What is/was your role in your family? - Page 3

**Findley** · 11-23-2011, 11:50 AM

The perfect child. The explainer. The therapist. The devil's advocate. And, more often than not, the-guy-who's-mad-because-everyone-is-acting-really-dumb.

**kari** · 11-24-2011, 11:11 PM

im expected to be the quiet helpful one. everyone else in my family causes so much stress and drama for everyone else, and since im the youngest there was no room left for me by the time i showed up.

ive always been expected to happily do whatever was asked of me, cleaning, cooking, yardwork, entertaining, advising, even tutoring and babysitting (even though im the youngest by 4 years...) and all without complaint or id be made to feel guilty because apparently i never did anything. in fact if i have to be asked to do something, its too late, it should already have been done.

im also expected to be the one successful one that the rest of them can live off of for the rest of their lives.

oh and im also supposed to be the one that has a family, since my parents are so sure theres no hope for my siblings.

so to sum it up....i guess everything

**Dru** · 11-24-2011, 11:18 PM

truly, i have no idea.

**MrFox** · 11-25-2011, 12:19 AM

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	I was the youngest, low pressure, tons of support, get away with murder. Not as great as it sounds as you are still associated as being the youngest no matter how old you are.

Had pressure, no support and got away with nothing, but being the youngest is a "forever" thing, no matter how old you become. Worst part of all - acting like it, which is too fucking easy to do.

**RavenRawne** · 11-26-2011, 12:02 PM

Core of my famlily role can be described as "ever-reliable".

First of all, I'm the Firstborn. I'm 22 years old, while my brother is 1,5 year younger. And "mean" won't even begin to describe what i can be for him.

But aside this little issue, I'm the most reliable person in the family. Whatever needs to be done, if I'm asked to do it, I'll do. Without delay. if I think i'm being used, or the person asking for something is perfectly able to do it, or it's just plain stupid, the worst-case scenario is that i'll make an eyeroll, sigh, and tell calmly how I see it, than perform the requested action.

My "fields of expertise" range from housework, cooking, reading tiny letters, translating from english (I live in Poland, so english is a foreign language for me), advising, and simply fetching stuff, to repairs (aspecially when patience and intelligence is needed, and when tiny elements are included). Maybe its because i rarrely say "no", or the value my work. Or both.

Needless to say, I volounteer when my brother needs to be motivated to do something useful, and not just hang out with friends all the time.

**Rivers** · 11-26-2011, 02:05 PM

The reliable smart guy.

**labrarotta** · 11-26-2011, 02:56 PM

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	The one who sleeps and smokes a lot..

I agree
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My roles were:
* Absentminded and irritating lecturer
* Mom's garbage can
* A guard of morality
* Stubborn and very opinionated firstborn
* Evil big sister
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* Generally misunderstood young woman

bobabrowncoat · 11-26-2011, 08:25 PM

When I was young, I was the smart one that had so much potential. I skipped grades. Graduated at 16. That didn't really get me anywhere because I'd had it with school and didn't go to a college.

I'm taking over for my father and becoming the rock of the family. The one person that is always there for everything. The one that others call upon when they need help or understanding. My father is 69 and is slowing down physically and mentally. It hurts really. I don't want to be the rock.

**Muse** · 11-26-2011, 09:37 PM

A leader, a learner
A lawful beginner
A lodger of lunacy
So lucid in a jungle
A helper, a sinner
A scarecrow's agonyzing smile

**FeriaKaiser** · 11-27-2011, 09:50 PM

mediator, rolemodel, be disciplined to show parents im doing good and to be rolemodel, oldest, read everybody to make sure things go right, watch over everybody and help take care of troubles, hw, fights, wutevr.

**Fujimoto** · 12-01-2011, 01:08 AM

I'm the joker of the family. Usually I'll take an idea and run with it to absurd extremes. That, or quote lyrics from songs.

Other than that, I was definitely the responsible one (older of two boys). The one who was rarely openly defiant but instead found ways to get around restrictions.

11-23-2011, 11:50 AM	#51
Findley Member [07%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 288	The perfect child. The explainer. The therapist. The devil's advocate. And, more often than not, the-guy-who's-mad-because-everyone-is-acting-really-dumb.
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11-24-2011, 11:11 PM	#52
kari Member [26%] MBTI: ISTJ Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 1,042	im expected to be the quiet helpful one. everyone else in my family causes so much stress and drama for everyone else, and since im the youngest there was no room left for me by the time i showed up. ive always been expected to happily do whatever was asked of me, cleaning, cooking, yardwork, entertaining, advising, even tutoring and babysitting (even though im the youngest by 4 years...) and all without complaint or id be made to feel guilty because apparently i never did anything. in fact if i have to be asked to do something, its too late, it should already have been done. im also expected to be the one successful one that the rest of them can live off of for the rest of their lives. oh and im also supposed to be the one that has a family, since my parents are so sure theres no hope for my siblings. so to sum it up....i guess everything
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11-24-2011, 11:18 PM	#53
Dru Core Member [250%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 10,016	truly, i have no idea.
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11-26-2011, 12:02 PM	#55
RavenRawne New Member [01%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 56	Core of my famlily role can be described as "ever-reliable". First of all, I'm the Firstborn. I'm 22 years old, while my brother is 1,5 year younger. And "mean" won't even begin to describe what i can be for him. But aside this little issue, I'm the most reliable person in the family. Whatever needs to be done, if I'm asked to do it, I'll do. Without delay. if I think i'm being used, or the person asking for something is perfectly able to do it, or it's just plain stupid, the worst-case scenario is that i'll make an eyeroll, sigh, and tell calmly how I see it, than perform the requested action. My "fields of expertise" range from housework, cooking, reading tiny letters, translating from english (I live in Poland, so english is a foreign language for me), advising, and simply fetching stuff, to repairs (aspecially when patience and intelligence is needed, and when tiny elements are included). Maybe its because i rarrely say "no", or the value my work. Or both. Needless to say, I volounteer when my brother needs to be motivated to do something useful, and not just hang out with friends all the time.
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11-26-2011, 02:05 PM	#56
Rivers Member [14%] MBTI: InTj Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 579	The reliable smart guy.
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11-26-2011, 08:25 PM	#58
bobabrowncoat Core Member [244%] MBTI: IxTJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 9,794	When I was young, I was the smart one that had so much potential. I skipped grades. Graduated at 16. That didn't really get me anywhere because I'd had it with school and didn't go to a college. I'm taking over for my father and becoming the rock of the family. The one person that is always there for everything. The one that others call upon when they need help or understanding. My father is 69 and is slowing down physically and mentally. It hurts really. I don't want to be the rock.
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11-26-2011, 09:37 PM	#59
Muse Veteran Member [84%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 3,392	A leader, a learner A lawful beginner A lodger of lunacy So lucid in a jungle A helper, a sinner A scarecrow's agonyzing smile
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11-27-2011, 09:50 PM	#60
FeriaKaiser Member [03%] MBTI: ENFJ Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 121	mediator, rolemodel, be disciplined to show parents im doing good and to be rolemodel, oldest, read everybody to make sure things go right, watch over everybody and help take care of troubles, hw, fights, wutevr.
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12-01-2011, 01:08 AM	#61
Fujimoto Core Member [135%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 5,410	I'm the joker of the family. Usually I'll take an idea and run with it to absurd extremes. That, or quote lyrics from songs. Other than that, I was definitely the responsible one (older of two boys). The one who was rarely openly defiant but instead found ways to get around restrictions.
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