[peppersasen]

I was wondering if anyone here is a recluse. Do you buy in bulk (like per quarter) so you can minimize trips to stores? Do you use contactless/pre-paid cards so you can shorten your contact with people? Do you order books online? Why did you start doing it? What are you avoiding? Do you hate people's mentalities or do they drain you? Are you interested in being one? Do certain places (like offices) trigger anxiety? Can't stand the commute? Are you regularly sexually harassed when you leave the house because you live in a bad area? What do you leave the house for (what occasions, what errands) and at what frequency?

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For the record, I don't plan on living like this forever. I'm just trying to stay sane until I can move to a safer place where you can read your book on grass at the park. The crime rate is so high in my area, I've thought about getting tinted car window films to avoid making eye contact with people on the streets when I do need leave the house.

[ZJ95]

I'm only a recluse on the weekends (which may not make me a recluse at all?). I work 40 hours a week, go the gym 4 days a week, and go grocery shopping once a week. On the weekends I'm either holed up at my house (I've gone days without stepping outside) or out in the wilderness in some secluded place. Everything besides gas and groceries I buy online.

[Sprelious]

I,m not a recluse, but I often think about how nice it would be. I've often wondered why castaways try so hard to get rescued. For me that would be the perfect situation.

[Chameleon]

My wife and I are recluses when it comes to our home, we never have anyone over; including family. I hate going shopping; but she likes it. I don't believe I would be as reclusive if I was not a salesman and grew sick of dealing with people; then again maybe the opposite is true too...

[VF1J]

The double rainbow guy was a recluse.

[True Rune]

Not anymore. Generally, I stayed in because it was dangerous even when I was a kid.

[peppersasen]

	Originally Posted by Chameleon To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I hate going shopping; but she likes it.

So you don't buy in bulk? I guess if she likes shopping it doesn't matter (retail therapy). I don't like it (I've categorized regular shopping as a "dreadful errand" which I'm not supposed to do on weekends/days off). I've started a programme to improve my quality of life (which mainly consists of separation between work and play), and I figured that since I hate my environment and this society drains me, I'd be happier if I was left alone to read/watch films. I'm only coming out of my cave for professional purposes/hanging out with my more mature friends (I've cut off my shallow/selfish friends, mind you--I have a limited circle of friends this year--I only care for people I went to school/did professional work with). I only go to this one gas station because the men there don't treat me like a piece of meat (even then I dread going there because its the other customers who stare). Sometimes if I'm lucky the guys at the car wash [during a particular shift] are decent, other times I want to run them over (I need to study which douchebags are on which shifts). I want to move back to Europe where everyone minded their own business and let me sleep on grass. I would also love to move to somewhere like London/New York and live like
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It's just that, I've gotten so sick of society that when I come home from buying something worth USD 20.00, I think it wasn't worth exposing myself to wolf-whistles and all the discomfort. I actually have to wear a surgical mask to avoid being stared at around here. It's hell for an introvert. I'm frustrated by the way things work and how stupid people are (at least two people per trip). Having my own supplies is "semi-self-sufficient". Anyone here grow their own vegetables and/or own a farm?

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Plus, my carbon footprint will be better and less exposure to sun means less early-aging.
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[Jalex]

Peppersasen.... where do you live? I lived in Mexico City and I went to parks to lay on the grass and read.... for hours.... can't imagine yoou live in a place more dangerous than my city.... ha!

Anyway, yes, I am a recluse, and it has nothing to do with society; I'm just lazy. I order books online because they are way cheaper and I don't have to move from my bed (and also expecting it to hit my door is quite exciting). I am a fan of eBay for the same, great prices of things hard to find in here.

Yes, I don't own a car, so I like to buy 2 months groceries on one trip (in fact I can almost see the bottom of my freezer, need to refill), the super store is far away, it involves one full morning, I don't like to be traveling all the time.

I go out daily for work. On weekends I try to not leave my room for at least one day, being able to be by my own and enjoying my own company is required. If I go out then I try to make all my errands in one trip, hate to get home and realize I have to go out again....

Never been sexually harrased, looking forward to it though.


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[g20]

I'm not a recluse, just very selective about who and how I spend time. I buy non-perishables in bulk because it saves money and time, and I hate shopping for anything other than toys. I order plenty of things on line. avoiding higher costs, annoying sales people, traffic. I feel drained after spending lots of time in public. no problems with anxiety from the places themselves. commute doesn't bother me. don't get sexually harassed. I'm a guy, average looks, rarely smile, not the most friendly looking. I'm not the accommodating type and I carry a firearm, things go very poorly for people that try to harass me.

