[Persona]

Originally Posted by Coralaisly To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Yes. There are quite a few parents who will sit a plate of food in front of their child and not let them up until they've "cleaned their plate" and guilt them with the ages old 'there are starving children in India. How do you think they's feel about you wasting food?' Until 10 years later when the kid is 300 lb, these parents then wonder why little Jimmy eats so much all the time until he's sick... Gee.. I wonder why the kid has an unhealthy relationship with food...

Yeah...or in my case, just be bored and wait till everyone gets bored and leaves, then sneak into the kitchen and scrape it into the garbage...

My mom kind of enabled me by coaxing dad away from the table after he finished eating. But it was clear she was having dissonance between trying to force me to do something I obviously didn't want to, and living up to the family custom.

Anyway, it happened way too many times.

[RBM]

Originally Posted by AnotherPersona To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Yeah...or in my case, just be bored and wait till everyone gets bored and leaves, then sneak into the kitchen and scrape it into the garbage... My mom kind of enabled me by coaxing dad away from the table after he finished eating. But it was clear she was having dissonance between trying to force me to do something I obviously didn't want to, and living up to the family custom. Anyway, it happened way too many times.

Obviously, your dad never thought to check the garbage before/after ? When my younger brother was put in a similar position he made use of the table's drawer as a 'garbage drop' to preclude being caught.

[sircockburn]

Originally Posted by Coralaisly To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Yes. There are quite a few parents who will sit a plate of food in front of their child and not let them up until they've "cleaned their plate" and guilt them with the ages old 'there are starving children in India. How do you think they's feel about you wasting food?' Until 10 years later when the kid is 300 lb, these parents then wonder why little Jimmy eats so much all the time until he's sick... Gee.. I wonder why the kid has an unhealthy relationship with food...

when I lived with my mother as a little kid, she tried the "there are starving kids in Sudan" line. My answer: "then wrap up the food and send it to them."

she stormed away in a huff and slammed the door. Lol

Then she tried the "You're hurting my *feelings* because you hate my cooking. You truly don't love me, do you? You don't need to lie, I know that deep down, you hate me."

all for not finishing a plate of broccolli.

[Coralaisly]

Originally Posted by sircockburn To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

when I lived with my mother as a little kid, she tried the "there are starving kids in Sudan" line. My answer: "then wrap up the food and send it to them." she stormed away in a huff and slammed the door. Lol Then she tried the "You're hurting my *feelings* because you hate my cooking. You truly don't love me, do you? You don't need to lie, I know that deep down, you hate me." all for not finishing a plate of broccolli.

My uncle tried that with his daughter and she said "oh, no, dad. I love you, there's no doubt of that. As a dad you're awesome. You sell motorcycle stuff like a champion and keep me in this house. You're all good on the dad front... as a chef, however... but it's ok, daddy. Remember how you told me you can't always win at everything when we lost at soccer? Yeah. That. You win at tons of stuff... cooking's just not one of them..."

In my head I was like "oh, ouch. Daughter, 1, dad, 0... check, and mate. That's gotta hurt..."

[mieu]

Originally Posted by sircockburn To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

when I lived with my mother as a little kid, she tried the "there are starving kids in Sudan" line. My answer: "then wrap up the food and send it to them." she stormed away in a huff and slammed the door. Lol Then she tried the "You're hurting my *feelings* because you hate my cooking. You truly don't love me, do you? You don't need to lie, I know that deep down, you hate me." all for not finishing a plate of broccolli.

Jeez, all I had to deal with is "If you don't eat it, you get no snack, and you're eating it cold for breakfast."

I only had to eat green beans cold for breakfast once to learn to eat my veggies. Then again, my parents didnt heap gobs of food in front of me, I just had to finish one serving.

[Autumnleaf]

I've never done that. It just seems wrong. Like I think I could do it but I'd never want to type of thing. Like alphabetizing my cds, why.

[sircockburn]

Originally Posted by Coralaisly To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

My uncle tried that with his daughter and she said "oh, no, dad. I love you, there's no doubt of that. As a dad you're awesome. You sell motorcycle stuff like a champion and keep me in this house. You're all good on the dad front... as a chef, however... but it's ok, daddy. Remember how you told me you can't always win at everything when we lost at soccer? Yeah. That. You win at tons of stuff... cooking's just not one of them..." In my head I was like "oh, ouch. Daughter, 1, dad, 0... check, and mate. That's gotta hurt..."

yeah...my mother...cannot be reasoned with - she's committed in a group home because of it.

