[Overanalyzer]

In the beginning or does it happen gradually for you?

[Hiro]

You mean when do I become the one mostly initiating? That never happens. About 6 months in I might start initiating some hang-outs. Probably wouldn't make a habit of it though.

[Squid]

I can be the initiator in friendships IF I meet the person online. Because then I can formulate what I am going to say. In person, it never happens. Though after I know someone I don't have a problem initiating hangouts, but that's generally after they initiate the friendship.

[AnaK]

	Originally Posted by Hiro To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	You mean when do I become the one mostly initiating? That never happens. About 6 months in I might start initiating some hang-outs. Probably wouldn't make a habit of it though.

Why not?

[Zsych]

Fun isn't high on my agenda lately so I'm not dragging friends out except for periodic fun stuff to maintain relationships with old friends.

[Owfin]

Friendship: Yes. Almost always.

Hangouts: No.

[Overanalyzer]

If someone offer you to be the initiator (you can call me whenever, etc) would you think it is odd? Or take them up on it?

[Suzumiya]

All my friendships are accidental.
I don't feel they are necessary, but they're a nice bonus in life regardless.

Hangouts? Nah, I am a full time NEET.

[nErD]

I don't even remember how I became friends with most of the people I'm friends with & I've definitely never initiated a hangout.

[JTG]

	Originally Posted by Overanalyzer To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	If someone offer you to be the initiator (you can call me whenever, etc) would you think it is odd? Or take them up on it?

I think it depends on the wording and the person. In general "call me whenever you want" would be taken as "you have an open invitation to call at any time of day" while something like "give me a call sometime" is much more non-committal.

Then there's the person to consider. Some people will give a number when requested out of courtesy, even if they have no desire of answering when the actual call comes. I generally stop trying to make contact with these types of people very quickly.

[Ferbguy101]

No, almost never, it just forces you into a situation, Initiating in hangouts alter your plans too much and makes the situation almost manadory, friendship isn't supposed to be that way

[Social Original]

I seem to be far different than most people on this, probably from my pragmatic interpretations of my experiences with these sorts of things over the years compared to my preference for some social involvement in my life. Amongst friends, I’m almost always doing the initiating. If I didn’t, I would rarely be invited to anything, and we’d probably share quite little time socializing as they typically don’t like initiating social activities. As well, with people I’m interested in befriending, I’ll usually coordinate something (depending on the situation) and offer them an invitation to it. I believe that if I don’t do this, nothing will happen between us, especially as strangers rarely initiate first contact with me.

[Persona]

Yes to both, but rarely. I don't want to seem too clingy o.o

[Distance]

My real life friends are all raging extroverts so they do the initiating...always! Had some of them over tonight for a pot luck. It was initially their idea and since most often, we go to their places, tonight, it was only fair it was at my place.

But yes, it's very rare that I initiate friendships or hangouts. Not sure why beyond being that way most of my life, since I'm content being with people (even though some can burn me out quickly) but also, content without.

[GSOgymrat]

I am usually the initiator with the activities with my friends. I am always the one calling people saying let's go to the beach, let's go see a movie, let's try out that new restaurant. I usually don't initiate friendships.

[Paul Siraisi]

"Friendships"? "Hangouts"? I don't do those.

[Megalomania]

Never.

[eagleseven]

I often initiate, but others usually pick up the slack. I'm starting to suspect that my I is weaker than others here.

Me: "We haven't chatted in a while. Take-out at my place?"

Friend: "I agree, but I'm tired of couch-surfing. Let's hit a bar."

Me: "I'm hungry so they better serve food."

Friend: "Don't worry. I'll see if anyone wants to come along."

[Madisonkc]

Yeah, I do attempt to initiate friendships and hangouts. It just takes a lot of emotional and social effort out of me, and I usually need an occasional break to re-charge.

[Ricardo Diaz]

Yes almost always the one to call anyone. This may be because I'm always busy with my own thoughts or activities and even if I do answer the phone, I'm not going to be swayed into meeting them unless I want to. It's not a time thing, it's selfish priorities. Most of my friends understand that. It isn't being rude, I'll usually say "I'll call you back in a couple of hours or tomorrow", and I do call and set up something up for later. And I'm fine with people who do the same to me.

[Chowder]

Tried several times. Didn't work.

[pECUliar]

I rarely ever initiate anything. It isn't based in fear of rejection or anything similar - it's based on the fact that my brain is usually a closed system. I think more of concepts than anything else, and concepts never leave me wanting to reach out - instead they give me the urge to dive in.

I've gone months without talking to friends before, and when they get ahold of me I'll usually be kind of surprised when they tell me "it's been forever man, I thought you were dead!" No matter how much I love someone, it almost takes a miracle for me to actually think about them. Well, unless there is sex involved. I'm a horny ass dude
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