[Social Torture]

Lonely?... Extremely rare. I have a few friends. That's worked well enough so far. I never sleep alone... I always take at least one gun to bed with me. Sometimes, when I'm feeling excessively scandalous I'll sleep with five of them. No, they don't talk to me, but they're always ready for action. There's nothing like having shiny steel and polished wood right there next to me.

[Minerva]

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How do you cope with being single? Loneliness, nobody to share your life with, nobody to hug/snuggle/cuddle/... Anything that comes to your mind. What do you do, what helps you, how do you deal with it. If you can please state how long have you been single. I know there are some of you that are single for a really long time and I would like to know how you survive it To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

WOW! You make being single sound real bad! Sorry, I don't share this view. I have so much to accomplish that I don't have time to feel sorry for myself, even when I am single.

So much to do, so little time in this world.

[Lintu]

I don't like relationships. If they last longer than a month, I get bored. I start hating the person because I'm around them too much. My longest one was 10 months, and it was about 6 months too long. Part of the time we never saw each other, and for at least 4 months of it, I wasn't very happy and avoided him. I dragged it on too long. The second longest one to that was only 3 months. All others lasting under a month. I don't cope with being single, I like it. I don't like people. I don't get what the big deal is with relationships, honestly.

[jens1136]

Usually, I'm totally fine being single. I'm rather inexperienced so I'm kinda "used to it".

Of course, every single has his/her lonely nights though. I usually keep busy with my hobbies and try to improve myself (both appearance-wise and psychologically).

[JackCY]

Since somebody resurrected this, I'll reply again.

	Originally Posted by Saggita To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I think the title of this thread should be "How do you cope with feeling lonely?" Single =/= lonely on my book. Nevertheless, I am unable to find anything I should cope with... I'd rather enjoy the many advantages singlehood gives me.

Yes the title and words used are not the best indeed. Realized it too late I could have word it a bit differently. It's supposed to be general. Being single and dealing/handling the advantages and disadvantages of it.

I suppose you like the freedom the singlehood gives you?

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	I have the most amazing cat ever. He is very cuddly. I usually cope by hanging out with friends and being absorbed with school, but all my friends for the next month are not available so hanging out with them is kind of out of the picture. I guess I'll just have to go back to writing a lot of stories, which isn't so bad.

Pets do help indeed and having people around you. I don't have the pleasure to have any of those two right now.

	Originally Posted by Fubudis To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	If you're not happy being single, you won't be happy in a relationship either.

I do agree with that. It's not about being unhappy but about what helps you to not feel so lonely sometimes, etc.
I don't think anybody noted the financial side of being single, it's kind of more expensive to be honest than when sharing the costs of living with another person.

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I disagree. If you're happy by yourself, you don't particularly need a committed relationship where the other person compliments you and you collectively live a better life. Once you've learned to be happy on your own, the other person needs to conform very heavily to your expectations, or be really awesome that you would compromise your current way of life and source of happiness because of them.

Sort of true as well.

	Originally Posted by Matchstick To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Single all my life. ... Social interaction and being too busy for a relationship also helps.

The being busy indeed takes your mind off of many things relationships included. Had that for a long time and just didn't care much about it.

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How do I cope? I start remembering the lies, the betrayals, the masks, the hypocrisies, the insufferable boredom of the times they compelled me to go to clubs and parties and that feeling of being completely out of place there. By contrast I keep busy, I hold several jobs, I write, I read, I save to travel abroad once a year, I excersize 6 times a week and I get inspired by reading posts by many of the people in this forum since they´ve made me realize I´m not the only one who is determined to live life on my own terms, even if it means doing so by myself.-

Clubs, parties, ... mmm no, no, no.
Yes that is also an option, but I want to try first before going OK, lets do not care and stay single. Basically you keep very busy it seems to even have time for somebody else.

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	Originally Posted by Minerva To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	WOW! You make being single sound real bad! Sorry, I don't share this view. I have so much to accomplish that I don't have time to feel sorry for myself, even when I am single. So much to do, so little time in this world.

Yes I did, forgive me my poor vocabulary.
I'm not always busy these days as I had enough busy time and need some rest from the constant pressure of time and deadlines.

