Celebrating your birthdays.

**Humble Bragger** · 05-10-2011, 11:32 AM

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After a certain age I stopped seing anything special in it so I'm not much for celebrating these, especially not in a stereotypically extraverted manner (large social gatherings in a party environment).

Even though I appreciate the thought, all that party-level kind of attention will just overstimulate me as an heavy I. Unless a friend really wants to plan it for me/many extraverted friends wanting to come I just spend the day with my family and another day with a few friends.

What's your opinion on celebrating your birthday and on birthdays themselves?

This just in! Bonus question; what's your favourite kind of cake?

**storm eyes** · 05-10-2011, 11:33 AM

Don't really care about my birthday to be honest.

**fireandicecat** · 05-10-2011, 11:40 AM

it's just another day ... pay it no mind ...
carrot cake with cream cheese frosting ...

**QuietPlease** · 05-10-2011, 11:43 AM

I forget my own birthday. My mom calls me and says "So, where do you want to go for your birthday this weekend?" and my response has been "Huh? Birthday?" almost every year.

It's actually kind of tiresome. Here it's my birthday and I can't just lounge around reading and watching stupid TV like I want. I enjoy my weekends in solitude, I work in the service industry all week.

But, no. I have to get up, get dressed and shovel fattening food into my mouth, otherwise my mom thinks I'm depressed or avoiding her and my sisters.

Well, at least I get stuff.

HUM BUG!

**TheStranger** · 05-10-2011, 11:46 AM

I don't like birthdays at all, it reminds me only of the time that has slipped away.

**Seriously** · 05-10-2011, 11:46 AM

I like getting presents. Tres Leches.

**Almost** · 05-10-2011, 11:49 AM

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Like most people (I think), birthdays stopped being noteworthy to me sometime around the teenage years.

As for the cake, yellow with a small amount of chocolate frosting.

**Korey** · 05-10-2011, 11:54 AM

Just another day to me. I like getting gifts though ahah

I like vanilla cakes, with chocolate.

Kricket · 05-10-2011, 11:55 AM

Most opportunities to have a glass of champagne and a tasty meal are okay by me, but I keep it at home with my nuclear family.

I reject cake and demand razzleberry pie. Have done so ever since discovering razzleberry pie as a kid.

**QuietPlease** · 05-10-2011, 12:03 PM

	Originally Posted by Kricket To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Most opportunities to have a glass of champagne and a tasty meal are okay by me, but I keep it at home with my nuclear family. I reject cake and demand razzleberry pie. Have done so ever since discovering razzleberry pie as a kid.

I must google this, even the word looks tasty.

Yea... that sounds good. I want pie now.

**ElstonGunn** · 05-10-2011, 12:12 PM

I'd prefer not to have my birthday celebrated. I'm beyond the "meh, I don't really care" stage. Making even a mildly big deal out of it makes the day less enjoyable for me. In that sense, celebrating it kind of has an element of animosity to it for me. If it must be celebrated nonetheless, that's tolerable for me, as long as it's understood that it in no way is my "special day." Bonus points if that means that we get to do whatever dumb crap that you dislike on your birthday, just because I say so.

...I'm partial to pineapple upside-down cake, though. Just not on or around my birthday.

	Originally Posted by TheStranger To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I don't like birthdays at all, it reminds me only of the time that has slipped away.

"Well, birthdays are merely symbolic of how another year has gone by, and how little we've grown. No matter how desperate we are that someday a better self will emerge, with each flicker of the candles on the cake, we know it's not to be. That for the rest of our sad, wretched pathetic lives, this is who we are to the bitter end-- inevitably, irrevocably. Happy birthday? No such thing."

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**Warrior** · 05-10-2011, 12:22 PM

When you have been 29 for as many years as I have, you start to lose interest in celebrating. My kids like to make cards and kind of make a big deal about it, so I play along, but otherwise I don't get into it that much.

Coconut cake.

