

**Dougler** · 03-17-2012, 12:11 AM

if ur 19 and in college you must be partying everyweekend if not more. probably with guys you would consider fuckable. one of those guys you think is fuckable probably would be down to have sex with you if they're normal and you don't come across as desperate. I mean I'm a regular guy and if it was me, and I had some drinks in me, and you had some drinks in you, all I would need is a quick "I want you." dont jump right to that. maybe give it a shot on a night you and a guy u like are really clicking you know. A girl whispering that in my ear...wow, you'd have to be a fool to turn it down...sorry im not approaching the OP with an emotionally/lovey-dovey mind state

**Sparko** · 03-17-2012, 03:57 AM

This post made me really sad. It's disheartening to live in a time when virginity is something to "rid" ones-self of.

We have been ignorant about sex for a long time in Western culture and our attitudes about it this day-in-age speak to that. To the dear OP, I say this as someone who is genuinely interested in your wellbeing, sex is not something that just impacts the body, it effects the whole person, the mind, the heart, the body and the spirit. Not being conscious of these implications or not understanding them does not mean they do not exist. What I can tell you, and what we do know for sure, is that when you have sex with someone who values you in your wholeness, and can be intimately available with you in every way, it is what is possible for us to have and be as evolved, enlightened human beings.

Please do not let the voice of culture let you settle for less than one of the most phenomenal experiences a human being can have, sex within a loving, committed relationship. When I say commitment, I do not simply mean marriage, I mean the intellectual commitment to live in support of one anothers lives. Once you choose that for yourself, you will naturally set a higher standard for yourself which others will also see and reciprocate. You'll have the interest of more potential partners as well as their respect. Then you can choose who you want to be intimate with based on your own standards, and no who will simply take your virginity away. You don't need to flirt and be half naked, your being will attract people to you.

holdyourhead · 03-18-2012, 02:39 AM

Some might be saying you shouldn't just try to lose your virginity with anyone to "check that box". But I think no matter what, sex means different things to different people, and they are going by their own experience. Sure, some people regret losing their virginity too soon or with the wrong person, but others couldn't care less. I personally wouldn't care. In another sense, for most there's never gonna be the "right" person to lose it with because if it's your first relationship or first sexual experience there's a much higher chance it will just be a learning experience rather than a serious thing. So it's not really going to ever be the right person is it? No matter how long you wait, for some people the first time is always "regretted". So it in effect becomes a barrier they need to get past, in order to get to doing something with someone for the second time which they don't regret. I think as long as you are both consenting, and have a mature attitude towards sex and each other's privacy, then it's not a big deal who it's with...

I'm sure there are exceptions where people have lost their virginity after waiting for the "right" person, and not regretted it as a result when they felt they otherwise would have, but I think those are few and far between and it's a false hope usually. I would imagine that, for these people, the first sexual relationship is often also in someone's first serious relationship. But statisticly, there's not many people who's first relationship lasts. This surely means that with their logic it was still the wrong person to have sex with, and was not the "right" person they were waiting for...

As I said in another thread it's just another form of intimacy for me personally. Not a whole lot different to kissing or cuddling, but simply greater in the level of pleasure it gives. I don't attach any special meanings to it. So, one could be an "intimacy virgin" equally as one can be a sex virgin, and want to change that. In terms of virginity itself, I don't think it would be wholly relevant for me. But in terms of being intimacy starved, then it can be a much greater bother than being an intimacy virgin.

You only live once, and for me and many others, there's little point in stopping yourself experience something in life which doesn't have to hurt anyone, for the sake of stigmas about not having a casual sexual experience, if it's something you would like to do. You could get struck down dead tomorrow and the chance to experience life is gone. Live every day as if it's your last (within reason). If something is safe and is going to be enjoyable, and doesn't hurt anyone, and you want to do it, then do it! Sex, or otherwise. If you're strong enough to not give a fuck what other people might think. It all depends on the individual and their wants, not anyone else's here or elsewhere. On that note, it's not something I would want to seek out myself under most circumstances (that is, casual intimacy) but if I was lonely I might be open to it if it gives me a few moments of enjoyment which is better than having none at all.

**babsa** · 03-18-2012, 09:56 AM

Originally Posted by mllebrie
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Hey OP, I am a few years older than you and I'm in the same situation. But I don't really care, honestly. It's not worth doing something you're not ready to do because you feel pressure to do so.

If you're 19 and you haven't, I would guess that you're waiting for the right person to come along. And that's fine. It's not hard to get sex--there are plenty of willing participants out there. I understand your frustration because I've felt it, but if you
want a certain person, find the person.

I'm not touchy-flirty, either.

Yes, you should make sure to read this thoroughly OP. Why do you care so much about sex? People say it is not a big deal that you are a virgin, but then they turn around and make a huge deal about it when they find out. It obviously is a big deal to them, and you should ask yourself why it is a big deal to you. If it is simply to say that you are no longer a virgin, or to just experience sex, i am not sure what to tell you. I suppose my idealistic thoughts are getting the better of me.