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I don't like relationships. If they last longer than a month, I get bored. I start hating the person because I'm around them too much. My longest one was 10 months, and it was about 6 months too long. Part of the time we never saw each other, and for at least 4 months of it, I wasn't very happy and avoided him. I dragged it on too long. The second longest one to that was only 3 months. All others lasting under a month. I don't cope with being single, I like it. I don't like people. I don't get what the big deal is with relationships, honestly.

Dunno, it depends on your surroundings a lot and how many people do you meet and what your desires are and how much crazy your hormones are too.

	Originally Posted by jens1136 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Usually, I'm totally fine being single. I'm rather inexperienced so I'm kinda "used to it". Of course, every single has his/her lonely nights though. I usually keep busy with my hobbies and try to improve myself (both appearance-wise and psychologically).

Same here, but feeling lonely gets to me sometimes and I'm not always busy, I try to, but I like to have a break from time to time as well. Improving, yes always and everything
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[Saggita]

	Originally Posted by JackCY To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yes the title and words used are not the best indeed. Realized it too late I could have word it a bit differently. It's supposed to be general. Being single and dealing/handling the advantages and disadvantages of it. I suppose you like the freedom the singlehood gives you?

Yep, love it. I just love being independent and do my stuff on my own and I would have to change that to keep a partner, or else he would think I don't value him or something like that *shrugs*

[Muse]

Friends,
hobbies,
work and school ambitions,
and the understanding that emotional relationships with most people is somewhat (and sometimes extremely) dangerous.

[tenken]

I have read a lot of posts here and I have few questions now. Is being single > being in relationship ? Why? Does being single have more benefits?

[Ambra]

Being single is > than being in the wrong relationship.

[seeyouatx]

I work, I eat, I sleep.
I've lonely moments, yes, but I'm not going to date someone just to have a date.
I've always been single, though, so I don't really know any differently.

[sunitaishot]

I improve myself and acknowledge that she will come, soon. lol...

Whilst nearly all will say relationships are natural, it's not needed to be absolutely happy as a human being. I don't think relationships are a bonus in life, but I know there is more to life than dating, sex and relationships.

Other things I do are to be the best catch I can be, be studying in school hard, doing well in work, looking after my body, building relationships (platonic), etc. When she does come, she will at the least see somebody who has a life in place.

[Autoptic]

Not bashing in skulls and fingerpainting with brains.
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Mostly not doing lots of things. Not doing lots of things a lot. Uh...ranting. Pacing. Pr0n. Lots of pr0n.
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Arguing with the voices in my head. Occasionally random streams of text on this screen.
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Video gaming vicariously. Especially a certain cute Belgian chick. Mmm. Love that zombie head bashing zeal in her voice.
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Why?
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[Eyedears]

	Originally Posted by Minerva To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	So much to do, so little time in this world.

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	Originally Posted by Lintu To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I get bored. I start hating the person because I'm around them too much.

When I was still keen on getting married, I used to tell people that I wanted a part-time husband.
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[devnull]

i guess i'm in the minority here. i'm both single (been for a couple years now) and terribly lonely. i don't want to settle for anyone, as i feel that will just leave me worse than i am now. that being said, i haven't found anyone else yet.. i can't even stand to see anyone else in a relationship around me..it just reflects my own loneliness. i don't know why i even want a relationship so badly.

just recently i got a fierce attraction for this girl who hadn't gotten over a past relationship quite yet. i knew, in the beginning, what would be the outcome of this, but i ended up getting hurt a lot..over nothing. but it taught me how happy i could be in a relationship..i'd do anything to get that back.

maybe i'm just desperate. but i was depressed before and after this psuedo-relationship i was recently in. i was actually happy during it. i just want that back.

[jens1136]

	Originally Posted by JackCY To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Same here, but feeling lonely gets to me sometimes and I'm not always busy, I try to, but I like to have a break from time to time as well. Improving, yes always and everything To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I can empathize with that. After being single for a long enough time, it can become lonely, uninspiring and/or self-defeating.

[Social Torture]

So I asked this female to marry me one time and I got brutally rejected... I lived happily ever after and went racing and hunting as much as I pleased.

[superflax]

Good intellectual conversation. Frequently.