[Warrior]

Not at all, but there are times when I don't feel like going out and will stay in for a day or so if that is an option. I go out all the time for work, church, training, and a variety of activities with the kids.

If I was mainly in charge of shopping, I'd buy a lot of things in bulk just because they are cheaper, but not for any fear of leaving the house. There would be enough that I wouldn't want to buy in bulk that I'd be shopping once or twice anyway. As it is, my wife does most of the shopping. Despite buying many things in bulk, she still shops five or six days a week. She buys so much food in bulk that we throw out a lot of it because it goes bad.

[peppersasen]

Does anyone have social anxiety? Or maybe GAD triggered by office settings or fear or having to be part of a team? And when you're allowed to work from home, you will always work from home? I only show up for networking events and meetings.
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	Originally Posted by Jalex To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Never been sexually harrased, looking forward to it though.

LMAO!

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	Originally Posted by g20 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm not the accommodating type and I carry a firearm, things go very poorly for people that try to harass me.

And I can't even get a bottle of pepper spray (or a small pink taser). How unjust the world is...

[Warrior]

	Originally Posted by peppersasen To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	And when you're allowed to work from home, you will always work from home?

Given the choice, I would never work from home. When I can't work in the office for some reason, I prefer to go to Starbucks or McDonald's (anywhere with free WiFi) to work instead of working from home.

[peppersasen]

	Originally Posted by Warrior To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Given the choice, I would never work from home. When I can't work in the office for some reason, I prefer to go to Starbucks or McDonald's (anywhere with free WiFi) to work instead of working from home.

Why? I can only work well in secluded cafes (one small cafe in a corner and one Starbucks location that's very quiet). Other than those two places, I feel like I'm striping at a strip club and I feel watched (and I've learned my lesson: never look around at the people around me and avoid eye contact too).

[Warrior]

	Originally Posted by peppersasen To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Why? I can only work well in secluded cafes (one small cafe in a corner and one Starbucks location that's very quiet). Other than those two places, I feel like I'm striping at a strip club and I feel watched (and I've learned my lesson: never look around at the people around me and avoid eye contact too).

I prefer to have interaction with coworkers in the office when possible. I find it more effective and fun.

I suppose growing up, where my dad had his own business out of our house and we lived on a farm, "going home" always meant "going to work". If you were home, you were working. I dreaded going home from somehwere because it meant we were going to work. It's on of the things I have tried to change for my family.

I don't get to worried about people watching me. Nobody really knows or cares what I'm doing.

[MONADANOM]

Reclusive? Only when I’m conscious.
For various reasons I’m pretty self-contained. Other people tend to get in the way and waste time and energy I could use on something else. I try to schedule local errands or appointments first thing in the morning so that by the time everybody else starts to find their way in from the provinces I’m headed home. Minimizing contact with humans seems to work best for me. And buying on line or in bulk [non-perishables] is more efficient and cost-effective.
On the grimmer side, I seem to give off some sort of vibe that brings out the worst in folks, so no matter how hard I try to be wallpaper in public, it’s just better to be at home getting work done. A self-fulfilling prophecy, but it’s the best solution I’ve come up with. Every time I’ve ignored my ‘Do Not Engage’ dictum, I’ve severely regretted it. As in this posting, perhaps?

[g20]

	Originally Posted by peppersasen To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	And I can't even get a bottle of pepper spray (or a small pink taser). How unjust the world is...

you must not be in the U.S pepper spray is available pretty much in all states. tasers (that launch probes) are legal in many, stun guns (no probes) are also legal in most. you can also dance the line of legally carrying said products, don't get caught you don't get in trouble. better judged by 9 than carried by six.

[Jalex]

	Originally Posted by peppersasen To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Does anyone have social anxiety? Or maybe GAD triggered by office settings or fear or having to be part of a team? And when you're allowed to work from home, you will always work from home? I only show up for networking events and meetings. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

If given the choice I would work from home....

It doesn't really make a difference in the social bonding... I don't talk, neither look for human interaction... and people don't look for any interaction with me... therefore it is like if I am not there...