**Jalex** · 05-10-2011, 12:26 PM

I hate my birthday... I usually cut all communication (e.g. I deny posting on my facebook wall 24 hours before and 12 hours later). hate people just saying "happy birthday" just to be "social" or be "polite"... hate diplomacy.

Parties or whatever out of the question, hate them.

And yes... I remember the clock is ticking...

**NixonKneivel** · 05-10-2011, 12:33 PM

Some of the disinterest in birthdays comes from an inequality btwn our ages and what we expected we would accomplish by that point.

As a former depressive from a family of depressives, I take any chance I can to squeeze some joy out of life- the monster is always out there, you know.

I hate parties, and I don't do the celebrations that make other people happy.

I might do 24 hrs in the woods by myself. I might buy and eat 2 of the largest grassfed steaks I can find. I might find an outlet for my comedic and/or acting skills- murder mystery parties are a big one for me.

Of course, I don't need a birthday to do any of those things. But as I said, I like myself, I like my age, and I believe in the psychological value of doing things that make me happy.

Also, my primary Love Language seems to be "Acts of Service", so they are a way to show care to others without actually having to be in regular contact..... the gift-buying, anyway.

**DrWin** · 05-10-2011, 01:55 PM

Originally Posted by Humble Bragger
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After a certain age I stopped seing anything special in it so I'm not much for celebrating these, especially not in a stereotypically extraverted manner (large social gatherings in a party environment).

Even though I appreciate the thought, all that party-level kind of attention will just overstimulate me as an heavy I. Unless a friend really wants to plan it for me/many extraverted friends wanting to come I just spend the day with my family and another day with a few friends.

What's your opinion on celebrating your birthday and on birthdays themselves?

This just in! Bonus question; what's your favourite kind of cake?

I don't do birthdays but I do like cake.

I hate people wishing me happy birthday at work.

I hate having a party dedicated to me (same reason I don't want to have a wedding).

Edit: I LOVE CARROT CAKE.

**aimeeislost** · 05-10-2011, 02:05 PM

I never really cared about birthdays, but now I have way too many shi**y associations with them, that I intentionally block the idea from my mind. One year my boyfriend died, and just 3 months ago I was stood up by my boyfriend.

Yeah, that's right. I'm bitter. So out of spite, I won't notice turning 32.

**Chameleon** · 05-10-2011, 02:31 PM

I don't even remember how old I am half the time; and I hate getting more material things.

**MaybeThanh** · 05-10-2011, 04:55 PM

The earth spun around the sun again. Time to celebrate.

I don't even like cake/pie.

**DeepThought** · 05-10-2011, 05:02 PM

Don't care for them. I go out of my way to not let people know my birthday and make excuses to not be around when it comes around. Parties are fine as long as they aren't for my birthday. I'm content to hang with a friend and do something low key, but that's about it. Otherwise, it's just another day.

Interesting that so many others have the same/similar feelings on this.

**Analyze** · 05-10-2011, 06:01 PM

My ideal birthday involves me sitting at my house alone. Then it would rain and I can sit outside and think while doing something most people hate.

They really don't mean anything to me, but I don't dislike them.

Chocolate cake with chocolate frosting. I like chocolate.

**deacon** · 05-11-2011, 12:56 AM

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	Don't care for them. I go out of my way to not let people know my birthday and make excuses to not be around when it comes around. Parties are fine as long as they aren't for my birthday. I'm content to hang with a friend and do something low key, but that's about it. Otherwise, it's just another day. Interesting that so many others have the same/similar feelings on this.

same here but then when i actually do nothing special and don't get gifts i sulk LOL. =(

**chalice** · 05-11-2011, 02:40 AM

i've never seen my birthday as something special. even as a child all that fuss about it seemed irrational to me. i feel awkward when i have to fake any strong positive emotions. i understand why my relatives feel it's special but i fail to grasp the excitement of anyone else (if any, it looks false to me..) or the tremendous amount of affection towards me and that's why i prefer not to celebrate it.

anyway, i love presents. but only when i expect to get them. if there isn't any reason to give me a present and someone actually does it, i feel awkward and indulged to that person though i can't explain why. and i love sweets and cake but in small amounts or i get sick. my favourite cake is a very chocolate one or with nuts. i hate cream or any other filling except for chocolate or nuts.

for the last three years i've spent my birthday on the roof of my block of flats with my cell turned off, listening to music, reading, drawing or just observing the small, busy people down on the street. and it's the perfect way for me to.. 'celebrate'.