I have completely forgotten I'm single lately and that is the only change in my life that I can attribute to it. HTH

[Doggzilla]

The only thing I miss is the sexual part. I love being single and just going with the flow. Its so relaxing to just be able to drive without interference and then go back into the sleeper and love such a simple existence. Once in a while I have an urge for a home and wife, but then I remind myself that I would die if I had to find work in another industry.

[Lilie]

I always had an imaginary boyfriend. We'd hang out while I was zoning out on the bus or right before falling asleep. That's pretty sad now that I read that, but it worked.

And lots of video games.

	Originally Posted by JackCY To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I don't think anybody noted the financial side of being single, it's kind of more expensive to be honest than when sharing the costs of living with another person.

Being in a relationship is waaaaay more expensive than single, unless of course it's a relationship where the man just pays for everything. When I'm single I don't do anything or go anywhere because doing things alone just makes me think about how I wish I had someone to do things with, and just eat whatever is on sale because I don't care. Now it's like, doing things, going places, eating out... I like it and all but that shit is expensive.

[Carot]

There are times when being single and alone is amazing. It's so much better than what all those "couples" go through....and whatever. It can lend perspective, intelligence, and fiscal and emotional stability.

...Then there are times when it's not, sometimes it's biological, sometimes it's just circumstantial. Whatever the case, I wouldn't wish so great a despair on a person I hate. It can be a depressive low that is hard to come out of. Some don't without help.

But eventually, the sun comes up tomorrow, and it gets better again. It's cyclical. You ride out the lows and enjoy the highs. Some people will say they've never experienced one or the other, it comes in time, different for all.

Enjoy the world in either case, it's a gift beyond wealth.

[LiamN]

Originally Posted by JackCY To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

How do you cope with being single? Loneliness, nobody to share your life with, nobody to hug/snuggle/cuddle/... Anything that comes to your mind. What do you do, what helps you, how do you deal with it. If you can please state how long have you been single. I know there are some of you that are single for a really long time and I would like to know how you survive it To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I was single (without any physical contact) from 30-32. Didn't bother me one bit.

I've been single now since last summer, though I've had casual sex with two different women since then. They came onto me, otherwise nothing would happen. I never initiate conversation with women. At least face to face. )

As far as coping... Well, overall I enjoy being alone. I would like to have girlfriend, but the juice never seems to be worth the squeeze. I do a lot of research which makes time fly. I also drink more than I should. I'm not an 'alcoholic, but I do enjoy strong drink now and then.
I'd probably smoke a lot of marijuana if I could easily find it.
It doesn't make me brain dead at all, in fact it makes me very productive, and I enjoy the new thoughts I have while high. Quite the enlightening plant. So to recap` research and substances. Also, masturbation.

You asked, I told.

[Typhon]

I miss the sex but that's it. I have enough to think about and act upon, without dragging some other random person into it. I'll start being in relationships again when I know the time is right, and not before.

[dissident]

the older I get, the more I enjoy my independence. I don't have a desire for casual friends, a women who I can vibe with (a soul mate, or whatever) perhaps, but I don't have lonely nights per say, I don't go to sleep crying, I enjoy all the spare income and freedom I have, and will find the right person when the time comes. If not, there's always future lives (believe in reincarnation)

People require so much energy, what I want in a woman is hard to describe, not constant, around the clock simulation, not a desire to explore the world, but rather, escape from it....

[loveless]

One can't cope with being single as it is not a physical aliment.

I suppose I don't really have much to say as I am indifferent to human intimacy. It repulses me.

[zeroemission]

been single 11 years by now. how do i cope? plenty of masturbation.

it wasn't really an issue until i realized i'm not getting any younger and my prospects are evaporating as i'm already on the "2 years too late" side of that dreaded universal 45 cutoff for women looking to date. otherwise, the fatal attraction that drove me to a near universal repulsion for women, especially when they pursue, did me a big favor getting over the pining for useless women that'd rather be with an ahole i'm better than in every way.

being single can be nice. i might not have gotten laid in a long time, but i've also not had to have a single irrational emotion based argument about refusing to meet expectations or whatever. i've enjoyed the lack of drama. i've never had an acceptable relationship. either i'm settling for whatever completely unattractive clingy gal that will actually give it up, or i'm having my hear ripped out by an average gal with enough going on to be able to pick and chose the scum she lays down with