Another time, she started screaming and crying because her husband (not my real father) took a sip of water between bites. She was personally affronted because she took it as him trying to "wash away the taste". Blew my mind.

ESFJs...
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	Originally Posted by mieu To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Jeez, all I had to deal with is "If you don't eat it, you get no snack, and you're eating it cold for breakfast." I only had to eat green beans cold for breakfast once to learn to eat my veggies. Then again, my parents didnt heap gobs of food in front of me, I just had to finish one serving.

lol, I always got a mountain heap of food. I had fast food for dinner 4-5 days a week, and she didn't let me order just a kid's meal.

I was always still scrawny though, and still am. No comprende.

[Persona]

	Originally Posted by RBM To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Obviously, your dad never thought to check the garbage before/after ? When my younger brother was put in a similar position he made use of the table's drawer as a 'garbage drop' to preclude being caught.

He did occasionally but he had other things to do so it wasn't often enough to worry about. Sometimes if he was hanging around the kitchen I would sneak it into the bathroom and rinse it down the drain or the toilet.

[BirdValiant]

Eat more slowly.

[Coralaisly]

Originally Posted by sircockburn To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

yeah...my mother...cannot be reasoned with - she's committed in a group home because of it. Another time, she started screaming and crying because her husband (not my real father) took a sip of water between bites. She was personally affronted because she took it as him trying to "wash away the taste". Blew my mind. ESFJs... To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

... Do you by any chance think your mom might have an equally histrionic / irrational / just plain out of her mind twin? Because if not, I think we've got a doppleganger situation...

When the psych. asked me why I was a bulimic I said "because she feeds me three times what I can eat and demands I clean my plate."

[pawnxing]

Reading this thread makes me wonder about Adam Richman on Man v. Food. There is no way he eats what he does without some serious pain occurring.

If I ate some of the insanity he throws down I'd be out of commission for days if not weeks. Just the the thought of eating something so hot and spicy as to require you to wear gloves while handling the food makes cringe. He's got to be doing something to mitigate the affects.

[OwnyTony]

	Originally Posted by sircockburn To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	It's called the "munchies". lol It only happens when I'm out with people. I'm very solemn about eating when alone.

Cannabis. Dont make yourself puke, make yourself "hungry" and dont eat.

[aurantiaca]

I've got the Bipolar Disorder, and I take an antipsychotic, Seroquel, to prevent mania. A common side effect of Seroquel is increased appetite, and after I take it at night, I get extremely ravenous.

Usually I can control my food intake, but a few times in the five years or so I've been taking it, I've eaten until I was absolutely miserable without realizing it until it was too late. On those occasions (and I'm talking maybe three times in my life), I've made myself vomit so that I feel better.

The obvious response is just don't eat so much. However, I understand that sometimes things get out of hand, and as long as it is a rare occurrence, I don't see any real harm in it. It's not good, but it happened. It was an isolated event, so don't worry about it.

[Feste]

Originally Posted by sircockburn To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Is it normal? Like if you ate WAY too much food that you're delirious, in pain, and slightly gagging spontaneously, but you never end up involuntarily vomiting. Do you ever do it just to relieve yourself and feel better, kind of like a "rewind" before you ate 3 spicy, greasy Thai food entrees, 3 Thai iced cream teas, and/or mixing alcohol, and lots of it. My roommate says it's disgusting bulimia, but it's not about weight, it's just about relieving the pain/damage! Do you occasionally do this?

Actually that is a common symptom of bulimia, when a person eats way more calories then they should normally consume daily, but then lose it all after they feel that sickening feeling. If you do it often, like your roommate, I would be concerned, it's not always about the weight loss that harms a person from 'letting go', but also erosion of the esophagus' membrane, as well your body enters a state of unbalance, thus creating two extremes, leaving an incredible amount of stress on your body causing deterioration of organ function and psychological damage (This is in extreme cases, however).

[Sethis]

Well, I usually don't eat to the point by stomach is about to tear apart so no I don't have to deal with the aftermath. I guess it's just easier to not place the bomb at the first place than having to diffuse it.