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**Stella** · 07-09-2008, 02:44 PM

My name is Sarah but my friends often call me Stella as a nickname. I'm a student in the process of obtaining an Honours Specialization degree in Sociology and a Minor in Ethics.

I do not have much of an interest in psychology, aside from studies of human sexuality. My roommate (a psych major) had me take the Myers-Briggs test last year and I discovered I was an INTJ personality type. After reading a bit about it, the shoe seems to fit! One quality that I didn't quite understand about myself in relation to being an INTJ personality type is that I am extremely artistic and creative, which I would have thought would fit more along the lines of ENTP personality types. However, I realized that the subject of most (if not all) of my drawings and paintings are of people. Perhaps the only way I truly emotionally interact with people is through art.

What I do find is that I understand other people around me, their interactions and activities, but only in theory and not in actuality or reality. It has made it very hard for me to function in a way that would be perceived "normal" by everyone else, down to simple socializing and what is called "dating" (...how do you do that anyways?). The only way I can explain it is to say that it's as if I'm on the outside looking in, or as if I can see right through everything.

I also happen to be asexual. I'm currently working on an individual project on social theory and identity construction in relation to asexuality and I'm very excited about the possibilities of where I can go with this uncharted area. In addition to art I also enjoy reading (fiction and non-fiction alike), going to museums and galleries, walking, listening to music, going to concerts, people-watching, politics, engaging in volunteer efforts, and hanging around with my cats.

I'm hoping to find more about myself here and can't wait to meet and enjoy conversation with other like-minded individuals.

**Vertigo** · 07-09-2008, 03:06 PM

Hi Stella, welcome to the forums. An INTJ with a degree in Sociology, wouldn't that make you adept in social situations if you wanted to?

**Fridays Child** · 07-09-2008, 03:21 PM

Plenty of minds to like here....welcome!

**LionsPride** · 07-09-2008, 03:25 PM

Welcome Stella! Your perceptions and participation will be greatly appreciated. I personally love discussions on sociology and, while I have found ethics hasn't been such a great topic to bring up at parties, I find it fits rather well on this forum.

LionsPride - "Nice party here Bob! So, how to you feel about the ethics surrounding the ability to select the gender of your children?...Bob?...Bob? Hmm, must have really needed to replace that half full bowl of chips..."

Ethics, the quick way to kill a party for everyone else, but make it interesting for me

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**Stella** · 07-09-2008, 03:26 PM

	Originally Posted by Vertigo
	Hi Stella, welcome to the forums. An INTJ with a degree in Sociology, wouldn't that make you adept in social situations if you wanted to?

Indeed, but it becomes a bit difficult when trying to consciously conform to customs, even if I want to. I think the understandings of the workings of social structures leads me to a view of the world where nothing really exists aside from how we ascribe meaning and that there is always the potential to be shaped a different way. I adapt to or follow things because I have to and/or want to due to functionality, but at the same time realize that everything could be otherwise and begin questioning the necessity. It's a bit of an odd situation to be in.

Originally Posted by LionsPride

Welcome Stella! Your perceptions and participation will be greatly appreciated. I personally love discussions on sociology and, while I have found ethics hasn't been such a great topic to bring up at parties, I find it fits rather well on this forum.

LionsPride - "Nice party here Bob! So, how to you feel about the ethics surrounding the ability to select the gender of your children?...Bob?...Bob? Hmm, must have really needed to replace that half full bowl of chips..."

Ethics, the quick way to kill a party for everyone else, but make it interesting for me.

:D Yeah, not quite the icebreaker. I'd like to stay away from heated debates, but I tend to be a bit opinionated. Ethics seems to be best left in written form where it's more difficult to read emotions into what you're trying to say.

Thanks for the welcome!

**Vertigo** · 07-09-2008, 03:33 PM

So you find it difficult to just be yourself in social settings because you know how you are supposed to act but you think it's silly to have to act and wonder why everyone can't just be themselves instead of conforming to everyone else? I would venture a guess and say that you are truly a free spirit able to be who you want to be, but in doing so you could be leaving a lot of the social benefits behind?

I don't know where my comments came from, maybe I was just rambling away hehe.

**Stella** · 07-09-2008, 03:38 PM

Seems to be a fair psychoanalysis.

**Vertigo** · 07-09-2008, 03:54 PM

	Originally Posted by Stella
	Seems to be a fair psychoanalysis.

Well thanks I guess that is something that I tend to do a lot, I don't normally type or tell what I'm thinking though.

I can relate to you though, when I'm at a party I watch and listen to everyone and wonder why oh why are they wasting so much time with these customs, why don't they just get to the point lol If I find myself joining in it's a lot of work to try and do something that I don't think is needed, like small talk.

**Monte314** · 07-09-2008, 05:17 PM

Greetings. Sounds like you bring some interesting ingredients to the mix.

**rwyatt365** · 07-10-2008, 04:32 AM

[Marlon Brando voice]

STELLA!!

[/Marlon Brando voice]

Welcome to the forum!

**Seppuku Savant** · 07-10-2008, 06:31 AM

Welcome. I hope this place proves useful to you.