**MasklessMask** · 05-11-2011, 03:24 AM

I do not celebrate. I just buy myself a small present, something like a collector's edition of a video game, a bunch of books or a gadget and spend my day with my new possession.

**soffbord** · 05-11-2011, 03:34 AM

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	My ideal birthday involves me sitting at my house alone. Then it would rain and I can sit outside and think while doing something most people hate. They really don't mean anything to me, but I don't dislike them.

I must be your soulmate...

**peppersasen** · 05-11-2011, 03:35 AM

But I don't like growing old. And thinking of being closer to death. AND the existential thoughts and existential pondering and existential questioning. Oh, the existential thoughts. Why can't I die young while I'm pretty so you can all remember me as being the way I am and people will think I'm talented because that's what talented people do: they tragically die young.

No, I'm just bitter because I never get a birthday fuck. Not even when my birthday's on a weekend. Not that I never get laid. You know...
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Yay for food porn too! I like cheesecakes with berries on 'em! And cupcakes.

05-10-2011, 11:32 AM	#1
Humble Bragger Member [10%] MBTI: XXXX Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 435	To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. After a certain age I stopped seing anything special in it so I'm not much for celebrating these, especially not in a stereotypically extraverted manner (large social gatherings in a party environment). Even though I appreciate the thought, all that party-level kind of attention will just overstimulate me as an heavy I. Unless a friend really wants to plan it for me/many extraverted friends wanting to come I just spend the day with my family and another day with a few friends. What's your opinion on celebrating your birthday and on birthdays themselves? *This just in! Bonus question; what's your favourite kind of cake?*
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05-10-2011, 11:33 AM	#2
storm eyes Core Member [147%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 5,886	Don't really care about my birthday to be honest.
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05-10-2011, 11:40 AM	#3
fireandicecat Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 86	it's just another day ... pay it no mind ... carrot cake with cream cheese frosting ...
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05-10-2011, 11:43 AM	#4
QuietPlease Member [04%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 168	I forget my own birthday. My mom calls me and says "So, where do you want to go for your birthday this weekend?" and my response has been "Huh? Birthday?" almost every year. It's actually kind of tiresome. Here it's my birthday and I can't just lounge around reading and watching stupid TV like I want. I enjoy my weekends in solitude, I work in the service industry all week. But, no. I have to get up, get dressed and shovel fattening food into my mouth, otherwise my mom thinks I'm depressed or avoiding her and my sisters. Well, at least I get stuff. HUM BUG!
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05-10-2011, 11:46 AM	#5
TheStranger Core Member [149%] MBTI: intp Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 5,970	I don't like birthdays at all, it reminds me only of the time that has slipped away.
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05-10-2011, 11:46 AM	#6
Seriously Core Member [496%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 19,878	I like getting presents. Tres Leches.
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05-10-2011, 11:49 AM	#7
Almost New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 16	To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Like most people (I think), birthdays stopped being noteworthy to me sometime around the teenage years. As for the cake, yellow with a small amount of chocolate frosting.
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05-10-2011, 11:54 AM	#8
Korey New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 73	Just another day to me. I like getting gifts though ahah I like vanilla cakes, with chocolate.
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05-10-2011, 11:55 AM	#9
Kricket Veteran Member [81%] MBTI: INfJ Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,266	Most opportunities to have a glass of champagne and a tasty meal are okay by me, but I keep it at home with my nuclear family. I reject cake and demand razzleberry pie. Have done so ever since discovering razzleberry pie as a kid.
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05-10-2011, 12:22 PM	#12
Warrior Core Member [228%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 9,140	When you have been 29 for as many years as I have, you start to lose interest in celebrating. My kids like to make cards and kind of make a big deal about it, so I play along, but otherwise I don't get into it that much. Coconut cake.
