[DualityComplex]

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	The only INTJ I know gives off a very intimidating aura, even when he doesn't mean to. I don't mean the spiritual aura, he just seems very intimidating. Why is this?

I've been told many times that I am "intimidating." I find this very hard to believe considering that I'm 5'1" and 110 lbs; but, nonetheless, it happens. I think that many INTJs come off as being severe or somewhat robotic. Most INTJs are sure of themselves and tend to exude a sort of serious competence, which many people find intimidating.

It could also be that he's very involved with something going on in his head and is completely unaware of his body language. That certainly happens to me quite a bit. Plus, INTJs just don't care how they come off to other people, so they don't bother to put on those friendly faces just to make other people feel better around them...

[MissionPossible]

I tend to forget that others can find me intimidating.

Maybe its time for yet another sticky note.

I don't bite...at least not viciously....usually. However, I am usually very clear about where I stand; where you stand; how and why your claims are right or wrong or in the gray area; and what I want; what I don't want; and where I go from there. If YOU are the vicious type, I 'll let you know that I'll cut you off at the knees and render you harmless if you have the nerve to try to be harmful. Other than that basic no-nonsense self defense plan; a well-armed debater; and an independent person, I am relatively harmless.

[Social Torture]

This is just my 2 coins being flung at the topic. So my 23 1/2 personalities and I had a sit down discussion and came to the conclusion that it's because I'm always "focused on the mission". In terms of conquering the mall... Men, this is a snatch and grab mission. We infiltrate the perimeter, get what we went there for and stick to the list, and make our way to the extraction point. Do not engage unless engaged upon... in conversation that is. You have 15 minutes. Everyone synchronize your watches. Move out!

[holdyourhead]

I don't believe I come off as intimidating. Maybe cold and distant at worst?

If anything throughout my life I think at times I've given more of an impression that people can "walk all over me". Quite the opposite to intimidating.

[Monte314]

I think mostly its just opting for cheap deoderant.

[dodaive]

INTxs are in their head most of the time(myself included). Working on something with your mind takes you out of this world and tends to make it appear as if the person is giving everyone the cold shoulder. Spending so much time in one's head tends to cause a person to lose practice with social skills. I've read somewhere that INTxs can almost exclude body language as a part of communication. An SJ/SP can place up to 60% of the emphasis of communication on body language and tone of voice alone. I'll find that reference if anyone is interested.

[deconspire]

I wear that look on my face because I don't want any of you to fucking bother me with your petty bullshit. I'm doing something here, or in my head, so don't bother me I'm busy.

[TheStranger]

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	I wear that look on my face because I don't want any of you to fucking bother me with your petty bullshit. I'm doing something here, or in my head, so don't bother me I'm busy.

Same. Although I affect an expression of apathy or mild depression (when really it's just lethargy), I suppose it intimidates others, or at least discourages them from talking to me. But yeah, most of the time I don't care enough to put on an urbane mask. Whether or not I'm engaging in self-destruction is besides the point.

[Rachel45]

I have always been considered to be intimidating...I deploy the "look but don't touch" maneuver without even knowing I am doing it...Apparently, people seem to be quite surprised to find I am (for the most part) a pussycat...then they are loyal as all hell...as I am to them (classmates, friends, etc)...

[LavenderOrchids]

I certainly do, always have. It's a mixture of misanthropy, being too busy in my head, and maybe because I'm feeling bitchy at that time, and/or don't feel like acting socially correct.

It does get in the way when I am around people I'd like to maybe get to know and I can't get rid of my bitch face. But comes in handy for warding off most idiots.

[vmann17]

Those we see as inferiors can feel our judging, dissaproving gaze. It burns a hole in them, causing intimidation and many times hate. I feel like it's unavoidable unless you suppress the way you truly feel so they don't get a threatening perception.

[holdyourhead]

I'm actually really surpised by all these responses, and the phenomenon of the "death glare" as I think it's sometimes referred to on this site.

It has always been completely different for me. For the years that I had a self-consuming death glare 90% of the time, people were not intimidated in the slightest. It was quite the opposite. My family and their friends would laugh at me and take the piss out of it and belittle me during all of those years... e.g. one would say to another, "he looks like a psycho, like he's gonna kill someone" referring to me, and laugh out loud about before ignoring me and carrying on talking about whatever.

I'd still had a bit of that even in recent years without so much of a glare, from a few people at the place I used to work.