**ssrprotege** · 07-10-2008, 06:50 AM

I could sympathize. I have hard time being a conformist, and even consciously trying to be one goes against my conscience. I think it's common for Sensor-Perceivers and for Intuitives.

**Stella** · 07-11-2008, 10:26 AM

	Originally Posted by rwyatt365
	[Marlon Brando voice] STELLA!! [/Marlon Brando voice] Welcome to the forum!

Haha, that's exactly where the nickname is from. It's quite humorous having someone yell it at you from a distance.

**Elfrun** · 07-12-2008, 10:19 PM

Classic, I have some friends who have named their little daughter Stella, it is hilarious when they yell out her name in public if she runs off, I lose it everytime

Welcome STELLA!!

**dissident** · 07-14-2008, 05:58 AM

Hey Stella!

http://youtube.com/watch?v=S1A0p0F_iH8

Welcome!

07-09-2008, 02:44 PM	#1
Stella New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 27	My name is Sarah but my friends often call me Stella as a nickname. I'm a student in the process of obtaining an Honours Specialization degree in Sociology and a Minor in Ethics. I do not have much of an interest in psychology, aside from studies of human sexuality. My roommate (a psych major) had me take the Myers-Briggs test last year and I discovered I was an INTJ personality type. After reading a bit about it, the shoe seems to fit! One quality that I didn't quite understand about myself in relation to being an INTJ personality type is that I am extremely artistic and creative, which I would have thought would fit more along the lines of ENTP personality types. However, I realized that the subject of most (if not all) of my drawings and paintings are of people. Perhaps the only way I truly emotionally interact with people is through art. What I do find is that I understand other people around me, their interactions and activities, but only in theory and not in actuality or reality. It has made it very hard for me to function in a way that would be perceived "normal" by everyone else, down to simple socializing and what is called "dating" (...how do you do that anyways?). The only way I can explain it is to say that it's as if I'm on the outside looking in, or as if I can see right through everything. I also happen to be asexual. I'm currently working on an individual project on social theory and identity construction in relation to asexuality and I'm very excited about the possibilities of where I can go with this uncharted area. In addition to art I also enjoy reading (fiction and non-fiction alike), going to museums and galleries, walking, listening to music, going to concerts, people-watching, politics, engaging in volunteer efforts, and hanging around with my cats. I'm hoping to find more about myself here and can't wait to meet and enjoy conversation with other like-minded individuals. Last edited by Stella; 07-09-2008 at 05:51 PM.
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07-09-2008, 03:06 PM	#2
Vertigo Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 157	Hi Stella, welcome to the forums. An INTJ with a degree in Sociology, wouldn't that make you adept in social situations if you wanted to?
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07-09-2008, 03:21 PM	#3
Fridays Child Veteran Member [92%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,712	Plenty of minds to like here....welcome!
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07-09-2008, 03:25 PM	#4
LionsPride Core Member [225%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 9,029	Welcome Stella! Your perceptions and participation will be greatly appreciated. I personally love discussions on sociology and, while I have found ethics hasn't been such a great topic to bring up at parties, I find it fits rather well on this forum. LionsPride - "Nice party here Bob! So, how to you feel about the ethics surrounding the ability to select the gender of your children?...Bob?...Bob? Hmm, must have really needed to replace that half full bowl of chips..." Ethics, the quick way to kill a party for everyone else, but make it interesting for me.
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07-09-2008, 03:33 PM	#6
Vertigo Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 157	So you find it difficult to just be yourself in social settings because you know how you are supposed to act but you think it's silly to have to act and wonder why everyone can't just be themselves instead of conforming to everyone else? I would venture a guess and say that you are truly a free spirit able to be who you want to be, but in doing so you could be leaving a lot of the social benefits behind? I don't know where my comments came from, maybe I was just rambling away hehe.
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07-09-2008, 03:38 PM	#7
Stella New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 27	Seems to be a fair psychoanalysis.
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07-09-2008, 05:17 PM	#9
Monte314 Core Member [408%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 16,320	Greetings. Sounds like you bring some interesting ingredients to the mix.
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07-10-2008, 04:32 AM	#10
rwyatt365 Core Member [261%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 10,466	[Marlon Brando voice] STELLA!! [/Marlon Brando voice] Welcome to the forum!
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07-10-2008, 06:31 AM	#11
Seppuku Savant Member [28%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,123	Welcome. I hope this place proves useful to you.
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07-10-2008, 06:50 AM	#12
ssrprotege Core Member [113%] MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,541	I could sympathize. I have hard time being a conformist, and even consciously trying to be one goes against my conscience. I think it's common for Sensor-Perceivers and for Intuitives.
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07-12-2008, 10:19 PM	#14
Elfrun Core Member [268%] MBTI: entp Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 10,720	Classic, I have some friends who have named their little daughter Stella, it is hilarious when they yell out her name in public if she runs off, I lose it everytime Welcome STELLA!!
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07-14-2008, 05:58 AM	#15
dissident Member [08%] MBTI: INTX Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 358	Hey Stella! http://youtube.com/watch?v=S1A0p0F_iH8 Welcome!
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