So I prefer being home, with my music, setting the temperature ar 18ºC (in the office is always around 24ºC), in my much better computer and of course with the kitchen at hand whenever I feel like eating...

No place like home...

[masterpeach]

I became a recluse 2 years ago. There's a distinction between "default" and unhealthy, stress-related reclusive behavior. The latter scared me - when commuting I really became hostile towards other people; I stopped going out, meeting friends, trying new things etc.
My current environment fosters this reclusion, but I'll move back to a bigger city soon to escape it because I was proud of having developed into a more social person.

[zibber]

I am definitely mostly a recluse.

Lately I've even come to understand that moments of social interaction, while being something I love, would not be bearable without the knowledge that I will return to reclusion at some point (generally of my choosing). It still seems extreme to me, while I write this, but it's absolutely undeniable.

[12ax7]

I'm unsure if I'd qualify. I don't have much anxiety about getting out, but I don't enjoy it either:

24/7 gym with a RFID card to get in
Go see movies weeks after they come out for an almost-empty theater
Shop online when I can

The amount of socializing required with my coworkers is just about enough to make me want to take it easy all weekend.

[minusmg]

	Originally Posted by peppersasen To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Anyone here grow their own vegetables and/or own a farm?

It is a dream of mine to have a huge garden and grow all my own vegetables and herbs on an isolated piece of land, but that is still a few years down the road.

I am definitely a recluse. It's not in any unhealthy way, I just prefer being alone and keeping to myself when around others. There are exceptions, a certain select few that I enjoy being around, and sometimes talking and playing with others is a good stress-reliever when I am too caught up in my own head. My lack of interest in socializing seems to bother quite a few people, and I realize that they just need it much more than I do, yet even being conscious of that it is still very difficult for me to take part in it.

To put it in a nutshell, so many people say and do so much stupid, inane, pointless shit.

[masterpeach]

	Originally Posted by peppersasen To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Anyone here grow their own vegetables and/or own a farm?

My parents do - except for wheat, milk and meat (and coffee) they could almost survive on self-grown vegetables and fruit.
They are recluses, too (they avoid crowds, don't have that many friends, in fact I think they don't have friends at all; they've downsized their expenses to a minimum... )

[Oblivious]

I've spent a lot of my life trying to be. It's hard to be one unless your rich.

My current situation is really favoring and encouraging my reclusive behavior though. The only places I go right now are the occasional family gatherings that occur maybe once a month, to the grocery store once every week or two, and up to this trail close to my apartment to run a couple times a week. I never talk to anyone, and I do my best to avoid inviting them to talk to me. Other than those few trips, I spend all my time home alone.

I try to buy in bulk when I can, but I can't find everything I need in bulk, and some things spoil too fast to buy in bulk.

Anything that isn't food or clothing I pretty much order online. Amazon Prime FTW.

School starts back in a couple weeks. I'm going to have to drag myself back out into society again. I'm not looking forward to it. I'll be fine once I get in a routine, but getting used to a new routine sucks.

[clumsywordsmith]

I can enjoy being out and about with friends in limited doses, but certain sorts of social interactions scare me; my heart rate goes up every time I begin mentally preparing myself to do much of anything normal in public -- go to the bank, go shopping, browse through a store, etc.; I do as much shopping as I possibly can online. I've never once had a bad or even embarrassing experience in public, I just feel vulnerable and terribly conspicuous out in the open. To sum it up, I feel more certain of myself when I'm about to step out onto a stage and speak in front of an audience of a few thousand than I ever have when just doing something routine, like stepping into a bank to deposit a paycheck.

And right now, my life is one of almost complete isolation aside from work. Mostly because my small circle of extraverted friends have either moved elsewhere or are busy with their life at the moment, and so I keep to myself.

Oh -- as the above poster said... Amazon Prime is great. I berated myself at first for forgetting to cancel my trial subscription before the month was up, but I haven't regretted that sixty dollars spent for the year since. Just about everything I could possibly need is within twenty minutes of my house, but I still prefer to shop online.

[ZerroDefex]

I tend to do all my shopping on the way home from work and it happens whenever I notice that I'm low on something that morning so I probably visit the grocery store more often than average.

	Originally Posted by Warrior To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	She buys so much food in bulk that we throw out a lot of it because it goes bad.

Same reason I prefer not to do it, like times when I decided for a month I didn't feel like having bacon for breakfast and then several weeks later wondered why there was a pack of it in the fridge that was out of code.