[idoj]

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I'm actually really surpised by all these responses, and the phenomenon of the "death glare" as I think it's sometimes referred to on this site. It has always been completely different for me. For the years that I had a self-consuming death 90% of the time, people were not intimidating in the slightest. It was quite the opposite. They would laugh at me and take the piss out of it and belittle me...

There's almost nothing worse than being so angry you could spit, and being so cute that angry is amusing... during other emotions; I suppose I'm grateful that my face defuses anger... likely keeps my original packaging in "Mint condition"...

[holdyourhead]

Hmm.

I guess that was one of the drawbacks of me looking so youthful.

[teraczy]

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	I have always been considered to be intimidating...I deploy the "look but don't touch" maneuver without even knowing I am doing it...Apparently, people seem to be quite surprised to find I am (for the most part) a pussycat...then they are loyal as all hell...as I am to them (classmates, friends, etc)...

I could apply this to myself, although with me I've often thought it was due to my stature and dark eyes. It can be a powerful tool, but most of the time I'd rather be less intimidating and more approachable.

[Social Torture]

I'm sure that a brutally honest intellectual beatdown can look intimidating. To put it another way, if you ask me a question, brace yourself. Now if you ask me a stupid question, I'll have no choice but to unleash the wrath of my extreme sarcasm upon you.

[mllebrie]

I've been told that I'm scary. In fact, one person flat out told me that "I thought you were a huge bitch until I got to know you, now I know you're really cool." Kind of a compliment, I guess?

I think it comes from this nonchalance about what people think of INTJs. I have it. I don't care if you don't like what I say, or think I'm strange, or whatever. That's the way I am. If you don't like it, bite me.

I guess that's a bit intimidating, yeah.

[Fizzwidget]

Most other personalities have a warmth to them because of the life around them. Society is their fuel. For an INTJ we lack that warmth unless there is a topic that entices us. We can be quite enchanting, animated, and even cuddly when we have some idea running through us like a fever and someone willing to discuss it intelligently. Since that can be hard to find most days we stand quietly lost in our own thoughts and observations while the buzz of humanity tries to distract us. Interruptions can cause us to come across rather harshly and while we can learn to rein that in and respond more appropriately...we have to be motivated to do so. Then again once that skill is learned we have to be 'aware' enough to actually remember to use those skills.

[PlatoHagel]

By rejecting authority....we may come off as intimidating/arrogant? Body size, can just add to it even though you may be small in stature. Impressionable?

You could even say this may be a contributor figure to interpreting bullying, by its design unbridled?....yet you can be very aware of what bullying means? We see things differently...and indeed sometimes it comes off as impatience.....why others not being able to see it the same way.
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Yet, we can reject leadership and sit back....knowing full well "we can lead." That there always is a better way?
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Will step in, when it is needed or required.

They may even appear as psychotic....yet they may be deeply in tune with their emotions, their thoughts, and their feelings for others. One never disregards their upbringing whoever( all of what their child hood encompasses) or, the commanding nature we all have as parents(how we were raised), but we seek to follow the middle way in trying to be an adult. Deal with adult situations. Deal with childish behavior, our own, our authoritarian parental, to see that it is better to deal with the adult middle way. It is always "a work" in progress.

[Shane Sanders]

My aloofness is often compounded by poor eyesight. Unless I have my glasses on, I can't really see expressions on other people very well, especially if we are approaching each other in a hallway. This makes me look away from people (rather than meeting their eyes using some sort of guesswork as to what they are doing in response to my looking at them). Make sense? Anyway, it's not doing me any favors socially, but I constantly forget to put on my glasses when I leave my computer.

[OwenF]

Auras are explained by
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. Most synesthetes report that the INTJ aura is a grayish mauve.

Not mauvish gray, mind you. Grayish mauve.

[Alberto]

because whatever we do, we excel in no time. Give an INTJ one year, and he will be able to do whatever it was better than guys who had been there 5 years. This feature is sensed by others before it displays its results.

At first one may think that's cool, it's only after a few years that you understand that's your damnation. Coworkers will hate you because you make them look lazy and stupid, and bosses will hate you because they see in you a potential competitor in the future. Potential partners don't take you in consideration because they want something simpler.

You're hated because you're good (not even "too" good - just good is enough).
You're in good company too - beginning with Christ at least.

Besides, you care, you believe. In a world where nobody cares, and people believe by convenience or by route. You are seen as a severe reminder of the compromise they once did.

[Samoan Corleone]

I'm not exceptionally tall or muscular so I need a defence mechanism of some kind.

[nowt]

If only it fucking worked.

[Dull Spoon]

because I know that you know that I'm observing you like a lab rat while you awkwardly twist in the conversational winds