**Litchee** · 03-18-2012, 02:18 PM

The way I see it, it's a little bit like the OP was saying "I have never eaten grapefruit and I want to try".
She doesn't feel like she's worthless for never having eaten grapefruit, she doesn't want to do it just to claim "HEY EVERYONE I KNOW WHAT GRAPEFRUIT TASTES LIKE".
She just wants to experience something that she feel is important in a human life and she doesn't really know how to get into it. That's all.
As long as she's cautious and understand the emotional implications that inevitably stem from a sexual encounter between two people, I don't see why it should be that big a deal.
We all want to experience things in life.

03-08-2012, 07:55 PM	#51
mllebrie Member [37%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 1,510	Hey OP, I am a few years older than you and I'm in the same situation. But I don't really care, honestly. It's not worth doing something you're not ready to do because you feel pressure to do so. If you're 19 and you haven't, I would guess that you're waiting for the right person to come along. And that's fine. It's not hard to get sex--there are plenty of willing participants out there. I understand your frustration because I've felt it, but if you want a certain person, find the person. I'm not touchy-flirty, either.
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03-09-2012, 04:45 PM	#54
shytiger Member [22%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 895	I think INTJs should rely on their strengths in strategy and planning to hook up with somebody. First, I think you need to meet or be aware of somebody in particular. In other words, pick a likely target. Then devise a strategy for getting from point A, where you are, to point B, under him (or on top if you like that).
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03-09-2012, 05:31 PM	#55
nolabel Member [06%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 279	I hear there are a lot of charming people on Craigslist.
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03-10-2012, 12:52 AM	#58
Loneliness Member [38%] MBTI: Infj Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 1,534	We're the same, except that i'm a guy. Virginity hasn't been bothering me, though. I prefer being emotionally close to someone.
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03-10-2012, 08:29 AM	#60
Storm Administrator MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,776	For all the people saying that women can just ask for sex and get it. First, that's not true with all men. Second, many of the men that would accept such an invitation would then turn around and talk about what a slut you are and describe your sexual experience in detail to strangers. I have seen people to do this, especially young men, but even older men. OP, it sounds like you really want to get together with your friend. This may sound little lame, but try doing something like holding his hand and see how he reacts. If you want a kind of buffer, rent a horror movie and use the scary moments as an excuse to squeeze him. If he likes you, he'll squeeze back. If he doesn't, he'll try to distance himself from you. If he doesn't feel the same way, don't worry, the awkwardness will probably go away within a couple of weeks.
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03-10-2012, 09:41 AM	#63
taciturn Member [06%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 269	I don't know about this. When it really gets down to it your body's the only thing you have. It's a reciprocal gift when you have sex with someone. Sure, you can do the whole re-gifting thing and sleep with Tom Dick or Harry, or someone you don't care for, but that just devalues the gift. And suddenly, the only thing you have (you) is being treated like an object by the most unlikely criminal (yourself). Honor yourself and treat yourself like a prize, nothing simply a thing you're desperate to give away...
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03-10-2012, 10:53 AM	#64
vmann17 New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 24	I'm not usually someone to offer such personal advice to a stranger, but assuming we think the same (INTJ) I'll try and help you out. Pick a guy you know in life that you're attracted to, is single (optional i guess), and you know you would never marry (as this proabably isn't a good start to a good future) . If you are attractive (in his league or more) then pull him aside one day and ask to talk about something personal. He'll of course say thats fine and be interested in what you have to say. Then be flat out with him: "I know this is wierd, but I just really want to lose my virginity. Would you help me? No strings attached, I promise..." Guranteed to work. That being said, like above forum users have said, take some serious thought about whether you want to go about it this way (just to get it out of the way), because you could regret it down the road.
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03-10-2012, 01:49 PM	#65
Fox Member [46%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,842	If you are trying eventually you will lose and likely to regret it. You won't regret it if losing it comes naturally. Date with the goal of meeting someone you connect with. Don't date just for the someone who will take your virginity away.
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03-13-2012, 10:05 PM	#67
Sniped Soul Member [08%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 321	Step 1) Locate a man with a pulse Step 2) Smile at him Step 3a) Compliment his masculinity (strength, status, etc) Step 3b) Laugh at his jokes Step 4) Suggest you go be alone together Step 5) Hooray!
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03-13-2012, 10:15 PM	#68
Hitmankaiser Member [05%] MBTI: ENTP Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 236	Okay well I have somewhat had the same problem, and Im a guy. I have been told that I can get almost any girl I want with looks, but the problem is that I dont know how to properly flirt with girls. After being in a 3 year relationship, my game has sunk to NONE. If you want to get with a guy and have him fuck you that day, all you have to do is smile at him and let him know that you like his face XD No but all jokes aside, if he thinks you like how he looks, he will think you want him. Its really easy.
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03-14-2012, 06:09 AM	#69
Sethis Member [23%] MBTI: iNTj Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 954	Dress slutty, get some booze and be receptive to moves men will make. It's not that hard really. About people saying that you just have to come up to a guy and ask for it...I believe that if you are decent looking there's a great chance you will get a positive answer. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with it and, if anything, I'd appreciate her honesty. Sex is fun. There's nothing to feel guilty about it.