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05-10-2011, 12:26 PM	#13
Jalex Member [23%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 945	I hate my birthday... I usually cut all communication (e.g. I deny posting on my facebook wall 24 hours before and 12 hours later). hate people just saying "happy birthday" just to be "social" or be "polite"... hate diplomacy. Parties or whatever out of the question, hate them. And yes... I remember the clock is ticking...
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05-10-2011, 12:33 PM	#14
NixonKneivel Member [05%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 213	Some of the disinterest in birthdays comes from an inequality btwn our ages and what we expected we would accomplish by that point. As a former depressive from a family of depressives, I take any chance I can to squeeze some joy out of life- the monster is always out there, you know. I hate parties, and I don't do the celebrations that make other people happy. I might do 24 hrs in the woods by myself. I might buy and eat 2 of the largest grassfed steaks I can find. I might find an outlet for my comedic and/or acting skills- murder mystery parties are a big one for me. Of course, I don't need a birthday to do any of those things. But as I said, I like myself, I like my age, and I believe in the psychological value of doing things that make me happy. Also, my primary Love Language seems to be "Acts of Service", so they are a way to show care to others without actually having to be in regular contact..... the gift-buying, anyway.
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05-10-2011, 02:05 PM	#16
aimeeislost New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 6	I never really cared about birthdays, but now I have way too many shi**y associations with them, that I intentionally block the idea from my mind. One year my boyfriend died, and just 3 months ago I was stood up by my boyfriend. Yeah, that's right. I'm bitter. So out of spite, I won't notice turning 32.
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05-10-2011, 02:31 PM	#17
Chameleon Veteran Member [92%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 3,701	I don't even remember how old I am half the time; and I hate getting more material things.
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05-10-2011, 04:55 PM	#18
MaybeThanh Member [05%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 201	The earth spun around the sun again. Time to celebrate. I don't even like cake/pie.
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05-10-2011, 05:02 PM	#19
DeepThought Core Member [254%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 10,183	Don't care for them. I go out of my way to not let people know my birthday and make excuses to not be around when it comes around. Parties are fine as long as they aren't for my birthday. I'm content to hang with a friend and do something low key, but that's about it. Otherwise, it's just another day. Interesting that so many others have the same/similar feelings on this.
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05-10-2011, 06:01 PM	#20
Analyze Member [22%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 909	My ideal birthday involves me sitting at my house alone. Then it would rain and I can sit outside and think while doing something most people hate. They really don't mean anything to me, but I don't dislike them. Chocolate cake with chocolate frosting. I like chocolate.
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05-11-2011, 02:40 AM	#22
chalice Member [11%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 472	i've never seen my birthday as something special. even as a child all that fuss about it seemed irrational to me. i feel awkward when i have to fake any strong positive emotions. i understand why my relatives feel it's special but i fail to grasp the excitement of anyone else (if any, it looks false to me..) or the tremendous amount of affection towards me and that's why i prefer not to celebrate it. anyway, i love presents. but only when i expect to get them. if there isn't any reason to give me a present and someone actually does it, i feel awkward and indulged to that person though i can't explain why. and i love sweets and cake but in small amounts or i get sick. my favourite cake is a very chocolate one or with nuts. i hate cream or any other filling except for chocolate or nuts. for the last three years i've spent my birthday on the roof of my block of flats with my cell turned off, listening to music, reading, drawing or just observing the small, busy people down on the street. and it's the perfect way for me to.. 'celebrate'.
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05-11-2011, 03:24 AM	#23
MasklessMask New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 7	I do not celebrate. I just buy myself a small present, something like a collector's edition of a video game, a bunch of books or a gadget and spend my day with my new possession.
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