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03-16-2012, 11:06 AM	#70
IndustrialSX New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 24	Simple. Both of you guys get buzzed. Bring him into a room. Start flirting. Lean into a kiss. And once things get hot, get naked. But if he refuses after you get naked, find another guy.
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03-17-2012, 12:11 AM	#71
Dougler New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 28	if ur 19 and in college you must be partying everyweekend if not more. probably with guys you would consider fuckable. one of those guys you think is fuckable probably would be down to have sex with you if they're normal and you don't come across as desperate. I mean I'm a regular guy and if it was me, and I had some drinks in me, and you had some drinks in you, all I would need is a quick "I want you." dont jump right to that. maybe give it a shot on a night you and a guy u like are really clicking you know. A girl whispering that in my ear...wow, you'd have to be a fool to turn it down...sorry im not approaching the OP with an emotionally/lovey-dovey mind state
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03-17-2012, 03:57 AM	#72
Sparko Member [06%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 269	This post made me really sad. It's disheartening to live in a time when virginity is something to "rid" ones-self of. We have been ignorant about sex for a long time in Western culture and our attitudes about it this day-in-age speak to that. To the dear OP, I say this as someone who is genuinely interested in your wellbeing, sex is not something that just impacts the body, it effects the whole person, the mind, the heart, the body and the spirit. Not being conscious of these implications or not understanding them does not mean they do not exist. What I can tell you, and what we do know for sure, is that when you have sex with someone who values you in your wholeness, and can be intimately available with you in every way, it is what is possible for us to have and be as evolved, enlightened human beings. Please do not let the voice of culture let you settle for less than one of the most phenomenal experiences a human being can have, sex within a loving, committed relationship. When I say commitment, I do not simply mean marriage, I mean the intellectual commitment to live in support of one anothers lives. Once you choose that for yourself, you will naturally set a higher standard for yourself which others will also see and reciprocate. You'll have the interest of more potential partners as well as their respect. Then you can choose who you want to be intimate with based on your own standards, and no who will simply take your virginity away. You don't need to flirt and be half naked, your being will attract people to you.
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03-18-2012, 02:39 AM	#73
holdyourhead Member [29%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 1,162	Some might be saying you shouldn't just try to lose your virginity with anyone to "check that box". But I think no matter what, sex means different things to different people, and they are going by their own experience. Sure, some people regret losing their virginity too soon or with the wrong person, but others couldn't care less. I personally wouldn't care. In another sense, for most there's never gonna be the "right" person to lose it with because if it's your first relationship or first sexual experience there's a much higher chance it will just be a learning experience rather than a serious thing. So it's not really going to ever be the right person is it? No matter how long you wait, for some people the first time is always "regretted". So it in effect becomes a barrier they need to get past, in order to get to doing something with someone for the second time which they don't regret. I think as long as you are both consenting, and have a mature attitude towards sex and each other's privacy, then it's not a big deal who it's with... I'm sure there are exceptions where people have lost their virginity after waiting for the "right" person, and not regretted it as a result when they felt they otherwise would have, but I think those are few and far between and it's a false hope usually. I would imagine that, for these people, the first sexual relationship is often also in someone's first serious relationship. But statisticly, there's not many people who's first relationship lasts. This surely means that with their logic it was still the wrong person to have sex with, and was not the "right" person they were waiting for... As I said in another thread it's just another form of intimacy for me personally. Not a whole lot different to kissing or cuddling, but simply greater in the level of pleasure it gives. I don't attach any special meanings to it. So, one could be an "intimacy virgin" equally as one can be a sex virgin, and want to change that. In terms of virginity itself, I don't think it would be wholly relevant for me. But in terms of being intimacy starved, then it can be a much greater bother than being an intimacy virgin. You only live once, and for me and many others, there's little point in stopping yourself experience something in life which doesn't have to hurt anyone, for the sake of stigmas about not having a casual sexual experience, if it's something you would like to do. You could get struck down dead tomorrow and the chance to experience life is gone. Live every day as if it's your last (within reason). If something is safe and is going to be enjoyable, and doesn't hurt anyone, and you want to do it, then do it! Sex, or otherwise. If you're strong enough to not give a fuck what other people might think. It all depends on the individual and their wants, not anyone else's here or elsewhere. On that note, it's not something I would want to seek out myself under most circumstances (that is, casual intimacy) but if I was lonely I might be open to it if it gives me a few moments of enjoyment which is better than having none at all.
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03-18-2012, 02:18 PM	#75
Litchee Veteran Member [58%] MBTI: INFP Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,349	The way I see it, it's a little bit like the OP was saying "I have never eaten grapefruit and I want to try". She doesn't feel like she's worthless for never having eaten grapefruit, she doesn't want to do it just to claim "HEY EVERYONE I KNOW WHAT GRAPEFRUIT TASTES LIKE". She just wants to experience something that she feel is important in a human life and she doesn't really know how to get into it. That's all. As long as she's cautious and understand the emotional implications that inevitably stem from a sexual encounter between two people, I don't see why it should be that big a deal. We all want to experience things in life.
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